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TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!

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MocktailMe · 05/06/2025 02:31

www.mumsnet.com/talk/conception/5093665-ttc-1-no-previous-pregnancies-cycle-6-looking-for-others-in-the-same-boat?page=40&reply=144772936

Hi everyone!

I can't quite believe it but after a while year we only went and filled the last thread.

I'll tag you all below so that you can find me!

If anyone silently reading along wants to keep following - here's the place. If anyone wants to read the fertility journey for the last year have a look through the last thread.

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CharLdn · 23/06/2025 20:48

I don’t want to get hopes up because it’s probably too pale and could be an evap but do we have a squinter?!

TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!
TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!
TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!
Tater05 · 23/06/2025 23:10

@CharLdn omg there is definitely a line there! For self preservation I wouldn't rule out the possibility of it being an evap though, it looks quite grey. Fingers and toes are crossed for you!!!

MocktailMe · 24/06/2025 00:42

There's 100% a line there @CharLdn you aren't imagining it! I'd be very cautiously optimistic here - did it come up within the time frame? If it did then I think this could be a very early positive. I am struggling to see colour in it but I know how hard it is to correctly photograph these VFL so it really could go either way. I have everything crossed for you!

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CharLdn · 24/06/2025 05:28

@MocktailMe @Tater05 I tested again and it looks exactly the same - the line came up straight away or within about 5 mins.

My periods still not here though… my temperature is 36.5 and then 36.7 which would be good! (36.7+ is luteal)

I’m feeling not super hopeful if I ovulated on day 18 this would be 14 days PO so I feel like if I was preggo it should come up?! Especially first response.

Waitingformiracle · 24/06/2025 07:03

@CharLdn I definitely see what you’re seeing! Any chance your ovulation was a few days off and you are earlier than you think? Try another test this evening and see if it has progressed 🤞 I would guard your heart a little bit as I’ve had terrible indents on the first response but there is definitely something on those tests. Keep us posted!

KT199 · 24/06/2025 07:35

@CharLdn I definitely see what you’re seeing. If you’ve tested in the evening after a lot of fluids this early on you wouldn’t have a super obvious line. I would see how it looks with first/second morning urine and see if it’s any clearer. Even if you are 14 DPO it doesn’t matter it’s not blaringly obvious as implantation can happen from 8-12 DPO so you may have implanted later. Got my fingers crossed for you, keep us updated!!

CharLdn · 24/06/2025 08:18

Thank you @Waitingformiracle and @KT199 I’m not feeling too stressed.

I’m going to try to maybe skip testing tomorrow and do Thursday AM (I day this but I’ll probably crack).

Re ovulation I actually don’t know I just know I had CM on day 18 so made us BD then. So it could have been day 18 or later.

I’m away this weekend so it would be nice to know either way then. I have previously skipped ovulation so a later period isn’t a guarantee.

Thanks for joining me on the waiting game!

Waitingformiracle · 24/06/2025 08:25

@CharLdn you could definitely have CM a few days before ovulation so you might just be a few days behind and this the beginning of a line 🤞 can’t wait to hear any updates!

lavafield · 24/06/2025 08:35

@CharLdn this is definitely a line! I had a similar one when I tested positive, it even appeared after a 5 minute window, but still turned out to be BFP, I was 9DPO then. It is likely you ovulated a couple days later after CM! For me CM actually usually starts to dry up a bit on the actual ovulation day. Plus kits are not 100% accurate, by my fetus measurements I ovulated a day or two earlier than I got a positive OPK! Also they can implant 5 days after ovulation or 12 days after, all is normal. I am cautiously optimistic about your line, but you are very right to not jump ahead of yourself! Just take it easy and see what happens!

MocktailMe · 24/06/2025 08:46

I agree, my EWCM usually starts a couple of days before the actual ovulation. If you manage to wait until Thursday then you've got excellent willpower! Id have snapped that test open by now to check the actual tracing paper bit inside!!

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CharLdn · 24/06/2025 08:49

@lavafield thank you honestly it feels like looking at a COVID test.

I’ve been talking a lot to chat GPT 😂

I feel like by end of the week if I’m still getting squinters I’ll know. Eek.

CharLdn · 24/06/2025 08:50

@MocktailMe I didn’t know you could even do that and now you’re giving my dangerous ideas.

Luckily I have a very busy day at work today and I should probably order more first responses 😂

MocktailMe · 24/06/2025 08:54

I would definitely order more, maybe some cheapies too. You're right that you'll know by the end of the week, this limbo stage feels endless but really by Friday if it is an early positive it will be clear by then. I'll be keeping everything crossed!

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LibbyOTV · 24/06/2025 08:56

Hi everyone, 33 years old here and 5 months into TTC. Good luck to you all! Did any if you do any initial tests at this stage? And how did you get the NHS to help? Thanks so much

Tater05 · 24/06/2025 09:25

@CharLdn you have unreal restraint if you hold out till Thursday! It's good you have a busy day, hopefully it'll go quickly!

