TTC May 2023 💖✨ previous MC March 2023

[Freddie15VES]

Hi ladies

I thought I’d create this thread if anyone wants to jump on.

I have a little boy who was 2 in April 💖

we decided in March to start trying for baby #2 and we were delighted to get pregnant that same month! Unfortunately we lost the baby at the end of April at 6w 4d

The MC is completed and I have taken an OPK this morning which looks to be really high. Not quite peak but definitely high which is just great that I’m ovulating again! I didn’t know what would happen. We both feel ready to try again this month so will be going for it.

Whether you’re TTC baby #1 #2 #3 etc you’re welcome to jump on ❤️❤️❤️

@SnookyPook I'm so sorry you're back in a new cycle, everything you've said about how you're feeling makes complete sense. I know I would feel exactly the same, and I am never sure how much to say about the new pregnancy on this particular thread because I don't want you or others to struggle with that. I was rooting for you so much this month as well, I'll be over the moon when you do post your bfp (which you WILL one of these days soon).
But just like with "real life" friends who are pregnant, if you need a bit of distance from the MN spaces that include pregnant people that is more than ok.
Don't dust yourself off too quickly, it's important to feel whatever you feel especially when you had every reason to get your hopes up this month. Sending a huge hug xxx

@SnookyPook i was the exact same as you when AF would show i would be so upset I always took 1 or 2 days to myself and got pizza and watched my favourite comfort shows and then after a couple of days I was back and hopeful for my new cycle! I hope you too will feel the same way. Sending love ❤️xx

@Hankthehonk thank you so much for your lovely words 💕

I have been contemplating backing off MN for a while in general actually as I think maybe I'm too much in my head about it all and I'm not sure that checking in every day and discussing the minutiae of my cycle etc is doing me any good. It was great for getting me through the crisis of my loss but I think what I now need is a bit of headspace and peace from it all.

Please don't forget me if I go quiet for a while! And I will love to hear how things are going for you guys. ❤️

@Strawb28 thank you lovely. I will be fine but I think the fact I had started to really get my hopes up for the first time this cycle has just really knocked me back a bit today. I've just enjoyed a proper nice strong coffee and might have some vino over the next few days and I'm sure I will rally and be back on it by fertile week. It just gets difficult to remain hopeful at times doesn't it. X

@SnookyPook i’m sorry AF has arrived, 3 days late is just cruel or her.
I can really relate to your feeling of being a bit left behind.
I bang on about it all the time but it still stings me that I’ve gotten pregnant so quickly in the past (albeit two resulting in a loss) and I’ve not had even a whiff of a bfp since we’ve been trying again.

I also genuinely love seeing everyone’s updates and all the lovely bfps that get shared.
Just know you are absolutely not alone in this 💜

@xxcxdonxx 💗💗💗 sending big hugs xxx

@SnookyPook I'm so sorry to hear this, I really thought this would be your month 😔 Lash the coffee and vino into you and take a breather from here for a while. I feel like AF is coming for me too (not due for 4 days by app but think it will be earlier). I've definitely been way too obsessed with it this cycle so might attempt to relax a bit more the next one and see what happens. I do love this thread as it's one of the few where we're all in the same positions after our loss in March so all the positive stories definitely give me hope that it will happen it time 🙏 I'm confident that we'll all have our rainbow babies soon 🌈 xx

@Sez281 thank you lovely! And yes, it's my favourite thread 😊 I do genuinely believe our rainbow babies will come... Just feeling crappy right now that it didn't come this month! Hopefully this cycle will surprise you but if not, see you on the other side, ready to go again! 💗

@SnookyPook
I get you completely. I’ve stepped back from the threads a bit. It is heartbreaking and it’s totally valid to feel this way. I am starting to admit to myself that I am very jealous every time I hear a pregnancy announcement. It’s not about other people; it’s your own feelings and their valid too x x

@Dreamer88 💗💗💗 hugs to you xxx

Totally get where your coming from @SnookyPook and I'd hoped this month was ours to share ❤️ hope your OK.

I too already feel like this it's becoming too much for me and a bit of an unhealthy obsession of tests/symptom spotting/cervix checking 😫 which I never wanted to happen, but I guess the pressure builds each month and i read so many different posts on MN that something else pops in my head that I should buy/take/try.

I've felt in a really weird place in the last 24 hours where I could honestly cry at the fact I already feel like my body can't do it (ive no children) ... and it's only my first proper cycle since so its a bit insane that i already think that. Worst part of it is my partner really doesn't know how much this is consuming my life, so I too need to take some time to try and get back the person I was before who was laid back and relaxed about it, then hopefully my body will do its thing x

I do take comfort from you guys tho as I know we've all been in this place at some stage and that makes me feel a little bit normal x

@SnookyPook Absolutely take a break from mumsnet if you feel that's what you need. We'll be here if and when you decide to come back, if you do go quiet. I really hope you (and everyone struggling with tww/af arriving) can be kind to yourself and make some space this week for joy somehow. Involving booze if that's helpful (would definitely mean wine for me).

