Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂

[Ladyinpink1]

Hi 🙋‍♀️, just as the title says, I am now on cd1 of my first cycle after a loss at 11+4 (stopped growing just after a scan showing strong heartbeat at 8 -9w)

Feeling nervous but positive about a new cycle ...but finding it hard to think of anything else other than ttc 🙂

Happy for some company to obsess with over these next weeks x

Hi! I’m in similar position, had a loss a few weeks ago and will be TTC but trying not to put pressure on/letting things happen without tracking etc. sorry for your loss x

Sorry for your loss too @Anotheranxiousone it's a really horrible and sad situation isnt it. what baby number are you ttc?

I was thinking of not tracking too as it's meant to be better to be relaxed about it but decided I will at least for a cycle or 2 to see if my rough ovulation date has changed. x

Welcome! Sorry you've had to join the shitty club of TTC after loss. I'm into my second cycle trying again since MMC at 10 weeks in July.

I'd love to take the relaxed approach but unfortunately because we have to do home artificial insemination I have to track properly 🙄 not feeling massively hopeful this month, I was really upset when I wasn't one of the lucky ones who gets pregnant the first month trying after loss, even though I know I shouldn't have expected it!

Hello - so sorry for your loss. I had a MMC in April and been TTC again since my first period which was May. Just caught on my 4th cycle after the loss but unfortunately it was a chemical which I lost 5 days after my BFP 😌 So... back to square 1 again. Counting my bleed as a period I'd be about CD8 now and hopefully coming up to fertile week - hoping the CP hasn't messed ovulation up.

TTC no.2. I have a wonderful DS who is 2 1/2.

Good luck to everyone for our rainbow babies 🌈🤞🏻💕

Hey, joining this thread. I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks 6 days in August. Really upsetting, especially as the baby was still alive (with a heartbeat) at 11 weeks 2 days.

Have now stopped bleeding and have a negative pregnancy test. Still not quite sure what’s happening with me hormonally as things feel a bit all over the place. Really hoping I’m able to get pregnant again, ideally quite soon, as it was a bit of a journey to get pregnant the first time round (I have PCOS). Lots of best wishes to you all!! X

Hey , joining these trend Cycle 2 trying after an infant loss

@moosey89 I'm sorry 😞

I also had a miscarriage in December and read so much about being fertile the first 3 months after, it took until the 5th cycle to get my bfp (this last pregnancy) and it felt like the longest time ever so I know what you mean. x

@SnookyPook aw I'm so sorry, how gutting for you having that happen immediatley after the last one. Hope third time is the charm for you! This is dc3 that I am trying for.
Are you tracking or anything to check for ovulation? x

@graceinc22 I am so sorry, even more devastating when you have had that reassurance that everything is well. Mine also began I'm August (19th was day 1) and the bleeding stopped on the 8th this month... and my period just started today so hopefully that is helpful that yours won't be long coming. x

@tife1234 I'm really very sorry to read this, I hope this is your cycle and you don't have long to wait. xx

@graceinc22 it's horrible isn't it! This was my second loss too, but my first was with my ex and we didn't try again after as the marriage fell apart. I'm really tired of the whole process now, wish I could just fall asleep and wake up with a baby! 😂

Similar story here 🙋🏻‍♀️ MMC end of April, found at what should have been 12 week scan than baby only made it till about 9 weeks. It’s been a horribly drawn out physical process (medical management, two surgeries for retained products and a blood transfusion) and am now on the first period where I feel physically ready to give TTC a try again. I have a DD who’s nearly 3, and a bit sad about the growing age gap sometimes - finding it strange how grown up she’s getting before I’ve even conceived her sibling. Fingers crossed! I’d be glad to journey with others. (And I see some familiar names and stories from the MC boards.)

@moosey89 That sounds so good, it's all just so long isn't it.

