POAS girls: Fertility super slueths 🔎

[TheBirdintheCave]

A new thread for our little gang :) Tag anyone I managed to forget!

@MrsJGrealish @happinessandrainbows @calimc83 @pangolin84 @theblueflowers @bringmearainbow @monsteramunch @bunnykins123 @curliegirlie @LuckyMoonstone @Indianna2006 @FfoxRedN

I have booked a private scan for 2 days after my midwife appointment, same as last time, but having to find out id lost the baby in the private clinic just made it feel 10000x worse than at hospital, and I can’t go through that again

I personally wouldn’t use a doppler. Only because..you don’t know what you’re looking for. And you think oh yeh easy enough to find baby’s heartbeat.

Everytime Midwife listens to baby’s heartbeat at my appointments. She keeps moving the things around like she can’t find it an I’m like isn’t it that? She said no. That’s your veins pumping and your own heartbeat. Which you can also hear through your belly and when your main veins pump into your pelvis. It sounds bloody same to me.
so it is black and white as to there is only one heartbeat in your belly… so you could easily mistake your baby having a heart beat as your own. I’ve never bothered. Once they kick. You won’t feel like you need to use a Doppler. So hopefully it won’t be long for any of your nearing 20 ish weeks xxx

@LuckyMoonstone yeah totally get that. I guess just go through options of what you could do in those scenarios. Which I guess are

1. they say they can’t check for it
2. they will check for it but can’t refer for scan if nothing found
3. or they will check and refer if nothing found which is the option you want.

seems a bit of a bloody lottery. Must be based on location for sure. Xx

@Indianna2006 yeah lottery and circumstance I guess. I will say all of this to my midwife when I see her, if you don’t ask you don’t get

@LuckyMoonstone exactly deffo ask. If not will you be consultant led at all? Due to last time or not?
As if so friend who is 4 weeks behind me when mw wouldn’t do at 16w which she knew as I’d told her they prob wouldn’t as she lives same are as me. She asked at her consultant appointment at 17 w and he checked for her. So could be an idea? If not? xx

@Indianna2006 yes my first consultant appointment is 4 days later! I am having a mix of both apparently. So yes I could ask him/her as well, good idea

@calimc83 thank you!! It is such a relief as I wasn't sure I was feeling much but since, I feel like I'm mayyyybe feeling stuff (maybe it's psychological!). So glad to hear little lady is doing well, even if she is keeping you up all hours! How's the older kiddies adapting to having another another sibling? 💕

@Indianna2006 @LuckyMoonstone that's so true, it varies by trust. With DD they did listen at 16 weeks but I wondered if maybe they had stopped since. I spent a bit too long googling today before the scan and found a lot about overweight people too struggling to find the heartbeat. It does seem a bit unfair that some are offered it and others not. @Indianna2006 did you ask to hear the heartbeat or was it a flat out no?

@MrsJGrealish I have a very funny mental image of that now 😂 omg did you freak out?! I would have been a wreck if they had been so blaze about it! Tell us the name on FB??

@LuckyMoonstone have you maybe considered asking the NHS if they will scan you around 16 weeks to check? Given the circumstances they may make an exception? If they offered with DS, chances are they will offer it again I suspect.

@Indianna2006 I know. I really do. My sensible head is saying it's a terrible idea but my tired, fatigued, anxious mind is just wanting me to feed the anxiety more. It's £19 per month rolling so if I get it and start feeling babe, I may just leave it in the box. Eek. Or just try it after a scan to see how easy / hard it is to find. God, why do we do these things to ourselves?!?

@LuckyMoonstone ohh yes please! We don't even have a shortlist yet..@MrsJGrealish oh I need to know...😬 x

@bunnykins123 well I was hoping to have had a consultant appointment by now so that I could ask that exact question! But the first chance I will get to ask anyone is with my midwife at 16 weeks. So I’ll explain to her about the loss (which she knows a little bit) and see if she takes pity on me and tries to get me a scan before 20 weeks.

and I am carrying extra weight around my middle so feel like I’ll be one of those people where a heartbeat can’t be heard even if everything is actually ok

@LuckyMoonstone yeah my consultant checked for me. I didn't even have to ask..I 💯 wasn't prepared mentally for a scan though and sent me into a panic! 😆 @bunnykins123 I think my eldest is getting a bit jealous tbh..she's fine with the baby but she was super stroppy tonight. It's hard as I'm constantly telling them to be careful of mummy's sore tummy etc and she's just fed all evening so they haven't had much time with me..don't want to push them away by any means but don't want a 3yr old dive bombing me at the mo 🙈 xx

@bunnykins123 I'm sure I felt teeny movements super early..and I had an anterior placenta x

@bunnykins123 it was just a flat out no before I’d even asked lol 😂🙈 new policy we don’t now listen at 16w because of x,y and z bla bla bla 😂
but meant I convinced DH for gender scan which DD came to so turned out in my favour really lol.

