***Lets support eachother again- you know who you are ***

[mummy2olivia]

charliesmum, nandos, beakas, sugr, cornflower, poppy, becky and everyone else who miscarried in may/june 2008....

We have all been very brave together and supported eachother. For those of us that are ready, it may be time to support eachother again as we return to TTC. Lets hold hands, remember our loss and give a nod to the future as we endeavour to procreate and............

SHAG!!

As promised, a thread to stay in touch. Will also see you on the MC avengers thread.

I have been gone for ages! Life is so busy at the moment - what with all the sex!!!! (in my dreams!) DH has all his test results back and luckily they are all excellent. Doctor said his sperm was 'fantastic'! So he is feeling very virile and positive. I am so pleased for him, but now can't help thinking what is wrong with me. I haven't had any results back from the tests they did after the d&c. They sent the sac and embryo off to test, but haven't heard anything. Suppose it is too much to expect the nhs to go out of their way to contact me so I will probably have to track them down somewhere. DH has private health insurance that has covered all his tests but not mine. Feeling much happier than I have done for a while. Can't believe it is over a month ago now that it happened. M2O you make me laugh so much, your posts always make me smile. Everyone is so supportive and kind. Where are these profile things and photos you are all talking about? Hope you are all well.
Lots of love xxxx

Hi HtheH

Click on the little yellow clipboard next to the names (you don't have a clipboard next to yours!). To create a profile I think you go to 'mymumsnet' and follow the instructions. You can add info about yourself and load piccies, a bit like a basic version of Facebook.

DH asked me if I wanted to 'do it' tonight. I said lets leave it for tonight. I am such a romantic. Perhaps I should jump him later to take him by surprise!

Or put on some granny knickers and play Carless Whisper as previously suggested. Phwoor!

Good morning all,

Nandos how are you feeling today?

I'm really excited because it is the Cornbury Festival this weekend and I get to go for free!! Ha ha ha!! Well I will have to carve pork and serve in buns for money for most of the time though for DS1's preschool but it's so worth it, and it is just down the road from our house.

I'm sitting here working while everyone is out and thinking about the chocolate biscuits that are winking at me.

hiya becky
am feeling better now thx for asking..
sorry ladies for me moaning so much past few days cos' the sickness is bugging me too much ..
btw flu has eased down now and hopefully gone in a day or two..
its funny how coincidence it is cos' i was just talking to dh abt going to ANY festival this summer! i sound so desperate right now

htheH, lol at at your dh's 'fantastic' swimmers
i still havent got my profile done or anything yet..too lazy..or put it in a nicer way is too 'shy'

Ooooh come to Cornbury and see me making pork buns and then you could bop till you drop to 10CC, KT Turnstall, or perhaps Crowded House, the Bangles or even Paul Simon (sounds like I am an advert!).

Don't worry about moaning, Nandos, you're allowed to when you are ill. I am the WORST ever patient when I am ill and I am sure I will be moaning here next time a lurgy gets me.

Hello ladies!

How are you all this evening?

HtheH, that's great news about DH's swimmers, he must be very proud

Becky, did you jump him?? It's such a turn off when they ask isn't it. I prefer to be unexpectedly ravaged myself . Whenever he asks me I feel like I can't be bothered, but to have it on a plate is slightly different...

Hi Nandos, glad you're feeling better and don't even think about you 'moaning' - that's what we're here for!

Oooohhh KT Tunstall! I love her! Can I come too please?
We have Werchter festival going on over here at the mo - the friends I had staying last night are there now. They left at 8am this morning, so they could get there and bagsy a good tent spot I wished I was going with them!!!

I didn't jump last night but did tonight (he's asleep upstairs)! Although I doubt it was unexpected really...but I did say to him it felt strange doing it on a week night. We are so boring when we are not TTC and only really ever get chance to do it at weekends.

Oooh come to Cornbury this weekend! It's not too far from where you live, well by areoplane anyway!

Just got a faint BFP!!! Have also started very light bleeding . Am praying it's implantation.

Hope you're all ok?

Oh MBM! Oh how exciting. It could very well be implantation bleeding, esp if you are around time of AF. How do you feel in yourself? You might be the first one of us to get up the duff! I am very excited for you and all our fingers are crossed in this household, even the cat's paws are crossed, that the bleeding is just implantation and you are indeed PREGGERS!

Hi Becky!! Thanks for having your fingers crossed! Am feeling okay, v tired though today, but that's to be expected as it's THE LAST DAY OF TERM - WOOHOO!!! Have got two lovely months off now! Yay! Have got slight tummy cramps, but have had them for a week or so, and still have a heavy feeling in my tummy when I lie down. I had that with DS when I was first pg, and also had it last time too.

