How long did it to take you to concieve and what worked for you?

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Going into only my second cycle and feeling a bit meh, was definitely naive to how long it may take. Im 30, partner is 33.

How long did it take you and what worked for you?

How do I survive the emotionally draining process of tcc?

Look you've clearly caught me at a bad time. I AM emotionally drained. Period arrived today which officially makes it 3 years. 3 bloody years.

Finished my contraception Dec 22 and still no pregnancy. Waiting until July and will talk to my GP.

Trying to not let it get me down! But it's hard!

Thankyou. I remember the stress in the early days, every month felt like a year! Good luck

First dd took 6 years after 2 artificial inseminations and then 3 lots of IVF.

Second child pregnant in first month ttc naturally, but unfortunately miscarried
Third child pregnant in first month again and carried full term

Unless there's a medical issue you just need to concentrate on having sex a lot. You don't need to worry about ovulating if you're having sex every 1-2 days 🤷. Just try and make it fun!

We just kept having sex. Took about 6 months from deciding and stopping the pill to conceiving, which I though was pretty quick.
I don't get why you need to track and measure everything! It will happen or it won't. If it seems like it's not happening after a while, then speak to a dr.
All this overthinking and tracking adds stress and this in turn will not help!

And what's a cycle?

It took me 5 years and I ended up needing various surgeries and lots of cycles of IVF. I appreciate that's not the norm though!

I'm sorry.

If you want it to happen quickly, and are struggling after only one month, then you need to be proactive.

Have you started taking folic acid? Are you as healthy as you can possibly be?
Cut down on caffeine, alchohol, sugar etc. move more. If your OH in good health. Does he smoke? Does he drink.

These are things that are in your control that will all help.
In the mean time, enjoy and expect it to take 6months

You could have scrolled passed my response? You clearly found it objectionable enough to respond to. As I did the OP.

I'm no help really op as dh and I have just given up after 60 cycles of trying and absolutely nothing, but wanted to wish you luck. I hope you get your longed for baby.

@Mushroomtaxi yes because I think it was uncalled for. I've read all of the responses. Everyone is being nice and constructive but not you.. you wasn't to make her feel crap because you feel crap today. Get a grip

6.5 years of trying, Two IUIs that failed and we then caught with our daughter as we were about to have our third attempt. We had unexplained infertility but in the three months prior my husband did start taking the wellman conception vitamins and I was also taking COQ10 in those months. Good luck x

First cycle, first try, both times. I’m very grateful I had an easy time of it conceiving.

2 months.

Used an app to work out when I’d roughly be ovulating. Made sure we had sex every other day leading up to it and a couple of days after.

I hope it happens when you least expect it ❤️

I conceived on the second cycle but I didn't take a "relaxed" approach. Our TTC journey followed an accidental pregnancy which was ectopic so when we made the decision to try, I didn't want to do it half hearted!

I used ovulation sticks and the premom app to track the tests. I also used BBT on the second cycle to confirm whether I'd ovulated or not, however I stopped temping after the 3 elevated temperatures as I didn't want to focus too much on it during the two week wait.

I started using conceive plus ovulation support as during the first cycle I don't think I actually ovulated, my OPKs were all over the place and hormones hadn't settled after the loss. The vitamins seemed to start working straight away at regularising my cycle and there was a noticeable difference in the OPKs (gradual incline in LH & one peak).

I bought pre-seed as I was concerned that I wasn't producing enough EWCM however I was away from home over ovulation so didn't actually get round to using it!

In terms of the mental journey, I found that my life was revolving around ttc. I was always waiting for either ovulation or my period/lack of period. Both cycles I planned something for me to do after my expected period that I could look forward to if I wasn't pregnant i.e a night out drinking with the girls, or a spa trip etc. My thinking was that even if I wasn't pregnant, I would have something nice to do, and if I was pregnant then I wouldn't care about missing it!

I also tried to reframe my period coming as the start of a new cycle rather than the end of that opportunity - if I was to get pregnant that cycle then my pregnancy would be dated back to that day.

Disclaimer: I appreciate I'm referring to a mental journey when it happened quickly for us. Everyone who is struggling has my sympathy!

It was around 20 cycles, with a couple of months break. I was quite overweight at the start, the month I went into a healthy BMI, we conceived. Our baby is just over 1 now. I’m thinking about starting it all again but I just don’t know if I have the energy!

Immediately (first time of trying) with both my DC. I was 31 with the first, 33 with the second.

My first took years. Cycles were all over the place and TTC when I thought I was fertile. Useless OPKs and everything.
With my next two I had my routine down.
Sex every three days ALL month as soon as period is over. Conception within two months for both.

@Mushroomtaxi . I've been there, and feel for you. Try not to get disheartened, I got there in the end

We dont drink or smoke, been taking folic acid for about 6 months. Definitely eat a bit too much chocolate /meals out though so thats something that I could work on.

I know one month is nothing in the grand scheme of things, but as I said, we've been waiting 2 years to be in a position to try so thats probably why it feels a bit harder!

I'm so sorry youve had such a hard time and keeping everything crossed for you in the future ❤️

Thank you, this is really helpful, because i've been counting down it does really feel like my life is revolving around it- so it would be good to take steps to keep me busy /self care around the time af is due xx