Still trying for third baby - thread 2!

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@AnaReis @MrsPepper82 @AFeastforCrows @MacNut @WhattheEll @TT82 @Suchardchoccy

Please tag others I’ve blatantly forgotten! And welcome to the new thread!

Thank you! Sent off my sneak peek test yday to try and find out the gender 👀 hoping for 🎀 but will fine with our third 💙

@SchofeTee how exciting!!! I've never done one of those. Is this your first time doing it?
We've always done NIPT and found out about 8-10 weeks.....definitely impatient 🤣

Is this an American thing? Are you in the USA?

We don't have that in the UK so this is my first time doing a sneak peek but I have a friend who has done it twice successfully. The test should arrive at the lab today so either today or tomorrow we should know!

@SchofeTee No I'm in UK! You can do NIPT through any private scan clinic, granted it's not cheap, but it tests for DS, Edwards etc and given our DC1 diagnosis we just wanted to cover all bases. And the added bonus of finding out the gender! It's just a blood test.

Good luck!! Keep us posted on results ♥️

@SchofeTee we did NIPT (sometimes called Harmony which is one of the brands that offer it) with our DC2 in the U.K. - it’s pretty common now - I think some NHS hospitals offer it as standard if you meet certain criteria. We did it because I was pregnant with DC2 in covid and they scheduled my 12 week scan for when I was 16 weeks so the results for downs etc wouldn’t have been as reliable. Found out the sex just as a bonus!

What is the sneak peak based on?

We did it just that once 🤷🏻‍♀️It is what it is...

We're also now entering the dreaded time of virusmageddon, Autumn/Winter. My youngest has a cold. Being the 3rd year after lockdowns I'm praying that it's a little bit easier. 🥴

To be honest I don't really feel like having a third at the moment... I'm feeling really overwhelmed and exhausted, my husband is going away again for a week next week when the nursery is also on holiday 🤦🏻‍♀️this lack of support network is really hard on me...

I don't know... Feeling really discouraged and not sure what to do... I think I'll just think about it next cycle...

Virusmageddon 🤣.

I’m feeling good about our decision to wait out the next two cycles. I’d also been worried about the age gap widening but 2 months isn’t going to make a big difference. Fingers crossed for an autumn baby for me 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

I've never found out the sex before the kids were born, I love keeping it a surprise 😍

I'd totally take that test if I had a big % of risk in the first trimester tests or if I had a previous child with genetic disorders too. Now that I'm 41 it will probably make my risk much higher as the age is definitly something they take into account when calculating the probability. It's something I'd definitely consider, but would try somehow to not have the sex revealed 😅

For sure! You can definitely say no to gender reveal. I like present/birthday surprises but not gender surprises haha! 🤣

@AnaReis hi, yes it arrived on Wednesday, last day to keep the planned cycle 😅
Next week will have appointment to check count etc. Started taking the downregg pills 😒
So no news from my side till like mid-November now, when they start simulation

Hope everyone is doing well xx

Hi everyone, from a house where everyone has a cold except husband who's going away for a week next week!!! 😩fortunately you can't catch these types of viruses from the internet lol

So, I'm somewhere around 4 or 5 DPO I think... from what I could observe on my FM. Yesterday though, I had stretchy mucous again, saw it twice when I went to the loo... I don't understand... I'm almost certain I already ovulated, as this month I saw loads of EWCM. We'll see...

This cycle I've been much better with low carb and feel so much better! I also had a lot more EWCM, which I think isn't a coincidence. I've had longer cycles on low carb, so I think it's related.

How's everyone? 😘

Hey 👋🏻

weird cycle here, on CD17 and still no peak, not even rising according to OPK

DH and I have been extra tired due to kids stuff, half terms etc and just balancing life - he’s out late tonight too so no DTD then, bet I’ll bloody peak today! 🤦🏻‍♀️

also having a wobble about a 3rd, life is getting so much easier with DC and we get some time to chill in another room etc while they play BUT the thought of never carrying his baby makes me want to cry 🥺

hope everyone else is ok!

Oh I feel you! I'm in the same boat.....

I want this with all my heart, but wonder if we shouldn't just enjoy our 2 kiddos and enjoy life as the kids grow up and get more independent..... Why do I want to put myself through another 1st trimester, through the newborn phase again?!?!?.... At the same time it goes by so fast (although when you're in it seems to last foreeeeever).

