I'm FUCKING sick of this, come wail with me and help me please.

[MademoiselleFrenglish]

Right. Started my period this morning, onto cycle 12 and I mean BUSINESS. No one seems to want to talk to us until we've been suffering endlessly for over 48 years, so I'm taking matters into my own hands.

I've obviously read all there is to know about conception and what you should/shouldn't take bla dee bla but I'm looking to go back to basics and would like some MN knowledge, please.

Me:

• 28 years old
• Regular periods my entire life
• Average cycle 29 - 30 days
• Average luteal phase 12 days
• Periods usually last about 4-5 days with only 2-3 days of heavy bleeding, not too much cramping
• Quit smoking a year ago
• Don't drink much alcohol
• 1-2 cups coffee a day
• Breathtakingly beautiful and perfect in every way
• Healthy diet - I calorie count on My Fitness Pal, diet is mainly Mediterranean as I live in France
• Have had 2 chemicals, I believe, but also possible that the lines were evaps and it was just a dodgy batch

DH:

• 31 years old
• Never had a period 🙂
• Healthy, works out, good diet, quit smoking a year ago, no issues in the bedroom, good sex drive, very good at getting things off of high shelves etc etc

Supplements I take:

• 120mg - 240mg CoQ10 daily
• Folic acid daily
• Vit D daily
• Vit C every now and then

Supplements DH takes:

• 120mg CoQ10 daily as long as I have enough left for me, if so, he goes down to once every couple of days until we can get more
• Vit D

I bought Maca powder recently, I've read the good and the bad but I think I'm willing to give it a go, so will take 1 tsp daily and DH probably will do the same.

Mentally, I'm flitting between "I'm so fucking DONE with TTC screw babies and their stupid little STUPID faces, I don't need one!" or wailing on the bathroom floor in a puddle of my own tears, OR floating around the house in an impenetrable bubble of positivity repeating the mantra "everything will work out in the end" whilst waving around smoky sage and fairy tears. So all in all, pretty good.

I'd just like some advice, really.

This was us. Well, without the smoking/nicotine.

Sadly for us it was a MF issue. Husband had a really low sperm count in all ways. There was no amount of shagging that would have made a difference.

We had DS by ICSI/IVF.

Fortunately for us, my DD came along naturally soon after! But there have been no more babies despite another IVF round and 9 years of unprotected sex.

Good luck.

I conceived the day after I had been on an all dayer my mates. I was prescribed clomid as not always ovulating but the first round failed. The month that worked my husband took Maca, we used preseed and decided to have fun,not get hung up about it and now the result is 4.5.
Deffo get your husband tested though, my friend tried for a year with her husband and they tested and his sperm didn’t swim, at all. She had to have IVF, and wished they had been tested earlier to save that year

Haha I managed to conceive my last 2 that way... 😅 🤣

Nooooo I always orgasm b4 DH too... or we go at the same time

Feet up against the wall after sex.....helps the sperm. Easier said than done but try and relax..... sometimes the worry can stop you conceiving. Good luck 🍀❤️🤞

You should have gone to bed earlier last night. Staying up late and being a bitch to people on the internet isn’t a good way to get over your own issues.

Omg that is so rude. I don't have issues and I wasn't being a bitch I suggested that relaxing a bit might help

You posted on more than one thread last night being nasty to vulnerable posters. There’s a reason why MN took your post down, because they agreed. Just think about the effect of what you post before you do it.

You posted on more than one thread last night being nasty to vulnerable posters. There’s a reason why MN took your post down, because they agreed. Just think about the effect of what you post before you do it.

No I did not. And you haven't provided any evidence so stop accusing me of things I haven't done. Looks like MN have taken your post down now so I guess they agree with me

Here

Well I'm glad to report that taking December off so far is going wonderfully. Had mulled wine and pizza last night.

It actually feels really freeing to be let off the hook, so to speak, this month. Sex doesn't feel like it needs to be done at the "right" time, I don't feel guilty about my mulled wine last night, and I might even have a gasp bath in a couple of days! Pâté and blue cheese are on my shopping list this month.

Am I (not so secretly) hoping that the lack of tracking and the abundance of chilling out (and pâté, and sex, and wine, and chocolate) this month will result in a BFP? Of course. But it does feel like a weight off my shoulders for a little while. In Jan I'll be arse up head down as much as I please. Thank you lovely ladies, immensely. Sending you lots of wet and disgusting smooches 🧡

I second trying this. We went through fertility issues (DH low sperm count and low motility). We had two natural pregnancies within a total of just under 4 years trying. Both times were when dh orgasmed first then finished me off 😅 we didn't plan it, it was a coincidence!

