TTC Aug 2024

[AlleycatMarie]

Hi ladies!
CD 1 for me today, so I’m moving over from the July thread and starting this one (don’t think there is already one).
Anyone else now ttc for a BFP in August??

That interesting to know, thank you x

Does BBT have to stay quite a bit higher or just above cover line if pregnant? mine is doing all kinds of things making me think I am unofficially out… that being said I’m taking the temps within a 30min - hour range of each other each morning 🤦🏻‍♀️

8DPO for me, still early but took this first thing and swear I can see a vvvvvfl. DH said he doesn't though so maybe just line eyes. Onwards to tomorrow!

This cycle is back on track after CP and I am waiting for AF to come this Sunday although it is 9 dpo for me. The positive test tells me that you got pregnant within 1 week because it is still decent but not quite dark yet. I hope your line gets darker every day! Also check your HCG and make sure it is doubled every 48 - 72 hours!

Congratulations to the ones who have got their BFPs this cycle. I am happy that this cycle is back on track post CP and I am waiting for AF to arrive this Sunday although it is 9 dpo for me. I will be joining the September thread soon. Baby dust to the ones who are still waiting! ❤

As long as it is above cover line, pregnancy might still be possible. Fluctuations in BBT is normal though.

Thank you… I am also 9 DPO and expecting AF any day now (I ovulated slightly later this cycle so assuming AF will arrive a bit later too). If it doesn’t arrive by Saturday I will test. Congratulations to everyone who got their BFPs! 🫶

I can see a line! Congratulations! So pleased for you lovely! The best news!

AF is due today for me. I’ve had spotting since Sunday with some very small clots but that’s enough for me to count myself out!

Good point Lucy - I did test 12 days ago, I think it was now? Maybe 10/11? It was a BFN. Now this!

fingers crossed that this is your month xx

I see a tiny faint line! Hope it is clearer tomorrow!

@lavafield thanks for responding, honestly thought I was going insane because no one else seems to see it 😂 appreciate it is very very faint but I was sure I could see something

Will keep trying til it gets stronger or AF turns up

Just to update, my results are back and make no sense, following positive test.

@Lou0811 Perhaps it’s abnormal because it suggests pregnancy and therefore you need to speak to your doctor? Never had an internal ultrasound before so I don’t know what the terms mean. Are your doctors easy to get hold of?

@WrittenThatWay congratulations!

@mangobe looks promising, keep us updated :)

My news is that I got my 3 day blood work back and it’s all looking really good, so I’m feeling very relieved. After 8 months TTC I was fearing the worst. My husband has to wait 3 months for his SA, just because our local hospital has such long waiting lists.

Can see the start of something! 🤞🏼 it's darker for you tomorrow. How exciting!!

The doctors have fobbed me off and I’m waiting on EPU to call me xx

@Lou0811 ok best of luck, keep us updated

CD1 again for me.

I am absolutely devastated and feel quite sick. I think it’s really starting to affect my mental health. Have been off the pill since 2019, but more specifically tracking since the start of 2022.

I’m exhausted with it all. I’m too scared to go to the GP as my BMI is 36, aiming to go when I get that down to below 30 (it was 39 at one point so I am trying) but it’s so hard to eat well & exercise when all I want to do just now is crawl into bed and disappear.

I am 27, almost 28 and I long for a baby so much, and so many of my friends around me are on their 2nd or 3rd and it’s so hard. I see my parents getting older and I’m sad at the years they are missing out without grandchildren. The children in my family getting older & older and the age gap between my potential baby getting so much bigger. I’m devastated and feel so alone, I’ve tried to open up to friends and family and they say “oh it’ll happen when it happens” or my friend who had both her children by 22 “yeah we struggled for a few months for the second one it’s hard isn’t it” and it’s like no one understands so I can’t talk about it.

Just feeling so deflated and overwhelmed with sadness today.

@rebecca199 😭 thank you I really hope so

Also CD1 for me today with AF paying a visit. Sorry to hear you’re feeling low.

