MC Avengers - Chocolate cake anyone?

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I've started a new thread as the old one was full - hope everyone finds their way here OK.

Hi kingfix- yes you've come to the right place. Like you I had an early mc (4-5 weeks), in July. We started ttc again straight away but then I felt horribly worried about doing so and regretted it, and was actually quite pleased when my period arrived. For the first time in weeks I felt I knew what was going on with my body. In hindsight I'd make the decision to wait til after my first cycle post-mc, but at the same time it seemed impossible to do so at the time. I guess what I'm saying is, it's up to you!

I'm now back in the saddle (arf)- my period is due at the end of next week and obviously I'm hoping that it doesn't arrive this time! There are lots of ladies here at various stages of ttc.

Oh, and of course, I'm sorry to hear that you have been through a miscarriage. Do share you experiences if you'd like to.

Golly - we're all having a week of it, aren't we?

Sadminster - I'd read your story on the MC board - am so sorry for your awful loss Hope you're doing ok and taking one day at a time..

Ladyhelen one friend called me to tell me she was pregnant (due the day before I would have been) - and actually she was incredibly insensitive about it - but I only managed to stay on the phone for 4 minutes. Cried as soon as I got off I've so been there..did you manage to get through the rest of the afternoon? (BTW - I got BFN with FR with both PGs...boots own brand have always given me a positive first - each time the day before AF due..)

kingfix - sorry to hear about your MC - how are you doing?

hi ladies
kingfix im so sorry to hear about your MC be kind to yourself and take your time xx i have had 2 recent early MCs (5 and 5+1 weeks) and i have been TTC for 10 cycles i hope you are ok and dont have a long wait til your sticky bean arrives
dustin good luck testing over the next few days
ladyhelen im sorry you are feeling so down FWIW i have had a good friend tell me she is preg today and i feel like crying as i only found out about half an hour ago i am happy for her but so sad for me i know exactly how you must be feeling as i am there too dya wanna hold my hand while we are in this crappy boat together? {{{{{{{hug}}}}}}
hope everyone else is doing ok
xx ei xx

Am actually feeling much better about hearing my friends news now. Its just that initial - IT SHOULD BE ME THATS PREGNANT reaction, I guess.

AF should be due sometime today if my luteal phase calculations are correct so it'll be a day of knicker checking for me today! Lovely. Pleased to hear all the stuff about the FR tests. Does anyone ever get an early positive with them?????

Oh, big hugs to everyone who is feeling blue this week.

I am not feeling too brilliant either- under the weather and grumpy/glum, as is my boyfriend. Today have noticed that I have quite a lot of CM (have given up trying to identify EWCM)- after having nothing much all cycle. So it seems I maybe didn't ovulate last week as I thought, but might be about to (I'm on CD21 with no idea of what my "normal" cycle is). This is possible, right?

Which means we should get down to it, just in case. But we are both not well and in bad moods. Feel more like sitting in separate rooms than jumping into bed! Gah, how do others cope with this- do you just grit your teeth and do it regardless? Seems very unromantic and not like us. Oh and the last time we had sex was Saturday so prob too long ago for swimmers to still be around.
Not the biggest problem in the world, but still
I vowed not to turn to OPKs at this early stage (only 3 months ttc inc a 4-5wk pg which miscarried)- but might be about to renege on this!

Speaking of knicker-checking, LadyHelen will keep fingers crossed for you! Keep us posted.

Joy27, get BD'ing! It can't hurt and you never know.......may cheer you up too. Have a glass of wine to help!

So far nothing in my knickers. I keep on re calculating my dates and timings and prob actually have to keep knicker watch up until about Friday morning.

I'll have a glass of wine tonight though. Just had a hellish case to deal with at court. WOrk, gets in the way of obsessing about getting pregnant!

Would love a glass of wine... but decided on Sunday that I would stop drinking until next period arrives (or doesn't arrive). Cannot lose resolve on day three!

Have been googling ferociously and now wondering... is CM a sign of early pregnancy? Seems to be watery/creamy. Yikes, TMI!

LadyHelen I really hope this is your month.

