Still trying for third baby - thread 2!

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@AnaReis @MrsPepper82 @AFeastforCrows @MacNut @WhattheEll @TT82 @Suchardchoccy

Please tag others I’ve blatantly forgotten! And welcome to the new thread!

I have used the Premom app and bought the strips from Amazon that go with that app. Was brilliant. they give you a number for your strips and when you get close to 2 then you know it's imminent!

Highly recommend

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I am leaning more towards having a third, panicking about age gaps even though I know it’s not as big as others. My other two are 6.5 and 3.5 so we would be looking at over 7/4 years if we had another.

Had a rough ride with a TMFR after I was super poorly with HG / covid and recommendation was to not continue the pregnancy as they couldn’t guarantee I would survive the pregnancy.

A lot of soul searching / therpy and although I would like to complete my family I’m super scared. I have moments I think about sticking at 2 but there’s a part of me that will always want to complete my family.

Does anyone else over think age gaps and if we really want another baby?

@Miamisun that's exactly how I feel! I do but also things are good! But I know in my
Heart I've wanted a third all along.

I have had some red spots of blood today, following my PT session. I think I'm CD15 and OPK looked nearly positive on CD10? All very early for me, but I had 6 days of
Spotting 3 weeks after my MC and this is only 2 weeks since then. I have to say it's a bit of a brain bender since the MC 😫

@SanPellegrini sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I think being scared is protecting ourselves. If we are never pregnant again then there isn’t another loss, we don’t have to go through that pain.

i have heard your super fertile after a miscarriage, not sure if it’s true or a way to try to make people feel better

Hi @Miamisun and welcome! So sorry to hear about your tfmr - did you have HG with your other pregnancies too? Also so sorry to you @SanPellegrini - it’s so hard.

I’ve had 4mcs - 3 before dc1, then I got a treatment plan for an overactive immune system which enabled me to have dc1, then conceived accidentally so started treatment too late for had mc4, then dc2 - so I know what it’s like to both want to be pregnant and be terrified of it simultaneously!

Have also tortured myself about age gaps but it is what it is. If I conceive this month the kids will be 3.5 and 6 around the due date.

I’ve got loads of “symptoms”‘atm, but then remembered that I’m taking the cyclogest which blatantly explains all of them!

@Ifyouknowyouknowyouknow yes I had HG in all other pregnancies. My first was awful but didn’t have any other kids so made it easier to handle. Second child the HG was better (didn’t gain any weight in the entire pregnancy but stopped puking around 34ish weeks and only 1 hospital admission)

The TMFR, I was in hospital 4 times by 6 weeks pregnant and taken once by ambulance. The thought I could have died still plays on my mind. I hate the fact HG isn’t taken seriously….but that’s another thread!

@Miamisun hi! Welcome!!
I know what you mean... I fear so much going through another pregnancy as mine weren't as bad as yours but weren't easy either... My 1st trimesters are spent in the loo vomiting my soul and with relentless nausea 24/7... With my 1st it stopped at 12w but with my second it went on until 16w. Also, I'm a home educator, full time mum, feeling absolutely spread thin with these 2 😅 although my eldest is much easier now, she's getting more and more independent... I'm no longer dealing with nappies, my youngest usually only wakes up once during the night..... So why oh why do we want to put ourselves through having another little one and all it entails? Must be madness 🤦🏻‍♀️

I'm so sorry you had to TFMR 🥺 can't even imagine how horrid and soul crushing it must be to have to decide such a thing... So it's more than understandable that you feel uneasy about going through another pregnancy.

It's horrible that HG isn't seen as the serious, debilitating and life threatening issue it can be... 😔 I bet if it were men going through it they'd see it differently 🙄

@Ifyouknowyouknowyouknow I'm keeping everything crossed for you!! ❤️🤞🏻🍀

@SanPellegrini you're now waiting for AF to show up properly so that you start another cycle? I'm so sorry about your MC 😔❤️

Thanks all, it's a bit crap. I think I was so focused on just getting pregnant again, and who even knows what's going on now.

Morning all, bfn for me today at 11dpo. Pretty gutted even though I did basically miss all of fw because DH was away. This was cycle 3 for me.

Pretty sure we are going to skip the next 2 cycles to avoid July/august birthdays so going to focus on general health and happiness in the meantime! Slightly worried about my age now as I turn 37 in Jan but figure a couple of cycles can’t make a massive difference.

@Ifyouknowyouknowyouknow sorry to hear it is negative...but there's still time, like 1-2 days? I think a plan to take a break and get some energy is a good one and a few months not like a few years 👍🏻
I am 8dpo, no bbt dip or spotting or any symptoms apart from what additional progesterone causes 😒

@Ifyouknowyouknowyouknow I'm so sorry you got a BFN, although you're not out yet :( it's ok if you're waiting some more months, like @TT82 said it's not years.

@TT82 good luck!! :) when are you planning on testing?

