CD1 ttc after loss carry on thread #3

[Ladyinpink1]

I went to reply and you were right, the thread was full so I couldnt post a link to a new thread, also, because it's a new thread it wont give me a prediction to tag when I type a name, so I have just copied and paste the names off of everyone who posted on the very last page of the thread, I hope anyone else can find it OK. Sorry, maybe there is an easier better way... if anyone else can remember extra names and spellings, please tag 🙂

@samilicious

@Wise0wl

@ThelastRolo20

@13lucy

@Bugdem123

@HerbaceousPerennial

Thanks you lovely lot ❤️ I’ll sift back through the threads at some point and try and collect everyone and set one up (unless someone gets there first).

Pink spotting this evening when I’ve wiped so I might even be properly back here before long! Time to dig out my progesterone stash. Trying to channel the mantra that the fate of this pregnancy is (for the most part) already in its dna and worrying won’t change the outcome.

@samilicious clove oil is amazing for sore teeth! Tooth pain is the worst, I hope you feel better soon. Remember you don’t owe anyone anything, and if they’re pissed off that they didn’t get the validation they wanted from you, then frankly that’s a them problem not a you problem ❤️

@Wise0wl that's the pep talk I needed! Thank you 😘 count me in for the pub crawl too! Though we need to avoid that one pub I overshared with haha 😜

@ThelastRolo20 it's ok don't apologise - sounds bad when I list it all out but it's ok really. Had a proper good hormonal scream at DH yesterday when he was pecking my head about life admin stuff on a rare lunch break and it felt sensational. Highly recommend. He was like a rabbit in headlights 😂 the tests are to check hormone levels before and after ovulation, to check they're normal before and that ovulation happened after (if I've understood it right from gp). CD 5 and 19. DH is getting his swimmers tested too but he's been given a rigorous schedule of when to empty out the lads beforehand. Like every other day for 4 days, then nothing for 3, then the sample or something like that, and can't be contaminated few days before. So think I'm out this month 😅
Sorry your wisdom teeth are bad too! I didn't know they did filing on them

This made me laugh - when TTC is following you everywhere - "what difference does DTD make anyway?" NOT the same meaning as Mumsnet 😅

Will definitely call them and see what they say. Thank you!

I'm not sure, I just assumedIwould have to. My screening results were 1 in 2 chance of downs and 1 in 14 for Edwards and patau's but baby had died before there was a chance for them to do further testing. Hoping they'll just do the nipt this time so I don't have to pay £400 but don't mind either way just to know for sure.

So another mum friend has just announced their pregnancy to me - 15 weeks. Why is everyone doing this to my face 😂

I just keep telling everyone we may not even try again, can't handle all the questions

@ThelastRolo20 lo20 ahhhh that's hard. If I get pregnant again I'm going to tell those who I know have struggled similar to me in a message before I let anyone else know. I prefer that because then I have time to feel shit before telling them I'm happy for them 😂

@Wise0wl e0wl hope the spotting calms down. I'm guessing you've had progesterone before if you've got some stashed away?

@samilicious ious how annoying you forgot your test! I have to set myself reminders for stuff like that otherwise I often miss appointments. And haha I've had many a hormonal rage at my partner. Particularly when he wanted to go and get DIY supplies the day we found out about the MMC and thought I'd be ok at home on my own. I definitely was NOT ok at home on my own 😂

We are on out way back home now - only a mini break. Went far too quickly as I knew it would! Had so much time off over the last month due to being in hospital and scans going badly and now this break (which was planned ages ago), it will feel strange being back at work! But properly back to normal as of next week.

My temp raised this morning so I guess that confirms ovulation if it stays raised. Now just waiting... hate all the waiting!

Ladies - I know I've only been lurking a lot recently and not posting/replying, but truth is sometimes I find it difficult to keep up. But simply reading along with you lovely lot is so much of a support system, it's just nice knowing you're out there!

Wonderful news @Wise0wl and @NphysT!!! So lovely to see some BFP's

I'm 11dpo and have a stack of easy@home tests I'm too scared to crack in to early lol just in case it's BFN again. Husband thinks leave it a week....not sure I'd last that long! Maybe this weekend.

@UrsulaSings123 best of luck! Hope the break has done the trick 🤞🏻

@GoldDustWoman90 a week?! I could never last that long 😂 good luck for whenever you test

@ThelastRolo20 I know right! His reasoning is 'because then we'll really know'! Bless him.

I might cave and do one tonight just to spite him

@GoldDustWoman90 haha do it! Although mornings always best so maybe first thing? We'll be eagerly waiting to hear 😂

Ha @samilicious you’re right, TTC is everywhere. I read someone’s initials ‘CM’ at work recently as cervical mucous 😂

@UrsulaSings123 if you have bleeding or spotting in a pregnancy after miscarriage they often prescribe progesterone, I was prescribed it for my second MMC (didn’t impact the outcome, but worth a try!)

@ThelastRolo20 I’m sorry people are being so thoughtless. Someone needs to bust the myths that you just start thinking about TTC and end up pregnant, and that every pregnancy ends in a baby! Sending love x

@GoldDustWoman90 Fingers crossed 🤞 I nearly bottled it testing earlier this week for the same reasons, but wanted a weekend glass of wine and some proper cold and flu drugs if I could, so that was my motivation!

