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To bake or not to bake, that is the question...

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largeginandtonic · 14/02/2008 16:25

Her we are ladies!

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kayzisbroody · 18/02/2008 12:06

I was doing similar Playing.
We were thinking of just buying a cot and putting the new baby in there from day one instead of borrowing mils crib again.

How are you today Playing?

Playingthewaitinggame · 18/02/2008 12:35

Hi Kay, I am good, finally stopped feeling ill which is good.

I am very much up for putting baby straight into cot in the nursery. Our bedroom is not that big (in fact the spare bedroom is bigger but ours has a fireplace and is at the front of the house, so we like it better) so it would be squashed to put baby in their too. Plus I quite like the idea of getting baby into routine of sleeping in their own cot, I know that goes against the grain of what most people do and I might be horrified about that suggestion when I have a LO, but right now I am quite liking the idea.

BeMyLilBaby · 18/02/2008 12:39

Playing and kay, im actually with you on thuis one

ive read about it and i plan to have lo in our room for one month but in the cot, then move them into there own room, because the room is right next doo (two bedroom house) i might even do it sooner... Does anyone have any links to why you shouldnt in regards to SIDS? x

kayzisbroody · 18/02/2008 12:43

Well our next lo will have to be in our room as there isn't enough room for another cot in ds's nursery.
Hopefully by then we'll have got our council house. Its hard enough to carry 1 dc up and down the stairs.
I'm not sure why but they do say they are meant to be in your room for the 1st 6 months.

kayzisbroody · 18/02/2008 12:44

Oh yeah I'm glad you are feeling better Playing.

BeMyLilBaby · 18/02/2008 12:46

Hmm i might nip off and do some research, im gonna end up neuorotic...

Disenchanted · 18/02/2008 12:47

Hiya girls

How are you all?

Im hopefully starting to TTC now, ive been up and down about it for months but Im 99% sure Im gonna just go for it!

I posted about my cycle though and its really messed up this month so im going to have to wait till next month now

kayzisbroody · 18/02/2008 12:53

Hello Disenchanted,
How are you?
I'm exhausted ds is ill so didnt sleep last night. Kinda makes me wonder what I'm letting myself in for by ttc another one.
I'm trying now too, hoping for bfp around the 7th March

BeMyLilBaby · 18/02/2008 12:59

well i may aswell fess' up.. ive started taking pregnacare type vits (with folic acid) as of last week ... guess im committed im also taking codliver oil capsules (for ma' achin' bones lol) and Cranberry extract pills (to avoid cystitus)

Disenchanted · 18/02/2008 13:00

Lol kaz!

I feel the same, i have 2 under 4 already. I had a bug the other week and it really put me off.

I must be mad!

Playingthewaitinggame · 18/02/2008 13:12

Hi all. BB dont really know much about SIDS, apart from you should put baby at the bottom of the cot with feet touching the bottom so they cant snuggle down and get the covers over their head. To be honest I can't see what difference it would make, if baby dies in their sleep (god forbid it happens to none of us) I am sure you wouldn't know about it even if you were sleeping in the same room. I had a work colleague whose fiance died of SADS (which is SIDS in adults). He died in bed with her lying next door to him. She woke in the morning and found him dead next to her. Absolutley awful, but if she didn't know anything about it when lying next door to an adult I dont see how you would with a baby?

Teuch · 18/02/2008 13:21

Hi folks and hullo Disenchanted!!

Re SIDS, I know people who have put there babies straight into their own room but the recommendations are there for a reason IMO. There is also evidence that your breathing regulates your baby's breathing as well as the fact that you are there.

Try and get a crib or moses basket (borrow?) for the first wee while or try co-sleeping.

Playingthewaitinggame · 18/02/2008 13:29

Interesting point Teuch, hadn't even considered the regulating breathing argument, as I said I dont really know much about it. Will be doing loads of research before I make final decision.

BeMyLilBaby · 18/02/2008 13:30

Hi all

Playing im gonna use Grobags so no worries about covers.. im thinking that we may put up cot in our room for the first few months.. i am (probably wrongly) assuming its ok to put them straight into a cot?

Im dead set on not getting a moses basket or crib (waste of cash)so failing this it will be a travel cot ( which we are getting anyway for downstairs)

A quickie while were on the baby subject... not that we are ever off it he he... anyone got any experience of babies and cats?

Cos we have two, which dont go outside.. i am planning to collapse travel cot when downstairs and not in use so they cant get in, put locks on bedroom doors (just hook and eyes) any other ideas?

Playingthewaitinggame · 18/02/2008 13:33

Oh and have just read that 39% of babies that die of SIDS were sharing a bed with parents here.

kayzisbroody · 18/02/2008 13:40

I could never share a bed with mine. I'd be terrified.
I'm probably getting a moses basket for downstairs depending on if we sell the pram or not as you can use the carrycot as a moses basket which is what we did with ds.

