December 🤞🏼🎅🏼

[Emiily887]

Praying for a Santa miracle!! Fingers crossed this is our month ladies! CD 5 following my chemical last month - starting to feel more positive now 🩷

feeling so blue again. i came on my period this morning and hate my job so feeling sad and stressed all day. here's to praying for December pregnancies for everyone!

@Emiily887 thank you for setting this thread up. I am currently 4DPO.
i know it’s ridiculous but symptom spotting to the max!
AF is due 14th Dec which is the day I got my first ever BFP last year. That sadly ended in a miscarriage.
fingers crossed for us all this cycle

Hi girls, I'm currently watching two other December groups too, but couldn't pass this one by without sending some solidarity.

We first started TTC in December last year. I fell straight away over Christmas, but lost that baby at 6 weeks. I then fell pregnant off the back of that miscarriage in January and had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks in March. I wasn't having proper cycles after that and gave up trying to track. I fell pregnant end of May and tragically gave birth too early at 19 weeks in September. Our baby boy didn't survive.

So, here we are again, staring December in the face, starting to talk about trying to TTC again. If we are successful, I'll be considered extremely high risk and face all kinds of fear, anxiety and statistics that say both early and late losses are likely.

But here we are, climbing back into the sleigh for another go. We're on holiday in the French mountains next week, which I believe is when I'll ovulate at some point, so we'll just go about our usual business with no pressure and reevaluate in January.

I wish you all the best of luck and will be here to support ❤️

Hello, moving from November thread.

CD6 today TTC #2. it's our 11th cycle trying this time round, hoping for a BFP after so many months!

@Emiily887 I'm glad you're feeling more hopeful now, lots of baby dust!

Hi girls! Hoping for some Dec magic for all of us ✨
last cycle was a tough one with the chemical but I’m cd13 now so had lots of time to process that. I’m actually going to try and handle things differently this cycle to keep relaxed. Going to really really try not to test early as that just upset me so much last cycle. I’ve been signed off work for a bit as I was struggling with mental load and feeling sad about the mc earlier in the year. But I’m being kind to myself and looking after myself.
Haven’t been doing opk yet just been going by my body signs. We also have our ‘fertility mot’ appointment with a private clinic on the 24th Dec so if we do fall pregnant before then it’ll be wonderful but if not I know we’ve got that to focus on and hopefully be going into the new year in a better place. Ttc is a hard road. Sending all love 🩷💕

@KittyFantastica I just had to reply to your message though no pressure to reply back.
I just wanted to say I am so so sorry for your losses and what you have been through with your baby boy 💙all you feel, all the fear and anxiety is valid and it totally sucks. You fully deserve a Xmas miracle and I’m sending you all the positivity and hope possible ✨✨

Praying we see lots of Xmas miracles this month girls 💕 and love to all of you that have struggled so far 😞

I have a fertilily to try this month 👀 I've seen mixed reviews but for £25 I thought it can't hurt to try!

I am hoping Xmas will be a good distraction from testing too early for me, and if my predicted ovulation dates are right I will be 12dpo on Xmas Eve so plan to test then 🤞🏼

@Emiily887 come join our Dec TTC support group https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/conception/5207485-december-ttc-support-group
🤞❤️

9 DPO - am I losing my mind or is there a line?

You’re not loosing your mind - I can definitely see a line there.
i hope this progresses and isn’t an awful evap that clear blue are renowned for. Do you have any pink dye tests too?

tentative congratulations lovely 💓

hello, thank you for sharing. which fertility clinic are you with? i am going down this road now...

@ttconeyron I’m really sorry to hear you’re thinking of going down this road too and that it’s come to this but hopefully it will have some answers and clarity for us both. 💕I just couldn’t have left things as they were without doing something, I know it’s only been 4 months ttc but we had a miscarriage before and then a chemical last cycle.
We are with the Agora clinic which isn’t far from where we live. I’ve had a couple of friends have positive experiences there.

Thank you so much for sharing. I feel so stuck and stressed even looking into this. We've been trying for two years and no luck at all. We had a miscarriage 17 years ago, and that was an unplanned but a lovely surprise pregnancy. I MC at 6 weeks.

You don't need to explain at all why you are going down this route now. I completely understand. I am 39 and Half years old so really feeling the burden on my age.

I just wish someone had told me about fertility issues. I don't know why I never really got that message. I haven't really been around women my age tbf. I went to university later in life and a lot of my peers were many years younger and it's been the same in my career so I haven't really had chats and talks with female friends about things like this,. And now they're in their early 30s discussing it now, I feel so... delayed, regretful, teary.

Maybe I am blaming everything around me: growing up poor, determined to go to uni for a career and financial independence. I feel like these factors really blocked the right people i needed in my life for fertility advice. I have gained in so many other ways, but just not in this area. The area I have worked and prayed for my whole life: to have a family.

Sorry for ranting. I feel so blue and down and just not really coping.

@ttconeyron just wanted to say 👋🏼 hi and I'm sorry you feel this way 💕 I am 38 and ttc my first. We e been trying for just over a year and not had a single BFP yet. I've only recently had some fertility tests and luckily everything has come back normal but I too am very conscious of my age and wondering if I have left things too late 😞

However, I'm trying to stay positive! I see lots of stories of women conceiving into their 40's with no issues and I am fit and healthy.

