Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂

[Ladyinpink1]

Hi 🙋‍♀️, just as the title says, I am now on cd1 of my first cycle after a loss at 11+4 (stopped growing just after a scan showing strong heartbeat at 8 -9w)

Feeling nervous but positive about a new cycle ...but finding it hard to think of anything else other than ttc 🙂

Happy for some company to obsess with over these next weeks x

@LFD123 i haven’t got a clue but the line is very strong! I’d try again tomorrow and see if you get another line ! Got everything crossed for you! Xx

@Liz2681 thank you! It helps knowing that others have been through the same thing (and I hate saying that because I wish none of us have had to go through it) but I feel like when I finally get my BFP, I’ll really appreciate it because I know how precious it is.

Hello all, just reading through and catching up on the messages. Hope everyone is having a good week so far! x

@Bali200 That's good, how many dpo are you now. Yes hopefully it does lengthen it... mine was shorter last cycle also (1st cycle) so am making sure to be getting extra b6 too 🙂 x

@Wise0wl it's not silly at all, I was the same, I also thought it all just happened at once, had no idea it could last so long, and I would say alot of people think the same who haven't experienced it x

@ThelastRolo20 glad tests are getting lighter, hopefully not long until you get a negative preg test and a positive opk! x

Thanks @Ladyinpink1 ! Glad to not being alone but also wouldn’t wish it on anyone at the same time, if that makes sense. How are you getting on?

@Aaliyahrae just wanted to send a virtual hug, and I know what you mean about babies and pregnant women. I feel like they’re everywhere right now.

Just read your post @Aaliyahrae I'm sorry today isn't a great day... sometimes baby clothes I find hard, especially when I'm in a certain store where I had looked at baby clothes when pregnant.
It will be your time soon, you will have your beautiful baby, lots of newborn snuggles and you will look back on this time as a distant memory, but in the meantime, just remember you are not alone x

@Wise0wl yes I know what you mean. I am OK, on cd8 today. Hope your first few days of 2ww are going not too slow x

@Ladyinpink1 @Wise0wl thanks girls. I thought I was the only one who kept seeing babies everywhere! I was like hold on, why has everyone got a newborn? Baby clothes are so hard - I always get excited like ‘aww how tiny’ then pangs of sadness when I see them. I hope you’re both okay!

Hi ladies, little rant incoming 😂

I just went for my cycle day 3 blood tests, gave the paper to the nurse that said tests were for recurrent miscarriage, she was putting it all into the computer and then she said 'do you have any children' I was a bit shocked to be asked so then went on to say no I'd had a stillbirth and two miscarriages (now wished I'd just said no) and she said how sorry she was etc. A few moments later she said, I know it's really hard to get a blood test appointment but we will always try and squeeze you in when it relates to this sort of thing, so I said how nice that was and how worried I was when booking it as obviously Cycle day 3 only comes around once a month and I didn't want to have to wait any longer as want to get back to TTC... and before I could finish she said 'or getting your head around not'

Again I was really shocked and I'm sure it came from a nice place as she then went on to tell me she'd had IVF and it was hard etc but it's really not what I wanted to hear as I never want to give up 😔 x

Also babies and pregnant people everywhere - yep!

I was proud of myself yesterday as I plucked up the courage to see my friend and her newborn. I held the baby and it was really nice and I realised that the thought of seeing her was much worse than the reality. I also realised that I think I felt ok as the baby isn't mine, and what I want is my own baby x

@Vic231 I’m so sorry that happened. How upsetting. On top of the trauma you’ve already gone through x

@Aaliyahrae Yes I am good thanks, cd9 today, I feel really positive about this month, it's only cycle 2 of ttc since the last loss so maybe I'm setting myself up for a hard fall when AF arrives but I can't help feel positive, I think because I have been pregnant twice at this time of year before maybe. x

@Vic231 I'm sorry the nurse (although coming from a good place as you said), wasn't very sensitive in how she spoke to you, sounds like she maybe had an issue conceiving which is completely different.
I hope you get good news back and also maybe an answer and solution after all of the tests are completed so that you can go on to ttc with feeling more confidence.
A lady in my work told me she had 3 miscarriages and they told her you just can't have kids... she then went on to have 3 children, never changed anything, no issues with the pregnancies and 3 healthy children so I think thats nice for all of us in our different but similar situations to think about that. x

Oh @Vic231 i am so sorry. How thoughtless! And well done for seeing your friend too, that’s a really brave thing to have done and glad it helped identify the thought is worse than the reality. Someone v close to me is expecting a baby on my due date from my MMC and I’m finding that hard to process. Hopefully when that baby is here I’ll feel ok.

