MC Avengers - Chocolate cake anyone?

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I've started a new thread as the old one was full - hope everyone finds their way here OK.

Hi wook - so sorry to hear about your mc, but hello. How are you feeling?

My most consistent advice after my mc was to wait for one period and start again...but there are lots of different stories (although I hope none that involved bleeding eyes as a result of sex!!)

LadyHelen my 2ww is on ( AF due 5 Aug) - ready and able to obsess!!

wook- hello. I too have heard many a differing opinion on when to start trying again. I say whenever you're ready. Sorry to hear about your MC.
My mc was in July and started trying again immediately- though my period arrived 4 weeks later.

LadyHelen I too am on 2ww- I THINK (not yet sure of cycles post-pill and post-mc), currently on CD16 so if I am "normal"- which, who knows? I might not be- I'd be due on 5th August (ooh Sparky, snap! almost).

Feeling fairly positive at the moment, though totally confused as normal. My main, rather unpleasant, quandary at the moment is how to tell the difference between EWCM and, er, the other (the man kind). Maybe I'll just stop peering obsessively at my pants and wait to see if my period arrives!

Joy - oooh, we're both on for the 5 Sep (just realised I said August.... )I'm CD15

Got a positive OPK last night so am keeping everything crossed that the timing's right and that there's plenty of baby dust floating about! Now I just need to stay away from the HPTs (the OPKs were satisfying my need to POAS!!!)

hi ladies
so sorry that you have had to rejoin mollie as you know i am here for you as are all th other ladies in here how are you feeling today hunny?
wook sorry to hear about your MC i hope you are feeling ok and good luck with TTC efforts (my advice is dont make your eyes bleed whatever position you try, one involving bleeding eyeballs does not sound fun)
hi to everyone else
im now on CD9 so nowhere near the 2WW for me yet i have my MC clinic appointment on thursday. does anyone have any tips about what to expect? or what to ask?? im getting nervous now
xx ei xx

Munches & Dustin Thanks for the welcome
EI Hello lovely lady, don't be nervous about Thursday, just think of it as a step in the right direction to getting you a healthy sticky pg. I presume they will take bloods to start?
Well I think it finally hit me yesterday and the numbness has worn off, got very upset in the afternoon, but feel much better for it. Drank a bottle of red last night and now I have a bit of a muzzy head

Hello lovely ladies!!

Mollie hope u have a better day today lovely.

EI all the best for Thursday

Joy, LadyHelen and Sparkly how are you coping with your 2ww?? Fingers crossed

I have bought one of those ovulation kits to check things are happening, and apparantly I have my hormone surge today (hurray!).... but DH is on a stag do, how typical is that . Well we did the deed last night so if those wee blighters could hang around maybe I have a tiny chance......oh and I might jump his hungover carcass when he gets back tomorrow (poor lamb)

Hope u all have a lovely weekend xx

Morning ladies
I apologise in advance of my whinge
Feeling really tearful at the moment, have managed to distract myself quite successfully over the past few days. Popped to B&Q to buy some paint yesterday saw 5 pg women in a space of 10 mins, virtually ran back to the car and bawled, how over sensitive am I? (Note to myself do not leave the house yet!) Today I'm getting severe cramps (worse than last time) so there is no hope of trying to distract my mind as they are a constant reminder.
Munchies Did you jump your DH when he got back from his stag do or was he in no fit state?
Good luck for those of you on the 2WW, any symptom spotting yet?
Mollie waves to everyone else

Hi Mollie he isnt back yet . Please dont feel bad lovely, it is ok to be really sensitive. After my mc one minute I would be fine, next minute I wouldnt be. Just give yourself time and allow yourself to feel whatever you need to at that point in time. I still sometimes lurk on the March 2009 thread, which is really unhealthy but I am not ready to stop yet. Take care of yourself x

hey Molly sorry your back. been lurking myself. still no good news everyone around me is pregnant or just had babies so finding life a little tough at the moment.

Mollie It is normal to feel this way. I still do sometimes and my last mc was nearly a year ago. Please don't be hard on yourself.

I am on cd32,I normally have a 24-26 day cycle but last few cycles have been a bit strange in duration. I haven't tested yet because I will be so gutted if negative and I will worry the menopause is approaching. On the other hand if it is positive I will be terrified I will mc again especially as it is about the same time as my last one. Also this month I didn't really ttc as I was on high doses of EPO prescribed by my doctor so was worried what affect it could have if I got pregnant. I think I am going mad!

