Bonkers Anonymous......so much more than just a ttc thread (and where there's no such thing as TMI)

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Hi guys
Here is the lovely new thread. Maybe we might get some newbies as well?!?!?

Oh HC ((hugs))

Have the PIL decided to visit you on hols again??

Firstly, the statistics!

soosy CD1
detoxdiva CD29
DawnAS CD20
HumphreysCorner-CD17 and no idea DPO. Possibly 3
BSL- CD 15 and also no idea DPO...I maybe OVing now...?
Mandy73 CD24
bb CD 16 (around 6/7 dpo if EWCM can be trusted?!!!)
Chocolate éclair CD24 (but I think I?m oving today!)

BB ? I never trust CM, very hard to judge which type is which! I think I?m having ov pains though!

MJIM ? glad the flapjacks and crispycakes were nice, and that ds went to bed a bit better. Hope it went well at the midwifes today!

Dawn ? the pre-seed graphical explanation sounds awful! I definitely don?t think DP would agree to that! I use pipettes nearly every day but not in that context! Lol! I actually read that saliva is the next best alternative, and def better than ky etc so I?m sticking with that! Symptom spotting well underway then?..

Flirty ? lol at the names! Agreeing with you that Dawn has a rose-tinted view of motherhood! LOL! I too have some fab ideas in my head of me and DP with a cute baby or a couple of kids doing lovely things together. I am sure there are hard bits as well though!

Chestercat ? good luck! Def hold hands with Mandy

Bellie ? how are you? Enjoy your picnic tomorrow! (would love it if some parents bought me an end of term pressie! )

Wellies ? glad you are well! It?s good to hear from one of our successes! Pmsl about the cherries!

HC ? whatever has happened?!? You do have some trials over that caravan don?t you! Hope things have clamed down and DH is talking to you! (It?s the crucial time isn?t it?!) I have just bought a lovely bottle of wine and will happily share it with you!

Ceebee ? party plans going well?

All is good here, and I think I might be oving (finally!). This will officially the longest cycle ever! (24+14 will be 38 days!!!!) . Will try to send in more swimmers tonight! I?m making one of his fave teas, Gammon and chips! Soooo unhealthy but it might work!!! Still very excited about getting new car on Saturday!

CE xx

BB I don't really trust CM that much eather.

CE may I ask why you think you may be OVing? Fingers crossed and enjoy the gammon & the bangin' (sorry )

Wellis lol about your cherries, v cute

Chestercat are you holding my hand? I neeeed it. Squeeze harder. Good. How are you feeling on CD25?

HC I'm worried about you now, all sounds v upsetting, will check in later.

Dawn, I'm jealous of your dog, I love them.

MJIM How was visit to midwives?

Bellie fingers crossed for better weather tomorrow.

Flirty I'm lol at the names too.

Ceebee, what CE said - how's it going?

Didn't go shopping today, pouring down here, stayed in working obsessing. Creamy garlic & lemon pasta w seafood tonight.(ie whatever was in fridge/freezer) x

I think I'm oving because (TMI alert!)
a) lots of CM, not EW particularly though
b) Temp still low!
c) Strongish line on the opk last night and still there this morning! (I never get 'true' +ves on them)
d) cervix feels open-ish
e) stitch like pain on left side

erm....that's it I think!

Oh yeah, horny as......!

Your tea sounds much nicer than mine btw!

Hi Ladies

Well, it's cd 30 and I'm holding out testing - my cycle is normally longer than this anyway so testing really would be a waste of time (and money!)

HC - hope you are ok? I don't know the background but PIL and caravan sound like a nightmare combination . Seriously - let us know how you are

CE - hello - good luck with the bd'ing - good news that you know you may be ov'ing. I think it was you that asked about the saliva microscope - it's called Calista but google it and you'll find lots.

CC - I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you - it's a nightmare wait isn't it??

MJIM - hope the appointment went well

Hi to everyone else -

Evening all

Just checking in quickly to say hi - will try and catch up later.

HC - what's happened? I know the hassles you have had with the caravan but hope it is something that can be resolved.

Picked up my new car this afternoon - tis fab!! It looks lovely and has even made me (nearly) forget my beloved Ka! Even DH is impressed with it - although I couldn't figure out how to open the petrol cap - I was in a garage forecourt aswell - so had to drive it home and ask DH to show me - he has mentioned it, ooh at least 20 times already tonight

x

detox - v impressive!!!!!! How much longer can you hold out though?????????

MJIM mega post! I'm always impressed how thoughtful you are with everyone. So happy your check went great.

Detoxdiva v v impressed you are holding off. Hope you & DD get a peaceful night. Fingers crossed for you.

CE I see... Elementary, my dear Eclair. Have fun!!

Ceebee congrats on the car, lol at the petrol cap, don't though - so a thing I would do too.

