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***Lets support eachother again- you know who you are ***

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mummy2olivia · 09/06/2008 20:32

charliesmum, nandos, beakas, sugr, cornflower, poppy, becky and everyone else who miscarried in may/june 2008....

We have all been very brave together and supported eachother. For those of us that are ready, it may be time to support eachother again as we return to TTC. Lets hold hands, remember our loss and give a nod to the future as we endeavour to procreate and............

SHAG!!

As promised, a thread to stay in touch. Will also see you on the MC avengers thread.

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monkeybumsmum · 17/07/2008 08:58

ps nandos, I cannot wait to come back to the UK , I'm so excited! It'll be the first time I'll have seen my mum since her big op too, and now she is walking, which I can't wait to see!

Have got my Tesco's shopping list all ready

nandos · 17/07/2008 09:56

morning!

becky, hopefully your FIL gets better soon..
and abt the wedding reception, yeah try to ask your friend if you can bring your kids with you? i dont understand why parents cant bring their own kids with them.. its a joyous celebration after all well.. other than having additional expenses for the bride n groom
MBM, lol re Tesco list.. inflations make all the groceries prices higher here.. dont be shocked when u come here n shop.. and re your mom, u must be so excited to see her hope shes feeling better.

i feel soo tired today although i did manage to get some sleep.. well slept at 1 am today and woke up at 3.30 then got back to sleep at 4 and now awake again and lucky i didnt see the sun today otherwise i be awake from 5am onwards..

BeckyBendyLegs · 17/07/2008 12:36

I asked my friend that already MBM and she said no, and I totally understand why, she had to say no to her sister who asked about her little girl. I'm upset but at the situation and not at her. It's her wedding and her right to say no children (although we had children at ours and they made it more fun I think!) The reception is going to be a huge grand affair with a nine course meal! I think I will just have to resign myself to the fact I can't go. Boo hoo hoooooo!

MBM I laugh about your trip to Tesco! To me that's a drudge rather than a treat but that's because it's what we do every week! We do stop for a coffee though when we go to make it a bit more fun.

monkeybumsmum · 17/07/2008 12:44

Look on the bright side Becky - at least you won't feel like a heiffer after eating 9 courses

nandos, glad you got some sleep - I went back to bed, had an hours nap and now I feel rough

BeckyBendyLegs · 17/07/2008 13:05

I'll probably be having a one-course lunch of beans on toast with the DSs. Hmmm. Not sure about that one!

monkeybumsmum · 17/07/2008 13:36

It doesn't really compare does it...

You could always wait to see them come out of the church/registry office if that's what they're doing. Then at least you would get to see her in her dress?

i understand why your friend has decided no kids, but it's shitty for you isn't it...

BeckyBendyLegs · 17/07/2008 14:38

Another problem: wedding is 200 miles from our house, it is in Exemouth.

It is shitty! My children are perfect angels as well...of course! I mean DS2 wouldn't run up and down the alter giggling and I'm sure DS1 wouldn't keep saying 'mummy I'm bored!' in a loud voice during the vows.

BeckyBendyLegs · 17/07/2008 18:41

Good news everyone! My sister and mum are going to do a joint babysit at my sister's house so we can go to the wedding. This means that on the Friday we drive up with children (my sister lives 2 hours away). Drive down Friday evening half way to Exemouth, stay in a hotel, drive rest of way Saturday morning. Drive back to sister's Sunday, pick up children, drive home. So I think we'll see more motorway than anything else but I am sooooooo happy that we both can go now.

nandos · 17/07/2008 19:09

yay becky!
problem solved btw thats a good idea

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mummy2olivia · 17/07/2008 19:42

I'm still here everyone!!! Havent't posted cos I cant type very well. Its a long story but here goes....

Basically if you hadnt guessed already I am quite a firey passionate person and DH is quiet and content and placid- complete opposites really. Are you wondering why this means I cannot type??!!!

Well, we were arguing about his mother on Monday night and I went through the roof, screaming and yelling. To calm things down DH went to put his arm round me and I punched his hand away from me and broke my wrist . I've snapped a ligament and broke the nobbley bit on my wrist. Needless to say I am very very sorry and the whole thing has done nothing for TTC cos I am in a splint.

I know you are prob all pissing yourselves laughing

I've been to buy 'men are from mars and women are from venus today' to teach me to communicate better.

Anyway, I'm coming up to ovulation, am getting to it as much as I can and the starflower oil I am taking means I am literally swimming in my own fairy snot.

Becky and Nandos, I have my fingers crossed for both of you to test!! We need another BFP.

Sugr, honey I am sooooo sorry- I missed your message before. I hope you are ok.

MBM, [[[hugs]]]] hope you are well.

Where is heebychick? and beakas? Have searched for Beakas' name but she hasnt posted in ages.

love to all xxxxxxx

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monkeybumsmum · 18/07/2008 05:49

Oh my god Poor you! Wondered what had happened...

Would write more but am on way out of door to airport, so will check in when I can - probs over the weekend.

m2o, keep it up, literally - and I so hope your wrist feels better soon!

Becky, that's fab news re wedding, you must be v pleased!

nandos, hope you okay too...

Must dash,
love to all!

