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TTC number 3 aged 42

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FiB83 · 18/02/2026 13:30

Hi

Not really sure what I'm looking for here but if nothing else I'll use this as a diary of my feelings etc. I joined a chat years ago for my first pregnancy and am still friends with some of those lovely ladies so hoping to find some people who are on their TTC journey and we can share experiences l.

As the title suggests I'm 42, I have two beautiful children aged 7 and 9, we decided to try for another baby a year or so again, I needed to lose some weight so did that although I'm still overweight according to my BMI but you know how it is... I'm fairly average at a size 14-16. I still have very regular cycles and don't believe I'm anywhere near the menopause yet....

Anyways, I'm 9dpo I think, I don't do opk or anything like that, tried one month but didn't enjoy feeling obsessed over it and it didn't work anyway..I feel I know my body quite well and am aware of the signs of when I'm ovulating if I am. With our first child it took a good 2 years with one chemical pregnancy in that time before.ewe actually got our baby. With our second child...well we thought about trying and then I was pregnant... Amazing how that happens isn't it!?

So here I am, 9dpo and with virtually no discharge at all. 2 days ago I had a huge amount of white cm that was abit stretchy. I've had a headache on and off and been soooo unbelievably emotional. This isn't normal for me but we are going through quite a bit with our youngest and other normal life events so may be that I suppose. I've had sore breasts and I swear they are bigger if that is even possible!.maybe just very slight cramps over the past couple of days but that maybe only.when I'm thinking about it...

Anyone else at this stage and fancy a buddy to compare notes? I'd love to chat.

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VanessaShanessaJenkins99 · 18/02/2026 18:19

Hey x I've just turned 43 and have been trying for nearly a year - I got pregnant on our 2nd cycle in April but unfortunately had a misscarriage in June :( - I've had all the blood tests and everything is fine !

Boxiboxi21 · 18/02/2026 18:24

Bulk up on ubiquinol and as little UPFs as possible. Meditate. Exercise moderately. You want to boost egg health and reduce inflammation as much as possible to maximise chances of conceiving.

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FiB83 · 18/02/2026 23:34

FiB83 · 18/02/2026 13:30

Hi

Not really sure what I'm looking for here but if nothing else I'll use this as a diary of my feelings etc. I joined a chat years ago for my first pregnancy and am still friends with some of those lovely ladies so hoping to find some people who are on their TTC journey and we can share experiences l.

As the title suggests I'm 42, I have two beautiful children aged 7 and 9, we decided to try for another baby a year or so again, I needed to lose some weight so did that although I'm still overweight according to my BMI but you know how it is... I'm fairly average at a size 14-16. I still have very regular cycles and don't believe I'm anywhere near the menopause yet....

Anyways, I'm 9dpo I think, I don't do opk or anything like that, tried one month but didn't enjoy feeling obsessed over it and it didn't work anyway..I feel I know my body quite well and am aware of the signs of when I'm ovulating if I am. With our first child it took a good 2 years with one chemical pregnancy in that time before.ewe actually got our baby. With our second child...well we thought about trying and then I was pregnant... Amazing how that happens isn't it!?

So here I am, 9dpo and with virtually no discharge at all. 2 days ago I had a huge amount of white cm that was abit stretchy. I've had a headache on and off and been soooo unbelievably emotional. This isn't normal for me but we are going through quite a bit with our youngest and other normal life events so may be that I suppose. I've had sore breasts and I swear they are bigger if that is even possible!.maybe just very slight cramps over the past couple of days but that maybe only.when I'm thinking about it...

Anyone else at this stage and fancy a buddy to compare notes? I'd love to chat.

I'm so sorry for your loss
We also had a chemical pregnancy last year, id been taking fertility supplements from wild nutrition for 1 months and got pregnant but started bleeding working a few days of bfp
I heard inositol is good but sadly nothing since. My sister is due any day which would be been us as well so that's weird. Where are you in your cycle now? Hopefully we will have our babies soon!

