2023 TTC 35+ Part 6

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New thread as the other one ran out of space

@Catson as far as I know... Still feeling ever so cautious. However I've also got achey boobs and bit nauseous/increased hunger so hopefully something is happening! 5+5 now... 🙏🏼 Roughly when are you due your 12wk scan? Hopefully you get the date through soon! 💕

I'm keeping everything crossed for you @SnookyPook I have my scan date, it's 19th. Just got to wait for it to come around 🫠

@SouthwestSis so sorry to hear you've gone through this. I had a CP just a couple of weeks ago and my cycle has got back to normal straight away, peaked yesterday so DTD tonight then back in the TWW. I had GD too, interesting they've told you to take a higher dose of folic acid, I've not been told to do that.

As for the age gap, a lot of us are in that position, you can't change anything so no point dwelling on it. My son will be 4 in Feb so I'll have a 4.5 year age gap and counting.

@FigandHoney that's amazing! So pleased it's looking well for you so far.

Hey, age gap wise we would be looking at 10.5y if this baby works out and more if not… there are pros and cons to all age gaps. Definitely cheaper for one thing (although don’t do what I did and sell all the maternity and baby stuff a few months before deciding actually yes, you do want another baby!!) 🤦‍♀️

@SouthwestSis I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s so horrible to go through. I hope you’re as ok as you can be x

Thats great @FigandHoney! What a lovely scan photo! That’s great you’re further ahead than you thought.

Thanks so much for all the lovely supportive messages re my scan! I really hope they have just dated it wrong and that everything is ok. I’m so very anxious. Might see if I can get my NHS one early as my LMP was 9th September (I ovulated very late) so I know they normally go on this for scans. That would mean my scan would be very soon which would be good!

@SouthwestSis So sorry to hear this - hope you’re doing ok all things considered. It’s nice to have some joy - don’t beat yourself up about it. I think you’re meant to be quite fertile after so get cracking again. There are pros and cons to different ages gaps.

My AF coming to an end now, anyone else have the stop start thing with it - such a pain when you’re thinking it’s done and comes on heavy again!

Our little man has decided to stop sleeping 2-5am … he had a cold last week so we gave extra support in that time and now I think he just wants to hang out at night!! We need to getting trying again soon but not sure hubby or I will have the energy !! I am wondering if need to try to DTD every other for the next 2 weeks - cause I think have been ovulating later than had thought 🤔🤔

Hope everyone okay and enjoying this dreary Sunday!

Hi ladies, I’ve been awol for a little bit, just read back and caught up. Huge congrats to the BFPs!!

I‘ve currently got this horrible viral cough thing that seem to be sweeping the country. I’ve been poorly for 5 weeks now and I’m totally fed up. It just leaves you feeling really tired and not really wanting to do much baby making!

I’m also now on CD44 and have plenty of symptoms that tell me AF is on the way but no sign of her yet frustratingly. I came off the pill in September so this is my 2nd cycle since. The 1st was 36 days long so I hoped this one would be similar or shorter. I feel kind of in limbo. I did take a pregnancy test about a week ago and it was negative. That coupled with the stomach cramps and sore boobs makes me think I’m out and just waiting for AF but the inner optimist says pee on another stick!! Haha

Hope everyone is managing ok with the miserable weather. We don’t seem to have had a day without snow/ice/rain for so long!! Roll on spring

@Fullofconfusion hope you're better soon. 3 weeks yesterday for me since mine started, I've never been so ill. Back in the TWW now though so I've had to stop all painkillers and medicine 😪 definitely doesn't leave you feeling up to DTD, I've struggled this week.

Hope AF shows up soon, can't imagine having cycles that long, must be incredibly frustrating, especially when TTC as it's not helpful at all leaving you with no idea what's going on.

Had an internal scan today and it looks like my C-section scar could be causing us issue as it hasn't healed correctly. I've definitely ovulated this week so at least that's a positive. Have to go for more testing but if my tubes aren't blocked and the cause is definitely my C-section scar then there isn't anything they would do on NHS as we already have DD.

Feeling a bit down now as even if the tests show a diagnostic reason for us not getting pregnant, there really isn't anything they can do about it.

@jellyfish2210 oh that's rubbish. Can't they give you anything more than that? And would it be a case of no hope or be dependent on where an egg implanted etc? Sending you a massive hug and hope you get more clarity soon 💕

@SnookyPook Basically the consultant said that it would just be a case of continuing to try naturally. I think there are surgical options but they come with risks because I have co-morbidities. Just left feeling quite deflated. At least DH's sperm analysis was high quality so we have that going for us.

Internal scan was quite painful at times, poor DH probably still doesn't have feeling in his hand 😂.

@jellyfish2210 I’m sorry, that’s tough news to deal with. Good news on the sperm quality though. Glad you were able to have your DH with you for the scan- well done for getting through it.