Congratulations 🎉💖@NphysT and @Wise0wl, sorry I have taken a bit to reply, I found things a little hard (probably pre AF hormones) I am pleased for you both.
And how did your appointment with your counselor go? @Wise0wl and sorry you missed your last drink, i think we chatted before about the non alcoholic gin, could you have some of that and just pretend 😊 x

@NphysT I also agree, I would phone up your epu and explain everything, tell them you are really worried and hopefully they will book you in x

Hi @Bugdem123thank you, I am ok. Ready for a new cycle to hurry up and start. So glad things went well with your GP and it's good that you have a future goal in mind now that you can get help if things don't happen by. Spunds like you have done a good job x

@ThelastRolo20 so when will your fertile period be that you will be trying? Will it be in a few weeks before your holiday? I'm sure you are so happy your wait is nearly over, you have done well x

Are you trying to be more relaxed this cycle too then? @samilicious I'm sorry things are so stressful and I'm glad your dh could help out lol. I will keep that in mind x

Deep breath.....this mornings test....

Oh wow @GoldDustWoman90!! how are you feeling?

@Wise0wl I don't even know! It's so weird isn't it - after two chemicals back to back I feel like the joy of a + test has been sucked a bit.

I'm absolutely over the moon....of course I am....but here's the anxiety now. Going to tell myself to stop testing I think. Right now I am pregnant, until my body tells me otherwise!

@GoldDustWoman90 another positive! Wonderful news @Ladyinpink1 I'm still one cycle away but doesn't seem quite as far away now. Fertile window will be the end of April/ early may

@GoldDustWoman90 if it helps at all, I’ve been telling myself that I can’t change much about the outcome of this pregnancy. Weirdly for a control freak, acknowledging I have little control has helped me hugely. Gentle congratulations 😊

@Ladyinpink1 appointment was good thanks, I’ve found having another outlet to talk it out has really helped. I am so hopeful you will get your bfp soon x

@UrsulaSings123 we can be in the TWW together as I think I ovulated either yesterday or today!

@ThelastRolo20 some people just have no clue 🫠 hope you're okay.

@samilicious sorry you've had so much going on! You've given me so much comfort by saying "your baby knows when's it's coming, it's just that you don't". I love that so much. I hope your wisdom teeth have stopped giving you pain, I had to get mine out a few years ago as the pain was so bad!

@GoldDustWoman90 congratulations!! God this is turning into such a lucky thread 🩷 I did laugh at your husband telling you to wait a week, absolutely no chance 😂

Hi ladies. I'm feeling really sad this morning. I hope this doesn't come across badly, but I don't feel able to suck down my feelings enough to say congratulations at the moment. I only lost my baby just over 2 weeks ago and it just feels like something I can't do right now. If it's OK with everyone I might just pass over the positive tests at the moment. I feel bad saying that and that I should be happy for people who have been in my situation and for who it will hopefully turn out well, and I am able to feel that sometimes, but I'm just being honest about where I am at the moment. Sorry 😥

I keep staring at my charts on premom, like looking at them will tell me something new. I feel totally obsessed with being pregnant again. I'm literally crying right now. I thought I was alright but obviously not. I'm such an inpatient control freak and these feelings of waiting constantly and having practically no control over what happens are totally abhorrent to me. I feel totally trapped in this situation and the only way to get out is to decide not to get pregnant, which is not what I want at all. I hate everything about TTC.

Sorry for such a miserable post.

@UrsulaSings123 we have all been there, some days I'm still there - you have nothing to apologise for ❤️ you're right in the trenches of recovery. I'm sure anyone who has recently had a positive test will happily add a small TW sentence at the beginning so anyone else can skip over if needed ❤️

@Bugdem123 thank you, I basically internally eye rolled 😂 I think this is the last person who was actively ttc in my circle though so actually in a way it's nice to know there's unlikely to be any more coming my way before I start trying again

@UrsulaSings123 ah bless you, you can hear the pain in your message. You don't need to apologise for how you feel - I can guarantee that everyone one on this thread has felt the exact same multiple times.

I think you need to cut yourself a huge amount of slack - you are only two weeks past the most awful and traumatic thing. Your brain won't even have started fully processing what's happened yet. I'm 6 months on and still have days where I'm completely overcome with the grief and the realisation of what's happened. I don't say that to scare you but to tell you that this is huge and it's normal to feel completely and utterly broken.

I'm also a control freak and find TTC utterly miserable, even more so post loss. So much so that we're now going to be one and done even though I initially wanted 2 or 3. What you're feeling is so horrible but so normal and you don't need to apologise here for it. I've also lost hours staring at my charts and photos of my OPKs. This is my first month tracking neither and I have to say, for a control freak, it's been so liberating. You might not be there yet - I wasn't until this month but I totally get the need to focus on all the things you can control.

I'm so sorry for your loss and that you have to go through this. It's a shit club to be in but you're not alone x

@GoldDustWoman90 So exciting, congratulations! I really hope those chemicals were just the practice run and this is the sticky one. ❤️ So lovely seeing more BFPs on this thread recently.