TTC February 2024 ✨

[RW269]

Thought I’d make a new thread for those of us Ttc in February 2024. I know some of us will cross over from end of Jan to Feb! Wishing everyone all the luck ✨❤️

Oh @RW269 im sorry lovely... it's so gruelling!!! Hope you're feeling positive for this month though, fingers and everything crossed for you. What's the approach this month?

I'm ok over here - had another weekend in triage I'm in prodomal / false labour (yay for me!) probably due to the HG but he's fine and quite happy cooking away! Officially working from home as and when I can until the end of the month and got some intensive treatments starting this week so hopefully, hopefully there will be a dreamie bit to come soon! Xx

@ButterflySkies the approach this month is we’ve just pin pointed a 10 day window and we’re just going to go for it those days. I’m not tracking ovulation etc i get too hyper focused and stress myself out. When I have done it it’s usually day the same time so hoping for the best 🤞🤞🤞

Oh bless you you’re having a right few weeks of it aren’t you! Glad babies all okay though!
Fingers crossed the treatment helps settle things for you and you can have a nice calm last chunk of your pregnancy! 🤞🩷

How are you all keeping? :)
@ButterflySkies Hope you’re feeling a little better now 🤞🤞🤞
how’s everyone else getting along? 🩷

Hi lovely!! How are you? So sorry for silence its been rough... HG seems to be getting worse over time and baby doesnt like it when im dehydrated etc 😭 but, in positive news I think we have a plan in place to kick start baby's eviction from 37 weeks, with an induction as close to 38 as possible - so we arent far off meeting baby!

Just trying to take each day at a time - today's felt like less of a mental battle than last week - and im scrolling ocado like a lunatic (ocado is a right treat in this house 😂) making a note of everything i want to eat in the weeks after baby is born 😂 and bring on Christmas... by my maths im looking at trying to gain back a stone and a half asap 😂

How are you doing lovely?? How did the last month treat you? And appointment is coming closer?

Hope everyone else is keeping well - please update us! Xxx

@ButterflySkies Hellooo!
Oh you poor thing what a ride you’ve been having! That however is VERY exciting that meeting baby Olaf (forever baby Olaf now even though you’ve told us the name you’re thinking haha!) is coming up sooner! Is your little one excited to meet her brother ?

Ooo well that will be a treat! Least that’ll be nice and easy having your teas planned out already! And needing to put back on is a good time to do it over Christmas haha!

Last months been just long haha! Halfway through the tww again now, 7-8 days to wait to see this cycles news! I’m just really happy our November appointment is getting closer every cycle so we’re not just trying and in the back of my head I’m worried like if something is causing a problem it’s all pointless stress until it’s resolved but hey ho! Time will tell keeping my fingers crossed in the meantime!! :) xxx

@RW269 hellooooo! Sorry another week! So update - I've accepted an induction bang on 38 weeks (with the pleasure of three sweeps before). So we will be meeting baby Olaf around the 10th of October! Bit of a sea of emotion last night but i know they wouldn't do it at 38 weeks (and i had to push to say no to 37) if it wasnt for the best!

S (my daughter) is very excited - she looks so big now bless her! Shes done so well through this and im so pleased for the end is very much in touching distance now!!

How are you?? Hows this cycle... thinking of you lots my love!!! Xxx

Morning everyone.

Sadly, I'm here with upsetting news. I'll keep it brief as I know it will be shocking and possibly frightening for others.

I went into labour at 19+2 on Friday evening and gave birth to our beautiful, perfect little boy, George, on Saturday 28th September. The cause is currently being investigated. I don't think we will ever feel whole again, the pain is unimaginable.

@ButterflySkies oh my goodness only 10 days to go! So excited for you! Bless I bet your daughters going to be thrilled when baby is here! Hoping you have a nice easy last few days of your pregnancy ! Are you all ready now? :)
The waits getting harder every day 😂due on tomorrow so we will soon see though!
did a test last night and nothing showing but I had only holder for 2 hours and had 2 drinks so I wasn’t hopeful but I lost my cool waiting to test 😂😂😂 🩷xxx

@KittyFantastica
oh my goodness I’m so sorry to hear that heartbroken for you what an experience. Sending you all the love in the world 😔🩷

I’m so sorry @KittyFantastica, life is so very fragile and unfair at times. Will keep you and your gorgeous butterfly George in my thoughts 🦋

@KittyFantastica I'm so so sorry to hear this....I feel so sad for you, it's devastating, I hope you have good support / family around you.

@ButterflySkies Sending you all the well wishes for tomorrow / the coming days! Hope you have a nice smooth meeting of baby Olaf! 🩷

@KittyFantastica im so so so sorry to hear this lovely - i cant imagine what youre going through. Sending huge amounts of love and condolences xxxx

@RW269 ive sent you a PM :) xx

Hello, iv been lurking for some time since i attuggled really badly with the loss in january but after 3 years and one miscarriage I'm pregnant again. It was conpletely unexpected as we stopped officially trying 3 months ago, I had also started abstaining (mad i know but i read it helped after 3-6 months) so was gonna try it. Wede dtd once, there was noway i thought it would happen after all this time. I'm trying to manage anxiety. I have a scan booked for 7 weeks in two weeks time but it's not really taking away the worry away. Any tips? I'm afraid to get excited or tell anyone other than partner.