Hi @LibbyOTV! I did some at home blood tests (with Hertility, they were really good) at around the 8 month mark. Because you're under 35 the NHS won't see you for it until you've been trying for 12 months. If you have ever had any gyno related conditions in the past though you could always bring that up with the GP and you don't even have to mention that you're TTC. I wish I'd gone and pushed for an ultrasound around that time as now they're saying there's no point sending me for one as I might as well wait for my fertility appointment, which is a loooong wait. Hopefully you don't get to that point though! Remember it's still normal for it to take a year!

CharLdn · 24/06/2025 12:42

@LibbyOTV I’d also recommended the hertility test as it flagged potential PCOS - and can flag any potential issues.

I got the following tests from my GP
hormones - LH, AMH, TESTOSTERONE etc

  • Thyroid
  • blood sugar test (because I thought about insulin resistance)

It depends on your GP with how receptive they are to doing tests.

Something which has helped is tracking everything on an app - I use flo but you could also use natural cycles etc. I’ve found having data has helped me.

MocktailMe · 24/06/2025 13:04

Hey @LibbyOTV at 5 months in I think the very best advice I could give you is try not to let any panic set in. You are WELL within the normal time frame for TTC and unless you have a known condition that can make fertility harder it's best not to fall too far into anxiety around medicalising the process at this stage.

Please be reassured too, that despite this thread running for over a year now, we have had many women dropping in to chat who caught quickly and moved on, several of our long standing members are now actually pregnant and several of us have been pregnant and sadly suffered loss, or recurring loss. Even as a small sample size, we have nearly all slotted into the category of pregnant within 2 years - even if we didnt all have successful pregnancies. Those of us still trying have all managed to find fertility help too - stage one is speaking to your GP and getting bloods taken at two different points in your cycle.

The best tip I can give you is to have sex as much as possible, even when you don't think it's likely you are ovulating. Your ovulation day shifts around even in a normal healthy woman! For me the hardest months can be kicking myself when I realise I missed the window. I hate missing that tiny window 😂 and even being a few days out means you have lowered your chances sometimes to zero which is hard to take! If you make sure you cover all eventualities you're giving yourself a better chance and I think it helps mentally too knowing you did all you can.

I have a love/hate relationship with OPK 😂 I've decided personally never to use them again as I get too stressed and find simply covering all days is better, but it can lead to stress over not knowing your exact DPO. For me that's the lesser of the two evils, but I think try it for at least a cycle or two to see how you find them!

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CharLdn · 24/06/2025 15:12

@LibbyOTV I’ve also used OPKs and have found that tracking cervical mucus and temperature as accurate and less tedious than pissing on sticks.

Agreeing with what @MocktailMe said it’s important to not let it take over life and the biggest helpful reframe for me was to treat it like a marathon not a sprint.

My one regret has been panicking too early and trying to control too much when it’s really a bit of a lottery each month.

So do the things you can to help you make it less stressful and stay sane - book the holidays! And don’t put life on hold.

CharLdn · 25/06/2025 08:57

Guys after 2 years and 18 f*cking months of psychotic trying (literally) I think it’s actually happening. Hopes are up - fingers crossed 🤞 it keeps tracking forward. I’ve now ordered a million more tests.

TTC#1 - Looking for Others in the Same Boat PART TWO THE SEQUEL WHERE WE ALL GET OUR BABIES???!
Tater05 · 25/06/2025 09:19

@CharLdn that's a good looking strong line there!!!! I'm so happy it's finally happening for you! Fingers are firmly crossed we see that line get darker and darker

lavafield · 25/06/2025 10:10

@CharLdn Amazing line progression!! 🤩 I am sooo happy for you! Fingers crossed all goes well!
Please take care of yourself now, I know most of this is totally outside our control especially in these early days, but try to not stress, rest up more, take folic acid and vitamin D, no lifting heavy stuff etc. I also stopped CoQ10 as soon as I got my BFP, if you are taking it.

KT199 · 25/06/2025 10:40

@CharLdn Awh this has made my day. I really hope things continue to progress for you and this is the start of a perfect healthy pregnancy. Tentative congratulations!! I’m sure your anxiety will soon kick in if it hasn’t already but just take each day as it comes. I found comfort knowing it’s out of my control now and I can’t change what’s happening inside so just rested and listened to my body.

MocktailMe · 25/06/2025 13:39

Absolutely no mistaking that now!

Massive congratulations you deserve this 💞

I hope it's all plain sailing from here on out for you. So pleased for you - seems like maybe that hycosy did the trick?

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Waitingformiracle · 25/06/2025 15:00

@CharLdn that is so fantastic!!! Congratulations that is most definitely a strong positive!! Woohoo!!

CharLdn · 25/06/2025 15:36

Thanks team @Tater05 🤞

@lavafield I didn’t know about the weights thing - or cow10 so thanks! I do lift very heavy weights so I’ve consulted the internet which says basically it’s ok to keep lifting but use lighter weights.

@KT199 anxiety’s not kicked in yet I’m just happy even if this is a chemical - that it’s happened.

@MocktailMe this is the first month trying post hycosy so I think it must be as I’ve literally done nothing different.

@Waitingformiracle thank you ❤️ It feels surreal!

Thank you so much team for being so supportive on this rollercoaster it’s nice to be on a positive path (finally!) till the next hurdle.

I’ve now ordered digital tests to keep tracking for a bit.

I’m away at the seaside this weekend so I’ll definitely be having a few ice creams to celebrate.

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