I went to the GP today, she observed my cervix and had a feel of my ovaries and said all looks healthy. She requested an US and some blood tests for hormones. She didn't ask for the AMH because she said GP's can't do that, only in fertility clinics. I'm thinking of ordering a test from Randox, it's the cheapest I've found at £45 🤔

@AnaReis could you go and do a proper check and tests with gynecologist or fertility dr? Or you have done all that and only some hormones needed to be tested?

oh testing...so this month I was hoping to wait at least to 12dpo, and only if I have some symptoms like heavy breasts or going to pee at night.. My bbt usually only drops on the 2-3 day of periods, so that is not reliable. I am on holiday in Mallorca this week, only have 1 test with me because if I start testing then I do every day 🤦🏻‍♀️
So maybe on Saturday if there's any suspicious of a positive..otherwise not 😒

@Ifyouknowyouknowyouknow BFN sucks :( I guess you should have idea based on previous experience is there still some time for you to get different results in near days or not.
@TT82 keeping fingers crossed for you also! Patience and amazing vacation!

hi to newcomers also😀

I kind of hoped to get negative test today as hcg could drop also at same pace -50% by 48h and period tomorrow, but test is still positive so at least 25units is present. 5 days ago it was 37 so low drop.
RHR is dropping daily by 1 beat.
maybe it is best that way because I asked my doc for higher dose of hypothyroid medicine and answer was yes - take higher dose, that is one of reasons why this miscarriage could happen 😥

Nothing much to report here, CD4. First proper period post MC. Just waiting for it to pass although it's been lots heavier than my usual.

Ready to pee on some sticks!

I also feel anxious that every day that ticks past is another day before we can even start trying, then it's close to another school year, for a potential baby 🙈 overthinking much

Nothing much to report here either. CD7 so getting ready to pee on a shit ton of OPKs - determined cycle 9 will be mine 😂

@SanPellegrini i do this! The over thinking of age gaps and school years. It seems like such a big thing in my head but it probably isn’t.

I'm not so much worrying about the school year but I really wanted my baby to be born around the summer holidays time. Purely because I could leave my two kids with my parents when having baby & also wouldn't need to worry about them missing school/nursery. I'm so conscience of the time running out for that to happen.

AF arrived today, one day early again.

We’d decided to skip the next 2 cycles to avoid a summer baby as the due dates would be end July and end August. I think that’s still the right decision though will blatantly start to question it when fw approaches!

Hope everyone else is doing well!

I'm so sorry 😢 sending you a big hug! I'll probably still be here in 2 months, waiting for my BFP 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️take this opportunity to relax and relieve yourself from the TTC stress! ❤️

This month I've been terrible at BBT, so I've measured my temp in the incredible amount of 1 day 😅🤦🏻‍♀️ useless!!....

Getting back to real life has really hit me and I've been slightly depressed... Not that I don't love my daily life, it's just that it's very demanding and exhausting! We don't have a support network yet... Very contrasting with hols on an all inclusive with the grandparents helping 😍

Also don't get me started on the weather, we fell from more than 30C to 13C!! 🥶 In the first week we were all freezing, now we have adjusted to the temperature (and I spent days washing winter clothes and putting away summer clothing).

We've DTD once this cycle, I'm not even sure if I have ovulated yet or not so I don't know if I'm in my FW. OH has been working late at night instead of snuggling with me in bed and perform his baby making duty (🤣🤣). I've been sleeping like 💩 because I'm full of allergies not sure to what... Probably dust from this stupid carpet! I hate carpet!! 😒😣

The good news is that I'm back on my low carb diet, doing everything right! Although OH is going away for a week next week so let's see if it all crumbles down or if I manage to keep it together 🤔 I have blood tests for fertility hormones booked for next Sunday and will also get a referral for an ultrasound.

So no idea where I'm at in terms of ovulation all I know is I'm on CD12 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hi, no good news to report from my side either. Did a test - negative as expected as no symptoms but needed to confirm to stop progesterone. Now hoping AF arrives by Wednesday as then the hospital might reschedule my next egg collection cycle, which is already delayed and I think soon there's no point doing it 🤦🏻‍♀️
If it does arrive in time I will start taking that horrible hormones blocking pill 😩 for 3 weeks!
So I will still be here 🙃

@AnaReis I hope you get your mojo back also in cold autumn soon :)
@TT82 sad news, hugs are in order.

I am so glad- AF finally just arrived - cycle was now due to chemical 44 days long!
Already started to worry that intervention is needed.
I an equipped with OPK both 2 stripes one and CB advanced version and special lube also 😂
We have fertility expert meeting next week and am very excited to start new and with more success!

Hi all hope you’re all doing ok.

@MrsPepper82 glad AF arrived and onwards and upwards for next cycle!

@TT82 how are you doing - did AF appear?

@AnaReis hope you’ve managed to fit in some dtd!

@SchofeTee and @Maybebaby54321 CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! 🎉🎉♥️♥️🎊🎊

Sorry I've missed loads!!! My MN account went weird and I didn't get any notifications. Glad to see this thread again!

Hope everyone is ok 💚

CD8 for me and will start OPK's tomorrow. Back on the low carb/keto and lost 4lb so BMI back in healthy range. Feeling positive x