2023 TTC 35+ Part 6

[VixFromThe6ix]

New thread as the other one ran out of space

Good luck with the scan - it’s a whole new pregnancy! Got it all crossed for you.

When in TWW do you people drink? I have been a bit - with my son i didn’t know was pregnant yet (has tested but early and was negative) basically drank a whole bottle of Prosecco one time- he was fine thankfully! I did feel very bad though!

Still no period here and no positive tests - really unsure what the hell is going on with my body at the mo. It’s 8 days late and never been this late before. Was later than normal last month too - paranoid it’s the peri starting. Bodies are so confusing !

@Lalaland13 I only drink when we're out or over Christmas but I've not had anything since Feb after my mmc. Every social event this year has fallen in the TWW and although I know it wouldn't have any impact I've chosen not to drink. With not being a big drinker it's never aroused any suspicion from anyone and our closest family and friends know we're trying.

Bodies are annoyingly confusing! I've had months where I've had lots of twinges and been convinced I'm pregnant and haven't been, then last month was convinced I was out as I'd felt nothing but clearly wasn't. I hope you get answers one way or another soon as that is quite late.

NHS liver mri today

Bit sick of hospitals

James blunt cinema tomorrow eve tho

And xmas markets this afternoon

Hope it’s gone well today @worldwidetravel2017. Excellent plans for afterwards!

In this month’s episode of me getting too excited too soon, I’ve woken up today going ‘I might find out I’m pregnant in four days!!’ 🤦🏼‍♀️ I’ve had a coldy bug for the last few days that has left me feeling ‘too full’ to the point of nausea and an achey lower back.

My boobs aren’t sore, which they normally are pre period and I don’t believe that I am pregnant, I’ve just fallen in love with the idea of telling DH I am, if I am, on his birthday on Saturday. I think I’ll be around 13 DPO, so hopefully should see something if we’ve been lucky 🤞🏼

Thinking of you today @worldwidetravel2017 , hope all goes well at the scan. Glad you have had some lovely things to do to keep you busy inbetween it all.

So lovely to see the positive posts on this thread recently, sending everyone lots of luck & wishing you all healthy pregnancies! :)

I have been relatively quiet on here but reading in the background, just not much to report! I am 1DPO today so 2WW begins, would love to get a BFP just before Christmas but what will be will be. I have my repeat day 21 bloods next week as GP wanted me to repeat them due to last months being borderline low. My partner has his sperm analysis next week also, so things are moving in the right direction (hopefully).

Hope everyone is doing ok! Anybody else heading into the 2WW? x

Thank you
The hot dog reporter said images yest were clear enough 4 an answer without contrast
I reacted to contrast in Nov so they didnt wana give contrast unless needed

He did ask 4 more lower abdomen mri images tho.

More bloods tomo
Including liver , cholesterol, diabetes, folate etc

Sending you all the luck

Post above about yest

Cinema tonight with a pal

Ive ordered a NAfLD cook book

My jul 2023 day 21 bloods werent great
But they didnt ask to retest
.concieved off aug ovulation last yr
Then early miscarriage in sept

Not trying in dec to feb

Currently off folate / folic acid which has improved my legs

Folate changes cells

Will get them 2 re look at day 21 bloods in Jan or feb

@worldwidetravel2017 ah sorry missed that one! glad you don't need to have the contrast after your last bad reaction to it. Lots of luck for your bloods today & enjoy the cinema tonight!

@worldwidetravel2017 really hope the bloods go well and so pleased to hear that they haven’t found anything sinister to date. Hope you enjoy your cinema outing and can chill a little.

@H0pefull i hope you’re busy over the TWW and can enjoy the run up to Christmas. 🤞🏻this is your month.

@Bumblebee413 only a few more days to wait for you! Are you going to test early? If not, you’re a more patient woman than I was. Hoping it all goes well for you.

I’m 5 weeks tomorrow. Still taking each day as it comes and just want to get the scan out of the way in a fortnight because as soon as I see a heartbeat, whilst not out of the MC zone, I can relax a little.

