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To bake or not to bake, that is the question...

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largeginandtonic · 14/02/2008 16:25

Her we are ladies!

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BeMyLilBaby · 15/02/2008 17:01

oh and i too remember PEZ!! i had a ion king one

kayzisbroody · 15/02/2008 17:01

I loved them as a kid and saw some from the 'Bee Movie' and thought I had to have one!!
I also would like 4 kids.

Playingthewaitinggame · 15/02/2008 17:02

The pain is the only thing that does concern me over a home birth, cos I have never done it so I dont know what it will be like. I am used to dealing with pain and I know water helps me but still, its such a big unknown. I was concerned about the babies health as well but on reading that most emergency c-sections take 30-45 mins from consultant ordering it to getting into theatre and realising that it wouldnt take as long as that to get from my house in an ambulance to QM in Pompey (think its QM not QA?) and the hosiptal would be prepared and waiting for me it has elivated many concerns that I would be putting baby at risk. In fact the midwife would probably realise there was a problem long before they would in hospital cos you get 1 on 1 care so I could be in theatre quicker and of course statistically you are a lot less likely to have a problem. Plus thinking about it the birth centre in our local hospital is only for low risk births so if there was a problem there I would still have to be transfered to Pompey. Not trying to decide now just trying to find out as much information as I can.

BeMyLilBaby · 15/02/2008 17:03

Playing it is indeed QM where people have babies, im planning to use there midwife unit if poss,my friend gave birth there and had a really positive experience, its really lovely, but defo no home birth for me

kayzisbroody · 15/02/2008 17:04

Thats another problem for me Playing, I'm around 40 minutes from a hospital, so I would be terrified

Playingthewaitinggame · 15/02/2008 17:04

I must be mad not even pg yet

kayzisbroody · 15/02/2008 17:05

Though with a home birth I'm not going to see that bloody horrible nurse again

BeMyLilBaby · 15/02/2008 17:06

nah were all just keen he he thats my story and im stickin to it!!!

Playingthewaitinggame · 15/02/2008 17:06

Well at least its nice to hear positive QM birth stories, that does help. Its such an unknown for me dont know anyone around here who has kids or has recently had kids to talk to about all these things.

lardylumps · 15/02/2008 17:08

The pain is bad but it isn't constant and gas and air is very good so dont worry about that. I had real problems with dd?s birth, we very nearly lost her. I am so worried the same will happen again and this is the only reason I would not elect for a home birth.

kayzisbroody · 15/02/2008 17:10

My friend had her baby there I think. She went on holiday at 37 weeks there as her dp was going surfing nearby.
She had her second up here and hated it and wants to go back down there for her 3rd

kayzisbroody · 15/02/2008 17:11

Get a Tens machine it is a real help, but not in a pool!!
Gas and air made me feel sick, I was awful on it but it did help

Playingthewaitinggame · 15/02/2008 17:12

OO share LL (if you want to of course) I am looking for nad experiences as well as good. I know I have about 18 months to make a decision but I want to do it with as much info as possible as of course all the site with info about home birth are from that point of view and even the ladies how have had to be rushed into hospital (one lady lost 4 pints of blood post birth) have still said it was a positive experience and the doctors have said it was nothing to do with being a home birth.

Playingthewaitinggame · 15/02/2008 17:14

I spose I just hate hospitals and the idea of giving birth in one feels me with panic right now. Have only ever had bad hospital experiences (obviously not pg related).

Playingthewaitinggame · 15/02/2008 17:16

Kay, will def be stealing my Mums TENS machine, have used it before when I was ill to numb the pain and it is great.

kayzisbroody · 15/02/2008 17:19

I had a fairly good experience until after I had ds. the nurse who looks after you after giving birth was a cow!!
Dh wasnt allowed any food or coffee he had to go and buy it so I just gave him mine. I wanted to breast feed but I didnt know what to do, she was no help at all. Was far too busy talking on the phone to someone about going out that night. then she didnt want me to go home as I hadnt breast fed him I told her she should've helped me then and I was going home as I'd ok'd it with the Paed and the head nurse.

If I see her again I might cry, she took most of the vouchers I was meant to get in the pack they give you so DH complained and we got £150 from the hospital!!

BeMyLilBaby · 15/02/2008 17:22

kays she sounds a cow, i think thats where my natural bull-ishness would have kicked in, im naturally overprotective so my inner lioness would of kick in and i would of probably caused i scene, DP says im forever doing that!

Mind-you i dont think that will be a prob for me if i get to give birth in the midwife led unit where i want as they all seem lovely x

BeMyLilBaby · 15/02/2008 17:26

any who you lot... im off home ill catch up on the few hundred posts that will have popped up on monday when im in bright and early at 8 ho hum

have a great weekend ladies!

kayzisbroody · 15/02/2008 17:27

You too BB, have a great weekend!!

lardylumps · 15/02/2008 17:31

First of all my waters broke and I didn't go into labour for 3 days, so she was at a high risk of infection. During these 3 days I had to go into hospital every 6 hours so they could check her heartbeat.

Dd was back to back so used my spine as a hammock, she was also twisted this meant that every contraction I had was pushing down on the back of her neck and not on her head, She also has no soft spot so her head would not go down the birth canal and after 36 hours of labour her heart beat dropped to 30 and never came back up again so they cut me (down below) and yanked her out (as they didn?t have time to prep me for a c section).

kayzisbroody · 15/02/2008 17:36

God thats horrible LL. Im sure it wont be anything like that again.
I'd rather give birth in a midwife led unit but I dont think they have reopened after the NHS shut it down

Playingthewaitinggame · 15/02/2008 17:38

It is things like that LL I do worry about. I think I would only be happy to have a home birth if baby was in good position and there were no added complications. At the slightest hint that something was higher risk I would switch to a hospital birth. The same could be said though of giving birth in our local town hospital which is only equipped for low risk births. So yes, if my waters broke early or s/he was lying back to back I would want to be in hospital. I think I could still plan for a home birth but be realistic and realise that those plans might have to change nearer the time if baby was in wrong position etc.

lardylumps · 15/02/2008 17:46

The care we were given throughout was second to none and the aftercare was brilliant. DD's face was really bruised when she was born due to forceps so I couldn't feed her the midwife was hand expressing me to give to her as I couldn't do it myself.

I was in for 4 days after and for the first 2 days I couldn't feed on my own I just couldn't get the hang of it so midwifes helped me every time (holding my boob and baby). I left an expert....

Playingthewaitinggame · 15/02/2008 17:54

Well at least despite having a traumatic labour you seem to have had a very positive experience of care. I spose I get scared about hospitals cos I dont like them so they stress me out just being in them, plus the idea of lying down to give birth really doesn't appeal nor does an epidural. The idea of not being mobile (and I know some hospitals offer mobile eps but they only last so long) and not beign able to feel thing properly would make me feel completely out of control which is the last thing I want to feel during labour. I can see if I end up in hospital and I am in pain I will just take whatever medication they throw at me which means I will have a less mobile labour and in turn greatly increase the risk of needing intervention. Of course, if there was any doubt over babies or my health and I was adviced to go for a hospital birth I would, even if I planned a home birth.

kayzisbroody · 15/02/2008 17:56

I didnt want to lie down but I ended up doing that as contractions hurt so much. I really dont want to next time round

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