TTC ? Waiting for first cycle after miscarriage

[anniehall12]

Is anyone else out there in the wait between the end of a miscarriage and their first cycle ? Xx

I got a faint positive today at 10DPO, middle of the day.

I tested positive with my son at 10DPO but the pregnancy I lost wasn’t positive til 13DPO, I’m trying not to read anything into that…

@ChasingRainbow5thats exciting. Fingers crossed! Let us know how you get on!

@ChasingRainbow5Ah that’s amazing Congratulations :))

Thank you @Lillybobs86 @cobalt123 got a decent line with FMU this morning, I just feel like I can't get my hopes up so it's a very odd feeling!

Sending you hugs! How are you doing now? Where are you at on your cycle? Xx

I'm back in the game.. unfortunately I have had another miscarriage. Thankfully this time it was not silent, so I knew straight away when I started bleeding and then EPU confirmed it via scans and blood test.

I believe I'm a few days away from ovulation. Not entirely sure yet if I want to try again this month....it seems I have fell pregnant pretty much straight away with both pregnancies but one ended at 13 weeks and this time at 5 weeks 3 days 💔

I hope everyone else is doing well? Sending much love to you all. Xx

Hi can I join in.
I had a MMC on 23rd April. would have been 11 weeks but baby stopped growing at 8. We didn't plan to TTC this cycle as my MMC was from falling pregnant on an IUD. I had a scan at 6 weeks (with a heartbeat) to try and find it and make sure it wasn't ectopic, they couldn't find the IUD.
I had an Xray on Wednesday to find the IUD and they can't find it so concluded it likely expelled itself at some point during a heavy period.
We were not planning on having children together (I have a 16 year old DD from a past relationship), but DP fell in absolute love with the baby at the 11 week scan and was broken when we had the infamous "I'm sorry there is no heartbeat".
So now we know there is no IUD, i've had my post MMC BFN, we can think about TTC.
I'm assuming my period is due in a week if I'm back to my normal 29 day cycle, however I've had, what feels like, mittleschmerz today. so maybe I'm ovulating late and should expect a 36 day cycle first. If that's the case we might wait until cycle 3 post MMC to TTC, or 4 depending when it shows up as I'm away with DD and not DP in July.

I'm terrified of TTC. I've never done it before and don't want it to become all consuming, added to post MMC fears, and me turning 38 in July and it all seems a bit unlikely

I’m so sorry to hear this. Look after yourself in whatever way works for you, whether that’s taking some time out or trying again. Lots of love 💕

Hi! Sorry to see you’re here. I remember you from the November thread/chat. Sending so much love 💕

@BrimfulofSachaI’m so sorry for your loss.

TTC doesn’t have to be all consuming, there are different ways to approach it. And I don’t think you should worry about your age, I had my first at 39 - he was a happy accident so I get the feeling of overwhelm around what to do now! I test for ovulation using OPKs from about 4 days after my period ends but don’t track the results, just DTD when there’s a strong line. It’s worked twice so far, praying this one sticks 🤞🏼

Oh @anniehall12im so sorry to hear this 😢
I had hoped those tests were just taking their time with progression when we last spoke. I’m so sorry to hear this :(

@ChasingRainbow5 thank you so much for your kind words I really do appreciate it xx

@BrimfulofSacha welcome, I am so sorry for your loss. I also had a MMC so I really do understand how hard that is. I also hope to conceive again one day soon 🥺

@Lillybobs86 thank you 🫂 yeah I did find it strange that it wasn't a blaring bfp even tho I missed my period so I was apprehensive. I'll never trust a faint line again!
Anywho, how is your pregnancy going? How are you feeling? Xx

Hi all,

Can I join?

Mine was a missed miscarriage through IVF. Very much wanted. Had a private scan at 10 weeks 5 days on 21/04 but heartbeat had stopped. Had a d and c 27/04 and they said it measured around 9 weeks so it must have stopped beating around then. I

💔 I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious pregnancy 🫂
How are you feeling now, have you had your first cycle yet xx

Thanks @anniehall12

It’s been a ride to say the least. Just want to see the consultant now. No I haven’t had my first cycle yet. I’m 19 days post d and c now so I’m not sure if that’s where the cycle is starting from again?

