Tips on how to not test before missed period

[Laria19]

I tested early on my two pregnancies before and had two successful pregnancies then I had an early miscarriage and a chemical miscarriage last year and I was trying my hardest not to test early because of the heartbreak I experienced from the last two times. I’ve been trying this month and hoping I get a positive next month but I don’t know how I am going to stop myself from testing early, I worry so much after having the miscarriages anyone else finding it hard not to test so early x

@LucyLou0527 yay I've got high hopes for you this month! It's always the way that you get pregnant before the fertility clinic appointments 😉

@EMC2022 also yay for ovulating! Enjoy your evening won't you 😏😏😜

My nipples are bloody killing me today. Thought it was just chest press ache but nope. Also maybe did another cheeky test today and my line is officially as dark as the control and I officially have no more pregnancy tests 🙃 still early days and I'm freaking petrified of jinxing it was a Dr appointment....

Speaking of, @curliegirlie hope you're doing okay after today x

Happy to hear some positive news for you both girls 🥰 @EMC2022 @LucyLou0527

@Laria19 @LaTable thanks so much girls. That was a very long 7 day wait for that ovulation!

The days can drag I get it, sending lots of bang dust your way x

Ahahaha I ment baby dust but sure I suppose lots of bang dust your way also 🤣🤣

Thanks. Today's been pretty shit tbh. All as expected - nothing to be seen on scan (so marked down as pregnancy of unknown location), bloods taken and found my HCG levels to be 60. The only silver lining is that they've not asked me to go in for repeat bloods, just to do a 25miu test in a week.

The last 3 weeks feels surreal, like a wonderful dream that I've woken up from, or that I'm now in a nightmare. I mean, what are the chances of falling pregnant again almost exactly 3 years after the last time? And then to have another miscarriage on the exact same fucking date as the last one. You really can't make it up. And now it feels like that was my last chance. I haven't got another 3 years. Life has a shitty sense of humour.

Life can be be cruel sometimes, It shouldn’t be this hard to want to become a mamma again. Let yourself process every emotion and practice self compassion unfortunately we don’t tend to give ourselves as much compassion as we do to others when they are going through a hard time. Plenty of rests and lots of self care, oh and lots of cuddles from your two beautiful children. Always here to chat @curliegirlie 💜

@curliegirlie I am so sorry to hear! Take care of yourself! ❤️

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@curliegirlie
I'm so sorry to hear it wasn't good news for you. how utter shite it is, on the same day too. We're here to talk if you just want to blah all your feelings out or talk about anything.
You absolutely didn't deserve to go through this again.
How are you feeling mentally? I hope you and hubby are coping okay x

@Laria19 cheers for the "bang dust" 🤣🤣

Are you girls taking/going to be taking anything other than prenatal vitamins during pregnancy? ( and LucyLou0527's b12 shots)

I've gone down a miscarriage rabbit hole the past few days and now I'm wondering why it is my doctors either here in france or the uk never even suggest anything like progesterone or baby aspirin. Although I feel like baby aspirin would exacerbate my sch's I always seem to get. Gaaahhhh
Got my first app on the 24th at just over 6 weeks. The days are feeling longer and longer and like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop 🙃

Nope just taking my prenatals, I know it’s hard not to worry about miscarriage I constantly check the tissue I wipe myself with after using the bathroom it drives me crazy sometimes.Also I was told I would be due a 6 week scan but now it’s an 8 week scan so I guess im gonna be a little more anxious because the wait is longer now.

It amazes me how so many women can just have babies and never once even experienced a miscarriage.
It's so mind consuming once you've had at least one.
Couldn't fathom a late pregnancy loss either.

Ughhh that's like a whole 2 extra life times to wait. do you think you might go for a private scan before 8 weeks @Laria19 ?

I know and how very lucky they are to have never had to experience a miscarriage. As stupid as this sounds I never could imagine myself ever having one because both my other pregnancies where straightforward how ignorant was I. I could book in for a private but maybe it’s for the best I wait a little longer things would be a lot clearer on the screen. How are you today ? @LaTable

Super heavy feeling today. Can't tell if it's bloat or womb related.
And had the smallest about if pink streaks when I wiped this morning. Nothing since though.

Very jealous of your non issue pregnancies prior! Haha although that being said, once I got through the first trimester bleeds my two girls were easy pregnancy and labour wise.
I just wish I didn't bleed or miscarry so much in the first trimester

That must be scary when you see blood.I never did with my girls that’s why when I seen blood when miscarrying I knew something wasn’t right x

It's a bit of a stressful 8 weeks I must admit 😅😅😅
Hopefully this one grows though for us both 🤞
How old are your girls again?

It’s about taking it day by day isn’t it. My girls are 3 and a half and 2 so my household is busy 😂yourself ? X

They've both just recently turned 8 and 6.
Bloody hell I think I would have died if I had my 3rd at 3 and 2 haha my two did not get on from The ages of 2 and newborn to about erm, well 8 and 6 currently 😳
Youngest used to love her sister but eldest is a brat and hates her little sister. Now youngest just gets sad because eldest is so mean to her. So our house isn't so much busy as it is peace keeping mode....
Used to be a stage for a good few years where I literally could not leave them for a second in the same room as eachother without them trying to kill eachother. 🙃
Fun times being a mum eh!
That being said, having them all so close must be soooo nice (if they get on)

A colleague of mine was TTC at the same time as me. I'd just had my 4th loss and she was TTC her second child. She came into work with a FRER at 10dpo and told the office (small close knit girls) she's going to be having a baby. I was Gobsmacked and also secretly jealous she could be so confident. I didn't even believe I was going to actually have a baby to hold when I was 35 weeks pregnant.

The joy for others but secret bitter jealous feeling is so hard, I think it's something that everybody who struggles during the ttc journey can relate to.
Doesn't make it any less harder though does it? How are you feeling about it all now @SaltedPotato

@LaTable I'm ok now, I was ok then to be honest. I got pregnant the cycle after and have my boy. I got to the point where I could rationalise that other people getting pregnant didn't affect my chances. When youve been trying so long and others are getting pregnant around you, you start thinking that 'they are the ones destined for the BFP this month' when in reality you know it's not linked but loss and grief does a lot

I made the mistake of thinking/hoping that that miscarriage would be a one off for me, that from previous experience, although I tend to take a long time to get there, once I do (and am out of the CP danger zone) I have fab pregnancies: straightforward, no horrible sickness or other issues. But nope, it seems history was doomed to repeat itself 😔.

And doesn't it hurt all the more when people are like "it's my 3rd month why is it taking so long, dc 1 and 2 was the first try"
Like I love that for you, but under a year is short and then top it off with the mc risk and it feels like a lifetime 😭
How are you today curliegirlie?

Hope you ladies are all okay today