TTC after second or third trimester loss

[MissingMyBaby]

Hi, I thought I would start a thread to see if there’s anyone who has had a second or third trimester loss and is TTC or will be in the next few months.

I was pregnant until a few weeks ago where i sadly lost my so wanted baby at 20 weeks. It’s a horrible pain. We’ve decided to wait until April to TTC so that we can grieve our baby and try to heal mentally and physically. It’s difficult as I really just want my current baby, but my body is also aching to have a living child in my arms.

I’ve now had my first period since the loss and i’ve started tracking so i can start to understand my cycle post loss.

I am so so sorry for your loss, that is so devastating 😞 please take care of yourselves, don't make any final decisions right now. Grieve and take the time you need. Of course it's completely understandable if once you've had that time, you still feel the same way.

We've not had a great round, despite 10 eggs and 7 fertilizing, we've only been left with 2 blasts to send for PGT, so the chance of this cycle producing a usable embryo is incredibly small. We're mentally preparing for the next round already really, which is our final NHS funded round, and would be our final round overall as we can't afford to pay privately x

I’m am so, so sorry @i123i. Absolutely heartbreaking update. Please be kind to yourself. I hope that you have lots of support and kindness around you. ❤️

I am so sorry @i123i. Such heartbreaking news. Are you getting the support you need from those around you? I hope the physical side of things is manageable.

I completely understand why you’re saying you’re done with TTC, but don’t put pressure on yourself to even think about that yet. Maybe you will still feel that your journey is over in a few weeks, but maybe you won’t. Either way, you have our support 💐

Hello everyone, checking in again!

Thank you so much for your kind messages a couple of weeks ago, they gave me great comfort. It was an awful experience, but I have good support around me thankfully. This latest baby has been sent for testing too.

@Moosey898- any news on the latest PGT?

We finally had the video call to discuss the post mortem result for our 18 week loss (the loss was at the end of October 2025). It was postponed 5 times without explanation. Anyway, same as @MissingMyBaby- no reason found. All tests came back normal for me, baby and placenta. We have been referred to the Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic, as we’ve also now had that 12 week loss as well as a 6 week loss a while ago, plus we are getting old!! I’m told they’ll do a few additional tests, since the standard ones came back clear. The big issue is I don’t know when they’ll actually do these - it could be next week, it could be in 6 months! And then we also have the wait on results. So just have to wait and hear. After saying last time I don’t think I want to TTC anymore, I am slowly coming round to the idea again, but there are so many unknowns and fears!!

Has anyone else been referred to the RMC?

Hope to hear some updates from you all ❤️

Heard back today, unsurprisingly neither embryo is usable. So back to square one and our third and final funded cycle before we have some very difficult discussions. The clinic is being amazing and trying to help me fast track things so I can go again next cycle (from around the 25th) because otherwise I have about a 3 month gap due to work commitments or have to drop out of some events I'm working which is far from ideal. Just not holding much hope anymore to be honest and hurting more and more at losing our little miracle baby xx

@i123i I was referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic in September last year and have an appointment in June this year! So it’s a lengthy wait. We have decided to go down the private route after another 2 miscarriages since the referral. 2 early miscarriages, 2 chemical pregnancies and the TFMR at 22 weeks. I’m also in a place where I’m not sure we can continue on trying but I also need some answers before then. Even if the answers aren’t what I want to hear. We seem to fall pregnant easily but since the TFMR the babies just aren’t developing.

@Moosey898wishing you all the luck in the world for cycle 3

@Moosey898- so sorry to hear about the results. I’m glad the clinic are trying to fast track things as 3 months feels so so long when TTC. It’s really hard not to lose hope but I do try and occasionally feel some to keep me going.

@Fullofconfusion- wow that’s such a long wait! I expected a few months but not that long. Sorry to hear that. I totally get why you have gone private after everything, and want some answers. As humans we need to find reasons why. It’s hard to accept “it just happens” as we often get told. I hope you get those answers. What additional tests are you getting done?

Oh I’m so sorry to read everyone’s updates.

@i123i no reason is so hard to get your head around, I’m so sorry. Keeping my fingers crossed for a quick referral for you.

@Moosey898 that sounds really difficult and really heartbreaking news. I’m glad the clinic is trying to move things along quickly for you, I really hope they manage it. Wishing you so much luck.

@Fullofconfusion I really hope that you get some answers from the private tests, completely understand why you need some.

Bit of a rubbish update from me too in that I’ve developed a thyroid condition so can’t safely ttc until my levels are back under control. Definitely can’t try for the next two cycles and then it depends on my next blood test whether we can try after that.

• I’ve already had bloods through the GP for thyroid, pre diabetes and full blood count.

The private clinic is doing also doing AMH and vitamin D along with a scan to see what’s going on. Partner is getting a semen analysis. Hopefully we might get some kind of answer to what’s going on.

I’m so sorry that everyone is having such a rough time. It’s the worst club to be in

Thank you both - thankfully they've said I don't need the consultation or another nurse planning appointment so we will be moving ahead with the next round at the end of this month. This is our final NHS funded round so have some difficult conversations coming up x