I’ve been off contraception for the last 9 years and can relate your your situation with friends and family so much. Sending you love and hugs xxx

Hi Lovely,

I am so sorry that you're feeling so down. I can imagine how hard it is to have wanted this for so long. It's totally conceivable that it could be affecting your mental health as each month is such a rollercoaster.

If you're feeling strong enough, I do think perhaps visiting a doctor would be a good idea, I know it's scary but it may also feel like you're taking back some control with the situation. Knowledge really is power and at least by visiting the doctor they will be able to give you some advice for mental and physical health, perhaps even run some tests that may put your mind at rest.

It sounds like you've been improving your lifestyle and have already decreased your BMI quite a bit. That's a massive achievement, keep going!

I really hope you start to feel better soon, ttc is so mentally exhausting try to be kind to yourself xx

@elsa15 um so sorry you’re feeling like this. I know nothing anyone can say will make you feel any better, but you do still have lots of time ahead of you to have your babies ☺️ I have a high BMI and I’ve just turned 40 and I’m trying to conceive my first baby. I asked my GP about it and she was really lovely and encouraging and gave me hope! Have a look at the book Plus Size Pregnancy book by Dr Sarah Wickham - it made me feel loads better!

I work in Talking Therapies in the NHS - I would encourage you to speak to your GP. I know it feels scary, but you might find they’re really supportive and encouraging. If you want to talk to someone about how you’re feeling with your mental health then Google Talking Therapies (if you’re in England) and you may be able to refer yourself without your GP. They offer CBT for anxiety and depression and also counselling too!

The main thing is not to go through this alone and to find the right support for you ☺️

How is everyone doing today?
TW - abuse

really need to vent, so apologies - backstory, I’m an only child, raised by mum who was 35 when I was born and my dad who was 45… from all I know, they had a rushed wedding when my mum got pregnant.

i have a daughter who is 12.5, not planned, I was 22 and sadly from an abusive relationship. I raised her with my parents in their home. I then met my (now ex) and he took her on as his own, we had my son 5.5 years later, planned. We were booked to be married etc, but lockdown happened and it drove us apart. Kids both have regular contact and we are very amicable.

my partner now, I’ve been with 3 years. He has no children. Unintentionally got together, started off as a catch up from not seeing each other since school, somewhat 20 years ago… here we are.

i am now of course, pregnant with his child, again, planned.

my mum has found out today and all hell has broke loose. She’s adamant I’m not to ‘keep’ the pregnancy and she has tried to say that I need to go into the local mental health unit due to not being able to look after my children due to now falling pregnant again and ‘needing a good slap’

i’m 35, I work full time in a good job, I have a house, my children are well presented, clean, polite and well fed. My house is well kept.

I work totally from home also… which is another factor as to why partner and I decided it would be the right time to try.

just as an example, when I was pregnant with my son, who again, was planned, I remember being about 6 weeks gone and she threw a size 20 top at me and told me to wear it. I’m typically a size 8.

she has always been disgusted with me, no matter what I do. As I say, she’s adamant she’s going to ‘sort me out’

it’s not her choice and I’m not a child.

my life hasn’t gone how I intended, no, but we don’t do bad.

I don’t smoke, do illegal substances, nor go out drinking. I can count on one hand how many partners I’ve had in life. Some poor choices, of course. I learn. I take my kids out where possible and we enjoy our time, I just don’t get why she is always so angry with me.

I have to add, it has always saddened me how others can go to baby scans with excited grandparents to be and my mum is not approachable until well after birth.

sorry to rant. Just feeling incredibly low and I know she will text my daughter and turn her against me now too, like it’s a disgrace.

Born in 1955, my nan came from an irish background from 1930’s…

maybe something has gone on in the past that has made her this way?

Hi everyone

Hope it’s ok if I join this month? Ttc our second baby and Af is due tomorrow. I’ve just taken a test and it’s negative, the second line is really faint. Just wondering if anyone else has had this and if it’s a dodgy test?

Are you using the clearblue triple check? One test is really difficult to tell. I have used them in the past and I have never seen an evaporation line.

I had 2 early MCs (6 weeks and 1 day) this March and (4 weeks and 6 days) this May. Today is 10 dpo and I am really scared. Any good practical advice for me ?