TTC #1 over 35

[Clara202]

As the title suggests, if you’re over 35 and TTC your first, I’d love to hear from you! Would be nice to hear from a few of us in the same boat 🙂

9 dpo! I just keep thinking it's my period, early. I didn't think we were particularly active this cycle, few illnesses etc, but you can't help totally overthinking! I think it's probably pms, but the symptoms are so similar.

Have you tested today @HollyGolightly4

No, I'm too scared to 😔. I'm just scared of it being another negative. Flo says period due in three days.

I've had a letter from the hospital inviting me to another fertility consultation too- I've already had one and thought I was going for IVF!!! Need to ring them tomorrow.

How are you all doing?

@HollyGolightly4 I hear you I’m the same with that! How long have you been trying for? Also just out of interest how long is the NHS waiting list for ivf? I’m really worried if we need it and how long it takes to get it

Miscarriage at 13 weeks in Feb 23 and nothing since 😭.

Went to the GP in August 24, had to wait till Feb for appointment, then told 6 months wait. Not sure what this next one is, will ring in the morning.

If I was doing it again I'd have gone earlier!

OMG that is so sad, I’m so sorry. Have you both had the normal tests and stuff and no issues? That’s such a long wait, so was the first 6 months wait for an initial ivf appointment? Then it’s a further 6 week wait to actually start the process? We are now on cycle 5 and started tests this week. I want to get the ball rolling early just in case we need it x

Completely unexplained. Everything fine, no rhyme or reason to it!

Yes that's the wait so far, feels painful looking back. It's the arrival of of AF each month that's hardest, as well as seeing everyone succeed where you've failed.

That is so strange! Have you had vitamins checked and you are not low in vitamin D? That’s such a long wait it’s scary!! I feel your pain, the constant disappointment and then pregnancy announcements each week are heartbreaking 💔

I’m 4 dpo this morning and just checked my cervix and it’s coming down! Feels like I’m out this month

@FlyHighSky72 That’s way too early to check. Sometimes it only starts to rise up at like 14dpo or even past that.

Yep, everything ok vitamin wise.

I've just tested with clear blue early and it's negative. I don't think I am pregnant!

@Thisisouryear2025ok thanks! I’ve only got a ten day luteal phase predicted so fingers crossed

I’m sorry hun ❤️ I don’t know what to say, it’s the hardest thing ever, I hear and feel that pain monthly so I get it. Your time is going to come one way or another!!

Still enough for implantation, anything that implants from day 11 onwards is likely to end in miscarriage. I know I implanted late with both chemicals. Also, just because you have a short luteal phase, it doesn’t mean your body or the embryo will do things faster than someone with a 14 day luteal phase. So give yourself a little break and just know that your cervix right now shouldn’t be anywhere other than where it is because you can’t have implanted. Even if you implant at day 9, you still may not get a higher cervix until 14 days.

Thanks @Thisisouryear2025

I’m 6dpo, anyone similar?

7dpo almost 8dpo tonight. Feeling way too stressed right now with my house extension and various other things going on so pretty much know il not fall this month. Waiting on progesterone results today too. I have no symptoms at all so again know this won’t be my cycle

8dpo and nothing to note, only tender breasts which I get every month anyway.

Did a FRER this morning (9 dpo) and nothing

So my progesterone came back yesterday at 52.7 nmol/l and which is higher than the range. I was so shocked. Doctor has said it confirms ovulation and that I don’t need to worry. Range is 13-46nmol but needs to be above 30 to sustain a pregnancy. So reasons for it being high could be implantation, ovarian cyst from ovulation that isn’t harmful or maybe that I ovulated more than one egg. Or it could just be a robust cycle. I have no idea how I feel as I had a total meltdown yesterday but I did so much research last night and apparently it’s a good thing so I’m going to go with that. I will test Monday

@Thisisouryear2025 that sounds promising! You’re a lot more patient than I am, I’d be testing!
I think I’m out already, 8dpo and bleeding lightly.

I'm on day 32 of my cycle... It hasn't been this long since November 23, I'm usually between 27-30. Haven't tested since the last time. Husband thinks we should wait till Friday. I understand why- I'm itching to test, but also really reticent to. I know that doesn't make sense.

I mean I just can’t even begin to allow myself to think positive! I am going to give it to the weekend and then maybe test. Could it not be implantation bleeding though??

This really sounds like it could be your month…. Excited for you! See how you feel and test when ready. Do you feel pregnant at all? If you’ve had PMS symptoms and no AF it is very very promising

@Thisisouryear2025 I don’t think so somehow. Implantation bleeding isn’t all that common (it seems to be on moment but it’s not really in general!) and I have no other inklings or symptoms to suspect that it’s anything other than the start of my period. I would suspect I’ll be properly bleeding by Friday/Saturday. I’ll test Saturday morning if not.