The Hopeful Hearts Circle 1 - December 2025🎄💖

[Iris2024]

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@ttcnumerodosIt amazes me, all is required in that sentence is to add in a simple ‘I’m really sorry’. A little kindness makes all the difference 😔

Thank you (regards scan) 💕

@ttcnumerodos I'm so so sorry, life is so cruel isnt it, sending you all the love❤

@ttcnumerodos I am sonsorry the person who delivered the news to you was so cold. You deserved to be treated better. It must have been such a shock.

I sometimes wonder why some dr are so cruel. As you say, @Blondepeach, a but of empathy goes a long way. Telling someone something so crushing so abruptly is vile.

So sorry it's not good news @ttcnumerodos they definitely should have been more sensitive when delivering the news.

I've also not got good news. After the rocky start my tests are now fading. I think it's only the progesterone that is keeping everything in place at the moment. My plan is to keep taking them until after the weekend. My toddler has swimming lessons tomorrow and my in laws are visiting Saturday. Then it's my birthday on Sunday so I'm trying to hold off the inevitable until after then. Think I need to ring the clinic on Friday to tell them I'll be stopping meds because they are expecting me to continue until scan on 2/3 which I'm not prepared to do at this point. It was weird from the start and clearly not going to work out. And try as I might I can't get photos to upload on here.

Aw mate I'm so sorry @Esssa. Would they maybe scan you, or is it still too early? The limbo stage is the worst 💔 sending 🫂

Thank you so much everyone for your kind words - this group is such a lifeline.

I'm feeling lots of feels today but definitely waves of anger that we still have to go through shit like this. Xx

They would only scan 2 weeks after a positive test and because of the period like bleed they are going from the 14th not the 8th when I had the first faint positive and subsequent negative. So I doubt they will bring it forward. Tbh I don't need a scan. I'd be happy with bloods to prove what I know. I feel like this is a shit cycle to call it quits on because it was dodgy from the start but my DH has just been diagnosed type 2 diabetic and that can cause sperm issues so I don't know if it's worth still trying or not. Though the initial miscarriages has been my issue prior to being with him this just adds another layer of uncertainty.

Hi all, messaged on this back in December. Just found out at 11 weeks 4 days I’m having my second miscarriage :(

bizarre way of finding out… I had spotting so went to epu today and the urine test is negative and she said that my body probably absorbed the pregnancy weeks ago and my body is finally deciding to have a period!? She was cold and dismissive but she said they won’t scan, they’ve done a blood test and I wait for the results but I’m not hopeful.

very confusing time…I tested up until 7 weeks but thought I didn’t have to test anymore. I never ever thought my body without bleeding could have got rid of the pregnancy!? I’ve had the one very light spotting 2 or 3 times

@ttcnumerodosI’m so sorry. Sounds similar to me as in only a sac or pocket of fluid found but no pregnancy as such. Strange to have a negative test too though. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this. It definitely hurts a lot when you know you’re getting older and time is running out. We’ll keep trying but I’m not far off 41 and feel like if it doesn’t happen (and stick) soon then we
might reach the end of the road.

@Esssaso sorry you’re in this position. The not knowing is awful. Will they test your bloods for you?

@Stardust1204how awful for you. I’ve honestly never heard of that before. I bet it’s a huge shock for you. Be kind to yourself.

@Blondepeachgood luck for your scan

@Stardust1204How awful ❤️‍🩹 I’m so sorry. That seems absolutely crazy and not fair she said they won’t scan!? That makes no sense and just leaves you with no proper answer/closure x

Oh @ttcnumerodos you are not stupid, you took several tests and saw the results. It’s not stupid. It is cruel though.
@Stardust1204 I’m sorry you’ve had a second miscarriage, how upsetting. Also very surprised that you tested negative without a period, I’d have thought they’d want to scan for retained products, though you presumably can’t have that with a negative test. Bet confusing and very upsetting for you I’m sure

So sorry there's so many of us in the same boat - @Fullofconfusionits rubbish isn't it. Do you have a cut off in mind? Mine keeps moving forward 🥴

@Stardust1204I'm so sorry - can't believe they wouldn't scan you, surely they have to check, they can't just guess your body absorbed it? Must be so difficult but I hope you have the strength to ask for a second opinion. You deserve their care!

