January TTC Support Group 💚

[MyGardenDaisies]

Hello!

Since I created the December one, making one for January!

A supportive place to chat for those that are:

• starting to TTC in January
• will be testing ovulation/pregnancy in January

all welcome! 🤗

Sorry to hear about the negative test @Kateb149. I'm in exactly the same boat, decided to test as we're off to a party, and it was BFN. Also my most promising symptom (tender boobs) has eased off so I'm not feeling too hopeful now. But as you say it's too early to know for sure 🤞

Sorry to hear you got a BFN this morning too 😕 hopefully it’s just too early for both of us 🤞

Enjoy the party and hope that keeps your mind off things for a little while x

Joining you all please as I'm 7dpo today and going crazy trying not to test! I had to run to the toilet to wee this morning as soon as I woke up so I would stop myself doing a test as suspect anything other than a FMU would be a waste of a test. Please help me stay strong ladies, hoping to make it to 10dpo prior to testing!

TTC my 3rd so you would think I would be chill about this having done it before but absolutely not haah!

Fingers crossed for all you lovely ladies for your BFP's!xxx

@KittyFantastica i did lol, but we have this nasty cold that’s going around the house so not danced as much as I would have liked.

Happy new year x

I’m ignoring the numbers on premom app like I said and going by the fact my tests yesterday were nearly as dark as the control line and assuming that I am ovulating today. I’ve had all the right bodily signs ovulation is happening too. I’m CD12 but I have a 24-26 day cycle so that would make sense.

I think my only concern for this month is amount of alcohol we’ve both consumed over the festive period 🙈 we might have been a bit too relaxed in our efforts to not think about TTC too much after the CP!

Or the relaxedness has done it’s thing and lowered cortisol and stress hormones 🤞🏻 for you

@Kateb149 thank you that's helpful and reassuring! I don't really get pain.. maybe will just take this as the window for the next 5/6 days to try and be on the safe side and not miss it. We were going for DTD every other day so hopefully will be covered anyway if do that for the next week!

Sorry to hear about your negative but as you say there is still time 🤞hope the next few days are a good distraction for you

Happy New Year! 🎆 wishing us all healthy pregnancies and healthy babies in 2025! 🤍🤗

it’s CD26, and 9 or 10 DPO.
I’ve not had a chance to test yesterday and today. Period due the day after tomorrow. Probably will test tomorrow, but only got tests that are good from missed period, so that’s a waster anyways.

So far only symptom is insomnia 😄 but does that count when you’ve got a toddler? 😅

Happy new year!
Fingers crossed for you @MyGardenDaisies

I had a faint line on boxing day and a stronger line on 28th, which was cycle day 29 of 31 for me. I've not posted in the group because I've been so ill with this flu like thing since Saturday including a high fever which has made me feel sick with worry about the pregnancy being affected, by either the fever or the paracetamol. I messaged the GP surgery but obviously they didn't reply, only time will tell I suppose! I could test again but need to buy a test and haven't been able to get out of bed.

I'll ask for an early scan about 7.5 weeks if I make it that far I think. Isn't the anxiety just horrible 😭

Congratulations @Lemonolive09
paracetamol is absolutely fine to take and it’s more important to keep any fever controlled, so regular 6hrly paracetamol would be more recommended than being unwell.
and plenty of fluids

That sounds like a good idea, and if you’re DTD every other day then you’ll definitely be covered either way ☺️

Thank you and good luck to you x

Thank you @MrsH26 , I found some articles showing that paracetamol in the first trimester can cause neural tube defects and was linked to developmental issues, it said use as little as possible, but then also found that a high fever is dangerous, so I've just been overly anxious. I kept taking one then waiting an hour and taking the second if my temperature didn't come down. Probably done the wrong thing 😩 I probably haven't taken enough, ended up just taking them before bed each night. I'm not feverish this morning, but it's been in the evenings so we will see later.