Sending good wishes to you all 💕

That’s exciting @Cressie2! Bet you can’t wait. How are you feeling?

I don’t think I actually believe I am this time, so it’s making it easier to wait. That and I think both that it feels a little too early and because there has been a bit of a run of CPs here. I think I’d find it easier not to know if that was the case, if that makes any sense?

Finally, I think because of the birthday. He’s asked me to tell him as soon as I know this time (waited 24 hours last time because he had the last day of his course and I didn’t want to distract him 😂) and it would just be lovely if I could tell him on his birthday.

Thanks @Bumblebee413, @RoseH36 and @Cressie2 💗

I guess it’s my own fault as my husband did tell me he didn’t want another baby, he just agreed in the end because he knew how much I wanted one and because he thought it was good for our little boy to have a sibling, but I kind of hoped he’d come round and be a tiny bit happy when it actually happened.

@Cressie2 I don’t have any work parties, but I’ve decided to tell my family early (if all goes well at the scan) because of the not drinking thing! It’s so hard trying to hide a pregnancy around Christmas isn’t it with so many drinking occasions?!

I hope it’s your month @Bumblebee413 and you’re able to surprise your partner on his birthday!

I’m having a 7 week scan tomorrow! I’m so scared!!

@Mrsspoon3 ooh best of luck for tomorrow! Will have mine in a couple of weeks and I'm going to be so nervous before. Hope all goes as well as possible for you xxx

@Bumblebee413 that all makes lots of sense. Everything crossed for you that you're able to give him a lovely surprise on his birthday 💕

@worldwidetravel2017 good or hear your updates. Hope you were able to enjoy cinema this eve - did you say it was James Blunt? Any good?

@H0pefull best of luck for tww!!

@Lalaland13 any sign of AF yet? So frustrating when she messes you around. X

@Mrsspoon3 completely understandable- you really wanted one and he said he wanted a sibling for your son. I absolutely get how you’ve all got to where you are. You wanted this baby so badly and he agreed. You know him better than anyone. Do you think he’s the type to stick to his guns over things or is there potential for him to come around once he meets them? I really hope that the scan goes well for you tomorrow. X

@SnookyPook @CurlyWurly1991 @SouthwestSis congratulations to you ladies!!! How great to see some BFPs one after another on here. Hope for a sticky little bean for you all 🤞🏻

13 weeks right now. Most annoying first trimester symptoms have eased to the point of being bearable. I had a scan at 7 weeks, 9 weeks and now at 13 weeks this week. I think because I went through a fertility clinic and my age they scheduled me for two early ones and I had one this week from my new obgyn. I also did the genetic testing blood work. Apparently after 40 it's 1 in 100 chance for downs. Bit nervous about the results. The expensive NIPT test is free after 40 so I took that one.... 99% accuracy, so let's see. It really feels like there isn't a moment where it's been calm and relaxing.... Obgyn believes that I did not actually have a vanishing twin as it wasn't confirmed 100%. Second sack was seen on week 7 us but not on week 9 one. Otherwise if it was confirmed I wouldn't be able to take the NIPT as this would skew the results. But what if it was there..... What if my result will be skewed because of it. I'll won't be able to know if it's because the chances are actually high to have downs in this baby or if it's because of a potential vanishing twin.

Anyways I'm rambling lol I'm sorry!!!!

Again, congratulations to all the BFPs and best of luck and tons of baby dust to those in the TWW period ❤️

@VixFromThe6ix thats so frustrating lol your anxious anyway but then to have that on your mind until you give birth to be sure. Whatever the results are you will still have your baby and like you said...there could have been a twin there like you was originally told thats hindered the results. Maybe get a 4d scan later on for peice of mind xx @H0pefull really hope you get your postive after so long x

Ohh gosh @Mrsspoon3 hope he comes around, I think some men just aren’t interested until the baby is here and even then when they’re more into communicating. When I was pregnant my husband was never the excited sort like some expectant dads are but it all has worked out lovely.

Hope all the results go well @worldwidetravel2017 - sounds like you’ve really been through it but are keeping yourself occupied with lots of lovely plans.

