***Lets support eachother again- you know who you are ***

[mummy2olivia]

charliesmum, nandos, beakas, sugr, cornflower, poppy, becky and everyone else who miscarried in may/june 2008....

We have all been very brave together and supported eachother. For those of us that are ready, it may be time to support eachother again as we return to TTC. Lets hold hands, remember our loss and give a nod to the future as we endeavour to procreate and............

SHAG!!

As promised, a thread to stay in touch. Will also see you on the MC avengers thread.

ps nandos, I hope that what is going on, is what you hope may be going on, if that makes sense

MBM don't worry about us - we are all excited for you and want to hear all about your pregnancy. You give us hope .

I'm working today - booooring.

morning all..
just woke up after the phone rang early this morning..
am going shopping again today cos' going for a long vacation to see my family back home next month.

re your comments, i think you have the right to be happy abt your pregnancy cos' everyone here knows that we went thru a mc and its been months since the last time we got pregnant..
i guess its just natural for some ladies to be upset/sad/jealous etc but dont worry too much abt it n take care of yourself..

Hello all

Just got back from shopping: DH wanted to go to Maplins (oh my god what a geeky shop!). I said that to DH and he said 'I am a geek'. He bought, wait for it, it is really exciting, a power supply for his computers and a new video card. Oooooh! After that we went to Habitat and I bought a red velvet cushion. DH rolled his eyes. It's not like we need a new velvet cushion or anything, I just liked it!

Hope you are all having a good Saturday. I've managed to clock in 5 hours of work today thanks to it being a weekend and having DH around to keep everyone happy.

me back from shopping too at leicester sq at lilywhites and dh bought 2 pairs of shoes while i bought one pair am soo happy
hope all of you have a nice day too ..

I don't know about anyone else but do you find yourselves looking for, perhaps imagining, pregnancy symptoms all the time! Like this morning I thought 'hmmm not sure I like the smell of coffee today' and immediately the 'oooooh pregnant' bells start ringing. But I remember from TTCing in the past that a lot of this is just wishful thinking and in fact last time when I was pregnant I liked the smell of coffee right up until two days after taking the test which was week 5.

Sounds familiar Becky! I started driving myself mad!

What are you up to today? We are being v lazy - dh just watching shipwrecked and I've just had a nap! Should really get out as the sun is shining

Me again - am feeling terrified that things are going wrong again. Need some sane words to keep me going. I just feel so scared all I want to do is sit and cry. It's not based on anything other than the fact that I'm not feeling sick really. It's exactly what happened last time. I don't think I can go through that again

Sorry for the 'me' post but don't know what else to do and dh doesn't know what to say...

MBM I know it is easy for me to say this but please, please try not to worry about how sick you feel. It is not necessarily an indicator of how pregnant you are. I didn't feel sick at all with DS1, except one wobbly moment in French Connection during a lunch break from work but that is all the whole 9 months and he came out fine. I felt really sick with this last pregnancy up until after I had started to miscarry. I understand what you are going through though as even though I am saying this when I was pregnant with DS2 and this last time because I had had an MC before I focussed on how sick I felt even though I knew it wasn't logical to do so. You might find you wake up tomorrow feeling more sick and it is still early days for you yet anyway, often the real sickness doesn't start until 6 weeks or so. I know how hard it is though and that you just can't help yourself worrying. I wish I could give you a hug xxxx.

Thanks Becky, you're so lovely. I just can't bear the thought of it all going wrong again. I've been feeling the same for about a week, and can't help thinking that if my HCG levels were doubling every couple of days then surely I should be feeling crap by now? With ds I had very bad sickness from about 5 wks to 20 weeks, and can't see how it could go from one extreme to the other.

Thank you for trying to make me feel better! I do feel a bit calmer now...

MBM,
how r u feeling today? I would be worried as well if i am pregnant again after the mc but i hope everything goes well with your pregnancy btw r u planning to get an early scan this time round? it would reassure you that everything will be fine n make u less worried..
M2olivia, hope you r alright.. btw where r u?

