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2023 TTC 35+ Part 5

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VixFromThe6ix · 22/09/2023 19:33

Hi lovelies,

New thread!!

Please tag whoever you can so everyone knows we are here.

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CharAStar · 24/09/2023 11:55

VixFromThe6ix · 22/09/2023 19:33

Hi lovelies,

New thread!!

Please tag whoever you can so everyone knows we are here.

How to I reply to the thread without quoting?!?

happytobemrsg · 24/09/2023 13:29

Hope it’s ok to join here (I’m already on the thread for those TTC #3). I’m 35 & DH is 44, nearly 45. We have 2 beautiful DS (7 & 4) & this will be our first month TTC #3. Very nervous & don’t want to get my hopes up. Currently on CD3 & have particularly bad AF cramps. Roll on CD8…..

El1988 · 24/09/2023 14:21

@happytobemrsg welcome and sending you lots of baby dust! ✨

happytobemrsg · 24/09/2023 14:45

Thank you @El1988 !!

MOGMOGMOG85 · 24/09/2023 15:16

Did another test this morning - nothing.

Cd29 now and no sign of af although i am hormonal enough that I don't know what to do with myself. My son has been driving me batpoo insane today, I've not been able to mask how annoying I find him. Need space today more than anything in the world but still have to cook clean and keep him occupied. Difficult.

I've spent most of the day thinking I'm having an anovulatory cycle. I've never had one before - would it make me feel more premenstrual than I ever have and cramp on random days, plus lots of ewcm??

And then logically it's more likely I'm just having a slightly longer cycle, it's only day 29 after all.

I hate how impossible it is to know what on earth is going on with our bodies. I feel so out of control - will my period start? No idea. Could I still be pregnant? I don't feel it but I wouldn't be surprised if my body decided to pull something totally random on me like a triple pregnancy with no hcg or something. Just angry with this whole process and realising it is finally taking a toll on my mental wellbeing, after all my efforts to stay calm and detached, there's nothing like a years deadline to pull you down...

On top of this I got in trouble with my new boss for not setting the alarm properly on Friday and also my car won't start.

Feeling bleak and like I need a break (from work AND my son)...

Sorry to be a downer. Maybe af will be here shortly after all...

Oh who was it who also got a negative test this morning? I'm really sorry, especially after you thought you spotted a line the other day, that must have been hard xxx sorry I can't find your post and name!!!

Xxx

MOGMOGMOG85 · 24/09/2023 15:26

@VixFromThe6ix @Bumblebee413 @CurlyWurly1991 I'm with you today on the ambivalence. My son will be 3 in 6 weeks and he had always been SO demanding of attention. If daddy is trying to take a brief sanity break he's breaking the door down screaming to be with daddy, if mummy is doing the same he won't let me be alone. If mummy and daddy need to talk, even for 30 seconds for example to ask where the car keys were left he will shout constantly over the top of us and if we ask him to wait for us to finish talking he has a screaming hissy fit. He can be so lovely but you have to give him 100% eye contact and attention all the time or he can't handle it. I do wonder what the hell I'm doing trying for another.

I was also seriously mentally ill in the days following my traumatic birth and then struck with pnd which I didn't even realise until 18m pp. Those 18 months were the hardest of my life...

God I'm in a bleak mood today, dear lord please let these hormones pass quickly - and I blooming hope this is not what menopause will be like!!!

MOGMOGMOG85 · 24/09/2023 15:27

OK that's it I've turned it around, I now want af to arrive just to relieve me of these hormones!!!

VixFromThe6ix · 24/09/2023 15:31

CharAStar · 24/09/2023 07:39

Im taking Seven Sea's Trying For A Baby - I've just bought and going to start Pregnacare Advanced, you take two a day with an Omega 3.
I didn't like Pregnacare before, but happy to try again...
I've paid for a BBT reading workshop (unhelpful) I've paid for a course on understanding ovulation etc, well it's no flippin' good if I'm not ovulating! I've also bought numerous apps
I'm out of my mind!

You're not! Just sounds like you're doing everything you can to get pregnant. Which is really all you can do, it just sucks that it's so expensive. I researched on the internet for hundreds of hours because I knew literally nothing about ovulation or timing of when it's best to get pregnant. I found these forums very helpful as well because no matter the question someone knew the answer.

