MC Avengers - Chocolate cake anyone?

[mistlethrush]

I've started a new thread as the old one was full - hope everyone finds their way here OK.

Thanks lastboxoftampons

Congrats eli - lovely news!

Spotting here, AF due today, tomorrow or Saturday. About to start 9th cycle post mc and really think it will never happen for us now.

Please ClairePO don't give up hope. I felt exactly the same before I had my DS. It took us 3 years and 2 mc's before I was lucky enough to have him. I am sure it will happen for you. Take care x

Congrats Elimbum!! That is wonderful news!! Keeping my fingers crossed for you...

I am back after a great holiday - fairly relaxed and even a little suntanned

Unfortunately AF paid a visit while I was away, so I am now onto the third month of trying after mc. I have to admit that I was pretty crushed that we had been unsuccessful last month...being surrounded (it seemed) by gorgeous little italian bambinos was hard. I drowned my sorrows in endless bottles of Chianti and am now feeling a little more positive about next month. It is just such a rollercoaster - I am finding ttc much, much harder emotionally than I did the first time. It seems like the ultimate disappointment that not only did I lose the last pregnancy - but I have no idea when there will be another one.

Anyway - sorry about that me-me-me post. I know that there are others who have been trying longer or who have had a tougher time. I promise to be more positive from now on!

Hello everyone else, hope you are all well. It is great to be back....

Hello everyone. Back after flat move. Aaarrrgghhhhh! We moved in last Thursday and have no hot water or heating. It's at least 5 degrees colder inside that out, and I feel like a really spoiled brat for whingeing when I know it will be gorgeous when it's all done but I just HATE being cold.

eli congratulations . Haven't been on for over a week, and was hoping for good news. So pleased for you.

NSNA - I'll be in Italy too, with all the bambinos (or should that be bambini, she says, pedantically) in a week or so. I'm hoping to be so relaxed by the end of the holiday that by the time we start our first cycle of ttc post mc I'll fall pg immediately. I think the chances of my being relaxed are fairly slim, however, given that the flat will still be a building site/dump when we get back! I know what you mean about ttc after mc. I'm scared to start trying again after having a couple of months break. It's so hard to think postively, and just when you think you've banished the negative thoughts all the fears return. But I guess that's what we're all here for...

Ikwym nsnam - last time was a doddle compared to this - can't believe how little I appreciated the relative ease with which ds got here. Not any more.

clairepo hang on in there and use us as your venting pals to help you get through it - we shall overcome!!

Had lunch w friends from work today and was asked whether we wanted another baby - should have told the full story but didn't want sympathy (have been a bit wobbly the last few days re mc and pd and everything) so bluffed it out. Oh well...

Congrats Eli!

I'm also having a bit of a bad time. Secretary at work completely ignoring (or forgetting) the fact that I might have been going off on maternity leave a couple of weeks after her (she's going end of next week - luckily I can't go to the 'drinks after work' on her 'last day' as I'll be on holiday. However, still feel as though my nose has been rubbed in the fact that she is pregnant for the last 4 months at least.

Still don't know what dh is thinking. Perhaps things will straighten out a bit on holiday. I hope so.

Sorry, rant over. See you in a week or so!

DaisyJ - thanks - Bambini!! I am terrible with languages...after 10 days there I was just managing the odd Grazie and Prego...

Have fun in Italy - not sure exactly where you will be, but we were in Tuscany and it was beautiful weather - hot with lovely sunshine. Have a great time and try to relax while away...good luck with the flat!!

Ontheup well done on bluffing through the lunch - it is so difficult! I had exactly the same with a colleague yesterday. After tactfully (but unsuccessfully) trying to change the topic I eventually said: 'Well...it is not something you can always control.' There was dead silence but at least it shut her up!

I've gone for the 'well, if it hadn't been for the mc....' route. Does get the topic changed quite quickly

DaisyJ - thanks - Bambini!! I am terrible with languages...after 10 days there I was just managing the odd Grazie and Prego...

Have fun in Italy - not sure exactly where you will be, but we were in Tuscany and it was beautiful weather - hot with lovely sunshine. Have a great time and try to relax while away...good luck with the flat!!

Ontheup well done on bluffing through the lunch - it is so difficult! I had exactly the same with a colleague yesterday. After tactfully (but unsuccessfully) trying to change the topic I eventually said: 'Well...it is not something you can always control.' There was dead silence but at least it shut her up!

sorry - didn't mean to post twice - my internet froze!

Right then, I have just ordered some preseed from the internet, I am eating so much healthy food people at work are getting suspicious so it better work this time!!

CD2 again again again

Eli - congrats and sticky thoughts!

Mistle and Daisy have lovely holidays (where you going Mistle?).

It sucks when people rub your noses in it - I'm still avoiding a 'friend' who, when we went out for dinner the week before what would have been my due date sat there saying 'when I was pregnant with Ben blah blah' 'when I was pregnant with Abby blah blah..' seemed like pure spite when no-one was discussing babies or pregnancy apart from her and no-one gave her any encouragement. What a bitch. Oops mini-rant over

Hello all. Thanks for your congrats. Still scared that it will be all over and back to square one at any time. Trying to keep busy.