We'll have to wait and see what happens, but am glad I got a BFP - really thought I was going crazy thinking I was pg but only getting BFN's.

What are you doing today?

Oh my god! This could be so exciting MBM, you must keep us posted...
I am off to see some magical doctor this afternoon, who puts you on a special diet and suddenly you conceive!!! Apparently it works - but only time will tell! Hopefully I will lose weight if nothing else. I am mad trying all these weird things. BUt think it will all be worth it.
xx

Not doing much today: work is slow today so been taking it easy and enjoying the sunshine and...getting excited about Cornbury festival!

A trip to Sainsbury's is our afternoon delight.

I hope your special diet works HtheH! Sounds interesting. I'm afraid my TTC diet consists of eating whatever! I gained about 9 lbs when I was pregnant and want to lose it but can't seem to discipline myself to avoid cheese and chocolate (my two vices). Any suggestions?

Hmmm cheese and chocolate. Yum yum. I usually find that overdose works for me. Eat so much of the stuff you'll eventually go off it........or not

HtheH, how did you get on with the doctor? Hope it was good...

I have just done one of those cheapy strip HPT's and got a faint line on that too . I just don't know what to think as I still have v light bleeding. Part of me wants to get excited, part of me thinks it's all about to end before it's even really begun, and the other part of me thinks well even if this is implantation bleeding there's no guarantee it'll come to anything anyway. It is just sooooo frustrating

I know exactly how you must be feeling MBM. It is so frustrating isn't it. You just want to know and not go through all the heartache. It seems quite a good sign, and I think most people get a bit of implantation bleeding. Whatever happens, we are here for you. I think I am about to get my first AF since miscarriage/ERPC, feeling PMT symptoms I haven't felt for 4 months since last proper AF - isn't that weird, to think it has been 4 months? I still wish things could be different. I am seeing my pregnant friend tomorrow - the one due on the same day I was (18th Dec). I am looking forward to seeing her and rebuilding some bridges - but terrified as to what my reaction will be when I see her - she must have a bump by now?

Any way went to the funny doctor and I have to go weekely for injections of vits and mins and I have to eat a very strange diet -
As much protein as I want and have to have it for every meal. Only fruit and veg is citrus fruit. All other nutrients I get from the injections, apparently. It seems very odd, he suggests we don't ttc for 6 weeks, and that is all it will take for him to sort my system out and then he is very positive about conception happening soon after. So it looks like I have 6 weeks of hell, no bread, cheese of choc! but it could be worth it. I will lose weight and rebalance my hormones e.t.c. He comes very highly recommended otherwise I would think he was a complete crackpot. But 2 friends of my sisters have had very positive results from him and can't sing his praises high enough. What the hell, it is only 6 weeks of my life. And I have to say I am looking forward to not only fitting into some old clothes but also having 6 weeks of not reading every body sign to see if I could be pregnant. After 2 years of being obsessed with every symptom, I think I am actually looking forward to a break - is that really bad? Now I feel awful that I am thinking like that, but it is only 6 weeks, if it is going to improve my chances next time than that can only be a good thing? Arghh! Now I am not so sure - should I waste even only 6 weeks of not trying? I am only 30, am I making a mistake? Help I need some sensible advice now!

MBM! Congrats am soo happy for you..
hopefully the bleeding is implantation and that it will stop soon.
do not stress too much about it and hope the one week off with your family(or dh's i think) will do a bit of good..
i have not been able to reply as much as i want to cos' my computer is now being used for work stuffs and laptop is being used by dh..anywayz will try to post more often once the main comp is free..

Thanks HtheH, you are lovely. I will be thinking of you tomorrow - think she probably will have a bump by now, which is going to be very difficult for you. You are very brave to be putting yourself in that position - I just hope that soon it will be you with a bump.

That diet sounds tough, but I agree that it is definately worth trying. Six weeks will go by very quickly, and really we owe it to ourselves to be doing everything we possibly can to get into shape for conceiving/being pg. Imagine if it works!

BTW, did I mention that I went to a homeopath (in amongst the acupuncture sessions!). She was great, and gave me a ten day treatment, and I feel so much calmer now about the mc. Still sad, but much better. Think maybe it's also helping me stay calm in my current 'predicament'.

Thanks nandos, am trying not to stress, and also trying to really take things easy. Had a v sharp tummy pain on Wednesday night, so wondering if that had anything to do with implantation too. Oh well, I guess I'll find out what's going on in time...

m2o, where are you?

