1DPO... any cycle buddies out there?

[Kewchoc]

I'm currently TTC following a miscarriage at 12 weeks on 5th August. I haven't had a period yet but we decided not to wait, as I'm desperate to be pregnant again and I think that is the only thing that will make me feel better about the loss. I have been tracking ovulation and did catch my peak so now just hoping I've got the timing of DTD right.

Just wondering if anyone out there TTC is around the same time in their cycle so that we can chat to each other really. I think I'm already driving my husband mad, it would be nice to speak to other people who really understand how I'm feeling! 😊

@Amberellalina both referrals are in, just takes soooooo long. Other half has to do his semen analysis and I have a scan on the 11th, once those results are in they should give us an appointment date 🤞

I'm 34, started first TTC when I was 27, definitely didn't expect to be where I am now, divorced and still childless! Life likes to throw curveballs at us hey!

@Kewchoc - Totally get that. I felt like it was salt in the wound that not only was I no longer pregnant, but I’d lost so much fitness in those few months and had nothing to show for it so to speak. That said, when I feel myself spiralling and it all gets overwhelming, it really does help to bring my rational thoughts more into focus and it’s been the same throughout a lot of other stressful times, so I knew if I forced myself to go, it would help. If it’s something you miss, I’d definitely recommend trying it again if you can manage it, really is so good for the noggin!

@moosey89 - hopefully you’ll get that appointment not long after the 11th 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼 From the sounds of things you really do deserve some good luck in this process x

@Agathapoirot thank you! I really hope I've got some good luck somewhere in the not too distance future x

@Agathapoirot Absolutely, I actually said to my husband earlier that I might try getting back to the gym this week even if it's just to walk on the treadmill. I think once I do get over the mental challenge of walking back in there I'll be okay. We shall see!

How are ye all doing with the TWW? I’m 6DPO today which is usually when I start going loopy - I can ignore the first few days when I know there can’t be symptoms etc but once it gets to this point my mind starts going wild! I had a transvaginal ultrasound last week and the results came back normal so I’m trying to be reassured by that but still waiting for some other tests about my thyroid. Trying not to obsess but ye know what it’s like!! @moosey89 I hope you get the appointment soon, it’s great there is a plan but I know the waiting is killer for these thjngs!

Hi @Crazydogladie ! Just joining in on the thread, but 7DPO today so nearly same as you and trying not to drive myself mad symptom spotting after a MC at 5 weeks last month.

Wishing you guys all the best and fingers crossed for some BFPs soon! 🤞🏼

Hi @Liz2681 and welcome. Sorry to hear about your loss, we’re all in the post-mc club here which is horrible, but I’ve been finding it really helpful to chat with people in the same boat!

@moosey89 fingers crossed the appointment comes soon, maybe it’s more efficient where you are but I find I always have to really chase up literally anything medical.

@Crazydogladie great news about your test coming back Ok - one less thing to have to worry about eh!

7dpo here and my pdg came back positive for ovulation this morning which is fab. As I hoped, it has soothed my urge to POAS somewhat and I’m optimistic that I can wait until Saturday. I’ll only be 11 dpo (and I didn’t test positive until 12 dpo last time…) but my Dad is coming to visit so there’ll be extra pressure to drink.

Thanks @Amberellalina I'm finding it's also helping being on here. Good news on the positive PDG test. I'm also 7 DPO but trying to hold out to POAS until AF is due next Tuesday 😬

Not sure I'll last that long though!

@Amberellalina yeah chasing is the name of the game here! Going to have a private appointment once I get my NHS scan done next week and get the results as otherwise I'd have to pay another £170 for a private scan 😭

Well done to you all battling through the TWW! Hopefully that last week flies by and we see some bfps!

I’ve had one of those weeks where I felt like I was progressing, and even said to my mum I felt like I was more rational and hopeful. And then today found myself crying in the toilets at work while the rest of my team met a colleagues baby when she popped in from maternity leave.

I don’t even recognise myself sometimes, this mc has really just stolen so many things. I just want to be happy for other people without feeling sad for myself.

So grateful for this space to vent and put my feelings out there. I really hope you’re all doing well x

@Agathapoirot so sorry for your loss. Completely understand how you feel - my sister in law is expecting and we both found out we were pregnant two weeks apart, but unfortunately I miscarried shortly after. I love her but it just brings on an element of sadness for me every time we talk about her pregnancy, even though I'm also thrilled for her. It absolutely sucks, but I'm finding it helps to vocalise those feelings - these forums are helping so much!

Keeping fingers crossed for BFPs all around! x

@Liz2681 - exactly the same! My sister in law is due 2 weeks after I would have been, and it’s horrible. I desperately want to be excited and involved, but everytime I see her with a bigger bump it’s a gut punch.