Hi nandos, am ok today thanks, a little calmer than I was yesterday. Still not feeling sick really though. Have got a scan booked for the 1st Aug, if we get that far... It's actually an appointment I already had for the last pregnancy, but my doctor confessed that she had forgotten to cancel it so I may as well keep it. Feels a bit wierd

How are you doing? When's AF due? How's your 2ww going? It really drags doesn't it!

Hope everyone else is okay? Yes, where are you m2o??

I am ok thx..just a lil bit teary yesterday when going to bed..cant seems to get the mc thing out of my mind well its my fault really cos' i went to read the posts at the mc section..
AF due this friday and yeah its really draggy esp when my cycle is 31 days ..btw the bloaty feeling that i had last wk could be due to ovulation n now it had disappaeared so now im left with no symptoms at all..

Hi Nandos I got teary yesterday as well and DH thought I was bonkers. I feel really bloated today: AF due this coming weekend. We've been doing the deed this month but I don't feel pregnant. I don't feel anything at the moment. I have a lot of pregnant friends and seeing them with their bumps around and about is hard.

MBM glad you've got a scan soon.

It must be hard hanging around with pregnant friends when we r ttc. For now all of my friends are either single or married with kids..i am lucky cos' i cant bear to go out with a pregnant friend in case i cry in front of them n they might think im nuts or something i handle babies n kids well though

It's funny though that babies are ok but pregnant women aren't! One of my friends had a baby girl a couple of weeks ago and when she brought her to the Toddler group I felt happy and just incredibly broody (and hopeful) after seeing her rather than tearful and sad for what I lost. But seeing a pregnant friend just makes me want to blab and cry 'not fair!'

I feel sick today: SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME TO STOP SYMPTOM SPOTTING AS IT IS DRIVING ME CRAZY!!!! Last night I convinced myself as I was pregnant but woke up and thought 'don't be silly!' AF due at the weekend-ish I think.

Oooh Becky, that sounds hopeful Think it's impossible to stop symptom spotting at this stage, but just for you STOP SYMPTOM SPOTTING!!!!!!!!

Are you going to test at the weekend? What tests have you got? I got some test strips from this site - they were £7ish for ten, and imo are v sensitive (about the same as a clearblue). Oooh I so hope you get a BFP. Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could all end up pg together

How are you doing today nandos?

I am going to do a test on Saturday morning partly because I'm having a 'goodbye' drinks at the local pub so I need to know whether it'll be fruit wine or orange juice!

I've got awful indigestion today but that could be anything really.

DH got some tests off the internet. I don't know how much they were, cheap I think.

Hi everyone, I realised last night that what I said earlier about pregnant women being hard to bear was an insensitive thing to say esp to you MBM and I am really sorry, I didn't mean it to come out like that. What I should have said is that it applies in real life only! I think it is wonderful that you are pregnant MBM because you've been through the same as the rest of us and we've all been together here for a while now since we were all on the December thread what seems an age ago now. Also I think it depends on the circumstances. I have a friend who is due in November and she has been desperate for a baby for years and has a bowel condition and was told that conceiving and carrying a baby would be hard for her and for her I just feel really happy and not at all upset. I am really chuffed for her because she is so happy. It sounds mean but its only people who just seem to get pregnant, glow, and give babies like they are popping peas that make me feel sad and I have a few friends like that!

By the way I am still symptom spotting like mad. Had cramps last night and funny taste in my mouth today. Oh please! In my mind I know it is too early for any of these things but I can't help it!!!

Hi Becky - don't worry, I took it exactly as you meant it . I know how difficult it is looking at someone who's pregnant when all you want is to be pregnant too. It is so hard. I still feel like that - am finding it difficult looking at bumps coz it makes me just wish that I already had a bump, and that everything will be okay with this one, and that I'll be given the opportunity to get that far. I think we are all desperate for a baby and so seeing anyone in the position we so want to be in is going to make us .

