1DPO... any cycle buddies out there?

[Kewchoc]

I'm currently TTC following a miscarriage at 12 weeks on 5th August. I haven't had a period yet but we decided not to wait, as I'm desperate to be pregnant again and I think that is the only thing that will make me feel better about the loss. I have been tracking ovulation and did catch my peak so now just hoping I've got the timing of DTD right.

Just wondering if anyone out there TTC is around the same time in their cycle so that we can chat to each other really. I think I'm already driving my husband mad, it would be nice to speak to other people who really understand how I'm feeling! 😊

Both times I've got pregnant I have been exercising at least 4-5 times a week and pretty intense exercise too, all the way through the month! Last time I did a hard hilly 10k trail run at 10dpo 😅

I find I get pregnant when I'm fit and healthy. When I'm not I don't, which is annoying because I love eating but need to lose weight again as I've put it on since my last loss 😂

I'd say go enjoy your exercise - make sure you're prioritising good nutrition (carbs for fuel, protein for recovery) and staying hydrated. And as much good sleep as you can manage with DD (when she lets you 😂).

The thing is, logically I know you’re both right. But last month I was arsing about with DD in the playpark at 10dpo and did something pretty strenuous like catch her jumping off of something high then swinging her round in the air (can’t remember exactly what it was). I immediately felt a sharp pain in my lower abdomen and then AF arrived the next day. Common sense tells me the two things were unrelated, but ttc paranoia is interfering!

@Amberellalina I get it - if I get pregnant again I'll be so scared of doing every little thing "right"! But honestly the embryo is so tiny at that stage, if it's snuggled up into your womb lining, you can't knock it out by playing or exercising. It's so hard to break through the mental worry xx

Thanks @moosey89, I think just typing it out has made me realise how silly it sounds. But, to alleviate the worry I think I’ll switch out the body pump for a swim and try not to go too hard at combat - though I do tend to get a bit carried away 😂

Hey ladies,

How you all doing? Sorry I've been quiet again, I really am finding things super difficult at the min and have been just ignoring all messages from everyone.. not the best coping mechanism is it but there we go! I have an assessment for counselling tomorrow so hopefully that will help.

Interesting that you've been talking about exercise in the TWW I've been thinking the same thing today! Haven't been back to gym since I was last pregnant but I'm thinking about going back this weekend, nothing too strenuous. @Amberellalina when I got pregnant with DS I was powerlifting four days a week at competition level and continued to do so until I was around 14 weeks pregnant so try not to worry too much about exercising in the TWW. I'm beginning to wonder whether the fact I was so fit then and that I'm not exercising at all now is having an impact.

How's everyone feeling this month? We haven't actually had sex all week but I'm planning on scheduling a bonk in tonight. Last month we were at it constantly and obviously still didn't conceive so I'm hoping to take a bit more of a relaxed approach this month and take some pressure off

Hi @Kewchoc, good to hear from you but sorry to hear you’re struggling. It’s hard Isn’t it? Having to cope with the grief of the loss together with the stress and disappointment of ttc. Hope the assessment for counselling goes well, I think it’s a great idea.

Also very sensible to give yourselves a break from 24/7 bonking this month! I’m all for making sexy time fun again ☺️

CD14 here so ovulation predicted on Tuesday… I’m definitely feeling less mad so far. Didn’t get to combat this week as we’re all full of a cold, but looking forward to getting a sweat on at Body Pump tonight!

Hi @Kewchoc so sorry you're having a hard time 😞 I think we sometimes forget how emotionally exhausting the whole process is, when you're so focused on the physical. Really hope the counselling goes well today x

Agree on the exercise point - I've been so lazy with it lately, going from 4-5 day a week HIIT sessions to very little. I'm gonna try to pick that back up again to take my mind off things.

@Amberellalina were quite close in our cycles then - I'm on CD15, with ovulation predicted around Sunday/Monday. Fingers crossed for positive OPKs soon! x

Also @Kewchoc I’m feeling much better for getting back to ‘proper’ exercise so I can definitely recommend it!

I love weightlifting - though obviously I’m not at your level. I started in my thirties and really felt like I’d found my sport. It is a bit too time consuming to juggle with full time work and being the primary parent so I’m hoping to get back into it once DC are older ☺️

Yep, @Liz2681. I’m hoping for a surge Sunday or Monday, but it could be late again like last month. I’m still testing twice a day, but not worrying as much about e.g. maintaining a consistent level of hydration, holding for an uncomfortably long time etc like I did last month… You’re doing CB right? Any flashing smileys yet?

@Amberellalina Haha, I'm not at any level of fitness anymore unless you count "laying horizontal on the sofa" as a level 🤣 I never did get back to pre DS strength or fitness but I had been going to the gym regularly still. I'm actually considering getting myself a PT who is also qualified in pregnancy training... I feel like having someone else to be accountable to might actually make me get off my arse and sort myself out! Glad you're feeling better for it though, I do think weightlifting is amazing for our mental health! I agree that it's very difficult to fit around life though

@Liz2681Thank you... the assessment went well, although I spent 45 minutes talking about the miscarriage and how it's affecting me in depth, only to arrive at work 30 minutes later and be partnered with a heavily pregnant woman in a training session... the irony of it did genuinely make me laugh though ha, maybe I've finally lost it altogether!!