I too look back and think, if I hadn't have stayed in that previous relationship so long would I have had kids sooner, if I'd had a different career etc. I think that's normal so don't be too hard on yourself. ❤️

I really hope you get your BFP soon and you aren't alone in this feeling ❤️

@ttconeyron please never apologise for your feelings, this is a safe space to write out how you feel. I completely hear you, all of it 💕completely agree fertility is not talked about enough. I’m so sorry to hear of your losses as well.
I think the fertility route may be the way forward as there are so many success stories for women in mid and late thirties. I know it’s easy to say but hang in there and I will just share a quote a lovely midwife said to me after our mc
‘think of this as not the end but as the beginning of your journey as parents’
this is our journey and story and we WILL get there ✨✨embarking on your fertility route is a positive step.

Hi ladies. December already 🙈🎄
I'm 12 dpo and ive had a faint positive but I just feel "blaah". I know I should be excited and hopeful but after the year of losses I just can't feel excited or that positive yet.

I've tried to take a photo to show yous but its not that clear. I've inverted the photo and I'm hoping yous can see it too. It's a faint pink line rather than a faint grey like an evap. Thoughts?

Thank you for the very kind message @LuxyLocket I have all fingers and toes crossed for everyone here for some Christmas time magic.

@remie I can definitely see a line there. Have you tested again?

@EagerBiscuit I absolutely see the glowing line on yours too. How are you feeling?

It's my husband's birthday today so we 'danced' this morning for fun. I've been having some signs of ovulation, though I'm not due to ovulate until the weekend, I wouldn't be surprised if it was today.

@KittyFantastica this morning I felt very littlw.. I just didnt want to get my hopes up too early.
I've since done a CB digital and it's confirmed it as BFP. I'm still going to be realistic -I think after losses you're scared to get too excited - but I'll keep everything crossed for a good outcome 🤞🏼✨️

Tentative congratulations @EagerBiscuit I completely understand the anxiety. We'll be here for hand holds.

@EagerBiscuit tentative congratulations.
it’s lovely to see some positives. Let’s hope this is the start of them for the thread.
good luck to everyone waiting

Hi ladies. Sorry I have been so absent, I hope everyone is ok.
You are all such strong women, reading everyone’s stories really makes me realise how amazing we all are, but it also hurts how hard this journey can be for everyone.
We have all been programmed to believe pregnancy is easy, the difficulties are never spoken about enough but these threads really could be the start of a change.
CD 8 for me. How is everyone else getting on this cycle? Xx

Hello Ladies

I agre with @Emiily887, reading all your stories is simultaneously heartbreaking and inspiring - it's amazing how we all keep going despite all the disappointmens and losses!

It's a CD9 for me, started OPKs and I must say I'm already dreading the TWW. The stakes are high as it's officially our last month trying for a spontaneous pregnancy, we are moving to IVF next cycle.

Of course, chances are as slim as ever, but I already know it will be very hard not to obsess over every little symptom!

@Emiily887 hear hear to all you’ve said 💕
cd9 for you that’s gone quick! How are you feeling now lovely?
it’s peak ovulation for me now. I’ve been doing opk just to make sure. It was a couple of days later this month probably because of the chemical so I’m glad I checked. We’ve dtd every other day.
going into the tww I’m going to keep busy with nice Xmas things, try not to symptom spot and no early testing as I just couldn’t handle it last cycle. Will see if AF arrives or not in a couple of weeks and if so then we have our appointment with the fertility clinic on the 24th anyway. So I’m definitely more relaxed and meh about it this cycle as I don’t want the disappointment and to be sad over Xmas. I’m trying to do a self protection thing I think. If we conceive this month that’s wonderful but I’m not banking my hopes on it as if we don’t then we move ahead with the clinic and see what the new year brings. 🙏

@Emiily887 It feels so unfair, doesn't it? We are all told from an early age if you have sex you'll get pregnant, and plenty of people do by accident. Then, when you want to get pregnant, it seems a mountain to claim for some people.

@Happibara I don't know how we keep going most days, we just do. I think the thing that gets me out of bed in the morning now is my husband and still a tiny shred of hope, but it's not much. If I do ever get pregnant again, I'll be extremely high risk for extreme pre-term labour again, and no explanation as to why. They never found anything at all in any of the tests they did to explain what happened to our little boy. Once it happens once, the risks of his happening again are much higher, though, so it's terrifying to think of.

And yet, here we are. I'm CD13 today and, after the last couple of days, I'm certain I must have ovulated already. I'm going to do a progesterone test today as we're leaving for our holiday tomorrow. That, way, I'll know. If it's positive then I've already ovulated and it's down to the one BD on my husband's birthday. If it's negative, then we'll just go on holiday and enjoy ourselves either way.

To be honest, my head is all over the place. We are desperate to start a family, but still grieving our son. I don't think we will ever feel truly ready, but we do feel a little more settled with our grief now, so all we can do is live one day at a time.

I'll share the progesterone test result later on if anyone's interested?

@KittyFantastica you're doing a very hard thing, holding that space open for hope and new baby arrival, while still grieving.
The whole mental load and preoccupation of trying to conceive must be very hard, bringing all those emotions back.

How does the progesterone test work at this stage of the cycle?

I've only ever done the progesterone check twice, at the beginning of our fertility investigations; both times the doctors insisted we do it specifically on cycle day 21, to confirm ovulation had taken place.

The results were in spec, but I remember that range of a "pass" result being very wide, so I didn't know whether to trust the teats. Are they any good at confirming ovulation soon after it happens?