I'm sorry if my post upset anyone. I didn't mean to, at all.

My dr friend once told me that if there's a problem, nothing you can do such as taking vitamins, having sex upside down on a Tuesday etc will help as you need medical intervention. And if there are no medical issues, as long as you're having sex during your fertile window, it'll happen even if you're overweight and not tracking your cervical discharge etc.

Get his sperm checked as it's the easiest and least invasive process

Come off the tracking for now and enjoy Xmas. In the new year try the egg white tracking. It was only one day that I could get pregnant. The third and last day of egg white. I really wanted it then anyway. So not much of a hardship! I tried it on first day of egg white. Nothing. Second day... nothing. In Jan ... admittedly more rested did on the third day (my last day) and bingo. He definitely came first!
How many days do you make ewm?

You need to get some testing done. Your partner could have low sperm count, mine did. I was very shocked because he's very fit and eats well, never smoked or doesn't drink. But his sperm count was low because of an enlarged vein in the balls.
You are doing everything right.

This might be a load of rubbish and a pure coincidence, but we’d been trying to no avail, then first month of trying the sperm meets egg plan and we conceived. I wouldn’t be willing to put money on that helping, but it was the only thing we did differently that month! Did all the other recommended things such as fertilily cup thing, pre-seed, ovulation tracking- everything! I was starting to lose the will to live (and importantly DTD!)!

Good luck!

Not sure if anyone else has posted about this but worth trying Sperm Meets Egg plan and Clear Blue Fertility monitor (Amazon sell this) x

I’m not prepared to spend any more time on this but you were clearly in a bad mood that night. Just think before you post stuff. That’s all.

not prepared to spend any more time on this but you were clearly in a bad mood that night. Just think before you post stuff. That’s all.

Nor am I so stop hounding me. I was not in a bad mood I do think before I post. So I said someone sounded needy and you called me a bitch! I suggest you think before you post

You asked for evidence. I gave it. I’m sure you have lots of positive elements to your personality but that evening you were being unkind. Only you know your reasons for it. Up to you how you behave from now on.

You asked for evidence. I gave it. I’m sure you have lots of positive elements to your personality but that evening you were being unkind. Only you know your reasons for it. Up to you how you behave from now on.

Have you read some of the posts on here and the rest of the internet? Basically I suggested that one poster should relax and said another was needy... really absolutely nothing compared to the stuff posted elsewhere. These comments weren't even directed at you so why are you looking them up and hounding me about it why do you think you can tell me what to post and how to behave

Please leave me alone

I know this is annoying but I swear it's stresa. First baby I fell pregnant the first month we tried (aka I came off the pill and no condoms). Second time it took 10 months with me doing ovulation testing and tracking my cycle with Flo. I had daily baths and would highly recommend you don't give up anything that gives you joy (wine pate whatever) because when you do get pregnant and have small children you'll look back on this time as paradise.

Enjoyed this post a lot! Nice to see a bit of humour when a lot of us are here in some pretty miserable times!

We tried for 18 months, with 12 cycles using the OPKs. I eventually got pregnant 2 cycles after a Hycosy (even though there were no blockages) and after 2-3 cycles of using the Preseed.

Baby hung on in there but at the 12 week scan we found out it was poorly and we had to terminate.

Now on the TTC wagon again and I am here for all the crazy little things that might just make the difference this time. I've added 600mg ubiquinol in for egg quality.

Yep we've tried sperm meets egg but to no avail, that's just the natural way our sex life has been going since beginning TTC.

I'm really intrigued with DH orgasming first, it really is the only thing that we haven't changed in all these months, our bodies just aren't wired that way so never thought of it. We've already discussed various ways to make sure that's he's all sorted first, so at least it'll be fun to try something new 😀

Will get him a sperm test in Jan if still no luck and will also use the CB ovulation sticks instead of the Easy at home ones. In the meantime we'll just both keep taking our vitamins as that's become a daily habit anyway.

Thanks. I figure it'll all end up the same whether we're miserable or happy, so I choose to be happy (most of the time..)

Sorry to hear that it didn't stick for you the first time. It really is absolutely royally shit.

Where do you buy your ubiquinol? The pharmacies round here don't really stock it so I've only found 120mg. I struggle taking pills so prefer capsules as I can just dump out the contents on a spoon, everything on amazon and the like is gel capsules (and I can't squeeze out the gel!)

So the whole thing with him finishing first…tmi but if I have my bum in the air trying to guide the swimmers to the cervix with gravity…how am I then supposed to orgasm? 🙈😂😂