1dpo - Anyone want to join during the two week wait?

[Ella31]

Hi all, currently 1dpo. Hoping for a lucky month. I lost my twin boys a few months ago at 29 weeks due to TTTS. Two days before this I had a beautiful scan and two perfect babies - only 6 weeks away from c-section. And two days after my scan - our world fell apart. I had no movement and all of a sudden, I was told one of my babies had no heartbeat and then four days later, we had to remove life support from his twin brother as he was so ill. My sons were beautiful, visually perfect babies who were so unlucky. I miss them terribly.

So Here I am 1dpo and hoping for the best. Would love the support from any other hopeful ladies and in turn I'll support ye too. Much luck to us all 😀

12 day lp is perfect. I conceived my twins on 10. Congratulations on your weight loss that's incredible. Are you getting enough b12 for energy. I'm 7dpo. Not holding out much hope tbh. Tested today. Bfn. Too early I know but not a hint of a line. Period due in 6 days.

AF arrived 😭

@Beanie14 I'm so sorry. Are you ok? Stupid question I know 😢

My head is wrecked. 7dpo - slight cramping has begun that I usually get before af rears her ugly head. I also and this will sound weird get this trickle feeling like I can physically feel it coming but it doesn't. All these sadly are signs af is coming.

Hope ye are all doing ok yourselves.

I can't even tell you. I've not found my peak this month so I've kinda just given up and started waiting for AF so I can start a fresh new month. Only DTD a couple times so really don't think it's enough, which hopefully(!!) means I won't be so sad when it does come. No doubt I'll still be upset but just trying to keep hopes and expectations low

@Beanie14 Ah I'm sorry you're feeling it too, it's awful isn't it? I feel like we're the only ones putting this pressure on ourselves. It will happen for us x

@BabyBorn wow you must have such great determination! Well done! Hopefully you're able to get better sleep now too with cutting down to once 🙂

Oh @Beanie14 I'm sorry, I just seen your latest post 😟 I'm due tomorrow so we're likely going into this next month together too. Take the next few days to be kind and treat yourself ❤️

@Ella31 hopefully it's not AF and just a weird set of coincidences. Fingers crossed for you still x

To be honest I want to come off the opks so much but I'm afraid to relinquish control. I'm sure mu husband thinks I'm nuts. I was crying to him again today about my period coming and he keeps telling me it will happen. But that's just not enough for me.

There's another group I'm on where a poster had same thing as you described above and she got her bfp two days ago. She actually went off the opks , took a step back

I'm taking proceive, omega 3 and vitamin c every day. Part of me wants to throw it in and just take folic acid on its own. Wonder of these vitamins are just messing with me and are so damn expensive anyway.

I'll be honest, I wasn't testing as much as I maybe should have been when I got my bfp, purely for the fact that it became so emotionally exhausting and actually told my partner I wanted a break from trying due to this and about a week later I found out I was expecting. It may be a good idea to take a break from OPKs if you feel like it may relieve some pressure from yourself. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in it all because we want it so, so much that we may actually be putting too much on ourselves. I completely understand what you mean by feeling it's not enough, I've very much felt the same, but you're doing absolutely everything you can. You've been through a lot more than many other women, it may just be taking your body a little longer to get back into the swing of things. I think at the time of conception I was only taking folic acid, so I wouldn't completely rule out only taking that.

Please don't take this the wrong way as I really don't mean to offend but is there anyone else other than your husband you can talk to about this? You've been through one of the most traumatic things possible, and TTC is stressful enough as it is. I really don't want you putting too much on yourself. I do agree with your husband though, it will happen but unfortunately sometimes it just takes its time. Sending love ❤️

@Ella31 i feel ok about it. I mean obviously gutted but at the same time I had already counted myself out. I also get that trickling too.
So far I’m just spotting but have the typical AF cramps and it’s was due today.
@2BabyOrNot2Baby it will happen when it’s meant just waiting sucks doesn’t it? . I just have that irrational fear that I can’t get pregnant again or something and I’m super happy we have my son but I’d love a sibling for him, even more for him than for me if that makes sense.
Hope AF stays away tomorrow!

I love the control the OPKs give you but at the same time they don’t tell you exactly when and if you’ve ovulated. I’m not sure if I’ll buy more when these ones run out as I can feel myself becoming obsessive about it. Maybe with the chilled attitude and regular DTD it’ll just happen.
how did people cope without these things??

