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TTC Thread 15...........a thread full of babydust.

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geordie · 03/12/2004 11:28

here it is girls.

ttc 15

the last one of 2005 I think.......

However- I am sending loads of babydut to you all

I really hope this beanie sticks......cos as much as i luv you all I really want to join a antenatal board!!

Geordie
(and beanie due august 15th 2005!)

OP posts:
Tania2 · 13/12/2004 21:47

Good morning girls.
Thanks for all thinking of me for tomorrow.
Cockenzie TWINS!!! Shock i dont think so dont think i could cope with that.
Kizzy i was the same this month was a couple of days late and dh wasnt really fussed when i got a bfn didnt really say anything but when af arrived he said nothing and just gave me a hug but ended up in a shitty mood i just took that as he was disappointed. dont worry i feel that we seem to be more obvious that we are upset as we express our feelings and want everyone to know about it where as men go into their cave and say nothing that is with all things in life.
RD DONT test i will kick you off the thread Wink is that what you want to hear?????
Jed are you still about.
JB gyno said i can start ttc as soon as i stop bleeding cause i am due to ov pretty much straight after the op so its a high chance that it could work the first month. not holding my breath though cause i always do and get disappointed. CD4 here and af has stopped so i will have two days without bleeding then will be bleeding again.

kizzy212 · 13/12/2004 22:51

thanks everyone who posted me.

i have had a good talk with hubby tonight in car on way home from friends. he had the cheek to say
" is something wrong" so i laid into him straight away and guess what he said. oh f*ing hell i forgot and he meant it, he was so sorry for me that i went threw it alone, and asked why i never said. The worse thing is i believe him and i feel as guilty as ever now.

we had a good talk and i told him how i was feeling and using all your examples of your men to him. from talking to bellys to reading the result. so he said he is doing it next time. the test and everything. lets hope it will be my last girls.

kizzy212 · 13/12/2004 22:59

thanks tania2 for advice. Made me think a bit to be honest. i have not once thought how my hubby feels in all this, just apart from him beening upset at the BFN. but deep down all men must feel some sort of failure in a way. all women just blame themselves for not getting caught!

Q...HOW DOES A MAN FEEL???????

Canadianmom · 13/12/2004 23:27

Tania, I hope that everything goes well tomorrow and that you are joining an anti-natal thread along with the rest of us in January. (how's that for positive thinking?!)XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

hester · 14/12/2004 07:40

Morning all. Another BFN for me, another profit hike for First Response .

Still only on day 27. Have I qualified as crazy enough to get expelled from the thread yet, Tania?

jingleballs · 14/12/2004 08:07

RD/JEDS, Ica't find my persona box of sticks - the new ones, can I do the thing this evening? (at the mo i've got yesterdays's back in theu urrghgh I know, but I haven't a clue where it is, It's already show=nw i've OV, so do u recon that will be ok or should I scrap this month and start a fresh next? help!!!

i'' catch up later on.

jingleballs · 14/12/2004 08:14

guys got a green day on cd 16/24-26, is that right or is it cos there will be no hormones left? will search for teh box tongiht, or might just get some more, in fact i'll buy some more i think, and route about for the box on the weekend.

Tania2 · 14/12/2004 08:28

Canda hope iam on the jan thread too.
One of my bestfriends maybe pg will be happy for her thou as she had a etopic in September but i still feel alittle dont mean to be but cant help it.
Hester sorry about the BFN but remember the fat lady hasnt sung just yet. But i do know how you feel the wait just does your head in.
Have still got the headache from hell today think i might just be stressed out about the op tomorrow i am just so worried that they will not find anything and there is just no reason why iam not pg yet.
ChaCha are you about hoping that i can read your success story soon.

hester · 14/12/2004 08:30

jb, sorry for my lousy memory, but is this your first month with Persona?
If it's not, don't worry - you've detected your surge and you don't really need to know any more.
If it is, the Persona is still building up information on you so yes, you probably will need to buy some more sticks and test if/when it tells you to.
I think the evening is too late - it's little brain has already told it you've missed the test. I think you only have a four hour window for testing each day.
hth
xxx

morningpaper · 14/12/2004 08:36

Kizzy: I'm sure that lots of men worry that it's their fault, that their 'boys' are getting in their and conquering. After our second month of TTC, DH went out and bought some zinc tablets without saying anything. I was really pleased that this means so much to him too.

Tania: Good luck tomorrow. We'll be thinking of you. xxx

hester · 14/12/2004 08:37

Poor you, Tania; I'm not surprised you're stressed. Will be keeping my fingers crossed for you tomorrow xxx

cockenzie · 14/12/2004 08:40

Good norning ladies

my god girls, u lot can talk!

Hester - I can't believe the audasity of some people, that's just discussing not letting you have treatments etc..thats ur life afteer all, ur wishes,what u want for urself.I'm speechless. How can they pretend they know everything, they arent god!!

I am happy about what u feel about ur dh , jb-the more i read about u, i think an interest in u grows immensely (i dont know if i make any sense).like i wouldlove to meet u but i am just being silly.impossible, as ur too far.

i feel so lucky with my dp now.well, everytime i test, i pee and then (b4 i chiken out for the result, i giv him the stik)and he waits patiently and reads the result.so when i felt pg, a huge smile was on his face and he keps jumping about.he is so sweet and funny.i cried.i was so happy afer my m/c

Rudy - too early to test but which one of us is peatient enof to wait? hehe

Sallie -

St nick - so sorry about AF.hav some nice choc.thats my cure to any low mood.just say to urself that u wont have that privilege nxt xmas cos u'll be pg!!

cockenzie · 14/12/2004 08:49

kyzzy - i can understand how u feel and also how ur dh feels.i dont know u or ur hubby but the way i see it mayb that bcos of his age and position with his job, he may think that he had is share of early parenthood and now he wants to enjoy his life, enjoy his money with u and hav a good time.
but u want the baby, also bcos mayb being a woman, u got that bit of motherhood and a biological clok that rings in ur mind and another baby would be just nice!!however i understand the frustration about his reactions. he cares but mayb doesnt want to show it.??

is there any of u who is waiting to test or is about 2 wks away from af?

jingleballs · 14/12/2004 08:58

god girls, we need to start a new thread! dail up is soo slow with this one now, any how.

