TTC after second or third trimester loss

[MissingMyBaby]

Hi, I thought I would start a thread to see if there’s anyone who has had a second or third trimester loss and is TTC or will be in the next few months.

I was pregnant until a few weeks ago where i sadly lost my so wanted baby at 20 weeks. It’s a horrible pain. We’ve decided to wait until April to TTC so that we can grieve our baby and try to heal mentally and physically. It’s difficult as I really just want my current baby, but my body is also aching to have a living child in my arms.

I’ve now had my first period since the loss and i’ve started tracking so i can start to understand my cycle post loss.

Hi @Wishingforwhatshouldhavebeen I’m taking Pregnacare Conception, a good omega 3 a separate vitamin D and Coq10. I have friends who take Wild Nutrition and seem to like it as it’s food grown rather than synthetic. I’m also going to ask for a blood test at the GP just to check that my levels are all ok before TTC.

Thank you @Fletchasketch and @MissingMyBaby

I hated Pregnacare, it made me super emotional, my cycles went a bit haywire and I ended up with hormonal cystic acne!

I take Coq10 with added omega 3, folic acid and vitamin D.

I have my first petals session this week. I’m quite nervous as I don’t know why my DH will be. He doesn’t like to open up so I think he’ll find it hard but I’m hoping it’ll help us both find some peace

Hi all, hoping I can join. I have one 2yo DD and have been TTC a second child since sept 2024. I conceived in May 2025, but sadly the pregnancy ended in Aug 2025 with a TFMR at 15 weeks.

I’m now just waiting to start cycle 5 after getting a BFN this morning at 11dpo. So gutted! Really felt like everything was right this month - less stress, more sleep, good diet, lots of BD at right time etc. The waiting is so hard.

Hi @Gingerseal of course you can join. I’m so sorry for your loss and I’m really sorry for your BFN. I haven’t even started trying again yet, but i can imagine how horrible it is to keep getting negatives.

It sounds like you’re doing all the right things. The only other things i can think of are - are you taking any vitamins and have you tried a fertility lube? Do you mind me asking how old you are?

Hi @MissingMyBabythank you for your kind response. I’m so sorry for your loss, I think you’re so strong to have given yourself time before you TTC again. How are you feeling about it?

I’m about to turn 36, so not over the hill yet haha but no spring chicken either! Vitamins is a good question, I had a regime before the TMFR focusing more on lengthening a shorter luteal phase as that was an issue for me at that time. Now it doesn’t seem to be though, so maybe I could revisit what vitamins would be better. I will try to track my cycle a bit more too I think as have been a bit hit and miss with it recently.

@Gingerseal- sorry for your loss. Lots of support here.

@MissingMyBaby- no, not yet decided when we will TTC. I am ready but DH not yet and we are still waiting on post mortem results.

@Fullofconfusion- that’s great your cycle has righted itself so quickly. Based on LH strips, I think I’m due to ovulate tomorrow, CD15, which is much much earlier than my last cycle (first cycle post miscarriage, which was CD22/23). So maybe my cycle is correcting itself already too? Let’s hope…

@Gingerseal I’m so sorry for your loss. Welcome seems like the wrong word so hello. We’re not there yet with ttc and are waiting on our post mortem results before we decide on a timeline. It’s so hard knowing when though, one minute all I want is to be pregnant again and the next I’m so terrified of the thought of being I wonder if I’ll ever be able to consider it again.

@Fullofconfusion how did your fist petals session go if you don’t mind sharing? Completely fine and understandable if you don’t want to talk about it though. We’ve got our triage session next week and I’m nervous enough about that! We’re going to do it together too, my husband was a bit unsure but I think we both need it and hope that doing it together might help us talk more openly about it outside of the sessions too.

Hi @i123i, thank you for the welcome. I’m so sorry for your loss also and wishing you the best of luck when you decide to TTC again.

@Wishingforwhatshouldhavebeenthank you for your hello, I can totally empathise with feeling different things at different times. I spent a while wanting to try again but also quite fearful of it. Now I think I will be anxious when/if I conceive again but the worry has taken a back seat compared to how much I want to be pregnant again.

Just noticing how many people are having support from Petals. I’ve just finished some counselling sessions with them and got a lot from it personally.

@Wishingforwhatshouldhavebeenmy first petals session was hard. I won’t lie, I cried all the way through it. The counsellor was lovely and made some really good points. She could see that my DH was keeping everything bottled up and didn’t want to show his feelings but she was really understanding around that and we have managed to talk a little outside of the session so it’s definitely helped. The triage session was just to basically tell them why you’re there and they tell you what to expect. Then the sessions are booked in with a counsellor who you’ll see each time. We have 5 sessions fortnightly. I think it’s hard as you’re discussing past trauma and I felt totally wiped out for the day but it’s been a few days post session now and I’m feeling more positive about it. I hope it helpful for you both ❤️

Hi ladies, how are you all doing?

Quick update from me. I got a BFP 2 days ago at roughly 10dpo. I’m absolutely terrified that it’s all going to go wrong again. I hate that pregnancy should be such a happy thing but that joy has been ripped away from me. I keep repeating to myself that this is a new pregnancy but it’s hard.

I previously had a loss (TFMR) at 22 weeks so until I get past the 20 week scan I think I’m going to be a bundle of nerves.