I'm a little behind you two I'm only on CD13, although had a lot of cramping and ewcm today so wouldn't surprise me if I ovulate a little earlier than last month! Still not getting a positive OPK though so we shall see!

Got a 0.81 on my opk last night so looks like I might be ovulating earlier than usual this month… Haven’t done one this morning yet though…

@Kewchoc so glad to hear it went well. Sometimes it feels a little like the universe has a twisted sense of humour about these things 😒 good to hear you laughed through it though and hope you're feeling generally more upbeat. Fingers crossed for a positive OPK soon x

@Amberellalina yup I've been getting flashing smileys since Tuesday. I've been doing the strip OPKs in tandem and my LH increased slightly yesterday so hoping for a static smiley either tomorrow or Monday!

Good news about the .81 test yesterday - that's usually where my peaks tend to land so, although everyone's different, sounds like your peak may be close x

Yep, got a 1.51 this morning so we’re definitely surging! A nice surprise to be early for a change, it brings the next step a little closer.

Fingers crossed for your static smiley soon @Liz2681 , that happened to me last month - loads of days of flashing then a slow LH rise before surge.

And @Kewchoc I’m glad the counselling was good - I might look into it myself, sounds like a great way to (try to) process the grief.

Have a nice weekend everyone x

@Amberellalina glad to hear it looks like a surge! Yeah it's not unusual for me to have loads of flashing smileys beforehand, with the exception of last month where I only had one flashing smiley before a static one - I think things were a bit off though because of the chemical, so it's reassuring things are at least going back to normal now.

Hope everyone else is doing well and enjoying the (soggy) weekend! x

Morning ladies! How are you all doing? 1 dpo here and got the work week from hell to keep me distracted!

Morning! On CD18 and still no positive OPK 😩 a bit frustrating as I'd just like to get on with the TWW but this isn't the first time I've ovulated this late so just have to keep testing! Like you @Amberellalina I also have the week from hell coming up, including a job interview on Wednesday, but looking forward to some time off next week.

How is everyone this morning?

@Liz2681 that was exactly me last month - it’s annoying because you get in a flap thinking you’ve missed it! Fingers crossed for a positive OPK today and you can get on with things. And good luck with the interview on Wednesday x

Hello ladies,

Good to hear you've both got busy weeks, I think it definitely helps to make the TWW more bearable!

I got a ridiculously high OPK yesterday afternoon (2.5!!) so presuming that was my peak, but I've actually tried to avoid doing many OPK tests seeing as I'm trying to be more relaxed about it this month. Although saying that, every time we've had sex I've found myself thinking "that seemed like it would do the trick" 🤣🤣 based on absolutely nothing!! I'm hoping that you understand what I mean and that I've not just gone completely insane!

Hello, hope you don't mind me joining.
I am nearly 5 weeks post miscarriage. Like most of you on this thread, we have jumped straight into TTC following this.
I got peak ovulation 5 days ago ( static smiley on CB). Before this all my ovulation tests were negative.

I am overthinking symptoms like you wouldn't believe. I have already done a pregnancy test, no idea why when i knew it would be negative this early on anyway.

Hope you are all doing ok, it really is quite hard and really does send you crazy

Hello everyone I’m joining here after a break from mumsnet. Pretty sure I’m 2dpo today I don’t really track anymore since it was getting too much. Crazy to think I will be ovulating only two more times this year and in January we will probably seek medical help and start with tests. With all the anxiety I probably won’t fall pregnant in that time.

Gosh, 2.5 @Kewchoc! You must have caught it at its absolute highest. And yes I understand re: dtd - sometimes you’re like ‘well, that got it where it needed to be’ 😂

Welcome @tlw14 and sorry for your loss. I would advise, being a couple of months further down the line, not to put pressure on yourself to fall again straight away. It is easier said than done but I really got myself in a state about it and I wish I hadn’t.

@emmatcc1 welcome to you too. Fingers crossed for a bfp for you before Christmas ☺️

@Amberellalina Yeah hopefully, I've literally never had anything even close to that though so I'm hoping it wasn't just a dodgy test! We DTD a couple of hours after so really hoping we got the timing right this month. We should really DTD again tonight but I've been absolutely riddled with anxiety all day so I'm not sure that's gonna be happening. It's my husbands birthday a week today so would be amazing if I ovulate today and somehow manage to get a positive pregnancy test to give him on his birthday... at 7DPO 🤔🤣

@tlw14 @emmatcc1 welcome to our lovely little gang!

@Kewchoc @Amberellalina
thank you both.
It’s so easy to get carried away with all of this isn’t it. I’m over evaluating all my symptoms constantly!!

So sorry for your loss @tlw14 you'll see we're all in very similar positions so this is a great space to come to, or to at least feel you're not the only one driving yourself mad over symptom spotting!

Welcome @emmatcc1, keeping fingers crossed for you for this cycle xx

@Kewchoc whoa that is crazy high! At least that's definitely a definitive high, so maybe just caught at exactly the right time?

Finally got a static smiley on the CB this morning on CD19 coupled with a peak (I think) on the OPK strip so can finally start on the TWW! Just hope my luteal phase is long enough now 🙈.

Hope everything's all well with everyone else this morning x

Excellent @Liz2681 - let the games begin!

@Kewchoc hope the anxiety settled itself - life is hard but you got this.

I’m feeling more chilled this month - we’ve done what we can, and I’m either going to be pregnant or I’m not. Of course I’m still only 2dpo so it might be a different story this time next week!