Hi thanks for the condolences, it's been four weeks now and I still feel quite up and down- was behind a pregnant woman walking back from town yesterday and felt myself going all wobbly, thank heavens for sunglasses. When I was pregnant with ds I had no idea that the bump I was so proud of was like a knife sticking into other women's hearts!!!!
Just a quick question: Has anyone on here had acupuncture before/after a miscarriage? The acupuncture guy told me not to even think about ttc until three months had gone by- he was very doom and gloom. So did the nurse in A and E. My GP says to wait for one period, the sonographer said to start straight away and so did the doctor at A and E. What is the answer??

Wook, if it's a straight forward m/c and your hcg levels have reduced as they should, then there is no reason why you can't ttc again straight away. It's usually only because it's hard to date a pregnancy if you haven't had at least 1 cycle, and for emotional reasons, that you're told to wait.
I had my 2nd m/c in April and have been having acupuncture since then and have found it very helpful. My cycles returned reguarly much quicker than after my 1st m/c. Also enjoy the hour of me time each week, and that I'm giving my body some balance back, if that makes sense. My sonographer also said to try again soon after the m/c as you are generally quite fertile, doctors only had me wait because my m/c wasn't complete and my hcg levels weren't behaving as they should.
If medically everything is ok, then it is up to you when you feel ready emotionally to ttc. Good luck

TMI alert! Joy - I was wondering the same thing about CM....am CD 21 (6 DPO) but have no other symptoms...maybe am just too hopeful!)

wook I started trying when I felt like it as again medical was so conflicting on my 2nd mc I waited the hree months but feel it was valuable time wasted. hth.

Seems my doom and gloom last week was a little unnecessary and the pains that felt like period wasn't as just got BFP. very nervous, particularly as its nearly the the same due date as my 1st mc.

Congratulations Aquababe!! What lovely news to hear

Can you throw some luck baby dust over the rest of us !

Wonderful news for you Aquababe! Congrats!

Hello ladies,
I thought I would pop in. I had a mmc just over 4 weeks ago at 22 weeks though the baby had died at 17 weeks approx. Still very early days for me and I've not had a period yet but DH, ever direct in his approach, says we should jump on the ttc bandwagon asap once AF has been as I'm not, aparently, getting any younger. (He doesn't mean it really but just being practical I guess). I'm 41 and have a beautiful DS of 2yrs.
Part of me doesn't feel ready but the other is desperate to get pregnant again as quick as I can but I'm wary as it was so awful to lose quite late on.
Anyway, will wait for whenever AF arrives and take it from there.
Any advice/views welcome.

Meant to add to others posting that I understand how hard it is with pregnant/just had babies friends.
A friend who lives up the road had a baby on Tuesday and it's really hard to deal with. Another - who is due the same time as I was, though very sympathetic, told me how great she's feeling and she's having a boy etc and I think I cried for a whole day when I heard that. It's terribly hard as it's not their fault that they are pregnant/happy/giving birth/all going well but it really knocks you back. I guess that's what mumsnet is for!

Hi Ladies

I'm new to this thread and this site but wanted to thank you all for sharing your stories and for confirming that I am not going insane!

I have recently had a second early miscarriage and have gained a lot of comfort and positive feeling just by knowing that others are going through the same emotions.

I have found myself becoming obsessed with bumps! Everywhere I look there seems to be a fresh new baby bump before me...it's like I'm being stalked!! Friends are also announcing their pregnancies on a regular basis and it is impossible not to feel envious.

I have read so many encouraging stories from other women and hope that one day we can all share the news we all hope (and obsess ) for!!!

Joy 27 - I have found monitoring CM a bit hit and miss tbh. And I'm pretty sure in the cycles I have had where I turned out to be pregnant there seemed to be more of it.

Know what you ean about gritting your teeth and getting on with it - really don't want to do it like that. Still managing reasonably successfully to pretend to each other that we're just naturally sexually active, not trying to make a baby. I think I ovulated yesterday (I temp, erratically, and had a big rise this morning) but last night I really couldn't be bothered. Felt a bit cold-y and knackered, so didn't. Now half wishing I'd just knickled down to it (iykwim)and thought of England!

Last did it on Monday night so hoping some sperm have lasted from then!

Ps Congratulations Aquababe, how long had you been trying?