@LuckyMoonstone ah thats good. Deff ask consultant then if not. Or ask him they aswell!! Why not. They seem to do it.

I’m sure this babe is gonna have loads of hair 🤔
This indigestion heart burn is annoying everytime I lay down at night. Yuck all the acid wants to come up.

currently chewing on rennies before bedtime every night like there going out of stock or something 🙄🤣 keeping them in business I guess. Every little helps

@bunnykins123 yeah, after she said that I wasn't sure anymore I wanted the Doppler to be used... However, felt grateful the midwife encouraged me to as hearing HB gave some reassurance.
But had she not heard anything, I'd have arranged a private scan asap.
@Indianna2006 she explained why it's harder at 24 weeks and while I can't remember fully, it was to do with baby's size/positioning, and she mentioned it gets even trickier at 28w 🤔

Three high temps in a row but no crosshairs yet 🤔 Why do you forsake me FF?? 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄

@TheBirdintheCave send the chart over let's have a look 🥰 xx

Et voila. Pretty sure it was Sunday (unless that's wishful thinking).

@TheBirdintheCave you have defo ovulated! Yay! Finally! It must be a relief to finally see that temp shift 👏 sometimes it can take FF a few days to give the cross hairs even if it's really obvious.

@Happinessandrainbows that's the thing, it's reassuring once the hb has been found but it's the anxiety that follows when it isn't found! You're right though, most women would arrange a private scan.

@Indianna2006 did you get to hear DD hb? Yeh I remember you saying you took her, that was such a lovely thing to do! Urgh heartburn is the worst. Not long to go now!

@calimc83 yeh I defo felt stuff last night. Maybe it's more noticeable now I know there is a wriggly one in there now?! It was so similar to gas that it's hard to know what's babe vs what's wind!

@LuckyMoonstone I'm sure she will understand and hopefully be more compassionate at the 16 week appt. Ah no I think this is more about women who would be considered clinically obese - I think we all carry a bit of extra weight, especially around this point in pregnancy!

@TheBirdintheCave id prob say you ovulated say 32. Ff prob wants few more temps as you haven’t got a positive opk logged there. If you there was a positive opk think it would be giving you the cross hairs already as it uses multiple signs doesn’t it.

@Happinessandrainbows oh how bloody odd 😂😂 tbh I think they make half of it up as they go along. They all say something different have different opinions. Why I never actually trust what medical professionals say tbh..I don’t have the greatest faith in midwives and maternal health after last time.

Has anyone done any FRERs this morning 👀

@Indianna2006 If it's CD32 then I'm definitely already out this month :( I was too lazy and cold to dtd on Sunday night when we were meant to.

@LuckyMoonstone no but will do another IC tomorrow 😊.
@TheBirdintheCave you may not be out. Sperm can be waiting there for 5 days, so you did O-2, possibly 0-3 and 0. So either way there's deffo a shot there!!

Im sorry if I've made it hard this month for anyone, as I know you've all been on the bandwagon each month and this is the first we've tried again, but I think I'm only pregnant because of my unfussy uterus and it'll be a miracle if it goes anywhere. Xxx

@FfoxRedN I won't lie, seeing other people's positives is kinda hard to take when I don't get pregnant quickly and then when it does finally happen I lose them anyway BUT you and @MrsJGrealish have a different problem though.

I can't imagine what it must be like to know you'll get pregnant whenever you try but that it largely doesn't equal a good outcome. It must be just as horrible (if not more so) as seeing negatives every month <3 So yeah, don't be sorry :) You can't help it that that's the way your body works.

I am 100% certain I will be the last one left at some point 😂

@FfoxRedN I have absolutely everything crossed for you lovely that this one is a good little egg ❤️ please don't feel like you've made it hard on anyone you have been a huge support to everyone in here our time will come at some point for now we get to celebrate that you have two little red lines! Xxx