Re symptom spotting, it's not too early! I realised yesterday that when I went on my school trip to a farm a few weeks ago that I was really careful not to do things like sticking my hand in the calves mouth (I love it when they have no teeth) because I was thinking to myself then that I was pg. That was ten days before my bfp, and I had just started to feel a bit sicky (which has now stopped, although I am feeling a bit rough this morning - hooray!). That happened that last time too - was absolutely convinced I was pg from the symptoms, but had to wait about a week before a bfp showed up.

I sooooooooo hope you are!

Am off to visit some friends Friday, and then coming to the UK on Saturday (Tesco's here I come ) but will be checking when I can to see what's going on! I hope you and nandos have some good news for me

Thanks for the reassurance! I'm very good at putting my big feet in things sometimes and at the moment I am all over the place - hormones???? Oh no, off she goes again symptom spotting!

Last night I had a Japanese cooking lesson and meal afterwards and it was wonderful. I lived there for a couple of years so it was like going back in time for me.

hi MBM n becky
good morning..
hmm, where do i begin
becky, i know u r referring to real-life not MN and i look at pregnant women in a different perspective too cos' they might be just in our position, ttc for so long or suffered a mc just like us..
re symptom spotting, had cramp late last night as well but apart from that i dont feel any different from any other day and the summer time isnt making me any better due temporary insomnia might get better in autumn.
the sun's so bright here i could literally see the sun from my bedside every morning
MBM, u must be soo happy to come back to UK this sat! am not sure abt the good news but am hoping it would be soon.. lol

Morning all. How are you all today? I hope you are sleeping better Nandos. I've also been a bit insomniac lately (which for me in the past has been an early symptom of pregnancy, but also a sign of general life stress!). No sunshine today.

Today I am convinced I just have PMT. I am sooo emotional at the moment. We've had a bit of a crisis. My parents-in-law are on holiday in Italy but my father-in-law is in hospital there with high blood pressure. He's ok, he's coming out today and home next week. We were worried about him at first but he's going to be fine now they've sorted him out with the right medication. But this mini-crisis also means that I now can't go to the wedding of one of my oldest friends which is the weekend after this one. DH is going because he is doing a reading but we can't both go because we have no childcare and children aren't allowed to the wedding or reception. The parents-in-law can't help out as they have their own health / worries at the moment. My mum can't because she's nearly 70 and not that well herself. My sister has her own family and is working anyway (she's a nurse). We have nobody else. I was pretty devastated about this yesterday but I had a bit of an epiphany yesterday and thought that at least my father-in-law is ok and that's much more important than me missing the wedding and my own sorrow, which is just temporary really. DH can take photos and tell me all about it. But the little girl inside me is screaming 'but I'll miss seeing one of my closest friends walk down the aisle and anyway I bought these divine new green shoes to wear at the wedding!!!'

Hi Becky, sorry to hear about your FIL, but am glad he's going to be okay. What a nightmare re the wedding - if you talked to your friend would you not be able to take the ds's to the actual ceremony? That's the most important bit, and maybe if she knows you don't have childcare she would rather you be there with them than miss it completely... Like the sound of your new shoes!

Yes nandos, how are you doing? Hope you got a good sleep last night!

I'm feeling really tired today - was in bed early last night as couldn't keep my eyes open, but then slept dreadfully - I think I have insomnia too... Am awake every morning at 5, and then can't get back to sleep for hours... Think I remember this from expecting ds. Am just off to have a little nap while ds has his.

We're off to Dublin tomorrow morning to see some friends, and I am sooo dreading the flight. DS is a nightmare to fly with as he's such a wrigglebean, and I just don't have the energy to entertain him. Am off this arvo to buy a DVD player so I hope that works! Am feeling sick at the possible price though.........

m2o, you haven't posted on here for a while - are you okay?