The Hopeful Hearts Circle 1 - December 2025🎄💖

[Iris2024]

Hey! Welcome to the Hopeful Hearts Circle 💕

Look out for this tagline every month and keep in touch and follow each others journey every month. We all got each other and we’ve got this girls!

Welcome to a wishful December 🎄🤍💞

I believe I am 6dpo today, but my bbt is not rising as much as usual (its just above the cover line but not seeing an increase each day like I usually do) so I’m considering stopping temping now as I’m finding it really stressful each day, another thing to focus on 😣 also have slightly twinges down below, feeling like it’s AF on the way and I’m now fully doubting that my body even released an egg in the end.

Decided I’m going to knock the alcohol on the head from this weekend and see how long I can completely go without it in the new year, this may not seem a challenge for most but my partner and I do enjoy a pub on the weekend and have had so much on (weddings etc) these last few months which has involved a lot of drinking. Want to ensure I’m trying to do everything I can to live healthier and try and get my cycles feeling a bit more ‘back to normal’

hoping to see some more positive tests on this thread soon ❤️ & happy new year!

Can’t believe I can say this - but managed to sneak in a positive test just before the new year!! Negative at 9DPO, then vvvfl 10DPO, with lines darkening daily!! Photo shows 10-13DPO. I think it’s good line progression so far? Sending all the baby dust to those still waiting on your BFP. Your time will come ❤️

Congratulations @SleepySkyRat !what a way to end the year. Keeping everything crossed for a sticky bean.

And hey @FarAwayBird and @SureLook !lovely to see familiar names pop up. How are you guys?

And thanks for asking after me @LuckyDuck93 I'm okay. We've had a really indulgent few days - spent loads of money on the comfiest pj's, fluffy socks, bubble bath, candles, all new bedding... And just been slow, kind to myself and started a new crochet project.

I did email the fertility team. They said I'd need to visit EPAU to get the loss 'formally recorded' if I wanted to be referred to the recurrent loss clinic, but that the wait was long and whilst there would be other tests they could offer I wouldn't be able to have NHS IVF.

I definitely didn't want to go to EPAU. And I'm not sure the recurrent clinic is going to be much help. Not in the time frame I'd be happy with.

I don't know what to do.

@Taysonic I'm keeping well, thanks. I'm 23 weeks now with a baby girl and everything is looking good. I'm sorry to read of your struggles. You're so deserving of this and I'm keeping everything crossed that this is your year ✨️

Oh my goodness, that is genuinely such wonderful news!!! A baby girl. 😍 Will be thinking of you over the next few months - do drop by and let us know when your sweet girl arrives!

I’ve done another test this morning and the line is still very faint so I don’t think it’s good news here.

@FarAwayBird @SureLook Hello Lovelies!!!! Lovely to see your names pop up ☺️🫶🏽 How are you both? I caught in August but didn’t progress. Hoping 2026 is my year! ❤️❤️

@SleepySkyRat Oh wow!!!!! I remember your username. Congrats hunni - wonderful news! At Christmas too 🥹 remind me of your journey.

@lepoissonM Im so sorry but don’t give up hope yet.

@Iris2024 thank you!! Yes I remember your name too! I had a chemical pregnancy back in August and I think you’d also sadly experienced similar if I remember correctly?! Feel so lucky to have conceived again and so far things seem to be going in the right direction but I’m just waiting for something to go wrong. PCOS made conceiving more difficult - have to say if I wasn’t LH testing and BBT I’d definitely have missed my ovulation as I usually ovulate about CD16 but I didn’t until CD22 this cycle! So I think I’m a week behind my LMP dating. Sorry to hear things haven’t happened for you yet, sending you all the baby dust ❤️

Thanks @Iris2024 but I’ve been cramping all afternoon and now spotting so I am confident I'm out. At this point I just need it to be a normal chemical as I have a history of ectopic pregnancy and I only have the one tube left. Keep your fingers crossed for me please x

@Iris2024 I'm doing well, thank you. I remember you catching in August. I was over the moon for you. But this year WILL be your year ✨️
Best of luck to everyone on this thread. I'll be following along in the background rooting for you all ❤️

@lepoissonM I’m thinking of you. Hope you’re ok and it’s not bad news.

I’m fairly sure that I’m ovulating today. EWCM the past couple of days and cramps this afternoon. DTD yesterday and will again today so hopefully we might catch that egg. I think the lack of tracking has helped me to relax a bit. I’m CD22 today so if I’m right then I’m back into my usual cycle after last month’s weird 25 day cycle. I’m not convinced I ovulated at all last month.

How is everyone else doing?

Hi @Taysonic and @Iris2024 I’m good thanks. I’m expecting a baby boy in April, around the same time as SureLook! I just wanted you to know I’m here cheering you on. I have every faith that 2026 will bring the joy you’ve both been waiting for and so deeply deserve! ❤️

It’s good enough news @Fullofconfusion in that it’s a normal chemical so I’m just relieved that it’s nothing more sinister. So it’s CD1 and we live to fight another cycle !

Morning ladies, hope everyone is doing ok as they can be.
Back to work & routine for me today which hopefully means feeling a bit more in control of everything, ttc included! Trying to focus on the things I can control with it like eating well & looking after myself.
Hope you all had a relaxing & gentle christmas x

Oh @lepoissonM I'm so sorry about your chemical. I really hate that terminology. I hope you've got lovely support around you in person as well as on here to help you through it.

