TTC May 2023 💖 Previous MC March 2023 (thread 2)

[Sez281]

Hi ladies, just thought I'd create a new thread for anybody that wants to continue.
@Jadeypie
@Westy22
@Freddie15VES
@fleur89
@Strawb28
@DmcinT
@HopeAndStrength
@xxcxdonxx
And @SnookyPook for if/when you feel like you might want to come back xx

Sorry if I've forgotten anybody, I realise most of you guys have had your BFPs and there's only a few off us left waiting, but at least you know the thread is here so come back and keep us updated with all your lovely pregnancy stories 😊 For those of us still here, hopefully it won't be too much longer 🙏💖 xx

@Sez281 oh please let this be your bfp!!! I did say about those opk! Am keeping everything crossed for you xx

I've been down the rabbit hole over ovulation and I am starting to think work and the stress of it over the weekend (my stress levels have been through the roof) has delayed my ovulation with it rising again today aswell xx

@xxcxdonxx I'm either 9DPO and AF due in 2 days or else i'm ovulating today abs AF due in 10 days 🥴 I'm going to have to wait until tomorrow to test again. Just did another and it's bfn. I have a tonne of internet cheapies but it's way too early and I'm probably seeing lines that aren't there 🫠

@Jadeypie stress could definitely have affected it! I know you hate the opks but maybe keep going just to try to figure out what's going on. Do you usually get cramps or ewcm when you're in fertile window? It could be a good indicator if opks not picking it up xx

How you getting on @Sez281?? Have you done anymore tests 🌈🙏

Think I'm 7 dpo today, nothing much happening few twinges in my boobs but that's about it. Going insane tbh trying to find jobs to distract myself today so I don't start testing for fun 😩🙈🤣

Really hope atleast one of us gets our rainbow this cycle 🙏 xx

@Westy22 hear hear! We're due for some good news 👍🏻💕🌈

Peak opk time for me I believe so shortly entering the valley of torment again...

Girls don't laugh but I've lost my preseed 🤣🤣🤣 like I have no clue where it is lol I've got the applicators but not the actual lube. Maybe I left it in the hotel, coz tbh I've been nowhere near the OH since with work and feeling a bit run down. Part of me thinks has the OH binned it 🤣🤣

Oh my god @Westy22 🤣🤣 Was he not a fan? 🙈😂 If it wasn't him I'm sure the hotel staff have seen worse 🤷‍♀️😂😂

I got another bfn this morning so not testing again. Also never buying internet cheapie tests cos the indents are shocking! 🧐 Anyway I only did it due to weirdness of my LH massive rise and a few strange symptoms but im taking it that it was just extremely late ovulation so i'm in the valley of torment with you @SnookyPook 🙈 Hopefully we're both kept busy and distracted enough that it flies in. And I really do feel somebody in this thread (not me as chances are slim this cycle) but one of us will have really good news very soon 🙏 🌈 xx

Lol its so bizarre that it's disappeared off the face of the earth 🤣 I'm fuming coz it's not the cheapest lube 🤣

Ahh i thought it would be you this month @Sez281 hopefully though your random cycle could still deliver its just annoying that the tww starts again.

I've bought some poundland cheap sticks today so that I don't waste loads of money if I start bloody early testing...which is bound to happen. I did buy two boots early detection ones tho for if I get anything on a cheapie and want to double check and the sales assistant wished me luck 🤣 I took that as a sign from the gods...obviously 🤣🤣🤣

@Westy22 oh aye haha I bet you left it in the hotel room! Would u recommend it? I've never used lube or anything but I have heard good reviews for it.

@Sez281 I got a indent on one last month I think they are so disheartening aren't they!

