Tips on how to not test before missed period

[Laria19]

I tested early on my two pregnancies before and had two successful pregnancies then I had an early miscarriage and a chemical miscarriage last year and I was trying my hardest not to test early because of the heartbreak I experienced from the last two times. I’ve been trying this month and hoping I get a positive next month but I don’t know how I am going to stop myself from testing early, I worry so much after having the miscarriages anyone else finding it hard not to test so early x

Thank you. I tested negative today. That should be a relief as it took me 3 weeks last time, but I just feel sad about it all, as it's at the same point when others on the WhatsApp group are getting dye stealers and seeing heartbeats on reassurance scans etc. Heigh ho 😔

Hi all 👋🏻 I'm only 4dpo but wondering how to not test next weekend! During the week shouldn't be a problem as I do not have the time in a morning before work, but next weekend I'll be 10/11dpo. Ideally I will wait until AF is due, but that's a low chance!

How is everyone? I've not RTFT, just bits here and there, so apologies..

@curliegirlie I actually left the WhatsApp group about the same time as I made it haha it was a little to much for me and knew I couldn't handle the scan updates and such while being so anxious of miscarrying again so I totally understand the pain it can cause.
Silver linings on bfn but such a heart breaker. Have you managed to do something special for yourself to help lately?
Sending you virtual homemade cake and cookies!

Don't ask us 🙈 we all failed miserably at waiting to test 🤣🤣
But not having the tests available has stopped my testing iver the last 3 days 😅😅😅

🤣🤣 Well I've only got one in the house. If I don't order more before Sunday I should be fine 🙈 how many dpo are you?

About 21 haha I got my vbfp at 9dpo and a more obvious at 10dpo. Just taking it a day at a time after another mc in Oct
Is this your first?

Oh congratulations @latable! That's so exciting! No, I have a 3 (almost 4) year old and this is our first month trying for number 2. The trouble is, we caught straight away with our first so I know how disappointed I'll be if it takes ages this time! Plus, I'm 35 now, so it probably won't be as easy. Is this your first? I feel like I should have read all the pages now 🙈

I'm lucky enough to have an 8 and a 6yo.
Hahaha funnily enough I recently just said how hard it is for those of us who suffer with multiple losses to hear about those who conceived their first the first time and never experience loss 😅😅😅
35 is still young though, but I get it, ttc month after month takes it toll

Yeah I didn't get that before I had a CP in Jan 2023. My friend got pregnant at almost exactly the same time and it affected our friendship, as I really struggled seeing her have what I really wanted! I struggled generally and me and DH have both said we would now feel sad if we didn't try again! So here I am, month one and already obsessing 😭

Hahaha your telling me 🤣 I told dh we'll just see how it goes and try and take it chill and if it doesn't stick again then it is what it is🤷‍♀️
One month post mmc cue a billion lh strips, timing dtd and incessant peeing on pregnancy tests.
Even now its been like 11 days of no period and I'm still stressing (sorry not 21dpo more like 25 or whatever maths that is. Can I blame baby brain already? 😅)

It's so hard being a woman isn't it!! My DH is just happy he got it 3 times last week and that's the end of his thoughts 🤣 no stewing over are we/aren't we/how long until we can test! Oh that's even better then! How long do you leave it until you register at the hospital? I can't even remember with my first!

I think the first app is 8 weeks?
But with my 2nd I got a 6 or 7 week one due to multiple mcs and bleeding with her
My last was a scan at 4+5 at the doctors office as I no longer live in the UK, and this time I'll be 6+4 and hoping it's the norm to scan on first contact here? I have no real clue. Just praying it grows and I make it that far first and foremost

Well I will keep everything crossed for you, that this is your time!

Hello, I am 5dpo today. Definitely feeling more anxious to take a test this month after the CP last month. I thought my logic would take over and make me think early testing is bad after the CP but it seems to have done the opposite.

My hormones are all over the place after the CP also. Thankfully I won't be focusing on symptom spotting because I have had all the symptoms since ovulating anyways. Tender boobs, mild cramping etc. I never have any of those but my hormones are just wild since then.

How are you getting on @LaTable?

I’m testing tomorrow when my period is due. I actually tried today but the pharmacy I went to only had clear blue digitals so I’m forced to wait for prime delivery. I purposefully didn’t stock up last week but now doubting myself.

