1DPO... any cycle buddies out there?

[Kewchoc]

I'm currently TTC following a miscarriage at 12 weeks on 5th August. I haven't had a period yet but we decided not to wait, as I'm desperate to be pregnant again and I think that is the only thing that will make me feel better about the loss. I have been tracking ovulation and did catch my peak so now just hoping I've got the timing of DTD right.

Just wondering if anyone out there TTC is around the same time in their cycle so that we can chat to each other really. I think I'm already driving my husband mad, it would be nice to speak to other people who really understand how I'm feeling! 😊

I think I’m gonna cave and test tomorrow (10 dpo) with an easy@home. I’ve got a billion of them in so I don’t mind wasting it!

Morning @Amberellalina!

If it makes you feel any better I caved and tested this morning with an easy@home test (can completely relate to having loads of those lying around) and it was a BFN 😕

I keep telling myself it's still too early at 9DPO but no longer feeling very positive particularly as I've noticed a slight drop in my BBT. If it's sustained tho AF is definitely on her way 😫

Sorry to hear that @Liz2681 but nevermind, as you say, still v early!

Temping doesn’t work for me because DH gets up early which either a) makes me cold because he’s not in bed or b) makes me warm because he puts the heating on 😂

I’m only 5dpo and would really love to wait for af to be late so I’m not squinting at lines BUT I know who I am as a person and will most likely be doing one from 9dpo 🤣 My tactic is to wait as long as I can before ordering them

Good thinking @Agathapoirot I’ve got a pack of frer arriving on Sat so I’ve accidentally done the same!

@Amberellalina very true, still quite early and in my experience the easy@home tests really struggle to pick up lower levels of HCG. I'm going to hold out until the weekend before doing a Clearblue.

Never thought hubby waking up early could affect BBT, as mine does as well so may need to start taking those readings with a pinch of salt! 😬

@Agathapoirot good tactic not having them in the house. I have so many lying around the temptation is too great at this point 🫢😬

Morning gang, hope you're all okay and not going too crazy in the TWW!

You're all doing much better than me with waiting to test haha. @Liz2681 I also have been testing with easy@home so hopefully the crappy tests are the reason for our BFN's and we will get our BFP in the next few days! I go to Cornwall today to stay with some family, but this is where all of my symptoms disappeared last time so I'm getting quite stressed about going now. Really hoping I get a bfp while we're there as it would make everything feel full circle if that makes any sense to anyone!

How is everyone feeling about baby loss awareness week coming up? I've already started seeing posts on social media about it and am finding it a bit difficult. I don't think I would find it so hard if I was already pregnant again but seeing so much info about baby loss knowing I haven't conceived again since we lost ours is really messing with my head to be honest

@Kewchoc I was really hoping to be pregnant again in time for baby loss awareness week but I'm not either. It's hard but I'm sort of leaning into it, allowing myself to feel sad and taking part in the walk on the 15th to raise money for Miscarriage Association, and also the wave of light. I have done that every year since my first loss and I find it gives me a sort of emotional release x

@moosey89 That sounds like the healthiest thing to do to be honest. I think I'll do the same, although 15th October is our first wedding anniversary so I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to make our wedding anniversary a sad day but I also feel guilty to the baby we lost moving their day to a different day just to make it more suitable for me

@Kewchoc I understand what you mean about it messing with your head and agree with @moosey89 that it really helps giving yourself the space to be sad.

I thought I was doing relatively well to date but just received a letter in the post from the NHS saying my first scan's been scheduled for the 26th. It's so incredibly upsetting. Had a good cry though and think I will be spending the rest of the day under my duvet before I muster up the courage to call them to cancel 😫

@Liz2681 Oh that is very upsetting 😞 it's awful getting appointment letters after losing the baby and having even more reminders of what should have been. Really hope you're okay. Cry as much as you need to and could I also suggest a very big bar of chocolate today ❤️

@Liz2681 oh that's not nice to receive 😞 I'm lucky my midwife team were really responsive by email so I could cancel everything that way. Definitely was not in a mood to speak to anyone on the phone!x

Oh god what a nightmare @Liz2681. I’d definitely be indulging in chocolate and sadness if that happened to me.

And congratulations on your anniversary @Kewchoc, I hope you manage to enjoy it. Maybe you can flip the script and make it a celebration of everything you’ve got through together, including baby loss. Got my fingers crossed for your BFP at the weekend and Cornwall redeeming itself for you.

I’m feeling really positive about this month. No weird spotting, pdg tests coming back positive and no sign of AF coming as early as she did last month so even if i’m not pregnant at least it looks like we’re getting back to normal at last. In any case we’ve decided we’re going to try until Christmas, and then if I’m not pregnant by then do the IVF In January. It feels good to have a plan!

Thank you guys for your kind words. It's so nice having this as an outlet. As suggested I had a good cry, a nap and am now vegging on the couch.

@Amberellalina it is good to have a plan! Sometimes it's just about knowing what the next steps are which is helpful. Fingers crossed though for BFP before Jan! 🤞🏼

In terms of symptoms, anyone else noticed brown spotting and cramping? AF not due until next Tuesday though so not sure if it's impending AF or if it's implantation? I'm 9DPO so could be either.

@Liz2681 I had that at 8/9 dpo in my last pregnancy so could be a good sign!

BFN at 10 dpo this morning as expected… Not out yet as only got my BFP at 13 dpo last time 😊

@Amberellalina yes definitely not out yet! I didn't get my last BFP until DPO 14 so still plenty of time.

I woke up this morning bleeding - thought AF had arrived super early, but it's just stopped? Getting flashbacks to last BFP where the exact same thing happened which ended in MC, so really hoping it's not the same again!

@Amberellalina Oh yes still a few days! Although I also got a bfn this morning at 9dpo and am trying not to convince myself I'm out. I know it's still too early for a bfp but I think I've been more desperate than I realised to be pregnant again before Cornwall and baby loss awareness week so I'm starting to panic that I'm not. Until the last couple of days I actually felt like I was dealing with things okay but I'm now realising that I'm not in a very good place mentally... although maybe that's just PMS talking 😞

@Liz2681I guess all you can really do is wait and see... but if it's stopped that sounds like a good sign. Sorry that it's been so triggering for you though 😞 it really is so stressful trying to get pregnant after loss. If you find it helpful then please do talk through how you're feeling with us on here, I'm sure we will all understand even though we can't offer any real advice xx

@Kewchoc , @Liz2681 , @moosey89 , @Agathapoirot anybody I’ve missed and anybody lurking. This whole thing is absolutely horrendous and you’re all superwomen for how well you’re coping with it.

It might not feel like you’re coping sometimes, but you’re all getting up, and going to work, and going to the gym, and looking after DC and frankly it’s amazing that any of that is happening after what we’ve been through!

Massive props to all of you x

@Amberellalina That is such a lovely message and I definitely needed to hear it today. You are absolutely right, we're a pretty badass bunch of girls really, aren't we? 🥰

@Amberellalina thank you - you don't know just how much I needed that today 💗

@Amberellalina that's so lovely 😭 really needed to hear that today. Thank you @Kewchoc, that means a lot.

You're all so amazing for, despite going through some of the hardest things women will ever have to go through, still choosing to come on here and offer advice, support or just a friendly ear. Big hugs to everyone ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ xx

I feel like we have unintentionally created the loveliest thread on Mumsnet 🥰

SO grateful for this safe non-judgemental space. Thanks ladies ❤️

Pretty sure my period is incoming... boobs starting to feel heavy when I take my bra off which always happens a couple of days before AF 😞