I felt I really had to ask the questions today - like what has happened here? I think that's what made me feel stupid, when they should have been explaining to me. Just very sad. My DD8 chose tonight to absolutely kick off at bedtime too, and told me he doesn't love me 💔 please not today, kiddo 😭 xx

Thank you so much lovely, I’m in shock that we’ve caught again but so soooo happy. Thank you for popping by! I hope you’re okay ❤️

I’m so so sorry to come on here tonight and see so much confusion, upset and heartache. @ttcnumerodos @essa @Stardust1204 what a cruel world we live in. I know from going through myself that no words will bring you comfort but please don’t lose your fight… keep going and we’re all here for you ❤️

Im cautious of sharing this update as there has been a lot of recent heartbreak on the thread and I know how happy we can be for people but at the same time be broken for ourselves ❤️‍🩹

My scan went as hoped this morning and the pregnancy was confirmed to be in the uterus and measuring 5 wks + 6. I had convinced myself it would be bad news due the aches on my ectopic side, so I’m in a bit of shock at the minute. I was shaking like a leaf before the scan, crazy being sat in the same waiting room I spent so many days at this time last year.

First tiny hurdle over, but know it’s such early days so still being protective of myself. Sending everyone lots of love x

So happy to hear that @Blondepeach- don't feel you have to hide your happiness - we are all here cheering you on. Your good news has made my day and praying all goes smoothly from now on. Lots of love xx

Yay good news is good to hear. Everything crossed for you @Blondepeach.

I'm back with more confusion tbh. Woke up with a bit more bleeding after a couple of settled days. It has settled itself again now though. I did another test this morning and instead of being fainter than yesterday it's the darkest test I've had so far. So confused. Has anyone had tests yo-yo like this before? I'm slightly concerned it could be ectopic or molar or something. All bleeding has been fresh pink/red. No brown. So assuming it could actually work out I'm then thinking placenta previa. Still fully expecting a poor outcome however.

@Esssa Remind me how many weeks you are? Could you get a blood test to check your hcg levels? Or get a private scan?

I think trying to figure it out with the tests is too much stress, especially since you take Progesterone and might want to stop.

I know it can get expensive but trying to get anything on the NHS is sometimes not possible (when would be your test 2 weeks after your positive?)

@Blondepeach I am so happy to read that!! How amazing.

@Allmywishcometrue 5+3 by dates but could feasibly be a couple of days less as I never got a proper peak on ovulation tests, just up into the 0.60's and it's usually up to 1.2ish. Hospital will scan me at 7 weeks by LMP. Would have been 6 weeks but it had to be 2 weeks after a positive test and they are taking that as when I got technically my second set of positives at 4+5. They aren't accepting the first early squinter as a positive or it would be a scan on Monday coming.

Thank you for the kind words everyone ❤️

@Esssa hmm that’s really annoying they won’t scan you Monday and take it from the first positive that you had. I would have thought that they would want to rule out an ectopic (fingers crossed that’s not the case) x

Lovely news hun ❤️ you can breathe tonight now and embrace that you’re pregnant. Sending you love x

Awww some lovely news @Blondepeach ❤️ Honestly, it's sweet of you to worry given some of the grief in this thread but... I am genuinely delighted and super happy for you. And hope to be following in your footsteps!

8dpo for me today. I've got a weird feeling... I don't want to be getting my hopes up too much as I know I can't possibly know yet but... I do know that DP and I have a good track record of getting pregnant! We're just not very good at staying pregnant...

Im telling myself I'm going to hold off testing until at least Monday. It's going to take a lot of willpower!

@ttcnumerodosI don’t have a solid cut off. We have an appointment with the recurrent miscarriage clinic in June so might be able to make a bit more of a decision then. I feel like after 42 things decrease fertility wise even further so…we’ll see. The time pressure doesn’t help!

@Blondepeachamazing news. Please don’t feel guilty for sharing good news. That’s what we’re all here for. The hope ❤️

@Taysoniceverything crossed for you.

@Esssahow are you doing lovely? I’ve been thinking about you

Hi guys. I'm sorry I went MIA for a long while. We had a family member get very sick in December and unfortunately passed in January so TTC went out of the window for a little bit but we decided to give it a try this cycle but very much a last minute decision so only dtd once this cycle on ovulation day and now I'm 9dpo and feel like I'm going insane symptom spotting and needed some support from people who get it.

I'm a bit behind with everyone so I'm guna go back a few pages to try to catch up a little. I hope everyone is doing ok xx

Thank you for asking @Fullofconfusion I'm okay. Tests have faded again and then just stayed the same. The heparin injection bruises are getting sore and I'm just not seeing the point. I may ring on Monday to see if they will see me sooner because I can't see the point in continuing meds for another week. I guess I have the choice to stop without being seen. It's just that tiny flicker of what if it's actually okay. All while knowing I've got a better chance of stopping a chocolate teapot from melting by the fire. Why does this have to suck so much. It's my birthday tomorrow. I just want the inevitable over with so we can get back to TTC. Again.