I suppose for me I feel the incentive not to test early is just that once you test positive the clock starts ticking again, and I’d rather it just be another TWW until I can do a scan at 6 weeks rather than it being 18 days etc.

I understand what people are saying about chemicals and I think that’s good advice. I’ve only had one chemical (and two miscarriages) but with the chemical I tested very faintly positive around 10 days and then continued to have very, very faint lines until 5 weeks when I did bleed (obviously I was expecting this as the lines were so faint for so long I knew). So waiting then wouldn’t have helped but I know sometimes the waiting saves you from all that.

I suppose I’ve decided that after a few successful pregnancies and 3 not successful I’m just looking for a strong line and then I’ll leave it until I can get an early scan. I know a strong line isn’t indicative of anything - my last pregnancy the lines got darker very nicely and that meant nothing at all - but I suppose a faint line that doesn’t change is at least pretty conclusive, so if I can rule that out then I can just wait.

Was feeling good enough(no cramps for a few days) for a run this morning thanks for asking @EMC2022 !
Although it was nowhere near my normal time or length 😅 but I'll take what little I can get!

I think any positive test and then a negative does a number on you mentally. I remember after my chemical I tested like a fiend 😅 thankfully she stuck (dd1)
Fingers crossed for you this time, just gotta hold out a few more days!

@Thistimearound totally get where you're coming from with the less time to wait. Its just so hard when every pregnancy symptom is also a period symptom hahaha

You're absolutely right with the lines though, I really don't think either way round you can tell what's going to happen and you have to take it a day at a time. Similar to you, I've had really dark tests end in miscarriages and still tested super dark for weeks after. But this pregnancy my tests where actually really light in comparison to my successful pregnancies at this stage and have only just started to get dark after my 5 days of missed periods.
Love how our bodied just keep us guessing and completely anxious 😅😅
Good luck testing tomorrow though! 🤞

@LaTable good luck to you - looks like you’ll be seen and scanned regularly, which must be a relief. The idea of testing positive and then not knowing for months and months (when in my case, I’m already pushing it age wise) is almost unbearable.

I think I’m actually scared to test.. My mouth has felt full of saliva for the last few days, low level nausea, less energy…
I actually went to two corner shops at lunch, both of which had no tests, and then walked on to a Sainsbury’s Local which did have tests, but again only Clearblue which I didn’t buy. I’m telling myself that Clearblue are overpriced and that I don’t want a digital - I want to see two lines for myself if there are two lines and know the difference between a decent second line and a squinter…. but honestly, I’m feeling a bit pathetic that I keep standing in front of tests and then turning away.

We will see. No idea what the system is like here, so winging it!

I absolutely feel you on the standing in front of tests , I still do this and talk myself out of retesting every week 😅😅
At least if you haven't started yet, it's a good sign!

How old are you? If you're an older woman don't they tend to scan more as you're then a "higher risk" pregnancy?

I've read another thread today and think I might have got my ovulation dates wrong, so might be out this month 🙃 I'm not sure whether to test early so I can prepare myself for being wrong or wait for the disappointment of AF!

Oh no! What makes you think your days are wrong? Are you doing lh strips?

No I wasn't as it was first month! I've read something about EWCM being before ovulation, whereas I'm sure I read before that it was day of, and at the moment I can't even try and work out if we DTD on the right days 🙈

I honestly think it varies from person to person too.
I get ewcm for a few days before ovulation and a handful of days after too. But I've read people who don't get any during ovulation and those who only get it before or only after or only the day of
I'd absolutely recommend lh strips if you want to get it more accurate, and if you don't have the time for dtd 4 times in a week 😅

Hope everybody is doing okay today in all the various stages of ttc x

Thanks @latable I definitely felt better after your comment yesterday! I impulse bought some tests today, arriving this eve. 8dpo tomorrow so might not use them yet, just like having them there!

7dpo today. Hanging in there, mainly because I know testing at 7dpo would be completely pointless. I think the weekend will be very hard for me not to test. I'd love to do with with DH and our work schedules mean we don't see each other in the morning Monday to Friday.

I an unrealistic world, I'd love to wait til Tuesday when I am 12dpo so I know the result is probably a true one! Although the goal is to wait til AF is due, I think I would find an early or on time period sadder than a negative.