Ready, Aim...HANG FIRE!! Waiting to TTC (and some too impatient)

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Here we are ladies...roll call please?!

I used to have an Ikea house, much of it I like, some of it was simply chea. Over the years (and houses) we have replaced bit and I now have an ebay house, think that may be worse

Sorry I really cant type today!!!!

Just brought up the subject of ttc in the next couple of months. Dh has gone into lecture mode, "isnt it dangerous if you are overweight, shouldnt we save some money we have a pram to buy"
I hate to think what that big, grey and spotty thing under the stair is. I always thought it was a pram!!!!
So it looks like ds will be an only child as he doesnt seem to interested.

the marketplace is great for kitchen bits and bobs and dont forget meatballs, chips and gravy always make a trip up worthwhile . On a more serious note, I had an Ikea bed for about 7 years, which was great but we had to get rid of it when we moved to the cottage (2 house moves ago) as it wouldn't go up the stairs. We now have an Ebay steel bedframe (still kept the Ikea Matress) which is not too squeaky under 'normal conditions' but particularly vigourous extra-curricular activites can make it squeak a little, more so then the Ikea bed frame which made no noise at all. Our spare bed is also an Ikea Day bed (I think its Hemnes, its white and wooden, has storage drawers and can be either a single or double bed) but we actually bought that from ebay as well as it was much cheaper

Kayzr, thats a reall mean thing to say, bad DH! I dont think being pg is dangerous if you are overweight, just obese. It can make it a little harder ttc but not more dangerous. Sounds like he is fighting for excuses to delay it, I am sure he will come round, men can take a while be normally get there int he end!

Kayzr, thats a really mean thing to say, bad DH! I dont think being pg is dangerous if you are overweight, just obese. It can make it a little harder ttc but not more dangerous. Sounds like he is fighting for excuses to delay it, I am sure he will come round, men can take a while to get used to the idea of another obe but normally get there in the end!

thanks for the suggestions, i think il go and have a look around in a bit, maybe drive up there for the day one day how sad am i day trip to ikea ha ha ha! x

hmm, not only can I not type today, I dont seem to be able to use my computer!! Maybe its a pg sympton?

He has just said "You wanted to wait until ds was 2 whats changed?" He changes his mind about loads of stuff, like when I made his lunch yesterday with ham sandwiches like he asked for then he got home and moaned he wanted cheese

Oh no Kay, hope this is just a repeat of me on Saturday, I posted one minute I thought DH had changed his mind, the next post he'd said yes!

How old is DS now?

Tread carefully, give him a few days without mentioning it, and then aproach him again, he might surprise you!

well nothing much has changed. DS will be about 2 (give or take a couple of months) and you might not get pg straight away, so DS might be over 2 by the time dc2 arrives.

I am sure you will get through to him!

He is driving me insane. He just wont shut up about it now. I might not bother and leave ds as an only child

it is a woman's perogative to change her mind!!!

Just casually say "well, if you don't think you are up to it..." That should get him dragging you off to the bedroom

It is not a nice feeling thinking you have to persuade your other half to procreate...if you can explain that it is not just about being broody, but that you have had more time to think about it and, in fact, throwaway comments such as DS1's age don't really factor anymore.

Obviously hard facts like loans, etc, don't change...but your view of how things would work depending on dates can! IYSWIM???

Whatever you do, don't let it be a battle of wills, as no-one can win...

Ds will be nearly 2 by the time we have the baby. He didnt seem to mind at the weekend and has been moaning that I havent waited for him to look through the new catalogues.
BLOODY MEN

Kay, you don't think something has happened to suddenly make him change his mind? Maybe he has had a big bill for something that has thrown him off course? Or maybe it has hit him how big a deal it is, and he has got a bit spooked? You know him best (obviously!!) does he do this type of thing a lot? Is he likely to change his mind back?

I love Ikea and have quite a few bits from there, all good. A day trip is a great idea, eat the meatballs and mooch The youngest ds has the Ikea cot, it is very sweet and excellent quality.

Hope dh changes his mind, NJ is right, just drop the converstaion and dont ask for a while. Men!!

He says he does but thinks that me being a little bit overweight is going to be a problem. Its caused a huge row and he threaten to walk out so I dont think we'll be having any more kids

All that over being a little overweight? how little? i mean im overweight but my dp wouldnt use that against me, more than his lifes worth! any other reasons you can think of? perhaps finances emotional etc?

perhaps he worries about LO's muscular dystrophy?

Awww Kay, I don't know what to say... it is one thing him never saying he wanted a 2nd, and you hoping he'd change his mind, but to go from all for it, and getting annoyed when you looked at catalogues before him, to saying he doesn't want another, is a completely different kettle of fish.

I would do like I said before, give him a few days, a week maybe to calm down, see if he comes up with any reason's on his own, if not broach the subject carefully, and take it from there.

I really hope you can sort it out sweetie, what a nightmare for you And BB has a good point about the MD.

He is a bit worried about finances, he has just come creeping over saying I'm sorry lets have a baby tomorrow. I'm about 4 stone overweight as I'm just over 13st according to the pregnancy books I got when expecting ds even tho mw said I was underweight and the books say to weigh less than I did then

He says he isnt bothered about the MD so I'm not sure if thats it. He has offered to cook dinner tho

Bloody hell!!

Can you explain to him that you can't cope with him changing his mind like that? I know I couldn't! Ask him to talk to you if he is worried about anything.

Maybe he has just had a shitty day, we all do sometimes.

Glad it is over, for now at least

Why don't you book into see your GP, ask him the pro's and con's of carrying the extra weight through pregnancy? He could give you a bit of an MOT, check your BP and blood sugar ect. just to give you a good picture of how it will be. Then hopefully you'd have some good convincing positive news to tell DH.