I definitely think one of us will be getting a bfp soon. Am going with being in the tww 3dpo. Looking at my tests day 21 my opk was near enough the same colour as the control line like they was on par with eachother and it's the highest reading I've had. (Not as hight as what people normally get) I'm convincing myself I just missed my peak because I didn't test again later in the evening. But I'm still dtd just to cover Incase ha. Also I have convinced myself I'm out this month av just got that feeling xx

@Jadeypie I wouldn't mind but it was 2 different brands. I know I wasn't imagining them cos I showed them to my OH and he saw them too. (I've attached pics here to show I'm not crazy 😂) It serves me right for testing so early when I swore I wouldn't. 🙈Now I'm possibly 1DPO again I actually have no idea when AF is due but going to try to hold out as long as possible this time 🤞

Don't discount yourself at all this month! I know it was stressful but don't worry about how high your peak is, it actually means nothing as the 2 times I've actually conceived it barely rose and we only dtd twice in the whole window so fingers crossed for you 🤞 xx

Ah sorry to hear that @Sez281 , I thought this was your month.
Good luck ladies for entering the Tww or aptly named valley of torment!
We really are due some lovely news in this thread 💜

I have no good news to share either i’m afraid as it’s been confirmed today that I’ve miscarried again. The baby stopped growing shortly after my last scan so on similar timelines as my previous mmc. My first mmc baby would be due in a few weeks and I really thought I would be in a different position by now but it wasn’t meant to be.
The midwife today said everything else looked fine and it was just bad luck. I can’t help feel like a chemical and two miscarriages is more than bad luck though and there must be something underlying but that’s a worry for another day.

Oh @xxcxdonxx I'm so so sorry hun 💔 I hate that you have to go through this again. It's so fucking cruel. It must be doubly hard considering how close it is to the potential due date of the last 😢 I'm sure the midwife meant well and was trying to give you some comfort and reassurance but as you say that's for another day. Allow yourself to be angry, sad, confused and just pissed off about how crappy it is 😭 Most of all take care of yourself, we're here if you need to talk xx

I am so so sorry @xxcxdonxx I cannot begin to imagine how you feel right now. Its not bad luck is totally sh!t, you shouldn't have to face it again and when your ready to I would ask more questions. I hope you know you're not alone in this, we are all thinking of you and will be ready to listen when you want to talk xx

@xxcxdonxx oh my darling I'm so sorry 😔 I know you were braced for it but it doesn't actually make it any easier does it. Sending you so much love. ❤️❤️❤️

@xxcxdonxx my heart truly breaks for you 💔 it really is so cruel and shit!! Thinking of you today xxx

@Sez281 those lines rnt even sqinters either. My hopes would of been up with them this is why I think there should be no tests that can detect early pregnancy or Evaps or indents. I won't be testing till a missed period going forward. I'm starting a major health kick too going to concentrate on that rather than the ttc and hopefully that will bring a nice surprise ha xx

@Sez281 I agree with @Jadeypie - those lines would have had me fooled too. Do you think maybe you had a super early chemical? Anyway, sending hope! If you are back to beginning of tww I will shortly be joining you. Think it's ovulation day today as had my peak yesterday. We managed to dtd again last night and I'm hoping maybe a cheeky third attempt today and then it's in the hands of the gods again.

I've never really been one for early testing but after the chemical last month even less so - I'd only be in torment if I got a faint line before AF due anyway. So I'll be looking for distractions for the full two weeks and possibly beyond!

Thank you ladies for all being so wonderful.
It really is a bit shit right now and I just can’t understand how since my last pregnancy 3 years ago that it’s all went so horribly wrong. I do think I’m going to get some advice/tests done just to understand where we are so we are better informed if we do want to try again.

I’ll definitely be checking in on your updates and hoping for some lovely rainbow baby news soon! 🌈

@SnookyPook sounds like your in with a good chance. It's mad how we have all fell into the same tww we must be syncing ha. That's why I've decided to start a health kick so I can be distracted with that and plus being distracted makes the tww fly.