Does anyone know what happened to Hell Kat?, she was here, then not?? I can't remeber if she had the BFP or not??

I was hoping that would be the answer hester, it is my first month of persona, (quite pleased it picked up the O as well so it's loadsa bd beteen days 6-16 then I think if I OV on 12/13. infact make it day 20!... god wheres DH when u need him.. blinking men!

kiz - If we knew how men thought/feel we'd be millionaires hon! lol, I know DH has strong feelin about this whole baby thing, he was v proud in telling the whold of his SQN (about 200 men that they couldn't come over any more as we were 'making babies' i mena can u imagion the embaressment! - i've not had the nerve to run him upto work since! he's v open with his feelings thou which helps. when we first started going out thou (we've been together 5 yrs) we didn't talk about feelins at all, and sould have a massive row every six months without fail about everything, so we started leaving little messages on the computer for each other and bout how we were feelin, worked for us as we could talk about things that way then sit down and say how stupid we'd both been without arguing. (we never saved the stuff) but still I think it's what works for u really.

morningpaper · 14/12/2004 09:00

I think I am cd12 - gah! Kept thinking I would buy an OPT but then read the OPK thread that suggested they weren't so good. I am really torn ATM and part of me wants to give up on TTC so hard - just sticking to the once-at-weekends routine is much less stress.

But I so want to give DD a little brother or sister because she will just love it.

DH is out tonight but might coerce him tomorrow.

morningpaper · 14/12/2004 09:01

OPK I mean...

Hula how are you getting on?

jingleballs · 14/12/2004 09:02

I forgot to mention,

tania - prob won't speak to u now b4 u go for the op, good luck for it hon, fingers crossed all around for you. and hopefully you'll be back here soon with some good news. (i'll send u over loads a baby dust as well) (it's sending but can't do the little pic). let us know how you get on. don't forget to have a pamper day thou after and relax some!

cockenzie · 14/12/2004 09:39

could somebody tell me how long this thread has been created? i mean originally and which ones of u have been there since the start?

Tania2 · 14/12/2004 10:03

Thank you girls for all your kind wishes, really just want to get it over and done with so i know what my body is doing.
Hester just went back and read you post on the trouble you had. Iam so appauled (sp?) glad you eventually got your tests thou. You think by now that people can be more open minded gee its nearly 2005 not 1905. Whats it there buisness anyway. so what happens if you need to take it further IVF i mean. Did your DP go through all this too and is she still ttc also for a dbl chance for you both?? you prob have already explained this sorry.
Cockenzie i have been on this thread since number 6 i think back in may/june. So glad i found it have tried the aussie chat room but didnt like it as much as this one. But what sux is that i cant meet up with everyone

hester · 14/12/2004 11:37

Tania, no I've not answered those questions before! The situation with IVF is that treatment centres can decide for themselves whether or not to treat lesbians, because the law requires them to consider the wellbeing of any future child and its need for a father. Some clinics interpret this liberally (i.e. 'I've considered this child's need for a father and believe that this lesbian couple are so lovely that any future child would do fine') and some interpret it narrowly (i.e. 'I've considered this child's need for a father and there wouldn't be one and therefore I'm not going to proceed'). Some put in special criteria or requirements - I've even come across one that requires lesbians to produce a reference letter from a man - ANY man, your dustman or neighbour would do! - I guess just to show that you know some and aren't a complete man-hater . In practise, VERY few NHS centres will treat lesbians, but if you can afford to pay and live near enough to a clinic that is prepared to treat you, you can get it privately. Personally, in view of my age and what I have been through already to get to this point, I'll not be pursuing that.

oopsanta · 14/12/2004 11:40

Hester, What a completely shit state of affairs. We live in the 21st centry (don't we?)
It really annoys me to hear about your patchy treatment. I pay my taxes, so do you (I presume) so why is it different for you ffs!

On a lighter not, I'm worried that this si twins and we don't have the space, so you've got first dibs on one of them- ok?

fastasleep · 14/12/2004 11:49

I agree with oops! That's just ridiculous Hester! God!... (still sending you good luck vibes all day!)

Hi to everyone, good luck to anyone waiting to test etc, hope you all get a present for the new year!! I'm feeling better today after lots of ickynes and ouchyness... Good luck for the op Tania!! And RD, spend the testing money on chocolate - that's what someone told me to do last month anyway!

hester · 14/12/2004 12:34

Thanks so much, fastasleep and oopstanta - nice to know you girls are on my side .

And oops - thanks so much for your generous offer to share your babies; will you accept payment in chocolate and gin?

RudyDudy · 14/12/2004 12:39

hi hester - it's already been said but just to add my t'penneth I agree that you have been treated dsigracefully. Good for you for writing that letter and not letting them off scott free - love the grocery analogy . But back to more pressing things...how are you? Only one more day to go...are you still sane? I have so far managed to resist the urge to test and am going to try to hold out until Saturday. Not too worried about the cost as I bought loads of early testing kits of medisave.co.uk which were very good value but think I should wait for my own sanity!

jingleballs · 14/12/2004 12:42

afternoon girls, it v quiet here today isn't it?

is ur DP TTC as well hester? (see u'll be wanting one, and u never know u both might have twins lol, then u'll be saying 'if only i could get some sleep!') lol

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