Ready, Aim...HANG FIRE!! Waiting to TTC (and some too impatient)

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Here we are ladies...roll call please?!

I put a load on a day now, and the washing basket is still regulary over flowing on a pile (and then another pile.... )

If my drier was in the house and not stuck in the garage I would probably get more done but we tend to put everything out on the airer and radiators, and then can't do any more because it takes best part of two days to dry.

Diege honestly, you do not want me to start on my MIL. Will be another essay for you to mark. On the whole we kind of get on, and very very occasionally (i.e. once every couple of years or so) she has helped us out with looking after the kids, but there are just so many differences between us, I don't agree with a lot of things she has done, and I am sure because of that she thinks that I think I am 'better' than her. It doesn't help that I am a 'posh' southener married to her northen lad.

Anyway.... no more from me on the MIL in front, I could bore you for days!

Somethng to make everyone laugh now. I've just put my Rosemary Conely fitness dvd and went to do a squat and fell over. ds thinks its hilarous.

Sorry but PMSL

Im so unfit

Even if you are unfit, at least trying to do the DVD is a step in the right direction.

Keep at it!!!

Im exhausted already. I think I might die

No you won't get some water, and press play again, if you did it 5 times a week, in two weeks you will be sailing through it.

Get DS to join in, then you can laugh at him when he falls over, make it fun Nothing feels like so much hard work when it is fun.

But at least you are doing something!!! I gave away from Davina dvd through lack of use, but of course now want it back!
NJ, hmm, posh southerner eh .....I'm Welsh, but living in England (and working in Wales!) Bet we've toughened you up ... I'm sure your MIL essay would be a lot more riveting than the ones on research methods that I'm reading!
Talking of washing, I have same problem of having to wait for things to dry inside on rail and radiators - and also have a regular backlog of wet washing waiting its turn, that smells of wet dog by the time it gets out of the machine!

I've finshed for today. I'm going to try and do it every other day and go walking too.

I am not posh, just to northeners I sound it. I don't say 'barrrth' or 'parrrth', but then I don't say 'e by 'ecky thumpeth' or 'just nipping down't road for't brew' either. I actually have more of a west country type accent, am originally from Cheltenham, but then spent about 15 years in Bedford, which has alsorts of accents: London, Birmingham, Northants. I am a bit of a mix of the lot.

I think my MIL essay could easily turn into a book, with 162 chapters!

Im a southerner living in yorkshire and I apparently sound Posh as I so say 'barrrth' and 'parrrth' also say 'Carrstle'
But Im picking up a yorkshire accent

I think the gender thing is really interesting. I did read somewhere that some research was done and if you have a boy first you are more likely to have another boy. I think a lot of it might be genetics too. DH is one of four boys, I have older sis and younger brother. First grand daughter will be special for MIL - but then of course, if we have a boy, hopefully everyone will be equally as happy! Do you think 'mothers intuition' exists pre-motherhood?

I refuse to pick up a Lancashire accent, if only to piss my MIL off We have been up here five years, I have kind of picked up some words, but I still say them with my jumbled southern accent.

If northeners say bath (very quick short a, as in apple sound), I say baath (longer apple sound), posh people say barrrth (very long with the r rolling out sound!).

And another one that gets on my nerves is 'Bus', I say bus, they all say Buzz, really irationally irritates me! LOL

And, it seems that everyone up here is sodding ill all the time, they are always in and out of the GP's for every little sodding thing, most fo the time something they could get at the chemist, or that in fact they don't need anything at all, it just gives them something to talk about on the buzz!! I am surprised they don't rattle as they walk past for all of the meds they are on.

OK I am going to stop now, can't wait to move back down south! LOL

Cosmo, there was a small thread about it a little while ago, I will see if I can find it, there were a few of us on there with fairly convincing stories of how the gender thing works out.

Will be back with link.

Here you go.