What I thought was my period starting today has now stopped so I'm wondering is it spotting. 🤔 feeling frustrated with it. Did anyone else have this after? x

@Oxalis00 I'm sorry that on top of your loss things have also been so complicated for you. A year has past since we started ttc now, so my age gap is also constantly growing too, but i'm trying to think to myself it will be nice to have a little bit of a bigger gap and one on one time with the baby while other dc at school.
And I bet your dd will be such a great help and loving helping with baby with her being a little older x

Yes there are benefits to a bigger age gap if you choose to look for them, you’re right @Ladyinpink1 I guess it’s feeling the choice has been taken away that’s hard.

I’ve had unusual (for me) spotting this cycle too - two days of it so far and still no sign of the flow increasing. My BBT dropped this morning though so hopefully it’ll come today. Otherwise it’s back to worrying about what on earth is going on in my body! I hope it sorts itself out for you quickly. Were you tracking ovulation at all?

@Ladyinpink1 yes I'm using opks. Nothing yet but I normally get quite a quick rise. If the CP bleed just reset things like AF then I should be about CD9 today - normally get my peak around CD12-14 so we'll see. I feel like my CM has begun to increase/change a bit so hopefully on track.

@Oxalis00 we've definitely spoken on other threads but I'd forgotten just how similar our timelines are (MMC in April and my DS will be 3 in Jan). I've also had a tough time coming to terms with the bigger age gap. I know there will be some benefits, and I keep telling myself we will get the right gap for our family etc... but... it's just not what I'd pictured and I am struggling a bit and just longing to give my son a little playmate etc. It's one of those weird things as I know thinking about it won't change anything and I really need to focus on the positives to it all, but as the due date draws closer I just keep looking at my son and thinking what a lovely big brother he'd be to a little baby right now (we've got two other babies in the family who he adores). It's hard isn't it. BUT when our rainbow comes along, I'm sure we won't be able to imagine things any other way. 🤞🏻🌈💕

@Ladyinpink1 thanks I hope these is your cycle too

Hi everyone, so sorry for all of your losses.

This is my first cycle of ttc after my MMC of my first baby, discovered at the 12 week scan on the 12th august, with an MVA carried out on the 14th. Baby was 8+3.

I’m currently on CD10 but have been experiencing brown spotting since CD7 which is a bit confusing. My first AF was the same as it was pre-pregnancy, two days long and light, so not sure why I’m spotting.

This is the first time ttc as the first pregnancy was a happy accident. Not holding out much hope for this cycle but we are going to try so shall see what happens x

@Oxalis00 Yes exactly no choice in the gap, do you find the time that's been used up so far hard? I struggle with that, especially to be back at square one again.

After yesterdays light spotting It has came back ! So I'm counting this as cd2. Yes my bbt dropped the day before the spotting too so hopefully today at some point yours will come back too for you.

The last few days (sorry tmi) of bleeding from loss, I had alot of ewcm with it, and I didnt start my opks until after the bleeding stopped so I think I missed it. x

@SnookyPook That's good your cm is changing now. And that means not long to wait for positive opk hopefully then! 🙂 x

Hi @Bali200 That was a tough experience finding out at your scan, I'm sorry. If it's any comfort my periods were alot lighter after my first miscarriage too, but we still conceived again x

Yes @Ladyinpink1 I think about time a lot! I find that a very strange aspect to the whole MC experience, and one I can’t quite get my head around. It really resonates when you say ”the time that’s been used up so far”. I do think of it as ‘lost’ time, and I find it so strange that I’m at a standstill - or worse, going backwards, being less pregnant than I was 5 months ago - when others who conceived after me are now more pregnant than I was. And then as @SnookyPook says there’s the countdown to the due date, and the calculating of what would have been at this point and at that… I’ve got a lot of hope invested in getting pregnant again I think, and if that then takes time too I expect to struggle.

On the age gap @SnookyPook the one perk I can see is that if I conceive in the next 6 or so months I’ll be on mat leave for DD’s last year before school, so get to have a bit more time with her as a he’s in nursery 3 days a week. Like you say, hopefully it’ll make sense for our families when we get there! It’s so sweet your DS is so adoring of the other family babies, but I can imagine the pang of seeing that and thinking what would have been. DD loves babies too, though thankfully hasn’t yet said anything about us having one.