@Lemonolive09 congratulations 🥳🤗🤍

definitely do an early scan - I did with my little one at 7 weeks and seeing the heart beat was so reassuring and also made it real!

congratulations 🥳
paracetamol in pregnancy is safe, those studies from the first trimester were from the early/mid 90s and there’s been no link since.
GP & pharmacist will recommend paracetamol.
Have you done your referral for maternity care?

@MyGardenDaisies thank you 🙂 I will ask, sadly with one of my losses we had a scan at 7wks4 there was a strong heartbeat but the baby then passed away just before 12 weeks. We did also have an early scan for my third pregnancy at the same point, which I went on to have my daughter, my husband didn't want to because of what happened before he said it's not reassuring enough but it's still a good check point in my mind so I will definitely ask. 🤞

@Lavenderrose92 thank you, it looks like you're right but in my panicky ill moments seeing all the things saying check with a GP before taking it etc I got so worried, so now I think I under did it. I have likely put the baby at more risk from the fever haven't I 😭 I sent an online referral yesterday via the hospital, hopefully hear back soon. I feel stupid🤦‍♀️

oh bless you, easier said then done for me to stay “ try not to worry”
im a community midwife so never thought i’d find myself in the TTC naively but really understand your anxiety. Hopefully someone picks you up soon and can support you xx

@Lemonolive09 please don’t worry, it’s prolonged periods of being very unwell that’s most detrimental. Short episodes of cold/flu like symptoms shouldn’t have too much of an effect.

@Lavenderrose92 Oh are you! I so wish I'd asked here sooner! I felt bad sharing I'd got the positive so didn't mention it.
It's different when it's yourself I would imagine, the anxiety is always ready to pounce! Rather than when you have your professional hat on. I've also read that folic acid can prevent harm from the fever, is that right? 🤞 I've been taking it so hopefully.

@MrsH26 thank you, would prolonged be more like a week or something? It has been 4 days but not constant, usually just in the evenings and nights. Hopefully it doesn't come back tonight and it's done!

Thank you all on this group, you've really helped me. I honestly thought I'd be okay this time having now had my daughter, but it's the same always isn't it. And between the illness and being stuck in bed googling and feeling terrible... Also I came off SSRIs back in the summer, so my anxiety is probably increased anyway. Its really helped to share it here and read your kind responses.

@Lemonolive09 it’s a persistent and prolonged high temp. If it’s been 4 days with peaks and troughs then you’ve had good episodes of normal parameters and so will baby. They’re generally very well protected in utero

yeah it’s hard. i lost my fallopian tube to a ectopic and my first day back i had to comfort a women who was beside herself as she was having another girl and wanted a boy.I get gender disappoint can be a thing but i wanted to tell her my story and just say be grateful for a healthy baby.
i'm really sorry i haven’t heard of that study so can’t comment.

There’s so many horrible virus and flu’s around atm! Hope you feel better soon ❤️

and don’t feel bad for posting the positive.. i love seeing others happiness 🌈
just be grateful and don’t moan to me about the gender and we will be fine 😂

@Lavenderrose92 Oh I feel you on that topic don't worry 🤣

@Lavenderrose92 Just seen this post after the other one, that must have been so heart wrenching! I had a friend who was ranting about being pregnant with her third boy and I was thinking the same as you.

As the holiday are over I’m back to thinking about whether this will be our lucky month or not yet.

Period due day after tomorrow, no cramping yet, so hoping that’s a good sign, as usually I get cramping the 2 days before.

@Lemonolive09 huge congratulations! Beautiful start to the new year for you 😊.

Definitely do the early scan. I had one with DD at 7 weeks too purely because I couldn’t quite believe it and needed a professional to confirm it 😂.

@MyGardenDaisies everything crossed for you for your upcoming testing! Of course keep us updated 😊.

HAPPY NEW YEAR to all you lovely ladies ❤️. Really hope this year is the one for you all.

I’ve gone into 2025 very optimistic and open minded. If a BFP happens for me, amazing, but if it doesn’t then so be it. I’m done with the OPK’s and obsessing (new year’s resolution 😂). My mantra for 2025 is to focus on the here and now and be thankful for what I’ve got ❤️