I'm thinking of ditching opk too and just staying dtd every other day.

That's interesting about the trickling. Thought I sounded mad saying it

I think the chilled attitude/regular DTD is a good idea tbh. Ensures that you're not losing yourself in it (which is so so easy to do), keeps things fun and not chore-like and hopefully means you won't be thinking about it as intensely, as often. Planning on trying SMEP next cycle and seeing how it goes but I think I will eventually just try to chill out a little.
@Beanie14 that makes perfect sense!! I have the same fear and also feel that as much as I'd love another baby for myself, I'd love to make my boy a big brother

@2BabyOrNot2Baby totally get this! My son at the moment is so sociable and loves people playing with him and just engaging with people so I know he’d be a really good big brother and I really want that for him!

So this is a weird one!! So I thought AF had arrived as I had some spotting last night and this morning, so I put on a pad today and went to work (anticipating the flow). I haven’t need to chance the pad all day though as there’s barely a thing on there, just a little brown spotting. And even less when I wipe! This is not like me normally! It’s normally straight into it with a bang.
I have the normal AF cramps though, so I’m really confused!
I know I ovulated late this month though which would put me at 12dpo. Am I crazy for wondering if this is actually implantation? Or is AF is just trolling me?
Probably the latter, I’ll update tomorrow.

@Beanie14 oooooh, that sounds intriguing. I hope it is IB and not AF

Not crazy at all. I got implantation bleeding with my first pregnancy.- it wasn't successful but I still got it. Plus if its not normal for you, I'd be watching closely. Hopefully it's good news

@Ncl31 caved and took a test - 8dpo. Bfn - stark white. Wish I hadn't. Met up with relatives last night who all have toddlers and newborns. Felt like the odd one out. Got a few comments like at least you can get pregnant, and lucky you are very fertile. I'm sort of gobsmacked. Does 2 early mc, a stillbirth and neonatal loss count as lucky. I know it's just something people say , but I came home so upset. I wish I was coming home to children. I'm my head I wanted 3. I'd settle for 1 now.

Cramps are still niggling at me. Pretty sure Monday will see af

Snap @Beanie14 how old is your little one? Mines 17 months and I think we're starting to get a little boring for him 😶 we don't really have anyone else around us with young children, only his cousins but he only really sees them maybe once a month.
Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏻 definitely worth keeping an eye on!

@Ella31 I'm so sorry. Unfortunately it's down to people being awkward and not knowing what to say, which often means they're better of not saying anything at all. It WILL be you showing up to events with your baby/babies one day. I know it's hard but just keep on keeping on, you're doing amazing

I also tested today and got BFN
According to last month's cycle & Premom, AF is due today buuuuut Flo is just now telling me that there's a chance of conception (I know it's just complete prediction and not 100% accurate), with my last chance being tomorrow 😐 I've not been testing daily as I ruled myself out for the month. Last ovulation test I done was Monday (and the only time I had a somewhat dark line) and Flo is telling me that was ovulation day 🤨 feeling like Mondays test was onto something and I've completely flumped it now! Managed to DTD Monday but that's it 😕

Hope everyone is doing okay

@Ella31 plenty of B12. How are you feeling? Anything new going on with you? My CM has escalated a lot since yesterday. CD 28 so AF due any day!!

Do you get some before af? I never do. Nothing new other than cramps. Convinced I'm out this month. I always get this "trickle" feeling as well as if af is coming.

Hopefully this is it for you though. Do you feel any different

You poor thing. You sound like your unsure of ovulation as well. Is it possible that you did ovulate Monday and therefore only 4dpo

I'm starting to think that may be the case. I've not really had many symptoms of AF either, I've had a bit of lower back pain but that's normal for me now as I had spinal surgery last year and a little bit crampy but that's it. It's completely plausible that I did ovulate late though, makes sense as to why I couldn't find my peak. I don't overly rely on my apps, but Flo has really made me question it this month because Mondays the closest I've come (that I've seen!)

Just pretty frustrating as I've only just managed to get somewhat regular periods 🥲 hope you're feeling a bit better today

Would it be possible to dtd every other day, that way you would be covered each month. So many women don't get peaks on opks. Are you testing at the right times too. Afternoons and evenings.

Sorry about your surgery, hope you are recovered and well.