The whole feet to foot thing is great when they cant move, but as soon as they can roll over they move, we use grobags(dh thinks ds is a tomato) so it doesn't matter if they move.

Playingthewaitinggame · 18/02/2008 13:45

Strange. reading all the info, the are def against any form of bed sharing and do recommend babies sleeps in your room in a cot for 6 months, but they don't say why. I would love to find out more, the same website also says breast feed for 6 months too, which many women don't, so I am not sure. I don't understand why they can't tell me why baby should sleep in the same room as you, cos I am struggling to understand!

BB, might use growbags/baby bags, they are good (place I used to work sells them) but they seem like a lot too fiddle about with in the middle of the night to change a nappy.

Teuch · 18/02/2008 13:47

get a mosquito net for over the travelcot/pram...

Playing - you are right to look at the research, but also just go with what feels right for you at the time.

FWIW the actual number of SIDS from bedsharing reduced (and this also included sofa-sharing) but it does not distinguish between regular co-sleepers and babies that have been taken into the bed as a one-off.

kayzisbroody · 18/02/2008 13:48

My HV thought we were crazy for changing ds's nappy in the middle of the night and all the books I have say not to but we still did. They're not too fiddly just a zip, the sleepsuits with all the poppers at half 3 in the morning is worse.

NatalieJane · 18/02/2008 13:51

Hellooooooooo

I have always co-slept, just find it easier with breast feeding, and if it means I get more sleep, I would do anything! My sister however put her DS in his own cot in his own room from day 2, she said he 'snuffled' LOL I do agree about the regulating breathing thing.

It is totally different when you are looking at your baby, I couldn't have put either of mine down, walked out and shut the door, and left them there, call me a wuss or whatever you like, but I couldn't do it!

We had/have a playpen down stairs, that has a multi-positional base, so when DS2 was tiny, if he slept down stairs it was in there, and then obviously as he grew the base could be lowered, now he only goes in it to play, but we did find it invaluable when he was little. He also had a swing and a bouncy chair that he'd sleep in down here.

Then up stairs, we did have the travel cot (that had a basinet level, was this one) in our room, and he spent a bit of time asleep in there, but mostly if we were upstairs he was in with us.

BB, we have a cat, she does go out but is mostly found curled up in a ball somewhere near the raditors or fire... She was fine TBH. We obviously never left her and DS2 alone in the room together, and she doesn't go upstairs anyway. She did used to like to have a sniff of him, but she lost interest, until he leanered how to stroke her, now she comes in and goes straight to him! And he will now say cat and that tut tut tut tut sound that everyone seems to do at cats!

We got into town, DS1 decided his trainers were hurting, so I had a feel round them and they were a bit small, so had to go and get him new trainers, then we walked past Adams and they had 'Buy two tops get thrid free' so thought I'd have a nosy, came out with 5 pairs of trousers/jeans for DS1 and no tops, typical, he isn't even that bad for trousers, it is tops he needs! So £100 down the line, and I hadn't even got anything I actually went in for by then! You lot wanting kids.... don't do it!!!!

kayzisbroody · 18/02/2008 13:57

LOL at Nat
I do the same, ds needs socks so I buy tops, trousers, shoes and maybe 2 pairs of socks!!

Its really up to personal choice, you could follow every guideline to the letter and they can still die of SIDS. Maybe its just if they are in your room you can hear if they aren't breathing, but if you're asleep how can you?

NatalieJane · 18/02/2008 13:58

Night time nappy changes? Only if it smelt enough to wake me up!!! LOL Kidding, but I didn't do it unless it was properly full or dirty.

I think TBH, having them in the bed with me, I felt more at ease. I know that the odd time one of them is sick, I wake up before they do, so I'd like to think if anything worse ever happened I would wake up. Who know's?

BeMyLilBaby · 18/02/2008 14:01

hmm well thats a lot to consider....

I know what buggy im getting..i think

Come on the nowledgeable beans... whawt medicines cant you use when pg? cos im wondering about paracetamol and Gaviscon?

Think i'l do the mosquito net thing with travel cot, and have travel cot in our room for first few months, NJ that one you have is lush!! i may have to get that cos it goes with my decor too he he x

kayzisbroody · 18/02/2008 14:02

I think this time round we'll only be doing night changes if its really bad, I was never awake enough to put the nappy on properly or do up all the poppers.
Plus the changer is in ds's room and I'm worried enough about the new lo waking him up.

kayzisbroody · 18/02/2008 14:03

You can have both of those BB, I lived on Gaviscon and Rennie in my last trimester(sp). The only old wive tale that came true was if you have lots of heartburn your baby will have loads of hair, which he does!!!

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