Spotting has progressed a bit today, so this is officially my CD1 of TTC! Eek!

I had a chemical last week and if needed 7days to deal with the grief.

But I still deapite this want to try this month.
I am unfortunately that persons who has all the pregnancy symptoms for PMS. As with LO who will he 2 soon I had no pregnancy symptoms until I was 5 weeks. Before BFP I only had mild symptoms not typical pregnancy at all. So I kinda know when I got those pregnancy symptoms early it is PMS. Been right so far.

TTC for 7/8 months now and looking to see the Dr as I am over 35.

Good luck to all the Mamas

I started to so BBT this cycle just thought be interesting to see whats going on with my body. So far so good.

@Oxalis00 Yes me too... all my focus is on ttc and hopefully getting pregnant again soon. I think that is the only way for us all to feel better about all that has gone on... although I am also terrified about it happening a 3rd time.
Mine love babies also and because our scan showed all was OK, at 9 weeks we told both of our families including our dc, which in hindsight I regret so much as they ask us all the time "is a new baby growing yet?" Next time we won't tell anyone. Yay for cd1! 🎊🎉🎈x

@MixedCouple sorry for your loss, it's tough that pregnancy and premenstrual symptoms are so similar isn't it. Bbt is great, it's reasurring to see exactly when you ovulate I think. I have started taking mine again but am trying it internally this time and it is suits me better (i found orally took longer and my dc would come in to ask me something and I couldnt open my mouth for ages to speak😂 ) x

@Ladyinpink1 ooooh really. Are you using the same thermometer? At the moment I got up 20mins before LO he starts the day around 6:45am usually 7 do I have a good 10-20mins to get it done and recorded.
Yes at the moment due to irregular cycles it would be good to see whats going on.

Baby Dust to everyone

Thank you @Ladyinpink1 it was tough after seeing a healthy heartbeat at an early reassurance scan where the baby measured 8+4. It must have happened soon afterwards but was lulled into a false sense of security from the scan.

I’m very sorry that you have experienced a mc twice. I’m terrified of it happening again but I’ve started feeling a bit more positive and hopeful the past week or so. Just wish I knew why I’m spotting brown at this point in my cycle, maybe it’s still left over from my MC even though I’ve had an AF since.

Do you mind me asking how long did it take you to fall pregnant again after your first miscarriage and if your cycle returned to normal afterwards?

Sending lots of positive thoughts your way and to everyone in the group, we’ve got this x

@Bali200 my cycle pretty much returned to normal straight away. My first period started exactly 5 weeks after my MC bleeding started, that cycle was slight short (24 days instead of 28/29) and then they were normal. I conceived again 4th cycle after my MMC but unfortunately that was a chemical pregnancy that only lasted 5 days after my BFP. Now back to TTC again. Cycle 1 post CP and 5 months after my MMC. When I write it all down, none of it has taken very long but boy does it feel like time is dragging!!

@Oxalis00 that's a nice thought about more time with DC1 before they start school. It all comes around so fast doesn't it. It's just very poignant. Only 2 years between me and my Sis and we're best friends so I always wanted a similar gap for mine. However, the other week, our neighbour came over who is 4 1/2 years older than DS and they were having a blast and still playing together nicely etc. So that reassured me that actually, DS is likely to still enjoy playing with a sibling even if the gap is bigger. Currently 3 1/2 years now... Che Sera, Sera ...

Can I join ladies? I had a MMC in July - baby stopped growing at 8 weeks (saw the heartbeat previously too!). Had a period in August but have had spotting for a few days this month too! Trying to conceive baby #3. I am so anxious about the potential of another MC but so desperate for another baby to complete my family. I’m not sure what CD I am as I’ve just been having sex twice a week hoping to catch it so I don’t become obsessed (but here I am taking pregnancy tests every other day!). I can’t stop myself from symptom spotting either and it’s driving me crazy because I know I’ll be so upset if AF arrives!

How is everyone feeling?