Sending huge amounts of love and luck to everyone 🤍

Best of luck @Fullofconfusion, I can’t imagine how nervous you must be feeling but a BFP is a good start and all you can do is take good care of yourself and try to manage your stress. I hope you have someone good to talk to that can help you keep the nerves at bay. Sending you hugs and luck 🍀

We will be doing an IVF cycle in February but it’s been a few years since the last one so who knows how my body will respond this time but all we can do is hope, pray and try.

Really gentle congratulations @Fullofconfusion. I can understand you feeling anxious but this is good news! Just try to take it one day at a time.

This is such lovely news @Fullofconfusion. I agree - it really sucks that pregnancy will never really be the same for us. Literally take each day at a time and try not to think beyond that. Did they say that you’ll have a specific care plan with extra scans etc. or will it be the usual process?

Keeping everything crossed for you, we’re all here to support you.

Will be thinking of you and rooting for you as well @SparklyGreenTiger . All the best.

Congratulations @Fullofconfusion- I can only imagine how you must be feeling. I hope in the not too distant future you will feel more joy than fear. How long have you been TTC since your loss in June?

I have my first proper Petals session tomorrow. Also doing it with my DH. Glad to hear of your positive experiences @Fullofconfusionand @Gingerseal.

All the best in the lead up to starting IVF in February @SparklyGreenTiger 🙏🏻 , must be a mix of emotions.

Thank you ladies.

@SparklyGreenTigerall the best of luck to you for February.

@i123i My initial loss was June 2024. We fell pregnant again in May 2025 and I had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks (baby had stopped developing more than a month earlier) so we’ve been trying for more than 2 years in total. We did take a break after the TFMR for 6 months to try and let ourselves heal but it just feel like I’ve been pregnant or trying to be pregnant for so long now. This feels totally unbelievable at the moment. I’ve had a chemical before so also stressing over that. I’m hoping it’ll start to sink in soon and I’ll mange to relax but I think that after losses it’s a much rougher ride.
I hope that the petals sessions bring you some comfort. We have another this week.

@Fullofconfusionwishing you the best of luck for this pregnancy, i can understand your worry but as you say this is a totally different pregnancy to any of the others.

Wishing others luck too with IVF and petals sessions.

@i123i I hope that your first petals session went well. We’ve just had our first proper session arranged too for next week. I’d prepared myself for a much longer wait following our assessment session but seems we were lucky and got matched quite quickly.

@SparklyGreenTiger sending you so many positive thoughts for February. The very best of luck. ❤️

How is everyone doing?

How are you feeling @Fullofconfusion hope you and baby are doing well?

@SparklyGreenTiger have you started your IVF cycle? Everything crossed for you!

@i123i @Wishingforwhatshouldhavebeen how are you finding the Petals sessions? I hope they’ve been helping.

@MissingMyBaby- thanks for checking in. Funnily enough I kept meaning to over the last few days then didn’t get round to it!!

How are you doing? Only another couple of months until you can give TTC your all again.

The Petals sessions have been helping, thanks. We have had 2 now. It’s good to have that time
set aside to just talk, and not keep busy not thinking about it.

We are not actively TTC yet, but we are now more in the “not trying, not preventing” zone… so not targeting fertile days but also not being strict on protection etc. Let’s see what happens over the next couple of months, then we will go into full blown TTC mode I think.

yes please update us @Fullofconfusionand @SparklyGreenTiger- have been thinking of you both.

Hey @MissingMyBaby - we're about halfway through stims for my first IVF cycle. It's going ok, I keep spiralling about egg collection getting cancelled or getting rubbish results but for now we just keep on injecting and hope for the best!

Thanks for checking in @MissingMyBaby
Hope everyone is doing as well as you can in the circumstances. Very best of luck to those TTC and those in between.

And very, very best of luck @Moosey898. IVF is hard on so many levels, physically, emotionally etc. I’m sending you so much good luck. I hope you’re getting lots of rest and support throughout.

I’m about to start my fourth full cycle. Three egg collections, two FETs, one living child and my so missed Poppy. I’d go through it all again to get my living child as she’s literally the light of my life though these last few months since I’ve lost Poppy have been the hardest of my life.

Today I took my first contraceptive pill of this cycle, targeting a mid March egg collection and possibly a day 3 transfer. I’ve been warned (repeatedly) that this cycle will be very different to my previous cycles. I am hopeful and remaining positive as much as I can whilst also being realistic about our chances.

Thanks for checking in @MissingMyBaby how are you as well?

We’ve got our second petals session this week and I completely agree with @i123i it’s really helpful to just have a bit of time that is just focused on talking, we’re both very good at avoiding conversations. It’s also nice to talk to someone who isn’t at all emotionally invested in you so you don’t have to worry about upsetting them.

Sending you both so many good luck wishes @SparklyGreenTiger and @Moosey898, I’m really hoping for successful cycles for you both.

Hello, how is everyone doing?
@Fullofconfusion- how is the pregnancy coming along?

@Moosey898- what stage are you at now? Egg collection?

@SparklyGreenTiger- how’s this cycle going for you?

We’ve just had our video appointment to receive the post mortem results delayed for the FOURTH time, to the very end of April. Unbelievable. It was originally supposed to be the beginning of February and they keep pushing it back (all I get is an automated email telling me it’s moved). Very frustrating…..