Tee hee NJ, lol at 'giving them something to talk about on the buzz' I was told I 'talk posh' too when I lived in Manchester, but to me I just have a 'nothing' accent - flat vowels (bath not barth), but nothing 'posh' I don't think! From your description you do indeed sound a bit Wiltshire-ish!
COSMO, oh I don't know I don't think I have much 'mother's intuition' at all, even though I have 3 dds! More a case of doing what seems best at the time, then learning from mistakes . When I did go down the route of 'instinct' (on advice from MW with dd1) I ended up breastfeeding constantly which I'm sure contributed to dds horrendous colic! Stuck to GF books with dd2 and 3 and had very peaceful contented babies (though they turned into raging demons when they hit 2!!). My thinking is I wouldn't go by JUST instinct with much else (though gut feelings of course are invaluable and often correct) so why would I do so with a baby of all things!!

Still chatting a way I see! Not doing very well at completely avoiding the MIL conversations Natalie!! This is the best place to vent.

I am a "posh" southerner. I do say "barth", I pronounce my "t's" and have been know to call my parents "mummy and daddy" as an adult, which is dreadfully "posh" ! To be honest I am far from posh (I really know some posh people believe me, the sort that say "creche" instead of "crash") I just speak Standard English with "received pronunciation" (basically I speak like a southerneer, cos I am!). I am your normal middle class girl with a normal accent, which of course would make me posh in some people's eyes but down here it make me normal!

LOL Playing, compared to what I could say about my MIL I am doing very well indeed - believe me!

I find that at normal times I don't have much of an accent at all, but if I spend any time with my sister (who still lives in Cheltenham) I pick it up straight away, DH knows when I have spoken to her on the phone because he says I sound like a farmer all night

Instinct, a lot of it must come from insticnt because I read no books, followed no baby guru, and had no close family/friends giving me endless advice with DS1, and he has turned out OK (ish!! ) I think the only thing have ever followed is when we did the controlled crying thing with DS2, everything else has just been off our own backs.

I think im naturally an ituitive person but im also a bit of a control freak so i read too

im so not doing well at settling today... bad meeee

I dont really knwo how i talk i hopew i dont sound stuck up but not common either!!

I have 2 sisters and a brother but thats my dad (the stud lol) with 3 diff mums...1 boy with one, me with my mum and my 2 sisters with my step mum who ive known as mum, My DPs biological dad fooked oorf 2weeks before he was born but is rumoured to have other sons..hes in america or somewhere so we dont know, we are a lucky dip. id be happy either way!

Cosmo i hope you do get your lil girl becos from a petty point of view id like you to be able to tell sil to shove it he he x

The baby gender thing is funny, there seems a lot of anecdotal evidence that there might be soemthing in your theory Natalie, I wonder if any of it can be backed up by science?

I have no evidence to sugesst what sex baby I will have, I just have always imagined a boy for some reasaon, not that I have anything against girls and will be happy either way. I have a brother and a sister, my mum has 2 brothers and a sister and my DH has a sister, so we are a pretty mixed bunch and on both sides girls were born first.

a quiock question for you a;;... from a legal standpoint does anyone kno if me being on probation will counter my claim for smp when preg?? i mean will i still have accrued an entitlement whilst on probation?? x

Oh no BYME, have I got you thinking about this too? I'm pretty much 100% sure that you get SMP if taking maternity leave while on probabtion (or any other enhanced package your place offers) but that the probation itself just 'freezes' and you start it again when you return to work (so say you've done 3 months out of 6 on probation then go on ML, and say you're away 6 months on ML, when you return you're back to month 4 of probation period). That's my understanding from the university of google! It might be worth posting in 'Employment' about this though to be 100% certain though

I don't know TBH Playing, have never really looked into the science side of things. Maybe it is just down to chance, luck of the draw, coincedencies... who know's? One thing is for sure though, I am hoping for another boy purely because based on the theory that if it were a girl, I'd lose it again. Maybe it is a chance to prove the theroy wrong and we'll have a perfectly healthy little girl, and that would be great, but I do think if we were to find out in the pregnancy that it was a girl, I would be a nervous wreck until she was born and we could see she was OK.

Oh and current legal policy (just changed this year I think) is that you don't have to 'accrue' SMP I think - you just have to not be pregnant BEFORE you start the job (in which case you get OMP I think).

thanks for assuaging my fears a bit diege, ive posted in employment too lol its just worrying me a bit.. so much to worry about!