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FiB83 · 18/02/2026 23:35

Boxiboxi21 · 18/02/2026 18:24

Bulk up on ubiquinol and as little UPFs as possible. Meditate. Exercise moderately. You want to boost egg health and reduce inflammation as much as possible to maximise chances of conceiving.

I haven't heard of this so off to get some thanks!

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FiB83 · 18/02/2026 23:37

VanessaShanessaJenkins99 · 18/02/2026 18:19

Hey x I've just turned 43 and have been trying for nearly a year - I got pregnant on our 2nd cycle in April but unfortunately had a misscarriage in June :( - I've had all the blood tests and everything is fine !

I'm so sorry for your loss
We also had a chemical pregnancy last year, id been taking fertility supplements from wild nutrition for 1 months and got pregnant but started bleeding working a few days of bfp
I heard inositol is good but sadly nothing since. My sister is due any day which would be been us as well so that's weird. Where are you in your cycle now? Hopefully we will have our babies soon!

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FiB83 · 19/02/2026 08:39

Last night I had the most vivid dream that I was pregnant and could feel movements, I was desperately trying to figure out my due date but couldn't so had to go to the hospital but it was too busy! This is new for me but perhaps I'm manifesting lol. I'm around 10dpo today and still haven't done a test which is pretty good for me, I am trying to hold out until I'm late which is Sunday I think

I'll keep adding symptoms on here for my reference. If anyone wants to tell me what they experienced and got a bfp or if you are currently in your tww please do!

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FlapJackered · 19/02/2026 09:21

Hi, can I join? I am 38 and also trying for a third!
My other two are ivf so it’s not been plain sailing. I have got pregnant naturally twice since 2018 when we started ttc but both ended in miscarriage.
We had three embryos frozen one of which failed in December so we are also trying naturally.
I am on the following supplements - choline/inositol, magnesium, omega 3, prenatal vit, vit d.
i am also using the clearblue ovulation tests.
feel a bit overwhelmed getting back into the ttc world! 😵‍💫 I would love to have a 3rd and complete my family though.

FlapJackered · 19/02/2026 09:24

Oh and ubiquinol!
also 11dpo today but all the signs of AF. 👎

BurningOutt · 19/02/2026 09:42

Hello! I’ve joined a few threads and all very quiet! I’m 39 and trying for dc3 - I have a 7 and 5 year old.

I had a very traumatic mc in December 2024 (almost died) and we decided to call it a day, but after a year off I can’t shake the feeling that I’m not done so this is cycle 1.

Since Christmas I’ve cut out all UPFs and sugar and am feeling great. Weirdly haven’t lost much weight (2.5kg) given how much chocolate I used to eat! My BMI is 23.5 so I’m within healthy range but very much at the upper end compared to when I had my other DCs.

Ive always conceived very quickly in the past - 1st or 2nd month trying, have been pregnant 9 times (have had several mcs - some related to a condition I’m now treated for, some just bad luck) - but obviously the last pregnancy was over a year ago so I’m sure things will take longer this time.

Im taking inositol (have very mild pcos though regular normal length cycles), COQ10 (egg quality), vitamins C, D and B complex, folate. This is cycle 1 for me and still on my period so gearing up to start trying!

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FiB83 · 19/02/2026 09:57

FlapJackered · 19/02/2026 09:21

Hi, can I join? I am 38 and also trying for a third!
My other two are ivf so it’s not been plain sailing. I have got pregnant naturally twice since 2018 when we started ttc but both ended in miscarriage.
We had three embryos frozen one of which failed in December so we are also trying naturally.
I am on the following supplements - choline/inositol, magnesium, omega 3, prenatal vit, vit d.
i am also using the clearblue ovulation tests.
feel a bit overwhelmed getting back into the ttc world! 😵‍💫 I would love to have a 3rd and complete my family though.

