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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Ready, Aim...HANG FIRE!! Waiting to TTC (and some too impatient)

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Teuch · 04/02/2008 12:35

Here we are ladies...roll call please?!

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kayzr · 05/02/2008 17:23

I changed my mind and world war 3 breaks out, he changes his mind and expects a cuddle am I completely stupid?
He is now flicking through the M&P catalogue
Men!!

NatalieJane · 05/02/2008 17:27

So, have you both decided to go ahead after this pack of pills? When do they run out?

Playingthewaitinggame · 05/02/2008 17:30

Hi Guys,

Kay, you are mot stupid, sometimes men behave just like kids themselves!

Just had a nose on the pg threads (I do sometimes ) and couldn't resist posting on a thread about bras as the company I used to work for do a really good maternity bra. Not sure it was that well received though, maybe I will just stay here where its safe!

kayzr · 05/02/2008 17:31

They ran out yesterday. Then I have a week before Im meant to start again.

Playingthewaitinggame · 05/02/2008 17:38

OO Kay that means you have a decision to make on where to continue. Might be worth stopping even if its to regualate your cycle?

Right ladies I am off home so will probably not post again tonight.

NatalieJane · 05/02/2008 17:38

I don't really know how to say this with out sounding really 'off', and I do have to go and do the kids tea, DH is late home tonight, so I am going to post this and run.

If he has less than an hour ago threatened to walk out and leave you and your DS, is it a very good idea to be TTC'ing now anyway?

I really don't mean that to sound horrible, but if DH had threatened to leave, I would be wondering what is wrong with the relationship, and adding another child to it could be catastrophic.

I would be even more concerned if at the drop of a hat he had changed his mind back again, it doesn't seem to me like he has done much thinking about it all.

I really really really hope you don't take that the wrong way, I am just trying to put myself in your shoes.

Will check back as soon as I can, but I must get their dinner on.

kayzr · 05/02/2008 17:40

He has suggested we start trying in MAY!! God it feels like years away. That'll make baby due around feb/march. Is it ok to have 2 kids with birthdays near each other?

kayzr · 05/02/2008 17:44

Its ok NJ. I dont think its to much of a problem. He has a habit of making a mountain out of a molehill. I dont think he cares tbh he just says its up to me what ever I want he wants too.
Im confused

Playingthewaitinggame · 05/02/2008 17:50

Ok, I was on my way home, then I read Natalie's post and it made me realise that I hadn't read your post properly Kay. He threatened to walk out?? On you and your son on something so trival? That is not funny. Thats is unbelievable, for someone to even say it in the heat of an argument, let alone actually mean it, would break my heart. I think Natalie has a good point. Not trying to gang up on you but in all the years we have been together my DH would never threaten that, ever, the worst we ever get is "as much as I love you I really don't like you right now", I think I may have started that one (my Mum used to say it to me when I was a nasty teenager) and its kinda stuck as our "I am very angry with you" phrase. And he pushed my in my wheelchair when my health was really bad and still stayed by my side, I never once felt I was in danger of ambandonment, so we have had our fair share of problems. If you dont have a good foundation more kids will only make it worse.

Right, I am going home now

NatalieJane · 05/02/2008 18:10

OK, you obviously know him, and his ways, you will know deep down yourself if the threat was just that, words that came out of nowhere, didn't mean half as much as they sound like. Or on the other hand, you will know if this is the wrong time to be thinking about another DC.

May isn't too far away, maybe you and he need that time to make some decisions?

And on the birthday front, we have December DS2's bday, and xmas , then January is always shite because of the way DH's wages work, then we have a break in February, then DS1's birthday in March. TBH, I think we are going to try in May, for a Feb 09 baby, and if I don't get pregnant I think I will miss June out, I don't think we could afford another March birthday, it is bad enough as it is!! Besdies June is my birthday and I don't intend on spending another birthday sober while everyone else around me get's pissed!

kayzr · 05/02/2008 18:35

I know he didnt mean it. He just sometimes thinks he isnt good enough for us as he has spent all of his life having his mum telling him he is wierd and abnormal for having MD so if we argue he says we'd be better of without him which is stupid.
We're going on holiday in July and I dont know how I feel about be 'fat' pregnant so I think ttc now would be a pain as dc would be due in Nov

NatalieJane · 05/02/2008 18:43

I see, so this isn't half as bad as it seems, IYKWIM? Not saying for one minute his mums treatment towards him wasn't bad..... I mean he isn't actually intending on leaving.

Maybe take a little while to make a final decision? Go see the doc, see what he has to say about your weight. Maybe have one more pack of pills and look at it again?

Or you could just go for it, if that is what you both want

kayzr · 05/02/2008 18:52

No and he spends a week grovelling. I think I might go see doc and then see what happens from there.
I dont know if I'm keen on being quite preg over summer I was so hot last time I'd hate to be like 7 months in August and dying from the heat.

NatalieJane · 05/02/2008 18:54

Well whatever you decide, at least you know you have us lot to keep you company

kayzr · 05/02/2008 18:57

We'll probably start in May. I'll have one more pack of pills and then come off to regulate my cycle.
I feel all excited again

NatalieJane · 05/02/2008 18:58

Oh good, we will be starting at the same time

It is exciting

kayzr · 05/02/2008 19:02

I've thought of a boys name Riley? Dunno if dh likes it yet. But I love it. Though I'll probably change my mind as Freddie was going to be Jenson

NatalieJane · 05/02/2008 19:14

Riley is nice, but Jenson??? I used to temp for a company whose trucks had Jenson written on the side! LOL

There was a very nice truck driver, OMG, it was hot summer, and he had his shirt off, his back..... well it was nice Shame he was married, what a waste!

kayzr · 05/02/2008 19:18

Lol ds would have been named after Jenson Button as I love F1. But I got the name from my fave footballer. Im so bad
dh just came out with calling dc Marmaduke!!!

NatalieJane · 05/02/2008 19:20

LMAO at Marmaduke. At least he is trying, all I get from DH is no's to what ever I've suggested, and suggestions of what he thinks.

Having said that, we aren't even trying yet, I spose I should give him a break

kayzr · 05/02/2008 19:25

He has also suggested Leia for a girl but when I suggested Faith he said we cant really use names from tv shows. Uh Leia is from Star Wars

NatalieJane · 05/02/2008 19:28

There are loads of websites with list's of names, why not go through some with him. In a way it won't matter, because you'll have have your minds 100 times till the baby is born, and then change it again, but it fills up time, makes you feel like you are doing something, rather than waiting, which is nothing!

kayzr · 05/02/2008 19:30

I'm trying to persuade him to look for my book. Its got 40,001 baby names in it. I really want to look at it

NatalieJane · 05/02/2008 19:34

Why not have a look at the 'baby names' board on MN, until you persuede him to find the said book?

kayzr · 05/02/2008 19:41

Yeah I've been looking on there.

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