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VixFromThe6ix · 24/09/2023 15:33

El1988 · 24/09/2023 09:20

So my temperature dipped a bit today, and my test was negative again this morning… so it seems this nausea and dizziness is just a new PMS symptom?? Fml, if that is the case…

I had dizziness , nausea and shortness of breathe last cycle which also threw me for a loop because I don't typically have those as symptoms. It's like your brain creates symptoms you wanna feel sometimes

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VixFromThe6ix · 24/09/2023 15:36

Bex4567 · 24/09/2023 09:49

Jumping on this if that's OK.. sending baby dust to all of you.......

Trying for baby 3 with my new partner who had a 9 year old..I have a 16 year old and 12 year old but I'm 37 and worried I'm too old to get pregnat now..
I no im only on month 2 but getting my period last month was so disheartening..
I thjnk I ovulate later to what my flo app says due to change in mucus and my strips getting darker a few days later than what my app says...
Have done it every other day ,every day around my ovulation and used preeseed this month so fingers crossed .currently on 2dpo on ny 2ww ..for somwthjng that should be enjoyable it aint have a stress

Welcome!!! 37 is definitely not too late. That's when I got pregnant with my first. Ttc-ing is definitely stressful, so hang in there. Two cycles is still very early. Fingers crossed for you to get your BFP soon!!

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FigandHoney · 24/09/2023 15:41

Thanks for setting up the new thread @VixFromThe6ix . Good luck with the TWW. Hopefully this will be your successful one.
I can't believe she didn't tell you last time the triggershot has HCG.
Have you thought of maybe using some sort of light therapy for your seasonal tiredness?

I can't believe how many posts there are already!

So AF came on for me on Friday. She came in so incredibly painful. It's not been this painful for a very long time. Not since I had my son anyway.
It's been a really weird cycle generally. Even today I can still feel weird pulling sensations in my pelvic area that I can't remember usually having.
My bbt temperature are also still the same as at the tail end of my cycle, so it makes me wonder if I never properly ovulated.
Tempted to go out to get ovulation sticks and also to try SMEP. But then I promised my husband not to go crazy this time TTC. And just to take it as it comes.
Decided to go out and get us some supplements to ensure our egg and sperm quality is as good as it can be. Got Proceive Max Plus, Maca for me and Ashwaganda and Fenugreek for my husband. Apparently it takes 3 months though for the sperm and egg quality to be affected.

@MOGMOGMOG85 Sorry you are feeling so upset today. It's so difficult not to get your hopes up if your AF is even slightly late.
Might be worth getting things tested if it puts you in a better frame of mind.
But your signs are sounding good. Hope you get your BFP

@CurlyWurly1991 that podcast you mentioned sounds interesting. Might give it a listen.
It also took until 3 days after my missed AF last time to get a positive. All negatives before.
It's so hard not yo symptom spot though isn't it?

@MrsBP15 oh. I am so sorry about painful AF. It can be a real b can't it. Hope it's over for you soon.

@H0pefull Have you been DTD every other day for the full cycle? Probably a great idea. But not sure I have the energy lol

@JustTrying1 sorry AF arrived early. What a bummer. She really likes to mess with us. Is it proper AF or just spotting?

@El1988 Hope that all the symptoms are having do end up in a BFP for you. My BBT did start dipping a bit after AF iwas due even when I was pregnant. Got me really scared I was having a miscarriage back then.

@SouthwestSis You mentioning your toddlers tantrums putting you almost off made me laugh because I can totally relate

@Bumblebee413 Wow that sounds super difficult raising your kid pretty much alone. It will be good when your husband is back full time. Less stress is also good for TTC

I am with all of you stating that you sometimes feel ambivalent about having a second. When AF arrived I was really upset. But then I was also telling myself I wasn't sure if I was fully ready yet for a second. Birthday would have fallen close yo that of my son too.
I had a bad pregnancy and a disaster of a birth. So if I could skip forward and not have to deal with ttc, pregnancy or birth I would take ut in a second

@CharAStar Yeah you might be having an anovultary cycle. But doesn't mean they will always be. My understanding is that you only know the covering once you have had 3 higher temperatures in a row than the rest. This confirms ovulation. And your covering will sit just above the highest temperature before those 3 temperatures. Hope that makes sense.
I would recommend tge book Taking Charge of your Fertility if you are interested in BBT charting etc

@Foreverexhausted1 You should definitely take a test. It will take away the guessing. Just because it took a long time before doesn't mean it can't have happened fast this time.