Worrying about HC but time to go.
Nite nite. x

Morning all

Just a quickie. Yes, we are going away in the caravan at the weekend and yes, the PIL are coming too. I shouted at DH that I wasn't going then he asked me to get the children and the caravan all ready for him and them to leave on Friday after work. That is when I really lost it and so did he storming out to the caravan until half past midnight hence no sleep that night. On the upside we are talking again but I can't work out if I am going now-can't bear him to take the children without me. Will know later when we start packing things to put in it. He said they won't be coming when we go in August but that is what he said last time and they still booked in 5 miles up the road! Can't stand the fact that they will turn up every time we use it-would rather not go but it upsets my marriage and the children so it is a lose, lose situation. Ho hum-put up and shut up seems to be the only way.

On a better note FF has finally decided that I might have OV'd on CD14 which is what I got so now DPO5 and counting-too stressed busy to be symptom spotting.

Have to go out today but should be able to catch up later.

Love to all you lovely ladies.

HC
x

Morning everyone

HC - sorry about your PIL's - I con completely understand how you are feeling as I would hate for my MIL to come everywhere with us - I love doing things as a family (as in me, DH and DS). on your behalf!

MJIM - so glad your AN check went well - so lovely to hear the HB Was it fast or slow (just thinking of the old wives tale about the HB )

Hi to everyone else - really need to do some work as popping out in a bit to pick up DS's birthday cake (I am far too lazy to bake my own ).

x

Oh HC that's so upsetting. I really hope you can find a compromise. Him going with the kids but without you just sounds like a heat-of-the-moment kind of thing.
I have major issues with the in-laws too; mainly SIL - frankly I'm scared of her and I've just had to cut her out. But it's never that simple is it. It's really affected our marriage as DH understands my reasons but MIL is heartbroken over it all and of course she can't take my side. So everything's changed forever since two years (have agreed I'll do weddings & funerals with his family when she's there too but not much else). If we ever have children I will not have them anywhere near her. In part I've not posted any pics here because I bet she's a MN user. The lying racist violent manipulative old sociopath who couldn't bear PIL instantly loving me & embracing me into the family. So sorry, rant over.

Ceebee why bake cake if you're not that way inclined - that's not lazy, that's clever.

Hi to everyone else, hope you're having a good day. xx

Hey Mandy73, what is wrong with these people. I don't get how some people can just not see the harm they do and the trouble they cause. Let's just hope they're right that "What goes around comes around"..

ILs can be problems. I have 3 sisters and a brother and all of us, other than brother are married. A number of years ago my BIL had an affair that was witnessed by my parents. However I didn't want to believe it and neither did my sister and she and I took BIL's side. It nearly tore the family apart, I didn't speak to my Mum for 3 months and have regretted it eversince... . We sorted it out in the end and BIL has since done it again, but my sister has stayed with him. It's not happened since that second time but I still can't believe that he reeled me in. The rest of my BILs and my new SILs from my side and my FIL, are lovely. MIL is dead but SMIL is lovely (I don't know if that's the right acronym for Step-MIL...).

HC - having said all that - wouldn't fancy going on holiday with any of them!! I totally feel for you, what an awful situation to be in, especially when they're your DHs nearest and dearest. I bet you feel like you're walking on egg-shells right now, I hate that feeling...

My DH's view is that I'm his family now, but then he hasn't been as close to his since his Mum died as I am to mine....

Sorry about the waffling....

xxx

BIL had an affair that was witnessed by my parents.

What? How did they witness it Dawn?! I'm so sorry to hear it, that must have been a crazy situation & v difficult time.
You are totally right what goes around comes around. And of course it takes two to tango - if only I'd known just how unstable & unhappy SIL is I would have done a lot differently. But I think if you ignore your gut instinct you always pay the price - and I've never had a stronger gut feeling than the one telling me to get the h*ll away from her and stay there.
Sorry to go on about this.

I wouldn't want to go on holiday even with my very best friends.

Hey again Mandy,

My parents saw my BIL with his floozy in a car together and watched from a distance when they got out of the car and were kissing and stuff...

They didn't confront him but while they were trying to decide what to do, my Sister found some receipts in the wardrobe for underwear that she'd never got AND was 2 sizes smaller than she was... The really sad thing about it all was that she was 8 months pregnant with their first DC after both needing fertility treatment. My parents then told my sister what they'd seen, but she didn't believe them, neither did I

They got married at 19 and I was just so encouraged by their "Fairytale" romance/marriage that I didn't want to believe that he'd done it. We both believed his excuses.

The second time was just a kiss with someone and I do believe now that he is completely remorseful about it. He had a breakdown afterwards and received the help he needed. They are now happy but I don't think my sis will ever fully trust my BIL again. They've now got a fab business together where they're together nearly all the time and they have two gorgeous DCs...

When I see them together now, it's hard to believe that it happened. I think he was very weak and maybe settled down too young...

Anyway, back to your situation. She sounds like a monster!! Maybe she's psychotic!! Sounds like you're absolutely right though not to go anywhere near her!! How does your DH feel about her? Is he of the same opinion of you? It sounds like he is which must be supportive for you. . Shame for the PILs though that they feel they can't show their support for you as freely as they'd like to .

xxx

Afternoon everyone!!