How about you?

We have been trying again this week and will carry on trying and praying that a miracle happens.

It’s the emotional side of it all that’s too much. Just wanting your rainbow to happen. Then I feel guilty about the one I’ve just lost.

Yes, the emotional side is absolutely gut-wrenching. I really try to block it out because otherwise I feel the emotions will consume me. I am planning to have a few therapy sessions to try to deal with these big emotions properly.

Not to mention, if I am lucky enough to carry a full-term pregnancy again, how will I ever cope with the anxiety now that I know all the things that could go wrong!

I count my miscarriage bleed as my period because on my last mmc, I ovulated exactly 14 days after the bleeding stopped. I am due to ovulate within the next few days now. Not sure if we will try that much this month, just going to see how it goes.

Much love xx

@cobalt123 Hey, how are you doing? I hope you are well xx

@anniehall12im so sorry to hear you’re back here again. That really is so disappointing I’m sure. Sending big hugs. I’ve managed to take a little break from thinking about it since the bfns last cycle but think I’m ovulating today so back into the tww again. Slightly higher hopes this month as we’re around and able to dtd every day. The last couple of cycles we had awkwardly timed work trips so maybe that’s why we didn’t catch 🤷‍♀️. We might be on the same timing roughly now?

Thank you. Xx

You sound like you're in for a really good chance of getting a positive! Seems like you are relaxed and dtd enough!

I'm currently 4dpo but only dtd 2 days before O, on O day and the day after. So don't think I'll catch this month which is going to make me very upset! I'm literally controlled by my hormones

Xx

Updates from anyone TTC/miscarriage?

Any one new TTC after miscarriage?

I'm thinking of setting up a supportive online group for TTC after a miscarriage?

I was in a TTC group but it felt quite hostile because according to 2 of the women in the group I shouldn't be that upset about TTC and having multiple miscarriages because I already have living children. So I left.

Would love to hear from others TTC/tww/miscarriage. I find peer support makes such a difference on this lonely journey xx

I think it makes a big difference being able to find some support as well. When I found out about the mmc and was just waiting for the inevitable I had a massive freak out. The uk miscarriage org website has a few first hand descriptions of what happens which made it sound horrendous, which it absolutely was. But that was the only source of info I had about what to expect. My doctor completely minimised it and said it would be like a heavy period which was an extreme understatement.

I think I’m 7dpo now and actually managing to keep my head out of the whole thing quite well for the first time. Let’s see I actually manage to keep that going this week though.

how are you getting on?

I’d be interested in a group. Got AF yesterday after having the d and c on 27th April. Got a cervical length scan next week because my consultant wants to know how long it is before trying any more ivf. He’s mentioned a transabdominal stitch?

I’m just so fed up now of the years of waiting. I am so ready. Scared about getting my hopes up again.

Does anyone else feel left out sometimes? Generally in life I don’t know where I fit in.

I know what you mean about the waiting. Not the same thing but I previously felt like I spent a decade waiting for an ex partner to be ready to commit and get on with our lives together, marriage babies and all that, we did eventually get engaged but then later split up. Feel like a wasted so much time just waiting for my life to start. Meanwhile all my friends are a decade further on in life with 10 year old kids and I drifted apart from many of them as I just felt a bit shit hanging out with them.

Think I’ve learnt to be more happy with myself and find joy in my own things and be happy with accepting that’s it’s been different things that have brought me joy over the years.

This month I had actually started to feel like if it doesn’t happen to have a baby then I can come to terms with that. I’m 40 this year for context.

Low and behold though I got a bfp this morning, and confirmed with digital 🥹. So here we go again. Hoping it sticks this time so trying not to get my hopes up too much. 🤞🤞

I think a groups a great idea. I’m currently going through my second miscarriage in as many months. Fell pregnant for the first time in March, miscarried in April, conceived again straight away and then a scan this week has shown another unviable pregnancy so just waiting for things to start now. Starting to lose all hope to be honest but know it’s probably all just fresh and I’ll hopefully feel better about TTC again in a few weeks

@cobalt123 got everything crossed for you 🤞🏼🤞🏼

@unreadchapter I’m so sorry you’re going through it again. Be very kind to yourself xx