@Bex4567 Welcome to the thread. You are not to old. All the girls in my NCT class 3 years ago where in their late 30s or early 40s. And now most of them have their 2nd.

@happytobemrsg Welcome to the thread! Sending you lots of babydust

happytobemrsg · 24/09/2023 16:40

thank you @FigandHoney ! Sorry your AF is so painful. Mine seems especially crampy this month too. I’m also thinking about doing SMEP too, on the other hand, I’m wondering if I can hold out any kind of testing until AF is late! So I have no idea if I’m ultra laid back about the whole thing or not 😂

JustTrying1 · 24/09/2023 17:59

Just catching up on the thread now so apologies for the lateness...

Welcome to those that have joined 🫶

@FigandHoney nope definitely AF 😔 tbh it is 'proper' AF this time, not like the pathetic one earlier this month that was on/off for 4 or 5 days. This one is heavy. No pains though thank god but think that might have something to do with the conceive plus I'm taking.
Sorry your AF has arrived and painful. To be honest I'm debating doing away with any kind of tracking and just taking it day by day because I'm only on cycle 2 now and having been through a year and half at least of TTCing many years ago I'm really not feeling hopeful so think the added anxiety of pissing on any stick isn't helping.

How is everyone feeling? I've got everything (literally, including the legs) crossed for everyone who is due to test in this coming week ❤️

VixFromThe6ix · 24/09/2023 18:01

Sounds like a few of us are going through similar motions. It's tough. Some days I wanna scream. Some days I wanna cry. Some days I wanna hide from everyone. Some days I am needy. Some days I don't want to be touched. Some days I am hopeful.
Thank god there is my husband who has to put up with all these emotions. He wants another baby so it's his job to cater to all the moods. Haha, kidding. But seriously, bless him.

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happytobemrsg · 24/09/2023 18:16

@VixFromThe6ix DH is the driving force for another DC over here too but he’s still so laid bacd about it all. I’m the planner & worrier

Bumblebee413 · 24/09/2023 18:37

Welcome @Bex4567 and @happytobemrsg ! @happytobemrsg how did you find the age gap between your two?

@FigandHoney I take my hat off to you for all those replies! 😮 Amazing! Although I’m so sorry that this is such a painful one for you. In fact I’m having an irrationally angry moment that so many of you are in pain with periods at the moment, on top of all the TTC stress and emotions. It flipping sucks to have female equipment some days. And I don’t think I’ll ever stop wishing I could pee standing up, without having to expose my bum. Seriously though, how lovely would that be?

@MOGMOGMOG85 you’re absolutely not alone. I think I had mild antenatal and postnatal depression with my first and I didn’t fully recognise it until I went back to work and we had all of these training days about breastfeeding and bonding etc and it really made me look at my own experience and I suddenly realised that maybe I wasn’t ok. I’m starting to wonder that again now even without a pregnancy. It’s just been such a long year and I just feel threadbare and frayed. I’m rarely if ever around other adults when I’m not working or not Mum. However, spa day tomorrow with an old friend, so I think that will help! And I’ve asked a friend for her therapist’s number. I figure that can only help.

Again, it’s a real relief to have this thread when you share the guilty or crazy moments and find that you aren’t alone. It’s all just such a rollercoaster over the course of a month (although realistically I’m feeling different things from hour to hour 😂) I think it would be impossible to stay optimistic and upbeat all the time.

To those symptom spotting, go easy on yourselves- you really want these babies and the brain is such a powerful thing. I very confidently announced a pregnancy in here earlier in the year with mega tender boobs, nausea and a 5 day late period (the test was obviously a formality at this point) as I was waiting for DH to come home to test with him and AF arrived less than five minutes after posting 🤣🤣🤣

x

VixFromThe6ix · 24/09/2023 18:41

@happytobemrsg DH is more laid back for sure but I guess I expect that since they aren't the ones tracking and experiencing symptoms. He definitely isn't a fan of me testing early but he's stuck with a POAS addict 😂

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CharAStar · 24/09/2023 18:54

@FigandHoney
Thank you for your message
Thank you for taking the time to message us all

CharAStar · 24/09/2023 18:56

Bex4567 · 24/09/2023 09:49

Jumping on this if that's OK.. sending baby dust to all of you.......

