Anyone ttc in 2024 after loss?

[janey125N]

Lost my perfect little baby at the end of October. I was 15 weeks, baby was gone since 13 weeks. Planning to start ttc again in January. I am devastated and finding it hard to cope. Also extremely nervous about being pregnant again. Yet the need to have a living baby in my arms, outweighs the crippling fear. This little baby was my first too.

Well I'm out this month AF arrived.
Congrats to all the bfp and fingers crossed for those still waiting to hear
And hugs to those that it's not this time

Just opened this thread after a break from mumsnet and getting BFN and period

opened it on your post @Hopingrae i can definitely see a line lovely, so pleased for you and I'm keeping everything crossed

Ladies, I have a serious problem 😫
I keep taking tests then obsessively staring at them and shining a torch to try and see a second line, because I really WANT to see it.

For a split second I'll think I see something but know it's not really there.
Maybe I just need to use up the strips I have left in the house and not get any more 😕

@Gracie1825 wishing you all the luck for your next cycle.
@123456789ss I've totally been there. I did that last month, looking under lamps. I really hope you're bfp is not far away at all.
@Bey I was going to ask how things were going with you, nice to see you pop up again. I had a few weeks off too, it helps. Thank you so much lovely. I've had a positive digital now and a slightly darker line on 10dpo and 11dpo (although still quite faint). I feel a mix between glad, numb and scared I think. Mostly numb. I'm going to stop testing and keep living life and hope and pray for the best.

This is all so positive @Hopingrae ill keep everything crossed this is a sticky little beam for you x

Anyone have heavy periods after Loss? This is my second one and it's just as heavy as the first one

Yes. I've just had my second one post miscarriage and I normally only bleed for 4 days and the last day is spotting. But this one went on for 6 days and was heavy throughout. Felt like it was never going to end.

@Gracie1825 yes mine have been very heavy

@Bey @Chaz693 I figured it was probably normal enough. Good to know you guys are similar. Hopefully we won't have too many of them and get bfp soon 🤞

@Gracie1825 i think it's quite usual but it leaves you guessing if alls ok doesn't it. Oh fingers crossed we all get some BFPs very soon x

Does anyone know anything about bbt I've started doing it this cycle but my readings are so all over the place that I can't make sense of it. I take it the moment I wake up before even getting out of bed. But it's so up and down every day that my chart looks more like a heart trace than a bbt chart.

so here goes the start of another two week wait, we've dtd every other day including what should be my ovulation day 4 times in total I hope we've done enough. Gosh the tww is just torture isn't it. I really really really hope this times our month.

@Hopingrae how are things?

@Bey hope it goes quickly for you! I always find the first week I’m fine but as I enter the second week I’m like a crazy lady symptom spotting!
I’m 14dpo today, af due tomorrow or Saturday.

@Hopingrae hope all is ok with you 🥰

Thank you @mamataylor yes the second week is TORTURE. Keeping everything crossed af stays away and you get a BFP when are you testing?

@Bey id like to say Saturday but I don’t know if I can wait that long 😂 thank you x

@Bey @mamataylor I'm doing ok thanks lovely ladies. I'm now 3 days post AF due date and I had a strong line yesterday morning so I've put the tests down and going to see what happens. I'm undecided about early scans, but I've registered for a booking appointment. To start with I'm going to tell myself "this is my fifth week off pregnancy" and not track any further than that and I've not downloaded tracking apps this time either. Last time I was obsessively tracking each day which added to the torture I think when I found out about mmc. But whatever we do, I don't think it's easy after loss.
@mamataylor everything crossed for you, I'm so impressed with your will power not to have tested before!! Have you had any symptoms? Sending all the luck you way.
@Bey sounds like you've given yourself the best shot at TTC this month definitely. I hope you're TWW passed really quickly for you! Have you got a test date in mind? I said I'd wait until 11dpo but started at 8dpo, which was obviously bfn! x

@Hopingrae this is really promising news, keeping everything crossed for you to have a healthy pregnancy.

i think that's a really good idea to not track, I understand about early scans at first I was thinking if I'm lucky enough to fall pregnant again I'd like to have an early scan, but my baby passed at week 9 almost 10 so even if I'd had a scan at 6 weeks and all was okay by my 12 week scan it still would have been sad news so I think I'd try and hold out, however I don't know how ill actually feel if I'm to fall pregnant again.

I think taking it each week at a time and staying calm is definitely the way to go. I don't find all the tracking apps etc that helpful, I think it adds to the anxiety.

im going to TRY my hardest to wait until AF is late, I find I get obsessed and test test test and it's just torturing myself so if I can I'm going to try and wait until it's late. I'm so hoping this is our month. I'm not sure how much longer we want to keep trying if it's not as we're both getting older.

@Hopingrae no sign of AF so far today. I didn’t test this morning either! I think I’ll test tomorrow morning.
symptom wise I’ve literally had sore boobs, pulling sensations/cramps & an on/off backache. I’m trying to stay levelheaded and not get my hopes up 🙈

Keeping everything crossed for you @mamataylor

@Bey @Hopingrae af came right on time this morning at 6am 😫 I’m actually feeling ok about it though. I hate being in limbo with it all xx

@mamataylor sorry af turned up, but good that you're feeling ok with it all. You're right, the limbo sucks. Onwards and upwards, another cycle closer.
I was out today with a friend and I felt quite crampy which really worried me. Seems to have eased off now but don't a lot of loo checking! I've had 2 close friends tell me this week they're pregnant after successful 12 week scans. I know this sounds really silly, but it makes me worry more because I keep thinking well if their pregnancies are ok that ups the odds of mine not being OK. I just wish we could know and not go through all the waiting. Grrr. Anyway, sorry to rant just had a few worries pop up today.

@Hopingrae thats it! Hopefully next month is our month. It’s so frustrating when you do everything right and then you still don’t get a positive test at the end of the month 🫠

I remember with my daughter I had cramps in the 5th week and constantly went to the loo and thought af was coming! It’s definitely normal so try not to worry (easier said than done!)

try and push those thoughts aside - you’re pregnant and there’s a strong possibility that this one will go just fine and you’ll get a gorgeous little baby at the end ♥️ (I will defo be the same as you though, so you’re not alone!) pregnancy after loss is completely different journey - anxiety always shadows the excitement, especially before the 12 week scan! X

@mamataylor argh sorry AF arrived, I'm pleased you're feeling okay though, I completely agree with what you mean about the limbo I hate the not knowing in the last week of the tww.

fingers crossed next month is your month 🤞 it's so frustrating isn't it, just one of those things that we have zero control over!

@Hopingrae gosh that's tough with the pregnancy announcements around you. I understand what you're saying but try not to think that way. Sending you so so many positive hopeful vibes

@mamataylor @Bey aw thanks lovely ladies. I'll let you know how things go. We've decided we will book an early scan, probs around 8 weeks before my booking appointment with midwife which will be when I'm 8+5. In the meantime, one day at a time and lots of greys anatomy!
Wish you guys all the luck with this month! x

I'm 7dpo today and symptom spotting like crazy I know I shouldn't and it's silly but can't help it, I've had pain in my breast, and stabby pains down below, the odd wave of feeling sickly, but my toddler is poorly and has been keeping me awake so could just be tiredness. I hate the tww I just end up wishing time away. I really want to wait until AF is due to test because I can't bear the disappointment of BFN then the hope of it still being too early then the disappointment of AF showing so I'm hoping if I can hold it's at least just one disappointment to deal with although I am pinning all my hopes on AF not arriving