Yes of course! We have been not preventing forever but I suppose I've always been care when we were dtd as really wasn't certain I wanted another baby but now I most certainly do! It will be lovely to have some other ladies to talk to on our journey! Where in your cycle are you atm?

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FiB83 · 19/02/2026 10:01

BurningOutt · 19/02/2026 09:42

Hello! I’ve joined a few threads and all very quiet! I’m 39 and trying for dc3 - I have a 7 and 5 year old.

I had a very traumatic mc in December 2024 (almost died) and we decided to call it a day, but after a year off I can’t shake the feeling that I’m not done so this is cycle 1.

Since Christmas I’ve cut out all UPFs and sugar and am feeling great. Weirdly haven’t lost much weight (2.5kg) given how much chocolate I used to eat! My BMI is 23.5 so I’m within healthy range but very much at the upper end compared to when I had my other DCs.

Ive always conceived very quickly in the past - 1st or 2nd month trying, have been pregnant 9 times (have had several mcs - some related to a condition I’m now treated for, some just bad luck) - but obviously the last pregnancy was over a year ago so I’m sure things will take longer this time.

Im taking inositol (have very mild pcos though regular normal length cycles), COQ10 (egg quality), vitamins C, D and B complex, folate. This is cycle 1 for me and still on my period so gearing up to start trying!

Ohhh this is exciting! I have realized I've got myself the cq10 already lol I am a healthcare professional but rubbish at remembering to take my own supplements and take care of myself! My boobs are sore today and I'm starting to think I might actually have conceived this month but you know how it is, I'm almost afraid to think it! I think I might try to focus on my inflammation levels. I have quite a lot of stress going on and that can't be good for TTC. Maybe exercise will help or something? Woah if love a BMI of 23! Lol

So sorry for all your losses, as soon as you see that little line you start planning don't you. Anyways here's to us all having our babies this year! I'm looking forward to seeing pictures of tests, love a good line spot! Where in your cycle are you?

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FiB83 · 19/02/2026 10:02

FlapJackered · 19/02/2026 09:24

Oh and ubiquinol!
also 11dpo today but all the signs of AF. 👎

Missed this! We are virtually the same then, I haven't tested though!

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user1481374748 · 19/02/2026 10:18

I’m younger than you OP but struggled with unexplained secondary infertility after 18 months of no success. Someone recommended me using Ubiqional I think a high strength of 600mg a day. I was pregnant after 2 months of using it and now have healthy 10 month old

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FiB83 · 19/02/2026 10:42

user1481374748 · 19/02/2026 10:18

I’m younger than you OP but struggled with unexplained secondary infertility after 18 months of no success. Someone recommended me using Ubiqional I think a high strength of 600mg a day. I was pregnant after 2 months of using it and now have healthy 10 month old

I swear I'm going to be rattling with all the supplements. Tried to take photo of my pull box but it won't upload. Haven't used this site before anyone any idea how to add an image?

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FlapJackered · 19/02/2026 14:36

FiB83 · 19/02/2026 10:02

Missed this! We are virtually the same then, I haven't tested though!

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do you think you will test? I am torn. I HATE seeing a negative test but I also have progesterone support to start when/if I get a positive so wouldn’t want to wait too long. So I don’t know whether to test tomorrow if my bbt is still high (12dpo) or wait another day.

I know what you mean about the supplements. 😆 There are so many. My husband is unimpressed by the amount I make him take too!

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FiB83 · 19/02/2026 14:44

FlapJackered · 19/02/2026 14:36

do you think you will test? I am torn. I HATE seeing a negative test but I also have progesterone support to start when/if I get a positive so wouldn’t want to wait too long. So I don’t know whether to test tomorrow if my bbt is still high (12dpo) or wait another day.

I know what you mean about the supplements. 😆 There are so many. My husband is unimpressed by the amount I make him take too!