Mollie, sorry you are feeling so low. There are babies and pregnant women EVERYWHERE aren't there?? I felt really irrationally annoyed with one woman yesterday in the queue at the butchers, who was obviously quite early on and barely had a bump. But she was sticking it out loads and stroking it constantly. Which of course is lovely, and fine, and I'd do the same. But I found myself thinking jealous and annoyed thoughts, as if she was doing it to be smug and rub my face in it. Which of course she wasn't. Sigh.

*Dustin", sorry too that you're having such a confusing time. Can understand re the testing thing- just do what feels right.

Sparky" and Ladyhelen*, how is the waiting going? I'm not getting too worked up to be honest, and at the moment feel I will be quite happy to wait to test until the 5th. In the mean time I confess to symptom-spotting a tiny bit (have been convincing self that cystitis-type pain- ow!- is a symptom! Though have not googled it yet. Also is probably just from all the sex). Also am very tired, but then I have had an exhausting week at work!

How about everyone else?

Sorry, meant to use * instead of " up there, obviously!

Thanks Joy.

I think I will be in denial and not test yet. I have had such weird cycle recently and maybe the EPO has had an affect on it as well.

I know what you mean about pregnant women everywhere. I went to a wedding last weekend and there was a teenage girl there who had a baby of about a year old and was heavily pregnant. It just made me really sad as she was smoking and drinking and there are women on here who try everything to have a healthy baby.

Hello ladies. Pretty fed up too to be honest [whinge alert!!]

Keep thinking I should have been almost 5 months pregnant and getting ready to stop work at Xmas. Instead of which am more and more stressed at work, sick of TTC, being a miserable mummy with my darling DS due to all the stress, picking fights with DH, feeling v teary...all in all a bit rubbish.

I just feel I can't see an end to it all. Not even sure a BFP will make me feel any better as am so worried about having another mc.. Sigh. Why are some weeks so much harder than others?

Sorry Mollie - feel a bit selfish given this is all so much more raw for you....Right. Moan over.

Sparky Sorry your feeling down. TTC after mc is like a 'double edged sword'- one one hand you so want to be pregnant but on the other terrified that if you do get a bfp it will end in mc.

evening everyone. Sorry to see some new people... in the nicest way.
Sparky I'm sorry you feel so rubbish at the moment. Can you tuck into some red wine or are you trying very hard not to drink etc etc? Determined that next AF I will be necking the wine. Already had a glass today so not going to have anymore, just in case.. I'm also trying not to symptom spot, but I don't feel remotely pg, whereas last month I felt very PG and of course had BFN.
Someone on here suggested exercising as a means of taking your mind off TTC. I've done some aquaerobics, pretty gentle I know but might as well try to get a bit fitter...
Feeling a bit mis as been trying for exactly 1 year now, would have been 8 months preg by now. And saw new baby today, which is always hard. Our friends are popping them out very frequently these last few weeks...

hi ladies
mollie so sorry you are feeling sad these past few days it is entirely understandable considering what you have had to deal with this year i know exactly what you mean about seeing preg women everywhere its like an epidemic which i feel constantly excluded from i know it will be your time soon and i hope your wait isnt too long before it comes around {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
sparkey i would have been going on 5 months myself around now with my 2nd MC and 3 months with my 3rd when were you due? my EDD for 2nd was 6th dec and i know it will be hard getting to that point in the year as it is and has been so hard every year following my 1st MC on my EDD of 28th march i think i might need to choose a day in the year to feel sad about my lost babies otherwise i will spend all my time feeling sad if things carry on going the way theyre going i think my EDD for my 3rd MC was 16th feb or so i barely had a chance to work it out before i lost my baby that time i have my appointment (which i almost had a fight to the death with my GP for) on thirsday so hopefully it will bring me one step closer to my baby[fingers crossed] {{{{{{{{{{hugs to you}}}}}}}}}}}}} aswell
golly gosh im a bit of a sad sack today arent i?!!!
hi to everyone else
DUSTIN have you tested yet? good luck
xx ei xx

Hi ladies, haven't been on here in a little while, nothing new to report though. Thought we might have been lucky last month, but no, just 6 days late Frustrating but it was the first month we have been able to ttc since the 2nd m/c in April, so we would have been very lucky to be successful first time.
EDD's are hard, I should have a 6mth old, or be 30wks pregnant, and it's not just in the UK that there are pregnant people everywhere
Hope your appt is helpful on Thursday Ei.
Did you get some more time off Mollie? Good effort with the bottle of wine on Sat night, that would have been my method as well
Well done for not testing too early Dustin, I do that as well hold out as long as possible, would rather not know than see a bfn.