@KittyFantastica I'm so terribly sorry to hear about your baby. I hope that you can heal from this, it does get easier with time. In my grieving I learned to believe that it's the soul of the baby that chooses and as hard as that is to accept, its comforting in some ways to know the soul achieved what it needed, sometimes they only need a short time on earth. I wish you all the best in your healing

So sorry to have seen some bad news o tje thread for KittyFantasica. I habe been off here for a bit as driving myself nuts. Buy thought I'd have a look today and say hi. So I'm due on Sunday and have already boobs and very veiny but do t really get any pregnancy symptoms so I'm.trtimg not to test. So hard after having recurrant mc to hold off though. 43 now so i feel my time is very limited..

Hey @Racket81 hope you’re keeping okay and got some things planned to occupy your mind until Sunday!
I’m finding focusing on early Christmas time planning is helping much to my husbands dismay😂
back to square one here due to ovulate in a couple days so then be back to the tww again.
sending lots of love! Xx

Thanks. Nice to hear from you good to hear from a familiar person. I will keep you posted. Good luck for this cycle for you.

Hi @Racket81 nice to hear from you.

No real update from me, really. We held baby George's funeral on Monday and I'll be going back to work on Monday coming. Every day is a struggle. I don't feel like the same person anymore. Three losses in one year feels unbelievably cruel, and the death of our beautiful little baby boy made me feel like I'll never feel joy again. My boss has been absolutely useless through all this and has made being off very stressful, so I'm dreading going back.

My period returned exactly 28 days after George was born, which felt impossibly cruel. After my MMC at 9 weeks, it took 8 weeks just for intermittent bleeding to start and I still wasn't ovulating. This time, I could even feel ovulation, the cramp was so strong. I'm currently CD14, so expect to ovulate tomorrow or Saturday. We aren't trying again just yet as we are still waiting for the debrief and investigation results into a cause of death.

Fingers crossed for you and @RW269 x

@KittyFantastica you often pop into my head,so sorry for your loss, I really am, don't mind your boss, unfortunately sometime people lack empathy.
Hope going back to work is bare able. It's really hard so all in your own good time. I hope things turn around soon and you start to feel hopeful again cause it's all any of us really have.
Don't put any pressure on your yourself to feel any way, just keeping putting one foot in front of the other. Hope your extended family are being kind to you. Take care and mind yourself.

Aww I'm so sorry it's been such a cruel time for you. I can't I.Gine what its like for you. I have dealt with grief I mu life as I lost my mum as a young adult amd all I can say is time.does heal although I knkw this is not gonna help you for now.. I caved and tested and negative so guess waiting for peruod to come and I don't feel like I'm ever goimg to be able to male the love of my life a father. Grief is a very real and different process for everyone so be kind to yourself . Xxx

Hope you lovely lot are all doing okay 🩷🩷🩷

Thank you @Noisinmaro, @Racket81 and @RW269. How are you all doing?

CD1 for me today. Before we started TTC, it seemed like my cycles were getting shorter. They were consistently 25-27 days whereas they'd been 28-29 days for two years before then. The cycle that's just ended was a 30 day cycle, and my luteal phase has gone from 9 days to 13. It's insane how much losing George has affected my cycle.

We've been taking our TTC vitamins since end of September in case we want to try again, and I added a few new ones, so maybe that has done something. I don't know if we'll try this cycle. Time isn't on our side, and neither are statistics for having a full-term pregnancy now, so I don't know what to do.

All the results came back clear. George was absolutely perfect in every way. The cord, all the bloods, the swabs, everything. They're putting it down as unexplained and think it was either an issue with my bladder than made me start contracting at 16 weeks, or a weak cervix. But they can't say which, so a new pregnancy will basically be used to determine which it is 😭. Either way, reaching full term is very unlikely. After one pre-term labour, they usually start earlier from then on and I was only 19 weeks.

So, I'm also facing the fact I may never make the love of my life a daddy either.

Awwh @KittyFantastica you’re going through such a lot these last few months. Don’t give up hope though keep that little light of hope sparkling my lovely 🩷
Sending you all the love

@KittyFantastica just briefly on me, I'm over 16 weeks nearly 17...not a day goes by I'm glad I got through another day, weeks or scan...I've my 20 weeks scan on the 16th Dec please god.
Had NIPTS so far so good...but I don't take a day or week for granted...

I feel sad reading you message, you've been through an awful lot, don't rush anything.
It's early days yet but please don't let your past decide your future, I hear yea re what the drs say reaching full term for you unlikely but at the same time no one really knows...you even said they dont know the why?
when your strength comes back try it wilk eventually you can start to hope again as it's all we really have. Hope does not come without pain....
I haven't been through what you have been and there is no comparsion but I think everyone on here knows the disappointment off tcc, the negative thoughts and feelings that come with it.
I was in the depths of despair but I did always hope at the back of it and I got my positive eventually...
Defo start on the supplements...I follow a fertility nurse and she was saying the fertility clinics recommend proceive max strength for male and female.. I had hubby on the max for 2 months..I was on the normal proceive and had planned on going on the max then I got my positive....
I'm in ireland so I can go to a private consultant for my care at my own expense, and I'm on aspirin and 5mg folic. I was on progesterone from week 4 to 16 I do think this helped. So if you get a positive again defo try to get into the epu early on. That's what my gp did then after my first scan I booked myself into private clinic...
Our publuc system is very good just I've a medical history on top of all these issues so I just decided to go to a consultant as rater see same person if possible.
I know ireland prob very different and uk seems a better system for scans, and ootiojs re consultant led etc.
Anyways keep in touch and hopefully the new year brings new hope.

Hope you’re all keeping okay 🩷✨ Just thought I’d give a little update! Finally got this today. Got progesterone to start taking and an early scan booked. Got everything crossed my little Christmas wish stays 🤞🩷