@LuckyDuck93 back to work for me today too - I've got a busy month ahead workwise so hoping to plough myself into that and just put TTC at the back of my mind for a bit.

DP and I had a bit of a chat over the last couple of days and have come to the conclusion that we're not ready to give up on this dream yet. I'm not sure whether the expected wait time for the recurrent losses clinic is going end up being useful to us or not, but I might look into whether there are other options available to us if we were to conceive again to help the pregnancy become more established. All of my losses have been between 5 - 7 weeks so it feels like there must be something that's the issue specifically about that time frame. I may look into progesterone for next time.

Gosh, feels weird to be talking about potential next times.

I had a difficult weekend seeing friends. My friends, knowing I'd miscarried over Christmas and that it was my third loss this year, felt it appropriate to tell me all their concerns about my relationship (the subtext of which was very much: are you sure you want to have a child with this man?). And that upset me A LOT. Not because they're right, I don't think they are and frankly, they've barely seen us together as a couple (literally, they've met him twice in three years) but that they don't trust my judgement. Felt a bit like an ambush. And very ill-timed.

It’s really ok @Taysonic I don’t feel too bad about it. At least we can pick ourselves up and keep going onto the next cycle. Hope you’re ok- that’s a lot from your friends.

@Taysonicwow that’s definitely not the most appropriate timing from your friends. I’m sure they have your best interests at heart but I bet it wasn’t nice to hear. I hope you’re ok.

I spent last night and today feeling poorly. Think I’ve got a stomach bug. Not the best timing. Managed to DTD the day before I think I ovulated but not since so I feel like we’ve not covered all bases this cycle which is annoying. It seems like there’s always something and the clock is forever ticking

@SureLook Thank you 🩷 I had a wobble the other day thinking do I just stop and not put myself through this anymore as it’s killing me but I’ll always regret it if I don’t carry on! 😓 Just worried it will never happen. Please stay in touch ❤️

@SleepySkyRat Yes, that’s right. That’s how I remember you. We went through similar a few months back. My cycles took a while to go back to normal so feel I was robbed of time but I keep on going. I had a wobble the other day but I’m back now. I’m so so happy for you!

@FarAwayBird Thank you so much for your kind words 🩷 I really do appreciate it and please keep me updated on your journey into motherhood. I can’t remember if this is your first?

@lepoissonM I’m so sorry that you’ve had a loss. I know how it feels and it’s the worst having it given to you and then taken away just as quick.

@Taysonic That’s really inconsiderate of them, what are their reasons? Read the room & the timing of the situation and how much hurt you’re going through.

@Taysonic honestly I really admire your strength, it's not easy to put yourself through this! I remember reading something about NICE guidance for Progesterone if you're bleeding and have had previous losses, definitely worth looking into. Ah thats rubbish timing from your friends, they could've been more thoughtful about it!

Hope everyone else is doing ok x

Sorry to hear about your friends @Taysonic, that sounds very rough considering what you've been through 🫂

And sorry for your loss @lepoissonM, I hope you're doing ok 🫂

🫂 To anyone else who needs it too!

I'm 9dpo this morning and have been symptom spotting so caved and did a test, obvs bfn 🙄 feel a bit silly now but I never usually have the opportunity as AF always arrives early x

No need to feel silly @ttcnumerodos we've all done it! Doesn't mean you're out so just see how the next few days go. Keeping my fingers crossed.

And yeah... was a tough weekend! And don't get me wrong, I don't think it was easy for my friends to express their concerns and it was brave of them in a way. I know my partner and I don't necessarily look good 'on paper' if that makes sense - it would be easy to look from the outside and question it, but the reality is so very different. I think the saddest thing for me about the whole thing was feeling like if we ever do have good news to share (not just TTC related but any good news), that it will be met with judgement. I guess time will either prove them right, or prove them wrong. We'll see!

TTC wise, I feel like I may be on the edge/verge of exploring what private healthcare options there are... Whether it's worth doing some investigations to see if there are any scar tissue issues that is preventing implantation to progress etc.? I don't feel like I've got enough time to sit and wait patiently for the NHS. I think the type of person I am, I need to feel like I'm doing something proactive to prevent a further loss.

@ttcnumerodos definitely don't feel silly, I'm 2dpo today and had a twinge this morning, instantly thought oo what is this. Nothing makes me a more unhinged version of myself than the 2ww😆

@Taysonichave you spoken to your doctor about NHS help? I’ve been referred to the recurrent loss clinic but it had a 9 month waiting list so my appointment isn’t until June. I’m already 40 so feel like I don’t have time to waste but I’ve not looked into private help yet.

@lepoissonMhow are you doing? Hope you’re ok. Chemicals can feel so hard. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this again.

@LuckyDuck93looks like we’re cycle buddies as I think I’m also 2DPO. Maybe we can stop each other testing too early and stressing ourselves out!

Thanks @Taysonicand @LuckyDuck93- it can feel very lonely this TTC business, so grateful to have this space to vent x

@Fullofconfusion its funny I very rarely test, usually going with the mindset that i'll wait for af as I don't want to see a negative, but the last few months ive driven myself mad from 9-13dpo and I start to wonder if i'd be best off testing and getting it out the way. So maybe i'm going the opposite way this cycle!