Am off tomorrow afternoon for a week, so will miss you all dreadfully and will be looking forward to hearing what's been going on when I get back. Will try to check in again tomorrow in between running around like a blue arsed fly trying to get the packing done

HtheH I've had a few of those moments and it is hard. I went to a hen do recently and the bride's sister is pregnant and due in December as I was and she, not knowing about my situation at all, wittered on and on about how happy she was, etc., and she kept fondling her tiny bump. I had to go to the loos for a quick cry but I got over it and found that I was happy for her deep down. Another friend of mine is due 30 November and keeps putting in her facebook status about how big she's getting and I just think 'not fair! that should have been me too!' I think you just have to try to distance your situation from their's and be brave and think 'it will happen to me soon'.

MBM with all my pregnancies I had terrible cramps and pains during the implanation stage. It's that little egg gripping on hard! Have a good week away, we'll miss you too .

I'm sitting here watching Thursday's Big Brother - am really behind!

Good morning everyone!
i woke up 'early' today to get hold of the laptop b4 its being used by dh, so first thing went to MN to see posts
Becky, it is hard isnt it..i remember u telling us abt that day. I find it v. difficult as well and i tend to look for more positive thoughts than negative cos' it wont do me any good if i do.
MBM, hope your packing is done and take care of yourself and keep reminding yourself that you are newly pregnant! to be more careful

Morning!

Just a quickie as am off to clean out my car - have got an 8 hr journey ahead of us

Today I feel a bit rotten, which I'm very happy about! Didn't feel anything last time other than tired and hungry, so am feeling a little more positive. Think the bleeding might be slowing too, thank goodness! Did another test this morning, and there's a slightly stronger line . Will be v careful nandos, thanks.

Have a good week everyone, and hopefully when I get back there may be some more good news from one or two of you? I really hope so anyway...

Lots of love x

Glad you feel rotten today MBM! That's sounds horrible but you know what I mean!!!

Ooooh I'm going to pop over to bop to the Bangles later! It's just another manic monday, ooooo, wish it were sunday, ooooo, that's my fu nday, ooooooh.

It would be nice if we had more good news to tell you when you return. I must be ovulating right now because I feel really up for it. Does anyone else notice any change in their labido around ovulation time?

Uh-oh, so much for the packing - leaving in an hour and still not done it

Becky, yes, I am horny as anything when I ovulate . It's funny isn't it that our bodies are so very clever... Ooh, have a bop for me, I love them!!!!! Get shaggin too lady...

Really have to go now - am doing things slowly as I keep getting hot flushes

I'm back!!!!!!!!!!

Have had a couple of nights out and feel dog rough so scuse my absense

Just a quick one to say.....

OH MY FUCKING GOD!!!!!

Our 1st BFP!!!!!!!

CONGRATULATIONS BUM!!!!!

take it easy and get lots of rest.

xxxx

Hello m2o!

I'm listening to 10CC's greatest hits, Crowded House and KT Tunstall on this laptop as they are playing at Cornbury later today, where I'll be going later to carve pork for preschool. It is raining today though .

Last night I was lying in bed at about 11pm and it was so surreal because I could hear 'You Can Call Me All' by Paul Simon faintly drifting over in the air from the festival and it was lovely and magical and made me feel all sad about moving house and leaving.

Now let me just go find my wellies...

I'm feeling really sorry for myself today. Really HATE my body- I dont know where I am with anything anymore. How can I TTC like this???? Please help me make sense of this....sorry if you've heard it all before

Diagnosed MMC 12th May at 8 weeks.

MC and admitted to hosp with bleeding 19th May.

Carried on bleeding.

Retained products removed 25th May. 2 week course of antibiotics.

Stopped bleeding very suddenly (like a tap turning off!) on the 3rd June.

Had sex on the morning of 8th June and almost immediatly started bleeding very bright red blood which got steadily VERY heavy. Bled very heavily for 7 days then it tailed off and stopped after 12 days.

Now, what I want to make sense of is- I counted this heavy bleed as AF cos of the 5 days not bleeding in between. But now I am thinking that it wasnt AF cos how can my womb lining build up enough in 5 days to give me a nearly 2 week heavy period? Could the sex have started it off? Am I waiting for my 1st AF now? I dont know. I think I must be. I cant even think about things like ovulation although I have had loads of fairy snot. My poersonal feeling is that I am waiting for 1st AF.

Its all come to a head in my head a bit today cos went to see a friend and her new baby. And sat there very sad after a while thinking 'when will it be me? I dont even know what is going on with my body!!!'

What do you guys think?