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Yup my hubby is also on supplements! This was his idea initially though and we need to at least try to be at our best. I usually suffer with possible sickness. Not quite Hyperemesis that need hospital admission but I don't tend to eat very much in pregnancy at all!

I probably will to a test but haven't bought any yet
I'm soooo tempted though! I hate being disappointed though might order some first response tests on Amazon to arrive tomorrow so wouldn't be able to test until Saturday morning anyway. Have you got tests?

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FlapJackered · 19/02/2026 14:50

That doesn’t sound fun. Hopefully the next pregnancy will be easier. 🤞

I am with you on the temptation! I have loads of tests. 😂 I really feel like AF is on its way so it feels pretty pointless to test. How are you feeling?

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FiB83 · 19/02/2026 15:16

FlapJackered · 19/02/2026 14:50

That doesn’t sound fun. Hopefully the next pregnancy will be easier. 🤞

I am with you on the temptation! I have loads of tests. 😂 I really feel like AF is on its way so it feels pretty pointless to test. How are you feeling?

I don't feel anything.... I wish I did..I remember being shocked that I had a bfp with both my previous pregnancies so maybe lack of discharge is normal? My boobs are huge but I feel like I do get aching there anyway so not really a sign... It's the vivid dreams that's weird I literally woke up this morning believing I was pregnant and advanced pregnancy! Lol! Maybe I will just order some grats and test on Saturday. No harm in it really. Will you test tomorrow?

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FlapJackered · 19/02/2026 17:50

If my bbt is still high I think I will probably cave and test and regret it! 😂

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FiB83 · 19/02/2026 18:54

FlapJackered · 19/02/2026 17:50

If my bbt is still high I think I will probably cave and test and regret it! 😂

How long have you been temping for? I haven't tried that at all..did it years ago but I feel way too much pressure when I do . The tww is just sooooo long!!

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FlapJackered · 19/02/2026 19:38

Just this cycle this time actually. I quite like it as it gives me an idea of whether my period is about to start before I waste a test! I hate a negative test so I find it less stressful, but I can see how it can add pressure too.

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FiB83 · 19/02/2026 19:53

Fingers crossed your temp stays up then! I've ordered some tests 🤦🏼‍♀️ so yes I'll be testing on Saturday! If af doesn't arrive of course. Last month I had a really random 25 day cycle. Not sure what went on there! Usually 28-29 days. Cervix is really high and soft...not sure if that means anything though

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sirensong · 19/02/2026 23:01

It's obviously great to have a gang hanging out for support but it can be important to know that the difference in chance between 38 and 42/43 is significant - larger than eg between 35 and 40. I started out thinking near enough in age would do when looking for similar experiences but now know a lot more about the per age chance past 38 and its different by year.

If you do not have success very fast at 42 or 43 strongly consider swift transition to IVF if another is very important to you.

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FiB83 · 20/02/2026 00:00

sirensong · 19/02/2026 23:01

It's obviously great to have a gang hanging out for support but it can be important to know that the difference in chance between 38 and 42/43 is significant - larger than eg between 35 and 40. I started out thinking near enough in age would do when looking for similar experiences but now know a lot more about the per age chance past 38 and its different by year.

If you do not have success very fast at 42 or 43 strongly consider swift transition to IVF if another is very important to you.

Thank you
It's only recently I have absolutely decided this is what I want but I have actually discussed this as an option with hubby as well we will be having fertility testing on summer and may decide to go down the ivf route if it doesn't happen naturally. I do however really appreciate talking to others who are TTC even if our age difference does mean we have completely different experiences x

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FlapJackered · 20/02/2026 07:16

I do get I am a bit younger at 38 but my fertility is not great having had two ivf children and only ever been naturally pregnant twice, with miscarriages. I feel like I maybe fit here more than I would in a younger conception group. Also it’s nice to be around those trying for a 3rd. Happy to go though if the age thing is a problem.

Tested this morning as temp was still high and BFN I reckon it will probably drop tomorrow and AF will come. Ah well!