So Cheryl Cole 39 said she's too old to have another biological baby

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Cheryl Cole just said at 39 she's too old to have another biological baby. What's your thoughts?
I'm genuinely curious as someone who's nearly 38 I'm still trying for my first baby.
Can a healthy pregnancy be possible?
At 39 apparently half your eggs would be deemed chromosomally abnormal.
What's your experience on getting pregnant at this age?

I think she just mean ‘39 is too old for her’ she’s not saying it’s too old for any woman to have a baby. For me at the age of 40 I could physically have another child and for me I feel I am too old, though I have friends who are having children at a similar age, that’s there choice.

I’m 39 and wouldn’t want to have another baby now either. That’s not me saying nobody should be having a baby at 39.

I know so many people who’ve had healthy babies at 39 and older , and none who’ve had unhealthy ones . But for me, it’s about parenting at that age which I feel is manageable for babies and toddlers but relentlessly difficult and exhausting when you have a teen (that’s just personal experience). Of course you’re more likely to be financially secure and less likely to be longing for a ‘missed’ career or life experiences but I think menopause meets puberty is a hellish combo and one lots of women are unprepared for when they have children older.

It's not for me but all women are different with different health circumstances. Healthy pregnancies are of course possible at this age.

Of course it’s physically ‘possible’

But it’s unlikely, and even if you were able to get pregnant and stay pregnant the risks of the baby having a wide range of developmental issues and disabilities is very high, too high for most to risk.

I’m trying to leave my partner at the moment and I want a baby. I am rapidly approaching 40 and terrified I have now missed my chance to have children. I fear I have wasted 7 years being strung along by a man who didn’t want kids.

i find comments like this insensitive, I know I am old, I am frightened I have missed the boat, It feels like she is trying to generate clickbate and relevance about something that is painful for a lot of women.

let’s not forget she has a stage show to promote at the moment…

I am sorry that you are in a tough situation @Warrensrabbit but have you actually read the full quote, posted upthread?

Personally 39 would be too old for me - now my two are 16 & 18, I'm enjoying my 40's too much!

I think as women we need to accept we aren't all a homogenised group and hormones and fertility is individual. Of course there are general markers of when fertility decreases, but given how little we really understand all the factors involved in carrying a baby to term - don't stress about it. Cheryl is only speaking for herself and obviously this is a thought process or decision that suits her situation.

My grandma was a gynae/obstetrician surgeon and had her children at 40 and 43. And I think she was more qualified than most to make the decision. She often commented on how many women in their 20s actually had miscarriages that no one talks about because their egg reserves were good, but reproductive health not so much. Atm I have a friend who's been trying to get pregnant since 29 (is now 34 and has tried IVF) and is still struggling, and one who's had children at 38 and 41.

So there's risks and problems at every age - it's just easier to fixate on older mothers and egg reserves are an easier metric than unexplained fertility or miscarriages.

I'm the same age and I feel I'm too old to have any more children.

Other people might feel differently for themselves.

No harm in what she's said.

It's up to CC to decide how old she feels is too old for her to have another baby. She's clearly thought about it carefully and decided what works best for her and her existing child. She hasn't made pronouncements on what anyone else should do.

I had my last DC at 41 with no problems, but can understand it would not be possible or desirable for others.

@Warrensrabbit what is insensitive about a woman talking about her own choices? She hasn’t said anywhere that no woman should have a baby at 39, just that it’s not something she wants to do.

@WeWereInParis I did read an article this morning about her , she said she was considering using a sperm doner before the coronavirus hit and to quote her she said "I'm a little bit older" and she's now considering adoption ..rather than having her own biological child. I assume that's what op is referring to

Why are we commenting on women’s bodies and speculating like this? Gross

CC has also openly spoken in the past about having a very difficult and unhappy pregnancy, followed by a traumatic birth and her partner later left her citing the birth of their child as destroying their relationship…

She’s single at the moment anyway, but it could easily be that she just means she’s a bit older and couldn’t cope with all that shit again 😅💐

Erm.... Why is fifties too old for teenagers at school? I'm in my 50's with a 14 year old. My husband and myself are coping just fine thanks, we aren't quite in our dotage just yet!

I was 28 when I had my third and there was no way I was going to go through that again so I chose to be sterilised. But that is just me and Cheryl Cole clearly has her own view.

I think menopause decides that not Cheryl Cole

I had my last baby at 29. So yes, for me, 39 would be 'old'.

My sister had her first at 38. So for her it wouldn't.

It's odd for me to read comments like this - I'm in that exact situation now, and it's fab

It's really normal in my circle - I don't have any close friends or family really who had kids before mid - late 30's. Four friends had at least one baby post-40.

Hope not ☹️

I'm younger than that and wouldn't have more now.

I had my third at 42. I couldn't get anyone in the NHS to even share my concerns that I was too old. Healthy baby, healthy kid, chasing her keeps me healthy. All is well.

Had my first/ only at 40 - had some bleeds in pregnancy and a lot of anxiety due to that plus the miscarriage stats but aside from that all very easy and straightforward. Birth a shitshow, partly due to accepting an induction which I supposedly needed on account of age - wish I'd declined. Healthy, happy daughter, health, happy mum now.

To be fair - DH and I had started seriously trying when I was 36 and that's how long it took us (with help from clomid) so from a fertility perspective I can see what she means, but I had unsuccessfully ttc in a previous relationship in my late 20s too, so who knows.

I know lots of mums who had babies 39+, far more than younger mums actually but that's anecdotal and obviously self-selecting to some extent - my circle is largely made up of those of a similar age to me!

Just keep hoping. Forget Cheryl. She’s not even in a relationship so hardly in a position to decide whether or not to try for a baby currently.