@MrsPepper82 how are you feeling? <3

@AnaReis 💕 So lovely of you to care!
I have been up and down.
My flow was so different from usual with clumps and tissue but lighter than usual at the same time.
It hurt more and one moment I found myself crying on my (surprised) DH arms.

At first I was more relieved than sad. I also tell my closest family and am ready to share now.

And so similarly to @AFeastForCrows and you @AnaReis there are moments where I now doubt again 🤔
My life is in such a perfect place- my kids are amazing and so independent already.

Our marriage- after 22years together we still have such a magical connection and are drawn to each other and can really have our moments.

My career has never been better, hobbies are what I love so why to challenge my luck and jeopardise it all??? I guess that same passion for my man also makes me grave for a his baby 😍

So soon should be cycle day 9 and will start testing for the first time with advanced OPK.
I think actually that I have accepted the possibility not to succeed but will enjoy the process and possibilities for another half year or so.

I have wished for a spring baby, now best case scenario is late summer or even autumn/winter/ never.

because of my age I can’t afford to pass any opportunity so before giving up completely I will take all chances possible.

@TT82 - fingers crossed for as smooth journey as possible.

Hi @AFeastForCrows ! And everyone! I totally get it. My baby is turning 3 in a couple of weeks and life is becoming easier. Work is going well and I should be really pushing for promotion (to partner, I’m a lawyer).

But each time I pack away some of her stuff I can’t bear the thought that it won’t be used again! I feel like job stuff can wait but my baby making years are running out!

@Ifyouknowyouknowyouknow @AFeastForCrows @AnaReis I too go through moments of panic about #3! BUT I can't get the thought of wanting it even a tiny bit out of my head. Careers been on hold for 18 months so I think what's another 2 years 🤣
We've all got this 😘😘

CD 12 here. Hopefully get my peak Weds/Thurs. Also low carb/diet on track @AnaReis so should be a good month 🤞🏻

@MrsPepper82 @Ifyouknowyouknowyouknow @AnaReis @WhatTheEll

so glad you guys get it too! I’ve set myself a target of giving birth by 40 so I need to conceive by April/May for that, which doesn’t seem that far away anymore 🥺

I think a 3rd baby would just complete our family, and I would love to give DH the chance to have a child of his own. He would be so happy and he is a fantastic step Dad to my DC.

the baby years are so short really and adding another person to our family just seems right

@AFeastForCrows and @AnaReis
I have had all these thoughts today and last few days, we also want to do some building work and would love to do some fabulous holidays but also I know I've always wanted a third! Nobody regrets another baby surely?!

Am on CD15 and starting to see a rise on OPK. And some fertile CM. DTD today and hopefully manage another time this week to coincide with peak 🤞🏻

@MrsPepper82 thank you!! This cycle I keep also telling myself that we are ok with just 2...or can get a dog.. But it is more I want to protect myself from another failure, to persuade that it is ok as it is. My kids are 22 and 9, like why would I want more sleepless nights... Though deep inside I do want them

This Thursday clinic will tell me folic count and their plan, but don't think I will do a third round, very tough mentally and physically this ivf process

Wishing good luck to all trying this month! Xx

@SanPellegrini funny you should say that because I saw a thread once on MN and a poster put that they regretted both their children but wouldn't say why. They were very scathing about their children. I found it odd. Purely because I couldn't relate x

Feeling the same as you all...sometimes I have second thoughts. My daughter is 7 & my son is 4. Next year my son will start at the same school as my daughter so life will be even easier.
But I've always wanted 3 kids and my kids want another sibling.

Sometimes I think about if we have another child then holidays will become more expensive. And for a while we won't be able to travel.

On the other hand if we have a baby next year I'll be home with the baby whilst the kids are at school so that side of things will be easier.

I am currently 38 though so age wise getting on. Last pregnancy I had back problems (pelvic girdle pain) and gestational diabetes so if I were to get pregnant again, I would most likely have these issues again. Saying that I still enjoyed being pregnant last time & I miss being pregnant...does that even make sense?

We have only been ttc for a short while (almost 2 months) and I did say lets try until end of the year. If it doesn't happen by then, I think I'll just accept it wasn't meant to be. But husband wants to continue to try after that...

I feel you. I'm 38 next year. If it makes any difference, I had pre-eclampsia in my first pregnancy and not in my second so even though they say you're likely to get these conditions again, you might not! 🤞🏻🌧️
Also been TTC for 2 months ( I think) although we had a month off due to chemical x

Ignore the rain emoji! Although it is raining 🤣

😂@WhatTheEll that was baby shower emoji
How did chemical affect your ovulation time?