@graceinc22 thank you lovely, it's really tough when people say things without really thinking. I'm sure we've all been on the receiving end of something x

@Ladyinpink1 thank you, it's exactly that. I should probably also brush it off easier but I'm a real overthinker/worrier. Thank you also for sharing that about your colleague, these stories really help me x

@Wise0wl oh wow that's really tough, it must've been hard the whole time. I'm sure you will feel better once the baby is here a bit like the waiting and expectation is worse. My friend had her baby through IVF and had the transfer the month after we lost our little girl and it's hard in itself to think that a baby has grown and be born and we still don't have a living child x

I understand @Vic231 , I am a serial overthinker 🙂 but I dont think you are overreacting at all, given what you said to the nurse about what had happened to you 2 seconds before she said what she did then she should have only said kind encouraging things. x

@Vic231 aw bless you that sounds like a difficult experience! I’m glad you were able to see your friends baby and not feel sad though that must have been a relief for you both.

@Aaliyahrae completely agree with seeing babies everywhere! I’m struggling with that and also pregnancy announcements at the moment 🥺

I’m currently cycle day 18 but I missed a few days of ovulation tests so I’m not actually sure when I ovulated 🙈 Going off the signs my body gives me I think it was yesterday or potentially today! Quite a late ovulation compared to last month so I’m not sure what’s going on, just hoping my luteal phase isn’t too short because of it 😓

@Vic231 totally agree. I sort of thought I’d definitely be pregnant (and not only just?) by the time that baby’s born and that would make me feel better, but I’m now thinking I might not be, by then. That must be so so hard about you friend’s IVF baby x

Hi all, just doing a bit of catching up with messages as yesterday was a busy one.

Completely understand what everyone means by seeing babies everywhere/ pregnancy announcements. I don't know if I'm just more sensitive now because we're TTC but it feels like since the MC we've had the double whammy of my sister in law being pregnant, and now we recently found out our friends are pregnant as well after they went through their own MC in May. I'm thrilled for them, but it's just another thing to pile on.

@Vic231 sorry you had a crap experience. My experience to date is that sometimes medical professionals are so jaded they come across sometimes - quite telling that the most compassion I've had through this whole process from medical staff was the trainee GP I saw after my MC!

@Haylsttc we've probably mentioned this before but we're in very similar stages of our cycle - CD21 for me and 1DPO so now into TTW 😬 just gonna try to keep busy and avoid obsessing like I did last cycle and try to remind myself I can't control whatever ends up happening 🤷🏻‍♀️

Evening all, hope everyone is doing ok?

Hi @Ladyinpink1 I’m 4dpo today so now in the tww with @Haylsttc and @Liz2681 although it’s an 8 day wait in my case 🙄 unless the b6 works a miracle, do you know how long it takes to start having an effect? How are you getting on? Any sign of a positive opk yet or is it too early? X

Sorry to hear the nurse was so insensitive in what she said to you@Vic231 , that’s really brutal but I hope the test results come back ok. Well done on seeing your friend’s newborn, that must have taken a lot after what you’ve been through. I’ve been putting off meeting my best friend’s twin babies that were born the week after my MMC as I don’t want to be upset meeting them/holding them, I want it to be a happy moment but I’m just not in the right headspace yet 😢 x