Hi pwcbird ... I feel the same, probably not really ready but time is ticking . I'm on CD7 today & got my period just before 6 weeks afterwards which seems to be standard for me. I've got my consultant appointment on Sept 9th, so we probably won't try this cycle but I'll be OPKing to see when I ovulate (had just got back to a normal ovulating on day 14 cycle when I conceived Toby).

pwcbird - I know what you mean about being 'ready' to TTC. Although my miscarriage was early so I have not had nearly such difficult experiences as you, sadminster and others on this thread. I had a CP the month before as well.

I'm very lucky to have had two dcs before - both pregnancies went without a hitch. This time if/when I get pregnant its going to be so different. Even if I do get a BFP I think I'll be more nervous than excited. The emotions are so confusing. When you've had an upsetting outcome to one or more pregnancies, deciding to go for it again feels like voluntarily getting onto a train which may either take you somewhere fantastic or crash at any point in the journey and you'll have to deal with the fallout all over again.

Evening ladies

Haven't posted on here for a while, and I'm sorry to see so many new faces, though I'm thrilled to hear your news Aqua!! Fantastic!

For those of you who don't know me, I had my first mc last november - mmc detected at an early scan (cos I was impatient ) which it then took another 4 weeks to confirm, followed by an erpc. We waited one cycle post mc before ttc and I was lucky enought to get pg the first month. Sadly we lost our little boy, Thomas, at 17 weeks at the end of April . I have spent the last few months re-grouping physically and mentally and just about feel ready to start tryng again.

I've been lurking for a while, keeping an eye on you all but I just wanted to post especially to sadminster and pwcbird as your losses were around the same time we lost Thomas and I have some idea what you have both been going through. I honestly don't know how I would have got through these last months without the support I have received from mn, I hope you find as much comfort from these wonderful ladies as I have

Sadminster your story resonated with me especially as, had things turned out in the way we hoped, Thomas would have been a Toby . In the end we decided to 'save' the name, I hope that doesn't sound odd/heartless.

Have either of you been offered any support from the medical profession? Do you know what caused your mc's? I have been very fortunate this time, we met a really great consultant through having a private 12 week scan with him then when everything started to go wrong we stayed with him, transferring to the nhs. I had a lot of blood tests back in June (about an arm full ...) and I am hoping to get the results in the next week or so. I have also become quite involved with a naturopathic centre near us, I just needed to feel like I was doing everything I could to help my body (hopefully) one day make a healthy baby.

I will be thinking of you both in the coming days and weeks, hopefully by this time next year all our lives will be very different

hairy toe weve been trying for 15 months luckily I have a 2yr old dd already . Its amazing the amount of pregnancy announcements you hear once you've mced and how many feel like a stab to the heart. my bf announced her pregnancy the same weekend I was mcing my 2nd(she didn't know). that was tough.

baby dust***

pwcbird and sadminster - could not leave your posts unanswered. I too lost my baby (last Dec) at 18 weeks so know something of how you are feeling. Did you see your baby? Was the baby a boy or girl? What was their name?

I had a little girl and we called her Hope. I hope you are getting some support from the bereavement midwives, they were a great help to me afterwards.

Aqua - great news

kate - wondered how you were? Hope your appointment goes well.

hi ladies
pcwbird, wook maybebaby so sorry for your losses you will find some excellent support and friendship here
aquababe congrats on your BFP
i had my appointment this afternoon at the recurrent MC clinic. i was the last appt of the day for the clinic and when i was called through (45 mins late) i was told the nurse who i was supposed to be seen by had gone home and i wouldn't b able to have my appointment they took my bloods though and were really thorough as they took about a pint and i am booked i ti see the consultant in 6 weeks time i came out of the 'appointment' feeling happier than perhaps i should have done but i feel like at least something is now going to change in my favour
hi to everyone else i hope to see a few more BFPs soon
xx ei xx

Hi Cece, had been thinking I haven't seen you around for a while, how you doing? Ok-ish here, you know how it is... xx

Ei really glad your appt went well in the end, doesn't sound like you would have got to see the consultant, or at least not so quickly, if that nurse hadn't been so useless, so hopefully she did you a favour. Cow. I was amazed how much blood they took from me, didn't think I'd have any left See you over in the room later xx