Hope you're all okay. Been super busy after being sick at the beginning of the week. DH is slowly recovering too. But being a man, it's hit him way harder than me.

you guys have all been so chatty!! I'm going to try to catch up!

DD - how's the willpower??

oh my goodness...so much has been said!

HC - sorry about the PIL...I can understand that they probably want to spend time with what they consider to be their family...but they also need to understand that you need to be able to have a proper family break alone! Can you speak with them about this??

Dawn - oh my goodness. Your poor sister and your family having to go through that kind of thing. I'm glad your sis and BIL are sorted now, but you're right, she'll never be able to fully trust again.
I can't make any comment for your BIL, but I do believe that there are some men who simply are incapable of being faithful.

Just to completely change the subject and ask a pregnancy related question, what early pregnancy symptoms should I be looking for and when?? It's way too early for me to have any I think, but I'm curious to know what (hopefully) might happen and when....

BSLx

Okay still feeling that I've missed the plot a bit...

Mandy - I'm also sorry you have a nightmare SIL. Families are so hard!! I was engaged a few years ago and ended things because my fiance basically didn't want me seeing my family. It was really hard, but the right thing to do. ILs are worse though, because you aren't marryig them, but you are tied to them.

Hey BSL,

I am in the same situation as you I think... I'm now officially in 2WW mode...

What symptoms are you currently experiencing? I've had mild cramps for the last week on and off, but I think I OVd recently so I'm not sure. Not quite understanding why they're lasting for so long either... First one side, then the other...

Strange ...

xx

PS: Always hungry aswell, but that might be because I pigged out at the weekend and my stomachs probably expanded because of it - assuming it happens that quickly...

Hello Everyone!

I'm manic with work - approaching a mega project deadline so totally up to my eyes. Ahhh! So...a jolly quick round up as i haven't forgotten you ladies...

bluestarlavender - hope the man recovers and that you are feeling better. Buy flowers and chocolates and wine and cheer yourself up! It's almost the weekend...

CB - there are plenty of excellent cake bakers in the world...let them excel at their craft and the rest of us just enjoy their wares!

HC - I know nothing about the history but agree completely that PIL and caravan sounds like a hellish combination! I think you should go...don't wait to find out if you are going...make a decision and stick with it. If they go without you'll be sad without your daughters (who are gorgeous by the way!!!). Life is too short to miss out on spending time with them. It does strike me that you need to chat to DH and re-emphasize how much you don't want them to come with you in August. Do they know where you're going?! Could you just not tell them...?

dawn - how are you darlin'? Feelign any better after the disappointment with the sick psychic? And I cannot beleive about your BIL. What was the boy thinking denying it after your parents saw him. Bloody cheek! Glad they're back together though and seem to have weathered the storm..

CE - you seem to have ever OV sign going! Get thee to bonking! Goodness me, I have a very good feeling for you

mandy - hi di hi. How are you petal? What's new?

Now, I have a problem which I wonder if anyone can help with...DH has eczema. Just now, for no particular reason, it is really bad. I feel so sorry for him, it's driving him mad. he had been to see all sorts of doctors and alternative therapy people over the years, but nothing seems to make adifference for more thana few days. Anyway, the eczema isn't really the issue. The problem is it makes him feel down and then he doesn't want to BD. Normally, I can cope fine with this...but not now I want a baby!? We've missed the opportunity this month, which is fine for a number of reasons, but what can i do moving forward...?!

Oh, yes, and I have my routine smear test on monday. How long do results take to come back?

Hey Dawn,

Nothin major symptom-wise...I think I was OVing on Tuesday as I had ovary ache. Yesterday felt a little sick and decided I had a metallic taste in my mouth. I have so read too many posts on this site.

I have had little cramps yesterday and today. In realitysummary, I suspect I ov'ed Tuesday and I am just getting over being ill.

Really though, I'm curious about what might come...like if I am going to feel sick...when might it start. If my boobs are going to get bigger and sore, from when?? When might you feel implantation??

I get AF roughly around the same date each month. I think it'll be about 25th July. I haven't bought any tests yet. I know I'm going to be impatient and want to use them too early. I was thinking about getting an early response one...it is my first month at TTC.

What are you thinking??

BSLx

Flirty,

I had a smear done 10th June and got the results back yesterday...all clear.

BSL x

Hi all

Pleased to read that all is okay Bellie

Sorry to hear about the PIL/SIL issues, mine are a bit doolally as well...but not as bad as your problems, tho I do keep expecting to hear they have been on Jermey Kyle one day they are just stress you don't need...

I'm a bit today and yesterday...been a bit crampy for 2/3 weeks...since yesterday I have been really crampy...as if I have a really really big period building up. I did come off the pill after my last period (ended 14th June) so expecting nxt period any day now...ah well...time will tell...

And if anyone has got pg since sunday...(read that there are so many posts and I need to get tea on) congrats!

And if anyone could help with the abbrievations...and what 'bringing in the troops' is I would be most grateful

take care all xx

And to add to cramp...also getting hungry mid morning and mid aft...and bedtime... but you don't need extra calories in early pgnacy so why would I be hungry???!