@SnookyPook sending so much love, I completely relate to your feelings, it’s just really really shit sometimes. If u do take some time away from here do know we are rooting for u so much and can’t wait to see u post ur bfp when it arrives ❤️❤️ Love and hugs xx

Just had my scan ladies and I’m 12+6 so way ahead of what I thought!

Everything was great 💖

Brilliant news @Freddie15VES nothing better than seeing your little one wriggling away 🥰

@Freddie15VES Wow that's amazing news, especially that you're ahead! It feels like every day counts in these early weeks so that's a dream to be further ahead than you thought.

Awww that's great news @Freddie15VES. Delighted for you 🥰
I'm 9DPO today, symptoms very similar to last month (sore boobs nausea and cramping) but could just as easily be pms🤷‍♀️. I did a test this morn and of course it was negative. Not going to test again now for 3 days when AF due if it hasn't arrived

@Westy22 I meant to reply to your post last night. So sorry you had such a shitty 24 hours 😔 I know I'm going to be in the same boat by the weekend. Like you I'm ttc #1 and I don't talk to my DP at all about how stressed I am about it as I don't want him to worry. And realistically there's nothing more he can do. But yes it's crap and I think we're allowed feel a bit sorry for ourselves! We'll just dust off for next cycle and I'm sure it'll happen soon xx

@Sez281 ah that makes me feel better that your kinda in the same situation 🙈 I'm sure our time will come 🤞 I should of come on by today and ofcourse AF hasn't arrived...tests are all negative, there not early response but i wouldve expected by 14dpo i should be showing on a normal one? so my body is just torturing me a little bit.

Yeah I'm the same with my partner I just know it will stress him out and make the situation worse, so I try to take it on myself but I'm certainly going to relax a but more for the next cycle. Xx

How have you found the PMS symptoms since MC? Obvs i was on the pill for 19 years so never really got pms but this cycle has been horrific for it hope its not the same every month.

@Freddie15VES made up for you ❤️❤️

@Westy22 Is it unusual for it to be late or are your cycle's irregular? Also have you changed vitamins or anything that could affect it? It is unusual not to have BFP by 14dpo but I've read so many threads on here from people it has happened for even later to so you never know! 🤞
Im the exact same with pms since my MMC. Like you I was on the pill/Depo injection for the last 20 years or so. When my cycle returned last year my periods were crippling and I was diagnosed with endo and fibroids just before Christmas. The mad thing is after surgical management for my MMC they obviously cleared a lot out as the next scan showed very little fibroids which I was delighted about. But yeah PMS symptoms are insane every month. I've also been cramping practically every day since my CP last cycle so a weird part of me just wants AF to show to get rid of it again 😭 I think like you im really going to try and relax a bit next cycle of it doesn't happen xx

There usually like clockwork however since MC this is my first proper cycle so god knows @Sez281 we shall see xx

@Westy22 you are so right, how you have described you are feeling is so
normal on these threads. I find myself saying I’m going to less obsessive for next month but it’s so difficult when it comes around not to. I find that I can’t really relax as I know I’d be annoyed at myself for not testing or as you say trying a new approach/vitamin etc. I think it is hard when it is physically you it’s happening to, not to feel a lot of pressure and to not want to share that.
I know you will be a in a bit of limbo just now with no af in sight but I do hope you are feeling a bit better today.

Sending you lots of hugs xx

Lovely to see some happy news with scans rolling in guys ❤️

Also girls who r in the tww I sympathize it's just mental torture! I also get the feeling of needing a break from mumsnet because sometimes u feel like your constantly reading threads and seeing if anything is like what your experiencing!

I've not been on much had some sad news lately (my dad passed) so my ttc journey is purely left down to nature at the moment I havnt got it in me to track ECT or even Dtd I think I was 100% wasn't meant to get my rainbow last month. I havnt gave up but I think it's just on hold for now.

I really hope the next time I pop in next some of you get thos little rainbows you have desperately been waiting for and the happiness that comes with ❤️ and all the little rainbows that are on way are causing havoc in mummys belly's haha sending love xx

I’m so sorry to hear that @Jadeypie and it will absolutely happen when it is the right time for you.
Hope you are doing ok, take care 💜

Scan news with pic...
Everything went great at our 12 week scan - baby wriggling and waving away. They put me at 12 weeks exactly, 2 days ahead of what I thought, so EDD is 23 Feb.
We had a trainee sonographer which was actually amazing as we got to look at the baby way longer while she practiced everything! We were in for almost half an hour and got about 30 pictures.

Thank you all for your good wishes this week, this really is my favourite thread and I'm rooting so hard for everyone here to have happy baby news soon.