@Bali200 sorry my reply is so late, we were away last night, I'm on cd12, lots of fertile cm but no peak yet, I hope to get a +opk tomorrow so we can dtd again before the weekend is over. Still feeling good and positive about this cycle. Do you have any symptoms in your tww? Yes I think b6 works pretty quick, when I am at the hormonal stage of my cycle I take an extra one each day and I definitely feel a difference so I think it will be working on you already 🙂 x

Hi @Bali200, I’m also in my tww (CD22, but my last cycle or so was short so not sure if I’ll be waiting two weeks or less). If not too nosy, what are you taking B6 for? I’ve been taking pregnacare conception this month but not sure if that was the right call, or other vitamins might be better for me

Hi @Ladyinpink1 hope you had a nice night away? Have you got that peak today? 🤞🏼 no I don’t have any symptoms and I’m 7dpo over here, AF is due Tuesday. I’ve already written myself out this cycle but I’m hoping for a day or two longer LP 🤞🏼 as much as I would love to be pregnant again I think I’m going to give it a few months break to see if I can get my cycles sorted out.

I had a chat with a nurse last week who said she’d been on mini-pill for years like myself and then had 2 miscarriages back to back when she came off it. She was told the reason behind them was due to her uterus lining being too thin from the mini-pill to support the pregnancy, and this makes sense with how short my LP is and how light my periods are 😪 I know she meant well but it was tough to hear that the mc was likely because my uterus wasn’t strong enough to sustain the pregnancy 💔 x

Hi @Wise0wl ooh exciting, how are you feeling? I’m taking high strength b6 in attempts to lengthen my luteal phase, in addition to 1000mg vit C, folic acid, high strength vit d and magnesium and zinc vits, as it’s only been 7-9 days long since coming off contraception which can mean I have low progesterone. How long are your cycles normally? X

Thanks @Bali200 - that’s interesting and helpful. I’m feeling exhausted but I think that’s more the fact my DS isn’t sleeping well at the mo rather than any symptoms! My cycles have been v variable since coming off the pill in April, ranging from 24 to 32 days (or even more), but pre-DS were reliably around the 28 day mark. Sorry about your chat with the nurse, I can see it was probably coming from a good place but feels very insensitive! Hoping your LP is a bit longer this cycle 🤞 x

@Bali200 Hmm, that’s interesting about the mini-pill - I was on the same between DD and my MCs this year. Do you think that could be true? Surely if that was a known effect it would have to be reported?!

@Wise0wl I have my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼 ah that must be a bit frustrating having a variable cycle, I think b6 helps with regulating your cycle too so maybe it’s worth looking into? Thank you, I’ll keep you posted as to when AF rears her ugly head, apparently she’s due Tuesday which is 9dpo x

@Oxalis00 I honestly don’t know! I know someone else who had a MC after coming off it but didn’t think anything of that until the nurse said that to me. I think it’s a bold statement for her to make if it’s not true but Google doesn’t have anything about it so I don’t know 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m considering booking in for a fertility MOT which checks uterus lining etc but I don’t know if that’s a bit extreme?!

How long did it take you to fall pregnant once you came off it? X

I do remember someone saying years ago that fertility can be affected by mini-pill for up to a year or so after, but I mentioned it when at the nurse getting it first prescribed and they didn’t think it was true. I took it for a couple of years, came off in Dec 2022 and got pregnant pretty quick I think - can’t remember exactly but had a CP in Jan 2023, then got pregnant straight away after that in Feb 2023 which ended in the MMC. Just started TTC again after that resolved, didn’t catch last month. I did have a scan during the MMC process which didn’t seem to think my lining was thin or anything. I have had lighter periods since the MC though…

@Bali200 Had such a lovely time thank you and yes got my peak this morning so feel we have covered all of the bases well this time.
I'm sorry to hear that she said that, i'm sure it did make you sad! Things may not be the same for you though, and if it is the case I'm sure it's something that could be remedied? I wondered about my lining too as my periods are quite light but then I thought surely if there was a problem then when being scanned to Check for a heartbeat they would notice and say.
And on that topic... I have started eating a brazil nut a day these past few weeks because they are meant to be really good for fertillty, the egg etc but uterine lining is one of the things I had noticed they are meant to help ⬇️
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