TTC after Early Miscarriage part 3

[Ella31]

Part three of of our previous threads.

@Figtree11 its a really hard decision to ttc again after losses. I had two close mc before my twins and every bloody scan was a nightmare but the twins were perfect and as you know it was a placenta twin condition that robbed them from me at birth, not anything genetic or anything with me.

It's very likely my dear you just haven't had any luck but having said that I get the fear. Did they test anything after your operation to see what may have happened. Would that provide any answers for you

Definitely won't make a difference. So many people here who have got their bpf's did every other day, you'll be well covered.

Thank you @Ella31 i think you are right. Once I get back into TTC again it will be all consuming I’m sure, so need to just feel like myself for a few weeks.
I hope you are alright x

Thanks @jellyfish2 its either really bad luck I’ve had 2 MMC, or there is something wrong that hopefully will get found out in November. It’s always good to hear positive news stories, so thanks for sharing about your friend

It's all sounding very promising @DonnaWhat

My ovulation was three days late last month. Bodies are funny things. Glad to hear it's on the right track

Thanks Ella, I’m holding onto hope that it’s just bad luck.

The fear is awful isn’t it. I was feeling positive going into the 12 wk scan. I’d had spotting at 7 wks and had a scan at EPU where everything was perfect & saw the heartbeat. Was also given progesterone. So I thought all would be ok at 12wks.
Unfortunately they didn’t test for anything except for potential molar, and said they wouldn’t do any more testing than that.

How are you getting on? Sending love to you x

It's very likely bad luck. Just keep putting one foot in front of another. If I can give you any advice, and the other ladies here will back this up, I spent months worrying here that there is something wrong with me because i haven't conceived since my sons 6 months ago, ignoring the fact that I've been through a significant trauma.

You have just had two relatively close back to back mc. You are recovering from that loss. My ob told me 1 in 4 results in mc. You likely have had a bad run but don't go down the rabbit hole of there is something wrong as it's utterly consuming and it will impact you.

Look at it from this point , you are on a list for tests so there is an end goal. If and i say if something appears on those test. Great, they will sort it. That's what those tests are for. You will be given support.

Right now take a breather and then you can decide if you ttc again before that. You are strong so keep going xxx

Edit: sorry forgot to say I'm doing fine but yes like you I have to battle the worries every day. I'm determined this will happen for us and if I do get pregnant it's essential that I am mentally strong and feeling good. So make sure you are kind to yourself xxxx

Thanks @Ella31 i really appreciate your message. Everything you’ve said really resonates with me, and I’m going to focus on the positives. And like you say, if things go wrong, I’m already on that waiting list in November. Thanks so much again x
I’m glad you are doing as ok as can be. Have everything crossed this works out for you & I’m sure it will

@Tallgirl91 Definitely holding out for Hooe, but all the ovulation tests I took this month I didn't peak, also bled for 12 days on last period which was the first proper one since mmc so I don't think I am but I am always hoping. Back from our day trip and still no sign after all the walking and bloody steps 😆😆😆 checking out in an hour. If still no sign, I'm going to test when I get home.

BFN for me ladies. Just did and there was 3 speckles of blood so maybe AF on her way at some point today. 🙄 Although I knew this would be the case. Fingers crossed I ovulate this month 🤞 My body is probably just needing that bit longer to get ready for my rainbow baby.

Is 0.71 good enough for peak?

@DonnaWhat aww sorry to hear this darl sending love . It’s never easy seeing bfn 💖
my AF came today with a vengeance, first one after my MC 6 weeks ago.
maybe we are now in sync ?
yes I look at it now as my body preparing for rainbow baby 🌈 trying to think positive xx

@Tallgirl91 I was just going to write a message to ask if your af had properly arrived then read your update, i'm really sorry af has fully arrived but also hope that this fresh new cycle brings you good news x

@DonnaWhat sorry about the bfn, and the spotting, hopefully you are ok x

@Ella31 youll be approaching fertile week is that right?
have you decided how youre going to approach this cycle?

@Ladyinpink1 I've not even spotted as such. It was 3 little pin pricks of red. Nothing since. Fell nauseous all day, no cramps, white milky discharge and I can feel my cervix which is soft? I've never been able to feel my cervix but I thought I'd have a feel and see if there's any bloody discharge in there but there's nothing. Nipples are super sensitive too but not sore. I have big boobs and normally have no "feeling" in them. Plenty of "symptoms" but no bfp. I knew this month wasn't my month but somethings just feeling different. Our bodies are bloody pains when they act up like this aren't they!?

@Tallgirl91 yes, we should be synced together ❤️ me and @Ella31 are going to spur each other on, I'll spur you on too xx

I'm only cycle day 8 today. I don't ovulate till day 20 since my boys. I was 17 before that. I have noticed more cm this cycle though and I've started taking coq10.

My approach is every other day and then 5 days leading up to ov and two days after that to cover me.

Oh .........and alcohol🤣🤣 I cut out alcohol for the last 5 months really. Yet prior to my boys I went out the odd time and drank champagne the night before I conceived them. So I'm including alcohol in my prenatals😅🤣

Haha on a serious note, I've a few nights out planned and a trip away with dh this week, going to enjoy it this time.

What about you?

Definitely. Just have to keep hoping ladies

Please tell.me I'm seeing things? It's the faintest of faint. 3 mins after test. How do you ladies enhance a photo to see if its clearer?

I've lowered the brightness if this is any better

@DonnaWhat Definitely a line there

I’m just going to try and take it easy this cycle. Go with the flow of every other day. I’m not evening going to mention my OPKs to DH as he gets stressed about it. I also don’t want him to stress we’re missing out when he’s away. He needs this trip away with the boys and I want him to enjoy it without thinking about TTC.
From 20th June we’re pet busy with travelling for 4 weeks so we’re going to enjoy ourselves without thinking too much about it - I hope!

@DonnaWhat OMG im praying this is your BFP 💖 definitely looks like it to me x

I see it!! 🥰

I can see a line in the altered image @DonnaWhat Have you got a different type of test you could try another today x

@DonnaWhat I see it too. Do you have a digital test you could use? How many dpo are you again?