@Fullofconfusion ugh, I really hope things sort themselves out soon! Every few months I have a mega long cycle and I’m having one at the moment. Since Thursday evening I have done four (!!) tests and they’ve all been so starkly negative. I stare at them like you wouldn’t believe, literally trying to will pink dye into existence. I keep thinking that if it’s a longer cycle then maybe I ovulated later so maybe implantation was later so maybe I’m still in the game. Equally I feel like I’ve already grieved this month though, so I’m just really impatient for AF to start so that I can move on. In short, I hope you’re feeling much better soon and that I would do another test if I were you, but I think that’s obvious from my behaviour 😂

Really long cycles can include chemical pregnancies i believe

So sorry @SouthwestSis it’s so cruel 😔 sending you lots of love xxx

@SouthwestSis I’m so sorry to hear this. I hope that your husband is back now and you’ve spoken to people about this? So tough going through things alone. Also, you’re not silly to get your hopes up and start making plans. I do feel for you with the age gap thing… I also made peace with the fact I’d never get two under two, which is what I wanted, but just grateful to have a child at all now. I just hope you fall pregnant again super quickly and have some good news for the New Year ❤️

@jellyfish2210 you sound like you’re going through a lot too and hope you get the answers you need soon.

@SnookyPook we are nearly the same at the moment, I’m 5 + 4 days today. Hope you’re feeling ok? I feel fine but utterly whacked this week. So tired!

Rubbish times here
They try and solve a problem
And find many more

Last week
Urgent nhs liver mri
And lower abdomen

Theyve found gallstones

And also stuff on my right ovary

Gynae discharged me in jul and sep

In jul they did transvaginal scan - urgently - saie not ovarian cancer

Now dec nhs mri - issues down below - stuff theyve found

And my consistently elevated / abnormal ca125

Gp has rushed my case to gastro

Ive emailed gastro secretaries myself this eve

Im also ringing gynae secretaries tomorro

Gp has also reached out to gynae :(

@worldwidetravel2017 so sorry to hear this. It's one thing after another isn't it 😞 I really hope you get some definitive answers soon (and that it's nothing too scary). Sending a big hug. Hope you're ok. Are you getting any mental health support through all this? 💕 X

Im broken.. literally - another example where they try and fix and problem and find more

I have a counsellor

@worldwidetravel2017 you’re definitely going through the mill at the moment. I feel for you. I really hope you get some answers soon. Definitive ones.

@jellyfish2210 I’m keeping everything crossed for more positive news for you.

@Bumblebee413 I had such bad stomach cramps yesterday and thought this is it but no, AF still not here. They were proper doubled over cramps. I’ve still got them today but to a lesser extent. Caved and took another test but still negative as expected. AF just needs to get a move on!

@RoseH36 I’m sorry you have the horrible virus too. I totally feel your pain. I was really poorly at the beginning and now I’m just stuck with this blooming cough

Thanks @Cressie2 yeah husband is back now and have told a friend and my sister about the loss and feel better for having people know I need a bit of TLC.
Sounds hard @worldwidetravel2017 , have you got any nice plans coming up to take your mind off things?

Sorry to hear about the cramps @Fullofconfusion , hopefully they'll be better once your period actually appears.

I have now caught the horrible cold/sore throat virus, am aching all over and so tired.
Not what I needed!

@jellyfish2210 I'm so sorry to hear that, I always thought it would only cause a problem if implantation occurred too close to it?

@Fullofconfusion the cough is the frustrating bit. Several times I've thought it's gone and then it's back. Seems to alternate between chesty and dry coughs so I've had all sorts of medicine on the go.

@SouthwestSis sorry to hear you've now caught it. Try to get as much rest as you can. The tiredness floored me, I was in bed before 9 several days in a row.

@worldwidetravel2017 you've got so much going on. Sending you lots of hugs.

@RoseH36 I think the problem is because the scar has closed off part of the entrance to my womb. So it was only half open, if that makes sense. At least I think that's what the consultant was trying to tell me. She said she would write to me with all the information as it was a full on overload and it was very overwhelming

Thanks all
Im going to dinner with a friend tonight
And have quality time with my partner at the weekend
Bday month too.

Ive learnt this year that transvaginal scan doesnt give you an all clear -
Mri is much better

@jellyfish2210 I've never heard of that before 😪 I hope all your other tests are ok and fingers crossed there is still a chance you could have a successful pregnancy even with that. Seems so unfair the NHS won't help though.

I'm still waiting on a call about the NIPT results. My obgyn is away so another doctor should be calling. They asked me to repeat my urine test yesterday after my doctor told me I'm in great shape to have a baby at 40. No explanation why.
Same with being able to tell if there was in fact a twin. Just seems science is so advanced in some ways and not really in others. I wasn't really told what will happen if my NIPT test comes back positive/false positive. Are there other tests we can do? It's stressful because it's a conversation to be had with my husband as well, if it's positive. It's hard to concentrate on the positives when this is still hanging over our heads and we can't really tell families till we know.
It's kind of crazy that just two years ago I was pregnant with my son and I didn't have to worry about this. Like did my body or health change that much?

Btw your photo of your bean looks beautiful ❤️ are you having any symptoms??