Anyone ttc in 2024 after loss?

[janey125N]

Lost my perfect little baby at the end of October. I was 15 weeks, baby was gone since 13 weeks. Planning to start ttc again in January. I am devastated and finding it hard to cope. Also extremely nervous about being pregnant again. Yet the need to have a living baby in my arms, outweighs the crippling fear. This little baby was my first too.

Sorry for being an absolute drama lama ladies, so I managed to pick up a clear blue 6 day early test, just snuck off to the bathroom to take it I can't believe it's real.

oh gosh I'm so so happy but incredibly nervous and anxious too, but like you all keep saying one day at a time, today I'm pregnant. Wow saying that seems crazy. Today I am pregnant very early but I am pregnant.

thank you all so much for being so lovely and kind and supportive x

@Bey oh my gosh!!! That’s a strong positive 😍 congratulations lovely. Enjoy telling your husband the good news! So so pleased for you xx

Thank you so much @mamataylor ❤️

@Bey that is a beautiful strong line!! Congratulations!

Thank you @Nic2908 this thread has gave me so much support and advice I'm so grateful

@Bey look at that beauty!! So strong considering it's not FMU as well! Huge Congratulations 💕

Lost my twin sons at 29 weeks in November from a rare and sudden condition called ttts only identical twins can get this. We had a perfect scan 4 days before this hit. One of my beautiful boys was stillborn and my second little boy died in my arms four days later. We had to bury them a week later and were only 6 weeks away from my planned c section. They were perfect. Trying again and hoping we’ll conceive soon. They were our first after two previous miscarriages. Heartbroken but trying to get through each day. I’m 4dpo today.

Congrats. Delighted for you

Thank you so much ☺️

Thank you and so sorry for your loss and trauma that is utterly heartbreaking what you have been through hope this cycle is a lucky one for you

@Bey that's an awesome line! Everything crossed for you with this little bean lovely x

@Ella31 we've been on another thread together, working you luck with this next cycle!

Hey @Hopingrae I remember. How are you? How have you been?

@Ella31 i was on the other thread too. How are things??

Good. I'm 5dpo, hoping this month might be it. How are you?

Thank you @Hopingrae fingers crossed for us both, when is your booking appointment/ first scan?

@bey yes, everything crossed for us both! So I booked my booking appointment first (which took a few days to sort), as I wanted to know the date so I could book a scan for before this. MW is when I'm around 8+5 and booked scan when I'll be 8 weeks. I was really in two minds about the scan as I still feel traumatised from last time, but DH and I feel it's better to know if there's an issue sooner rather than later. I know if the scan goes on that's no guarantee either, but had to make a decision! When do you think you'll book scan for?

@Hopingrae is that just a couple of weeks away now? I honestly don't know what to do, I'll probably talk it through with my husband once I have that digital test confirmation, he still doesn't know and it still doesn't feel real to me yet. AF is due in a couple of days so I'll take one then.

is it a private scan you've booked or through the EPU? I completely understand what you mean about it being traumatising 😢 I had
my booking appointment at 9 week last time and lost the baby at 10.5 weeks just a week and half before I was due to have my 12 week scan so I'm wondering if there is any point having an early scan, if history were to repeat itself I could have one, feel reassured then still have the trauma so I just don't know what to do. I don't know that I could wait 12 weeks either! It's hard isn't it x

@bey that's a good plan to talk through with your DH and see how you feel. I hope you're bfp is still nice and strong in a couple of days. Do what feels right for you. It's so hard to know isn't it.
Yes, my scan is booked in just over 2 weeks. We had to book a private one as my epu don't do reassurance scans after previous losses. I'm not even sure of the exact date I booked it because I don't want to do the count down to it until I get there! Last time I had a scan at 7+2 I think and was measuring a week behind but there was a good HB. I knew dates were off but they said the usual "you've got your dates wrong" next scan at 9+3 ish and was told heartbeat had stopped at 6 weeks (growth equivalent) so mmc must have happened literally just after having the first scan. In my head I feel like if I get one at 8 weeks and the same thing has happened we'll know sooner... but somewhere in my head I also know that no two losses are the same, it just helps me feel a bit more in control. I hate to say it but I have very little hope at this stage. But maybe that's normal. I can only wait and see! Sorry if that sounds a bit defeatist, it's all I can manage! x

@bey and anyone else in a similar position, I did set up a thread for pregnancy support after loss recently as couldn't find another recent one. After my messages here I'm conscious they might be triggering on this board and I'm so sorry if that's been the case. Never my intention at all. If anyone wants to join if/ when ready, here's the link.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5016264-pregnancy-after-loss-support?reply=133532690

@Hopingrae I hope to join your pregnancy thread soon ☺️ your messages haven’t been triggering at all! It’s lovely to see lots of positives! I know my time will come and hopefully it’s soon 🤞
so glad everything is going ok for you x

Thank you @Hopingrae I'll pop over to that thread now that I've had my confirmation on a digital.

@mamataylor ill still be looking out for you on this thread wishing you so much luck and baby dust

I tested today at 10dpo and now I can see the faintest of lines. I've ordered some first response that should be here by tonight. But I don't think I'll believe it till it's on a digital. I'm excited but also terrified. I'll attach a photo but I'm unsure if it's visible on camera.

@Chaz693 i can see a line! Tentative congratulations to you. I felt exactly the same and needed a digital to make believe I really was pregnant. Good luck 🤞

@Bey thank you. I was so shocked. It being our first cycle since our miscarriage I honestly didn't have much hope. So I was expecting af to turn up today but so far it hasn't. So I'm holding out hope that we have been very lucky. X