How long did it to take you to concieve and what worked for you?

[Chip131]

Going into only my second cycle and feeling a bit meh, was definitely naive to how long it may take. Im 30, partner is 33.

How long did it take you and what worked for you?

How do I survive the emotionally draining process of tcc?

DS1 was not planned
DS2 6 cycles
ectopic pregnancy was unplanned, had sex once which I thought was out of FW in between stopping pill and having a coil
TTC #3 and have been trying for 16months .

i do ovulation testing and did for 2nd baby also

Second cycle?? You’re going to have to be a little more resilient than that.

5yrs and 6 lots of IVF here. It could be easy, it could be difficult, you don’t know til you try.

give it a bit longer before you start worrying.

I know, I know, im sorry, point taken

3 pregnancies here -

1. mmc at 8 weeks and that pregnancy took 8 months to conceive.

2. now 2.5 year old dd and she took 8 months to conceive.

3. now 8 week old ds and he also took 8 months to conceive!

It's disheartening when you're in it but I truly don't believe that there's anything that really helps or speed things up (I tried everything!).

Five years; donor eggs.

Baby 1 - got pregnant first cycle trying (age 31)

Baby 2 - been trying for 10 cycles now and no joy (age 36)

I want to give some words of wisdom or advice, but as someone who was obsessing and disappointed from the first cycle trying I’m probably not the best person to comment!

@Chip131 thank you. You really are early days, chances are it will happen soon.
@Noonesperfect thank you, you are very kind. Glad you got there in the end x

All the comments are meant kindly - you’ve got a whole range of different experiences here, chances are you’ll probably be an average, around the 6 months mark type, but it’s good to hear either end of the scale.

You’ll drive yourself absolutely mad if you do this every month, especially if it takes a while (which can be perfectly normal!) Look after yourself and good luck x

Don't be fucking mean. She is clearly anxious about what might be ahead of her.

15 months. We decided to take a break and went on holiday to Mexico. First afternoon, all inclusive bar, a lot of fun based cocktails and a siesta later, I've just put my six year old son to bed.

6 years 9 IVF and 2 miscarriages for us before a natural surprise. You're right to prepare yourself emotionally as it isn't always straightforward, but I hope you have good news sooner rather than later x

*gin based!

And what worked for us - annoyingly - was that we had decided to give up and prepare for a child free life. It was heartbreaking but took the pressure off.

So all those people who told us "just relax and it'll happen..." were right in our case.

Try not to let TTC take over your life because my god it can take over your life.

My DH has a low sperm count and I’ve been pregnant 6 times. I always recommend what I called the 30 day shred.

Start on about day 5 of your period and shag every day for 30 days. Stay with hips and legs up, on your back for half an hour after sex. Do not shag more than once a day. Worked a treat and I was pregnant quickly every time after we did that.

only 2 DD, the others ended at various stages which of course is a whole other level of stress.

You haven't triggered me, I just wanted to give you a side of how long it can take. I'm long over the heart break of knowing ds will have a younger sibling that is significantly younger than him, I wanted close, and ideally I would have had 2 before 30, but life doesn't work out that way.
I truly hope you get your positive soon.

First try when I was 30. I was using ovulation tests though. I always wonder if I wouldn't have been so lucky without them.

Got pregnant on 3rd cycle . Am convinced (though in reality have no actual proof) that conceive plus lube helped me get pregnant so fast. Worth a try either way I think as it can't hurt! Got it on Amazon x

It can be a tough journey OP! Especially when you've been waiting to start trying for so long.

I've had 3 pregnancies

1. 5 cycles (aged 35), ended in mc
2. 8 cycles later got pregnant again with my DD. That was a LONG 8 months and the month we conceived I'd totally given up, didn't track, got pissed and drunkenly DTD, the only time that month (though I did know we were near ovulation).
3. 1st cycle (aged 38) - but too good to be true and turned out to be a Chemical pregnancy. Miscarried this weekend.

Self care is really important. As is not putting too much pressure on yourself. I used to feel so defective in the early days when I didn't get pregnant immediately, but in reality it's normal for it to take some time. Hope your journey isn't too long!

Oh and this website has some helpful stats on ttc - age and fertility calculator etc
www.countdowntopregnancy.com/tools/age_fertility_calculator.php

DC1, first try. 😬
DC2, at the brink of giving up.😂

Oh, actually, I thought when we tried for DC2, my cycle has had passed. And DH had also a bit too much to drink that night.

I also highly suspect that "Optibac Probiotics for Women" helped. I had issues before I had it. It seemed to have cleared up something unhealthy going on down there. My period had returned to normal too (got completely messed up by Pregnacare Conception prior to that).

4 years, 6 cycles of clomid and one lot of fertility treatment with dc1.
4 years and 5 lots of fertility treatment with dt.
Try not to put to much focus on conceiving because getting to stressed this early on is not going to help you. Remember to continue living a life as well.

4 months at 28 (my darling DS).

5 months at 31 (mmc).

14 cycles since the loss and still trying : (

@Mushroomtaxi so sorry about 3 years and counting 😔 I wish you a happy ending ❤️

DS - 1st cycle - wasn't using OPKs or tracking anything

DC2 - (current pregnancy, 10 weeks) - 15/16 cycles - found it happened once I stopped using the OPKs and tracking

Wishing you loads of luck on your ttc journey ❤

Although my story is irrelevant to what yours will be like, here goes:

TTC 13yrs, lost 3 at 12, 7 then 9 weeks. 2 rounds of failed IVF. No fertility issues found in either DH nor myself. Mid 40's now and have a dog, as the likelihood of ever having a child is almost zero now.

I never had luck with OPK's, despite tests showing I ovulated. I used a reusable OPK called 'maybe baby' that uses saliva to determine fertility. Other brands are available online. In the long run- they were cheaper than 13yrs of single use opks!

Being a healthy BMI really can help, as can reducing stress. Yes, of course you will hear of overweight and obese people getting pregnant, but it can have health complications.

Some partners find TTC stressful too. Some prefer not to know every detail of your cycle and the added pressure of feeling to need to perform during your cycle. If possible, have sex at other times of the month also, book a weekend away when you might be fertile and try to keep it fun. IF you miss the fertile window one month, try not to stress.

At 30, you need to be actively TTC 12mths before your GP will do any initial blood tests.

Not saying all the above is relevant to you OP- just info I've since picked up along the way. Best of luck with your journey x