I'm sorry to see that you're here again mollie

I don't know if anyone remembers me - I posted a bit before - we lost our little boy at 17 weeks 6 weeks ago today, it was my 6th loss (have 2 living children thank god). I'm on CD5 & since I bought a huge pile of OPKs on ebay yesterday it looks like we're trying again. I'm still in the weeping a lot phase but it took 10 cycles with Toby & I'm not getting any younger so we just have to get on with it. Finding anniversaries hard too

Aquababe Sorry to hear your feeling down too, it's so hard isn't it Hope your feeling a little better today?
Dustin Have you given in and tested yet? Will keep everything crossed for you
Very at the young girl smoking and drinking, makes you sick doesn't it! That's one of the reasons why I don't want to return to work too quickly coz I'm faced with that a lot, think I'll end up being arrested for attacking women who don't deserve children, oops
Wook How are you doing?
Joy Good luck with the bd
EI Thanks for the lovely message, sending hugs back to you for Thursday
Sparky Feel free to rant and moan, don't worry about me hun, I'm sure I'll be doing that a lot over the next few weeks, months, years!!!
sadminster Hugs to you, good luck with TTC, just make sure you take the time emotionally to deal with what's happened to you.
Scully Yes I did get some time off, saw GP this morning, she signed me off for 10 days, I can have longer if I want.
GP was very sympathetic and understanding (made me cry) I think she was worried that I might think the consultant appt I have for the end of next month might be a miracle in the making. I've explained that I realise that they may not find out if anything is wrong and that it could be that we are just having a run of terrible bad luck at the moment, god life is pants sometimes! but hey ho onwards and upwards

mollie and sparky I am totally with you on how you feel. I would also have been nearly 5 months gone with the last one and approaching 8months with the one before. Every time I see a pg lady I get tearful, and its especially bad when I think of my friend who is is 3 weeks ahead of where I would be with the last one. I've still not got up the guts to see her yet.

Have been having twinges since Thursday last week around the front of my pelvis and lower back aswell. AF is not due till tomorrow or thursday and so I'd convinced myself it was way to early for AF and so it must be that I was pg. So, did an early test this morning. BFN It was one of those FIrst Response test 6 day early ones so ultra sensitive I expect so am expecting AF to arrive any moment. Still getting them twinges too but mainly lower back. This 2WW has been one of my worst.

Ladyhelen dont give up hope yet, both times I have been pregnant I used the First Response tests and it was always after I was late that I got a line (and both times it was really faint at first even though I was late). I also tested before due and got BFN's when I was actually pregnant.......so you never know!

sadminister so sorry for your loss

mollie glad to hear u have more time off

Everyone else - hello!

Well jumped on DH when he got back from his stag, and now on the 2ww..... I have no patience....and I am a big test waster (esp as I dont even get faints positives until after I am due, but I just cant resist the urge !!) I'll need your help nearer the time not to bankrupt the family

Thanks "munchie*. I guess you never know. I'll just see if AF arrives now. No more tests unless and until she is absent for a few days. Not hopeful though.

Am sitting here now though sobbing. One of my best mates has just called to tell me she's pg. I knew they were TTC and had a suspision last time I saw her as she was clearly not drinking. I'm sad to report that I reacted badly. I could not stop the tears and she could tell. I am happy for her but every time I hear of a new pg, it makes me feel like a failure. Its different with my other friend who is pg as that feels like I am tracking my own last pg. Thats hard, but with every new pg it just makes me feel like a complete and utter failure.

Am at work. Am obviously crying. But I can't go home just cos someone told me they were pg, can I?

QueenieMollieScully No I haven't tested yet too much of a wimp. I will just stay in denial for a little longer.
Ladyhelen2 Sorry you are having a rough time. It is really hard when friends get pregnant as you have a constant reminder that you are not. If you avoid them you feel such a bad friend. When a close friend of mine got pregnant I told her that I was happy for her but also finding it really hard. Take care.

hello, is this the thread for me? Just had a (very early) miscarriage, want to ttc again, but afraid to try. How long did you leave it before you went back to the breach?