BeckyBendyLegs · 18/07/2008 11:15

Hello. I am feeling totally pre-menstrual today. It's so hard though as this is how I felt before AF due when pregnant as well but I am drinking coffee and it tastes lovely so I don't think I can be PG. Will have to do a test tomorrow before my night out down the pub!

nandos · 18/07/2008 12:53

M2olivia! How on earth did u manage to break your wrist! His hand must be made of iron or something.. and we were quite worried abt you these few days wondering where u've gone.. well you sound just like me when i am angry
btw have no hope of a BFP this month cos' i have been having cramps today (AF due today) and dont feel pregnant at all. maybe AF coming to visit later today or tmr..

chat with you ladies laterz ..take care

BeckyBendyLegs · 18/07/2008 18:36

My AF has just arrived and I took a cheap-off-the-internet PG test anyway and it was negative. I feel so sad. We had loads of rumpy pumpy (or at least it felt like it). Part of me was convinced I was preggers - I think I was imagining symptoms. Oh crumbs. DH said 'oh well at least you can drink tomorrow night and at the wedding' but I sooo wanted to be able to have to have orange juice and smile to DH with our little secret. This is definitely a grrrrrr moment. GRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!! AHHHHHH!!!!! Life sucks! Ah well. There is always next month, eh?

M2O poor you! And having to type with one hand!!! There won't be many long messages from you for a while!

Nandos has your AF arrived yet? We seem to be in cinque (however you spell it).

nandos · 18/07/2008 19:36

Becky, i didnt even think abt M2olivia writing with one hand..silly me
my AF still havent arrived yet, miight come tmr cos' i can just feel it well maybe we both can try again next month..
need to look at the bright side, theres always another day

nandos · 18/07/2008 19:37

of course it not writing, its typing..duh whats wrong with me today??

BeckyBendyLegs · 18/07/2008 19:41

I think we have to look on the bright side. It will happen and when it does it'll be the right time for each of us and it'll be wonderful .

BeckyBendyLegs · 19/07/2008 18:52

I'm really confused. Although my AF 'started' last night all I've had is a few drops. What does that mean? My AFs always start in full flow. Oh crumbs. I'm confused! How is everyone else today?

nandos · 20/07/2008 14:31

Hi all,
becky, sometimes mine starts like that and the next day it starts full flow...
MBM and M2olivia, hope you two are ok..
wheres the rest gone?

btw my AF still not here and im beginning to worry cos' the last thing i want is my cycle to be messed up after ttc for nearly 3yrs after a mc
POAS this afternn after a cup of coffee(i know so stupid) and the test line is so faint even i can hardly see it. Am not keeping up my hopes in case its an evaporation line.
Well, will test again tmr morn and see what happens. Going shopping today and hope all of you are doing ok..

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mummy2olivia · 20/07/2008 17:09

Oh nandos have my fingers crossed for you!!

I can almost defo say that I am out this month

Have hardly had any shagging and when we have its a bit half hearted cos we know its just for baby making.

Oh well, holiday in 4 weeks which means I would be at the 'MC point' of the pregnancy anyway which would ruin my holiday just a bit!

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nandos · 20/07/2008 19:49

Oh sweets,
when is your AF due?
when you go for the holiday, try to 'forget' the MC experience and everything will feel a bit better..

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mummy2olivia · 20/07/2008 19:56

erm.....in 2 weeks I think.

I'm feeling soooooooooooo negative at the mo.

DHs sister is due to give birth any day now, found out that a cousin is expecting (complete shock and she is 20+ weeks and we have only just found out ) and it just all seems so sodding bastard fucking unfair.

After the MC I said I wouldnt get stressed about TTC again but this weekend has been awful. Its all I've thought about and I feel exhausted with it all. Poor DH doesnt know whether he is coming or going- he just keeps taking vits, drinking green tea and reassuring me. I feel bad for him too.

I FUCKING HATE THIS. I really do.

Why couldnt I just have stayed pregnant????

I'm sorry to be so negative.

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nandos · 20/07/2008 20:13

Oh M2olivia..wish i could give u a hug

re your cousin, some women like to tell their pregnancy a bit later than others..

i know how you feel abt the stress cos' i feel it too and almost every wk i cried once or twice whenever i think abt the mc
its good that your dh is making some good habits when ttc, just think how lucky you are compared to my dh he can't be bothered at all.
i really wish we all could be pregnant together..

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mummy2olivia · 20/07/2008 20:39

Oh me too!! That would be lovely!! Somehow though, I have a feeling that I am gonna be TTC for a long time again

Have text my acupuncturist and am booked in for after my holiday.She says I should enjoy my hols before TTC again. Wise words but easier said than done

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BeckyBendyLegs · 20/07/2008 20:41

M2O I know exactly how you feel. It's just pants. The whole thing. We should have been about 20 weeks by now . I can't bear it when anyone mentions Christmas to me. I want to cancel Christmas this year.

My AF is in full flow now. I am about as pregnant as a dried up old prune at the moment. We did it loads as well. It is so hard to stay 'relaxed' about it all. I take that back, it is impossible to stay relaxed.

Nandos good luck with your faint line! Let us know what happens tomorrow. It's so hard isn't it when the same signs of PMT are the same signs of early pregnancy - doesn't give us much chance of prediction. I think that's why I thought I was pregnant as I had ragiing PMT last week!