@xxcxdonxx I agree with advice/tests will help your sanity. To know if there is anything going on or not it will take all second guessing out xx

@xxcxdonxx definitely no harm in chatting to your gp and maybe having a few tests done for peace of mind. I mean it might be nothing and you might just be really unfortunate 😢 or it might just be a tiny thing that needs tweaking 🤷‍♀️ xx I always like to tell myself that it's really positive that I've conceived twice this year but it's so frustrating that neither of them have been viable so I'm actually looking forward to my appointment with fertility consultant next month 🙏

@SnookyPook I don't think it was an early chemical, but I have read that there can be a small burst of hcg during attempted implantation and if it fails then it disappears so maybe that was it 🤷‍♀️ I only did it as if I hadn't had that surge then technically AF was almost due but obviously not now 🙈 Wow fair play to you, sounds like you definitely covered all of the bases! Hope you have lots of distractions over next 2 weeks. As you say it's in the hands of the gods now! 🙏 xx

@Jadeypie good idea with the health kick as a distraction. I actually started keto last week as I need to lose a few pounds and have read that it might be good for ttc but honestly I might give up as it's just making me more miserable 🙈😂 Hope your 2 weeks fly in xx

@Westy22 Hope you managed to find the preseed 😂😂 You're a few days ahead of the rest of us so fingers crossed for the rest of your wait 🤞 xx

@Sez281 I defo could do with losing the extra pounds. But I always find I'm happier when. On a health kick and I was when I conceived my son so that's what I'm thinking.

I've also just had my results I'm getting referred to a hormone specialist they suspect pcos which doesn't surprise me they thought I did when I was in my teens but never done anything about it. Also explains why I didn't find a peak on those opk and why my cycles are all over the show. Least I'm heading in the right direction. Gives me more of a reason to get my health kick started too because that helps with pcos. he's quite sure with my history and bloods and other symptoms that's likely what I have x

Oh @Jadeypie that's great that you got your results! Pcos can be managed really well, you might be prescribed Clomid or something to assist with more regular ovulation. I have a feeling I have it also as I have loads of the symptoms and all my scans have shown multiple cysts. Same as you when I was a teenager it was suggested but then just forgotten about 🙄 You sound so much more motivated than me about the diet but maybe I'm just having a bad day and I'm defo hormonal. Hopefully another few days and you'll rub off on me! 💪😂😂 x

@Sez281 yeh am glad he's sending me to the hormone specialist aswell because I'm not getting fobbed off. It took me five years to have my son (probably why with pcos) I concieved him after being on a health kick and being the fittest I've ever been. Have u ever had bloods done to check? My testosterone came back high so I said to my partner he might aswell just start calling me Barry 🤣🤣 anyway being positive I obviously do ovulate just not regularly xx

@Jadeypie pmsl over the Barry comment 🤣🤣 Isn't it so funny when we hear testosterone that's automatically where I mind goes even though we all have some in us 😂 No I've never got mine checked, just regular bloods but when I see the specialist on the 17th I'll be making sure they book me in to check everything as time isn't on my side! 🥴 I'm loving your really positive attitude towards the health kick, it worked before so you've got this! 💪💪 x

I didn't manage to find it @Sez281 it's still a mystery 🤣🙈 yeah think I'm 8dpo still not alot happening, I felt like I was getting a few period like feelings yesterday and this morning but I wouldn't necessarily call it cramps more just an ache 😑 probably going to test fri/sat not going to lie, I'm already itching to lol I know shouldn't do it to myself.

I'm out at the weekend so looking forward to a good distraction away from all tww thoughts lol

It's good your on your way to a proper diagnosis @Jadeypie and will get some help hormone wise, also admiring your drive to get fit...I have zero motivation I'm struggling to drink enough water and love takeaways 🤣🐷 need to get my arse in to gear tbh.

Good luck in your tww @SnookyPook @Sez281 @Jadeypie 🌈🙏 xx

So I've started spotting again like last month when I assume I'm 5dpo. Seriously what is going on! I can't be doing the spotting again up until af like last time x