@Agathapoirot I'm with you - my boyfriends sister in law is due 4 weeks before when I would have been, it's so hard. I've also had to deal with the fact that I don't think I'm ovulating at all right now according to my progesterone levels, so decided to speed things up and book an appointment with a private fertility consultant to see if they can help.

@Agathapoirot oh wow what a coincidence! My sister in law is due two weeks before when I would have been. She's still only a few weeks along so not really showing but not sure how I'll feel when she starts. Part of me is just hoping I'll be pregnant when we get to that point, otherwise not sure how I'll manage. We're a really close family as well and live in the same town so see each other quite often.

@moosey89 sorry to hear that. Sounds like you're doing the right thing by booking a private appointment though. Best of luck!

Evening ladies and welcome @Liz2681 😊 sorry to hear of your loss but also, you have joined a good thread as all of us have been there like @Amberellalina said.

@Amberellalina good news about the pdg test, that must be making you feel quite positive? You're a stronger woman than I am if you can hold out til 11DPO before testing haha!

@moosey89 oh it's disgusting how much they can charge for these things!! Really hope you're not waiting too long to get some answers though!

@Agathapoirot don't be hard on yourself, I think most people in our situation's would find the situation with the colleague difficult but that absolutely does not mean that you're not progressing. There's no right or wrong way to work through these things. Sending you a big hug, it sounds like a rough day ❤️

I have had a very long and intense couple of days at work which has been very stressful but has also taken my mind off TTC completely which I think I've needed. I did find myself starting to symptom spot today but Ive definitely been a lot more rational than what I was last month. 6DPO today and I'm considering letting myself test at 8DPO just to satisfy the urge ha... I'm well aware it is still very early to test but not sure how much longer I will continue with this new found rationale!!

Well my rational thinking from yesterday has gone right out of the window and I've tested this morning at 7DPO 🙄🤣 obviously bfn!!! I don't even know why I bothered haha... spent a good 15 minutes squinting at the evap line before telling myself to get a grip

@Kewchoc I know what you mean 😆 took everything not to test this morning at 8DPO, but instead I'm obsessing over my BBT, even buying a new thermometer this morning because the one I've been using feels really basic. Trying to take my mind off things but it's becoming more of a struggle!

I’m feeling the shifting of the obsession. I discovered that if you do a pdg test 7, 8, 9 and 10 dpo then it gives you a sense of whether your progesterone is playing ball this month. Obviously with that in mind I did another one this morning, and if I keep going it should get me safely to 11 dpo 😂

Haha it's ridiculous isn't it. I was well aware before I even did the test that it would be clearly negative yet still carried on and did it anyway! I am feeling positive this month but regardless, it's still way too early to see anything anyway.

Has anyone started with any potential symptoms?

I know the feeling, I can just about accept that there is no point doing early test other than with FMU so I’m back to making myself run straight to the bathroom in the morning so I pee before I can get a test out 😂I’m 7DP0 today and trying to hold out until 10DPO which is when I got my bfp last month. I’m going away that day so will have a nice long haul flight to obsess about the result whatever it is 🙄why do we do it to ourselves!! But also how can we not!

Long haul flight though... No symptoms here. I did feel some pain in my lower abdomen when trying to get to sleep last night, but it was probably too far to the side to be implantation, plus I've had a bad back these past few days so probably referred from that 😂

Anybody else?

How long is the long haul flight? Don't envy you though I struggle with a flight to cornwall 🤣

@Amberellalina Haha well you're not alone there... I've had some mild cramping today which I'm almost certain is just wind cause I ended up eating rubbish the last couple of days with work being so busy.. but obviously there's a part of my brain screaming that it's implantation!

Only symptoms here (8DPO) are sore boobs (nothing extreme) and some mild cramping; I've also had a bit of lower back pain, but to be honest none of those are unusual for me around this time of my cycle so it might just be a sign of AF's impending arrival. BBT still has not dropped though so that's at least one positive sign!

Kicking myself as last time I got pregnant I was on holiday during TWW and wasn't paying any attention to my symptoms or tracking BBT so don't even have that to compare to 🤦🏻‍♀️

Sorry I realize it is an absolute first world problem to be complaining about going on holiday! I’m just having a lot of anxiety at the moment about TTC and we had planned this holiday around the possibility I might be pregnant so my anxious brain is in overdrive. I just need to build a bridge and get over myself! Hopefully being away will distract me! No symptoms here really, sore boobs but that’s normal for me pre AF. I didn’t have symptoms last month either though

Morning all! How is everyone feeling today? Anyone testing??? I am still managing to resist 😊