So Cheryl Cole 39 said she's too old to have another biological baby

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Cheryl Cole just said at 39 she's too old to have another biological baby. What's your thoughts?
I'm genuinely curious as someone who's nearly 38 I'm still trying for my first baby.
Can a healthy pregnancy be possible?
At 39 apparently half your eggs would be deemed chromosomally abnormal.
What's your experience on getting pregnant at this age?

My grandmother had a child when she was 44. The child was fine.

For me I've always said 37 is the latest I would have a baby. For me 38+ is too old to be having a child. 10 years and I would be 50 couldn't imagine having a pre teen-teen in my 50s.

😂

The doctors and midwives weren't bothered about my age in the least. I wasn't even considered a higher risk pregnancy.

I asked to be induced on my due date as I'd read about increased risk of still birth post dates in older mothers, and they were happy to go along with that, but at that time didn't have a policy of induction for age alone (he came a few days early as it turned out.)

I had a crazy quick delivery and the midwife told me that I need to get myself in to the hospital "next time" at the first twinge - I just laughed at her but she said they had loads of 40+ mothers having just one more so never say never... (I said never 😂)

I'm 32 and I feel too old now for a baby. Everyone is different and it's not really anyone else's business if someone has decided to stop. Certainly shouldn't stop anyone who does want more in their 30's.

I'm surprised that a celeb would think that way. I think medically its harder to conceive but as long as she can conceive I can't see the issue. Personally I think it's going to be an uphill struggle at that age. And I wouldn't want to be one of the oldest mummies at the school gate. But if anyone had a burning desire to raise a kid so long as they think they've got enough energy I think they should go for it.

So it is too old or it isn't?

It is a private matter in my opinion and whether it is good depends on the woman.

Fifties is too old for teenagers still at school

Whys that then? I have a 10 year old and I’m 52…. What’s going to happen that I can’t handle?

Yes, unless she has made other comments elsewhere then the OP's paraphrase totally misrepresents what CC said.

My great-grandmother had my grandmother at 47 and my great-aunt at 49 in the 1920s! Both of them lived to be 90+. 😄

@Princesspollyyy Too old. But my point was people just think about the birth and the baby and not your age as the child grows up.
A friend had a baby at 42. Now in her fifties she just complains all the time and seems to have no joy at all from her child.

Full interview if you want context. Warning to those who avoid it, it's the Daily Mail.

www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-11658603/Cheryl-39-admits-shes-considered-adoption-gushes-headstrong-son-Bear-5.html

I don't tend to take life advice from Cheryl (not Cole). Is she about to rent a womb or something?

I had my first at 37, second at nearly 41. DH is 2 years older than me.

Both babies are super healthy, and both were conceived first time we tried!

I do acknowledge that we were lucky, but also know from many friends who waited that it's not unusual at all to be lucky in this way.

I wish you all the best :)

Of course it is for some women! A lot of women give themselves a personal cut off and if she thinks 39 is too old for herself, she’s absolutely entitled to feel that way. I wouldn’t ever consider having another at that age either.

Might be personal to her why that statement is true. Eg. she's in early menopause or she's had fertility tests which say getting pregnant is unlikely.

39 is not too old for all women to fall pregnant and have a biological child. Women 40+ have been doing this since time began.

She isn’t offering advice. She’s stating her personal situation.

39 would be too old for me too. It could be any number of reasons. She's not speaking for everyone

I think you're right, and that not enough people take that into account. When people say there's no way they would have the energy to have a baby at 39, they are often coming at this from the position of people who already have children -- I had my only child just shy of 40, by choice, was fit as a flea, had run a marathon just before conceiving (first month trying), was complimented on my fitness throughout pregnancy by my midwife, and had a perfectly straightforward pregnancy and birth. If I already had a demanding toddler or a moody teenager getting into scrapes, I would probably have felt very differently.

But then, I would never have wanted to have a child before about 35 -- I was prepared to take the risks of later parenthood, including the risk it wouldn't happen at all, because for me those were outweighed by really not wanting to have a child in my 20s or early 30s.

I have the family tree of one side of my family.

The records show than many of the women (where the records are accurate) had large families (some with 10 children) and their last ones were in their early 40s.

Didn't Cherie Blair have her 4th at 46?

I see it that her opinion is she thinks she’s too old at 39.

I felt I was too old at 39 to have another baby. A friend of mine started her family at 38 and so clearly felt she wasn’t too old.

up to the individual.

I'm 38, my eggs are all shit and my chances of conceiving, even with IVF, are miniscule. Everyone's different.

Many older mums will have healthy babies but there is no denying the fact that biologically, 39 is old in terms of pregnancy. Perhaps she does not want to be a middle aged mum to a baby.

In my circle I many people having babies well into their forties, usually stealth third/fourth children, rather than first timers, but a a few of them too.

What's right for Cheryl isn't what's going to be right for you OP. Her views don't affect your choices, health or capability.