Trying for baby 3 with my new partner who had a 9 year old..I have a 16 year old and 12 year old but I'm 37 and worried I'm too old to get pregnat now..
I no im only on month 2 but getting my period last month was so disheartening..
I thjnk I ovulate later to what my flo app says due to change in mucus and my strips getting darker a few days later than what my app says...
Have done it every other day ,every day around my ovulation and used preeseed this month so fingers crossed .currently on 2dpo on ny 2ww ..for somwthjng that should be enjoyable it aint have a stress

Definitely not too old
Most of us are just starting out with out 1st baby

VixFromThe6ix · 24/09/2023 18:57

Spa day sounds amazing @Bumblebee413 !!! Hope you get proper relaxed and pampered.
Therapy also sounds like a great idea. I think of getting an appointment as well. It would be great to talk to a professional that can validate what I'm feeling or give me the tools to deal with strong emotions.

I'm feeling super irritable. I'm 5dpo. This is a typical pre period symptom for me. I guess it makes sense since I should be getting my period in about a week's time. I got mad at my dh this morning telling me he wanted to sleep in because it's Sunday and he's tired. (I cosleep with a toddler that wakes up a couple times and sleeps on me so I can't move much and he sleeps alone) Snapped like a rubber band. I guess I should buy more chocolate

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CharAStar · 24/09/2023 18:59

MOGMOGMOG85 · 24/09/2023 15:16

Did another test this morning - nothing.

Cd29 now and no sign of af although i am hormonal enough that I don't know what to do with myself. My son has been driving me batpoo insane today, I've not been able to mask how annoying I find him. Need space today more than anything in the world but still have to cook clean and keep him occupied. Difficult.

I've spent most of the day thinking I'm having an anovulatory cycle. I've never had one before - would it make me feel more premenstrual than I ever have and cramp on random days, plus lots of ewcm??

And then logically it's more likely I'm just having a slightly longer cycle, it's only day 29 after all.

I hate how impossible it is to know what on earth is going on with our bodies. I feel so out of control - will my period start? No idea. Could I still be pregnant? I don't feel it but I wouldn't be surprised if my body decided to pull something totally random on me like a triple pregnancy with no hcg or something. Just angry with this whole process and realising it is finally taking a toll on my mental wellbeing, after all my efforts to stay calm and detached, there's nothing like a years deadline to pull you down...

On top of this I got in trouble with my new boss for not setting the alarm properly on Friday and also my car won't start.

Feeling bleak and like I need a break (from work AND my son)...

Sorry to be a downer. Maybe af will be here shortly after all...

Oh who was it who also got a negative test this morning? I'm really sorry, especially after you thought you spotted a line the other day, that must have been hard xxx sorry I can't find your post and name!!!

Xxx

How are you feeling this evening?
I'm certain I've had an anovulatory cycle this month too - no ewcm, no pain from where I usually ovulate and what's got to me most is that this month we've had soooOO much sex!

VixFromThe6ix · 24/09/2023 19:03

@FigandHoney amazing response post!!!
As for them not telling me trigger shot gad HCG, I am not surprised. I found that even when we tried for my first one there was always this lack of information. It was always like an instruction of what to do but never usually an explanation as to why to do it. I guess they are so busy they can't take too much time explaining everything to every person.

I've been testing to see my HCG levels go down and looks like they have been. From 2dpo (top pink) to 5dpo (lowest one) the line is lighter, though my LH levels are still very much thriving. Weird.

2023 TTC 35+ Part 5
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Foreverexhausted1 · 24/09/2023 19:56

Hi ladies, thanks for the replies. So I took a test..can I see a really faint line or am I imagining it because that's what I want it to show?!

2023 TTC 35+ Part 5
CharAStar · 24/09/2023 20:05

Foreverexhausted1 · 24/09/2023 19:56

Hi ladies, thanks for the replies. So I took a test..can I see a really faint line or am I imagining it because that's what I want it to show?!

I can see a faint line!
Try again in the morning!
Eeeeeekkkkk!!! Exciting!!!
I really hope this is it!!!

happytobemrsg · 24/09/2023 20:17

@Bumblebee413 I love the gap between the boys. They are COMPLETELY different but it’s great seeing them together. I kinda worry that the 3rd will be left out but we’re all very close so I’m hoping it’ll be ok. I had terrible PND with DS1. It was so tough. I paid for CBT & it was massively helpful. When I had DS2 I returned to work - just 2 days a week - after 4 months & my mental health was definitely better for that. Saying that, if I’m lucky enough to fall pregnant again I’m planning on taking the whole year off this time.

OMG I can see a line too @Foreverexhausted1 !! Exciting!!

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