All the tests for genetic differences are so scary and I think I never felt happy until I knew we were all clear, it’s so just one big worry isn’t it! But will be worth it when you hold your bundle 🥰🥰

AF started yesterday - with a vengeance! Anyone have major arguments with their OHs just before?! It’s like we are both super sensitive and just argue over the silliest things. I am relieve AF came - knew wasn’t pregnant and it’s good to get to the next cycle. I think we may have to DTD every other day to get pregnant as it’s so variable now. Have the docs Monday to talk over it all as it’s been really quite painful these days and have had to take some time off work

@Supertrooper101 thanks lovely, hope you are doing ok xx

@Mrsspoon3 hope everything goes well for you today.

@Lalaland13 glad to hear AF has turned up, even though its sounding worse than usual for you. At least it saves you wondering what's going on. Hope your appointment goes well next week.

@VixFromThe6ix so glad to hear things are well for you. Hope all the tests come back fine. There was a second sac with the start of a foetal pole when I had my son. It was believed that caused the bleed I had around 5 weeks but I was told as nothing had developed in it then it would naturally be absorbed by the other one. It only ever showed up on the scan I had around 5 weeks.

Got my high on a Clearblue test this morning so fingers crossed it looks like my body has got itself back into normal quite quickly following the CP. Now to hope it doesn't take another 6 cycles before I'm pregnant again.

Thanks so much for the messages 💗
So I’m not sure what to make of the scan. There was definitely a baby and a strong heartbeat apparently, so that’s really good! However, I know I am at least 7 weeks pregnant today, but probably a bit more. I don’t know when I ovulated but we only had sex once, so the minimum of 7 weeks would be if I ovulated 5 days after we had sex as apparently sperm can live in the body for a maximum of 5 days. However, I only measured 6 weeks 3 days on the scan. I asked if I should be worried and explained briefly the situation, but she didn’t seem to get it and said I could only be sure of the dates if I had IVF. However for me to be 6 weeks 3 days his sperm would have had to survive in my body for 11 days!! I’m really anxious about the baby measuring around a week smaller than it should be!

@Mrsspoon3 try not to worry, the measurements are based on the size of the baby so it is maybe growing normally but slower than average. Also, say you ovulated 5 days after, there's then the conception and implantation which can take a good few days, and there is no exact science for how long. Also, I know people who have had early scans then the go back for one just a couple of weeks later and baby is back up where expected. Remember at this stage they are tiny, tiny things so getting a completely accurate size will be hard. If there's a good heartbeat and the last wasn't concerned then I wouldn't be either. How many weeks would you be based on the first day of your LMP?

@Mrsspoon3 I completely agree with @Catson whilst also acknowledging that I would be feeling equally as worried if it was me. But really, depending on rotation of image, time to implantation etc, measurements could be slightly off and because they're so tiny, any slight misread could mean days difference in estimate. The good heartbeat is a great sign. Try not to worry too much (far easier said than done I know) 💕

Try not to worry @Mrsspoon3 the NHS sonographers said a measurement within 7 days of your own estimate is perfectly normal. Congratulations ❤️

Just wanted to pop in to say congratulations @CurlyWurly1991 . How are you doing?

@Mrsspoon3 I am sorry your ultrasound has spooked you. Try to concentrate on baby being there and with a strong heartbeat. That's really good. This early the tiniest fraction of a mm makes a difference in gestation. At 7 weeks baby is only 9mm and at 6 weeks it is 5mm. Ultrasounds are more of an art than an exact science. So a small mistake in measurement could explain it. Also sperm can last 7 days inside you and then some embryos take a little longer to implant. With my son for instance I didn't get a bfp until 4 days after my missed af with a bfn the day of my expected af. He measured smaller on the 6 week scan I had but was bang on at 12 weeks.

@VixFromThe6ix I am sorry it sounds like you might not get a clear answer on the vanishing twin and from the NIPT test. Not what you need.
If the results give you the all clear is that for certain? As in is it just a bad result that might be unclear?
And is there nothing they can do to ascertain whether there was a twin or not?
Sorry if my questions are stupid