Claire sorry that you are feeling down - the waiting is horrible. I really hope you get a bfp soon.

People can be so insensitive. I bumped into someone at the weekend (while I was still on the 2ww) who asked me if I was planning another then went on to tell me she is pg (with practically the same edd that I had in Sept). It is weird but I think I would've been fine if she had just said she was pg - the question about me having another just really threw me and made it worse IYSWIM. Put me in a strange (bad) mood for the rest of the day.

She didn't know about my mc but people who know and go on are beyond insensitive.

NSNA good response!

Hello all

Most of you won't know me as I was here in January - I had an mmc. After the initial devastation I felt surprisingly ok, felt really positive about life, decided that I would enjoy a few more months of unexpected freedom (we have no kids as yet). We also would have been totally skint, so I saw it an an opportunity to get our house in order.

However, recently it has all come back to haunt me. Lots of very close friends are having babies now, and as we move closer to the EDD I think about it more and more. 'What if', 'If I was still PG this would be happening right now', etc. etc.Some close friends came to visit with their adorable six month old at the weekend, and I found it really hard.

I just feel quite sad from time to time, but I think it is really healthy to allow oneself to grieve and shed a cathartic tear now and then.

We haven't been TTCing as I needed a break and my AF has been all over the place, but I am ready now. I want to be PG again so badly I can taste it. DH is in bed but I might go and wake him up

Anyway, my thoughts go out to all of you on here. And believe it or not, despite my rant it DOES get better - and tomorrow is another day!

Much love to all.

HB
xx

Hi all, hope you're all having a nice weekend
Welcome back Emmsy and Hackney and congrats elibumbum, great news on your bfp
Found out this week dh and I can start ttc again, got the all clear on Thurs, after a final gynae appt and blood test on Wed. Had another session of acupuncture on Fri, and in her words, we just need to get on and get pregnant now
Enjoy Italy, all those going on holiday there, I am envious, it's a little too far for us to fly to now, sadly

Can I have a bit of advice?

I have had a missed miscarriage, was told on 12th of may that baby had stopped growing, actually miscarried on 19th may and had some retained products removed with forceps last weekend. am now on antibiotics to ensure no infection from the retained products although swab has come back clear.

Thats the history- what I want to know is, when will I stop bleeding? I feel like I've been bleeding forever! Its bright red fresh blood, not loads but its steady and doesnt seem to be slowing down any. AAAAGGGHHHH!!! Am I being too hopeful? I want to be normal again!!

sorry for your news, hope you're doing ok with it all

sorry, i don't have a definate answer for you. i've had one mmc and bled on and off for a month, i know what you mean about bleeding forever, we decide to just get on and try again without waiting for another period but couldn't get much BDing done as I kept bleeding!! very frustrating. from what i have learnt on here since my mmc, everyone has a different experience, if you're worried you could see your GP and get them to send off a swab, to check there is no infection, or if there is, make sure you are taking the right antibiotics.

hope this helps and good luck

Have had a swab done and all it came back with is a bit of thrush! but have been told to carry on with the antibiotics to be on the safe side.

Its only been a couple of weeks so should be patient. sorry if this is TMI but we tried to have sex last night and it was like a blood bath! I'm just sick of bleeding

mummy2olivia - I'm so sorry about your mc. I bled for 3 weeks after the ERPC for my mmc. Although much of it was spotting after the first week and a bit. It felt like it would never end though at the time. I hope yours stops soon.

scully hello! Glad to here you've had the all clear to start ttc again - good luck

hello all back from my holiday. Haven't caught up with everyone's news yet. Will read through later.

Cornwall lovely but a bit wet on certain days.

kate - have a lovely holiday and stress free house move.

elibumbum congratulations on you BFP

ClairePO sorry AF got you. Have you been to the doc yet to ask about having some investigations done? Sorry don't know your age but over 35 I heard you should go after 6 months of trying.

mistlethrush I agree, give your DH some time and space, he hopefully will come around to the idea. Annoying I know when you are our age.

hackenybird hello I remember you. I think passing the due date can be a milestone that can become a bit of a hurdle in your mind.

I posted on here ages ago, after a m/c in Feb.
I was doing fine until a while ago when I found out my sister is having a baby on my EDD, my best friend a week later and another friend two weeks later!
I am really happy for them, but just having spoken to my sister, she is off for her 20 week scan next week, I put the phone down and could cry all night.
I have had some real 'wobbles' lately that is just not me....does it get better? I don't think I am jealous of her....just very sad that it is not us going for a scan.
Any words of wisdom? Thanks

Rosie so sorry you're having to go through that - that really sucks. I am past my edd now and still get wobbles (in fact have a good cry every month when period arrives) but it does get easier. Hope you are feeling OK now.